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writes:I am a 45 year old with 2 kids a 16 year old boy and a 12 year old girl. My son has a friend who is always at our house. He's very cute. Whenever my son isn't around we flirt with each other. Yesterday I bent down to put a pan in the cabinet and my butt was out and I saw him take a picture with his cell. I didn't say anything cause he so cute. I think I wanna have sex with him. Should I? I know its weird but we are attracted to eachother. Please give me advice on what to do or not to do.and if you say we should How should I seduce him and where should we do it.
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reader, jim0007 +, writes (18 December 2009):
If this young man can handle it People you are all so wrong! I know I desires this kind of experience so much! a still think about those older women that I wanted so badly! This lady is the only 1 that can tell if he is mature enough to handle! Have any of you ever faught in a war at 16 what maks stis so bad! Have you had to support your family at 16? In many other countries noting wrong with this! Look at the big picture! Man's laws are often written for people who can't want to be in a box! Would you stop at a red light in the late or early hours of the day when no one in site? think outside the box! This lady will have to make sure he can handle it! If he can she has given him the most beautiful lesson of life!
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reader, shortee taez +, writes (10 December 2009):
 i think that its crazy for you to feel attracted to this child.you as a mother /adult should put a stop to the flirting instead of incouraging it.do you know that is child endangement.your not thinking rationally, take a deep breath,look at it the other way around what if that was someones mom or dad checking out your child son or daughter.would you think its ok to seduce a child then.im not jumping on your case but i think in this situation you have to be an adult about it and think as an adult as well. goodluck
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reader, bad romaance  +, writes (9 December 2009):
 I actually cant believe you even needed people to tell you that what you have just said is peadophelic (whatever way you say it) now im 16 and jus becoause i flirt with some1 much older than me because i think they are drop dead gorgeous does NOT mean i want to hop into bed with him and I wouldnt expect him to think that he could do the same :/ Youve got issues woman. You realise that it is against the law .. You would go to jail because you THINK he fancies you most likely he doesnt n is just looking to sumthin from you
sorry if it seemed mean but it was pretty much a stupid question
best of luch shauna :)
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (9 December 2009):
 I would like to make my earlier answer most clear.
1.I am not saying anything in the context of law and social/religious morality, about having sex with teen age by elders.
2. The question is about how far such sexual act give pleasure? And, my answer is that it cannot be, because teen age is not mature enough to taste the pleasure of sex, even though there exists developed sex organ.
3 Because sex in human society is not only hormonal activity, as in animal world. Sex in greater part is an intellectual activity also. Teen age is not intellectually developed, even though physically developed to have sex, but intellectually he is immature.
3.And,this one is the reason for mature people to avoid such thing from life. It can be harmful for both.Yes, in case of any wrong, immature cannot be held responsible, but maturity is liable to punish. Just as sex with animal is also possible, but not advisable because it be harmful.
3. My point is this: I do not wish to put sex in a box usually called as 'evil' Sexual activity can do no harm, It is most worship able but wrong attitude about sex can be harmful.
4. Yes. Elder can give good teaching to teen age, but not with the idea of sharing pleasure but sharing the knowledge about pleasure. and, how to respect sex, is perhaps biggest moral lesson elders can give to teen age, that sex is not just fun,jocks, or laughable but respectable.
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reader, jim0007 +, writes (8 December 2009):
Hi
Very good question! As a man I know I had crushes on older women! I was very shy but worked up the coarage to ask an older lady once! She wanted too but not that day! we never did an I miss that so much! The only thing that is a large problem is it is against te law! You know if he can handle it! If he is ready you could teach him so much as a woman! He would love it an cherish the memories of you all his life! Just make sure he is ready an can handle it! Take it slow! talk to him in flirting kind of ways!touch him! He has to know he can trust you an you need that too! Most of all no one in this world must ever know! That is number 1! If he has never had sex, teach him most of all the pleasure of pleasing a woman, show him what a woman enjoys from touching to oral pleauser when he is ready! You are an Angel tha every yong man hope's an wants so bad! Let him build his confindence an explore everything with you! He will make some young lady a wonderful lover if you do you part well! An I'm sure you will enjoy him too! Teach him to slow down an make it last as long as posible! an then show him how you can get he hard again in just a few mins.! I wish I would have had someone like you! You will be a gift frm God an angel of love an pleasure! It needs to take place somewhere very safe! Take it slow an make sure he know he is safe with you! I'm in love with you rigt now! Thank you for your question! Hope it happen soon an often! Let me know!
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reader, Lauren1059 +, writes (8 December 2009):
I would think of it this way, your son is the same age right? You probably wouldn't want him to go and have sex with his friends 45 year old mom, I'm sure you would be able to find someone your own age and not ruin your relationship with your son for your own selfish wants
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): i totally agree with everyone else. Truth is, i doubt hes actually interested in you, boys talk about theyre friends moms all the time, dont take it that he wants to have sex with you. Not only will you lose the relationshipp you have with your kids, but your son will be made a laughing stock if people find out. Its illegal and sick and i think you should re-think your feelings! x
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reader, duce00 +, writes (6 December 2009):
 I was seduced when I was a young man by a cougar like this. Wish I had the sense to stay away. I was clueless, there was no chemistry other than hormones, and it just was a shitty first experience.
I thought it was really cool for a while but as I got a little older I saw how skanky her behavior really was.
Leave him alone and dont be so dammed selfish.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): you are not a peadophile. a peadophile is someone who goes after kids only. and that is a horrible thing to call someone who isnt. as for your questions they are completely your choice. and please dont listen to nonsense he is not exactly a true youngster is he.
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reader, bharat mehta +, writes (6 December 2009):
apart from law and social morality, your question deserve some thought.I remember, in my teen I have the same feeling of sex for elders at that time around me, I felt sexual attraction for them who lead my mother's age....even without knowledge of sex..as to what to do? I am certain, at my 20s when I have a chance to have sex with my same age girl friend, married and experienced girl, and I can do nothing !!! I cannot even taste the pleasure of touching her breast...or kissing her lips...I did this because I have seen such thing in film...and, I have unacknowledged feeling of sex, it is even unrealized also..anyway,... sex has most important attribute, termed as spiritual. I advice to do practice it with your chosen and desirous partner, which will give you sound morality of sex. To learn the spiritual sex...please read my answers and topics, I usually wrote on this site.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): I think any boy toy under the age of 21, legal or not is way too young to be having sex with a 45 year old woman, he is still just a kid and she is way past that, so to me it is still questionable behavior. I think adults should be adults and be protective of those that are still kids.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (6 December 2009):
 Please carefully read my copy "rhythmandblues." I clearly stated that any sexual activity between these individuals should be totally consensual and LEGAL if it ever should occur. I just do not condemn love or infatuation between legal adults of any age to be taboo. If of legal age in any state in the USA, who are you or I to judge?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): DoubleM, it's not the age difference that concerns me as much as the potential for awkwardness/discomfort her son would experience as a direct result. It's really selfish of her to consider doing something that would almost certainly negatively impact his social life like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): Double M, because he is a child. Some 16 year old boys can look mature for their age, most don't but this woman is old enough to be his GRANDMOTHER. I have no problem with age gap relationships among adults, I myself was in one for two years.
But there is no amount of let people do their own thing that makes this OK....Mrs. Robinson even had sex with an adult in that movie, so what if she was 30 years older at the time, he wasn't' a child, still kind of weird, but he made a decision as an adult. This would simply be perverted and your permissive attitude makes me wonder about you, pedophilia is illegal in our country.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (6 December 2009):
Fake or not, this kind of thing happens and it's an interesting topic. My opinion is that "lust is lust" and it's one hell of a lot of fun with legal-age, willing participants. Why be so obsessive about some years of age difference?
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reader, the vampire lestat +, writes (6 December 2009):
 are u freakin insane nooooooo noooooooooo stay away from that kid im 18 and i was put in that type of possition and when the lady tried it on me i put her in jail for 3 years shes out but i dont talk to her so best thing is to just stay away
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reader, ADR386 +, writes (6 December 2009):
 It sounds like a bad idea to me.But if you do go for it, I bet your son's friend won't enjoy the sex as much as he will all the "your mom" jokes he'll get to make to your son.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (6 December 2009):
Not certain that this is a bona fide posting, but considering the possibility I'll contribute a likely alternate opinion on the matter.
Here is where some of my favorite companion advisors and others will differ with me, and my rating may plummet again (wtf), but I'm simply trying to be compassionate rather than just all critical. As stated on my page, my opinions are very permissive.
To begin with, yes, your 16-year-old son's friend is too young (not legal) at his age. Almost certainly jail-bait for you in most states of the Union, and you really could get in a lot of trouble. Yet, if you are willing to be patient until he reaches legal age, perhaps 17 (?), then I have no problem with you pursuing your desires.
Legal is legal, but some others here will take you to task over morality.
It would be hypocritical of me to do so, because at age 17, a girlfriend's mom hit me up and I "jumped" all over the opportunity. She was probably 35-40, and she started it by flashing me a beaver in the apartment when her daughter (my flaky girlfriend) was probably screwing around with some other dude one day. Was I being naughty? Sure, but I was 17, legal age and horny. Was she being very naughty? Guess so, she was divorced, lonely and attracted. But it was legal, wonderful and nobody got hurt. My review: It was fabulous! and she taught me a lot that summer.
So, I'm no hypocrite here and certainly no prude. Once this young man is of legal age to have sexual relations in your state, and if he wishes, then go for it. Just keep it legal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): Ok, people are over-reacting. For a start, you shouldnt have sex with him, but it is not illigal....
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): Wow!! this is just disgusting!! You are suppose to be an adult. Let me ask you something. How would you feel if A mother of one of your son or daughters friends did that and felt that way about one of your children. You would probably be freaked out and upset. He is off limits because he is a child. Best advice: stay far far away!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): Are you INSANE woman? You are over 40 and you want to have sex with a minor! You could be arrested by his parents if they found out, do jail time, be on probation for years and go on a national sex offenders list that is open to anyone who wants to see it. Talk about ruining your life.
Do you think those laws are made to protect cute young boys for a reason? Tell him to stop taking pictures of your butt and to be respectful. Stop flirting with him and egging him on it is totally unacceptable behavior, he's a kid, he doesn't know any better, he is full of hormones and you are flattering him with your untoward attention. You are the adult you are supposed to be protective of him and he is your child's friend. What kind of message do you think you are sending to your own son? That his mom is a whore and a pedophile?
Are you going through a mid-life crisis because your boobs hang a little lower, or you have more wrinkles than you like because you spend too much time in the sun? Well, get some plastic surgery and stop trying to make yourself feel better by seducing children!
I don't care if this sounds harsh, people like you disgust me, you are what is wrong with the world today, not what is right with it.
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (6 December 2009):
 My cousin-in-law's mom had sex with one of his friends when he was in high school. The friend went to school the next day and told everyone that he'd had his friend's mom and talked about how much of a slut she was (true story). Years later my cousin-in-law has little respect for his mom and wouldn't piss on her if she was on fire. I would hate for this to happen to you and your family. Plus, I'm fairly certain you'd be committing a crime if you were to seduce an underage boy.
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reader, theaterlover +, writes (6 December 2009):
i have to say, being in the same age bracket as your son's friend. even if i was attracted to my friend's parent, i wouldn't flirt with them. thats very creepy and illegal. and if my friend's parent hit on me, i would tell an authority to get them locked up. so if you wish to lust for a 16 year old- do it in silence. don't act on it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): Very, very, very bad idea.
I won't even go into all the issues this brings up except one. What happens when he brags to his friends, INCLUDING YOUR SON!!, that he slept with you!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): i would not, only because of the age difference. if they are still friends in two years then you can because he will be legal
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): As for the law side of things, unless your in one of the few states where the Age of Consent is higher, you are good to go. I would however, think about your kids. This could potentially ruin their friendship. If you must, keep it a secret :P I wont tell
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): You realise the legal age by which a person can consent to ANY sexual activity in the U.S. is 18 right?And if found out it will be YOU who goes to jail and gets slammed on the sex-offenders register, and barred from contact with this boy ever again.You want people to actually HELP you commit a crime? Which in and of itself is a crime?It isn't weird for either of you to be attracted to each other. He is almost a fully grown male, who is at an age where he wants to hump anythign he can fit his cock in.You are at an age where you may still be attractive, however the majority of your youth is long dead and this boy's interest is flattering and brings back that feeling of being young and alive.So your feelings are quite natural. However it would be very, very wrong to act on them in any way, shape or form until that kid is considered a legal adult. Period.Not to mention just how bad form it is to be humping the friends of your kids... who you are supposed to care about beyond anyone else in the universe.Once you have children, your life as an individual ends until they can survive legally on their own. Everything you do must be to ensure they have a good and productive life. Your own needs should rightfully be pushed aside and dug back up at that much later date. This is what parenthood means.Flynn 24
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (6 December 2009):
 You are a paedophile! This is totally unacceptable behaviour!
Back off, and stop flirting with this boy. You are not only about to morally corrupt a youngster you are putting your whole family's future at risk.
Grow up and act like an adult!
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