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I'm a mother of 7...and I'm a full time EMT. That means I give emergency medical care and drive an ambulance. I am an adrenalin junkie and I love helping people. :)
Don't compromise yourself. You are all you've got.--Janis Joplin
Don't listen to those who say, "It's not done that way." Maybe it's not, but maybe you will. Don't listen to those who say, "You're taking too big a chance." Michelangelo would have painted the Sistine floor, and it would surely be rubbed out by today. Most importantly, don't listen when the little voice of fear inside of you rears its ugly head and says, "They're all smarter than you out there. They're more talented, they're taller, blonder, prettier, luckier and have connections…" I firmly believe that if you follow a path that interests you, not to the exclusion of love, sensitivity, and cooperation with others, but with the strength of conviction that you can move others by your own efforts, and do not make success or failure the criteria by which you live, the chances are you'll be a person worthy of your own respect.--Neil Simon |
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How can you do everything right and still get shafted???
Q. I really don't know what to say right now except that my heart is breaking. I'm a very passionate person and much like a Wolf if given the opportunity I will love you forever. After taking a break, which was in her words not supposed to be ...
A. 6 October 2010: Professional help is a great move for her. Its a huge step in the right direction. She just has so much pain. I hope she finds the help she needs. Be careful that you dont feel that you are a failure. You are human, and we just arent equipt to ... (read in full...)
How can you do everything right and still get shafted???
Q. I really don't know what to say right now except that my heart is breaking. I'm a very passionate person and much like a Wolf if given the opportunity I will love you forever. After taking a break, which was in her words not supposed to be ...
A. 6 October 2010: Professional help is a great move for her. Its a huge step in the right direction. She just has so much pain. I hope she finds the help she needs. Be careful that you dont feel that you are a failure. You are human, and we just arent equipt to ... (read in full...)
We are trying to move past the second affair. Should I stay or should I go now?
Q. I have been with my husband for 9 years, I cheated on him about 7 years ago and he found out. I never came clean but he is pretty sure that something happened. We have been married now for 6 years and for the past 2 years we have had a rocky ...
A. 6 October 2010: I agree with the others especially Jmc930. There doesn't seem to be enough love in the rubble to rebuild.... (read in full...)
How can you do everything right and still get shafted???
Q. I really don't know what to say right now except that my heart is breaking. I'm a very passionate person and much like a Wolf if given the opportunity I will love you forever. After taking a break, which was in her words not supposed to be ...
A. 6 October 2010: You're welcome. Do you know if she had an abusive childhood? That generally contributes to their downward spiral. Its so very hard to stand by and see it happen. So hard to watch them walk away. Be good to yourself and know you tried. But the truth ... (read in full...)
Pregnant and the father says there is no way we can have it!
Q. Im 20, and i have just found out im pregnant, the father wants a abortion and we arent together. I have a full time apprenticeship job, which is a really good career. But the thought of killing my baby makes me sick, the father says theres no way we ...
A. 6 October 2010: If you deliberately got pregnant against his wishes and unbeknownst to him, that might give some weight to his arguement. However, if that isn't the case, then I don't think he can say you are ruining his life. He made the choice to have sex. He ... (read in full...)
Fixed on feet and lost about sex. Help!
Q. I'm a 25 year old male from the UK. I have a sexual fixation with female feet, Unfortunately I judge women on their feet and am usually easily put off if they arn't nice. This being the only body part that really turns me on has led to problems over ...
A. 6 October 2010: Well foot fetishes aren't that uncommon...so that isn't a huge turn off. Its just finding the right girl. :)
As far as the lack of sexual experience...there are sites everywhere that explain what to do, and how to do it well. Read up on those thin... (read in full...)
How can you do everything right and still get shafted???
Q. I really don't know what to say right now except that my heart is breaking. I'm a very passionate person and much like a Wolf if given the opportunity I will love you forever. After taking a break, which was in her words not supposed to be ...
A. 6 October 2010: Sometimes girls like this girl who had a rough time getting thru the teen years, do not know how to accept a better life. They don't feel deserving and they cannot open their hearts up. They are somewhat setting the stage for failure. They won't let ... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to dress up sexy for a halloween party...
Q. My husband wants me to dress up very sexy for a Halloween party this year. He wants me to be a german beer girl. He has the costume all picked out, even down to the lace panties he wants me to wear. The costume is very provocative: it shows a lot ...
A. 6 October 2010: oh yea baby...do it and take every opportunity to drive him crazy. The real party will be when you get back home. ... (read in full...)
I'm heartbroken! He dumped me to go back with his ex!
Q. I've written before and its about the same guy again and our short yo yo relationship (he has OCD and possibly bi-polar) and was always telling me he couldn't cope with a relationship etc, but I maybe foolishly ignored good advice posted and kept ...
A. 6 October 2010: I'm so sorry honey. It sucks when love is thrown in your face. I don't know why some people choose to go back. In marriages where there is love and someone just gets sidetracked, I am always so glad when they decide to work things out.
But on t... (read in full...)
Our hotel break...
Q. My bf and I are having a few days together in a hotel for a nice break. Need your advice lads. Shall I suprise him by buying some sexy underwear for it? Reckon he'd like that or think it was silly?...
A. 6 October 2010: Oh yea, he would love it. I do it often when we go away and my hubby loves it. Sometimes I suprise him, and sometimes I let him help me pick something out. ;)... (read in full...)
Wife's sexual habits have changed, does this mean something?
Q. My wife has always been very conservative in the bed, but lately she has done dirtier things in the bed and I don't know where she gets the ideas from. She deepthroats, she spits on my tool when going down, she asked for a facial the other night, ...
A. 6 October 2010: Yes there have been some good thoughts here. I don't think it means that she is cheating. Maybe her girlfriends are giving her ideas, maybe she is looking online to find things to spice things up...thats what I did. Unless there is something else to ... (read in full...)
This other man gives me life again...
Q. I married my best friend 15 years ago (we were both 18) and we've since had three kids. Our two oldest are 12 (fraternal twins) and our youngest is 9. Recently, I've been having feelings of doubt for our marriage; these feelings came about when I ...
A. 5 October 2010: You are feeling loved and excited. You are feeling alive like you havent felt before. You are feeling addicted to him and the way he makes you feel. You say he gives you life.
Trust me when I say, that this will cost you everything before it is o... (read in full...)
Is there a relationship between self-worth and the way you are treated in relationships?
Q. Is there a relationship between self-worth and the way you are treated in relationships? Is it really too much to ask for someone to just be good to you, to not play games, just be honest with you and love you for you? ...
A. 5 October 2010: Yes, CaringGuy has completed the thought process. He said what I should have. He is right on target. ... (read in full...)
Sex with my wife is just going through the motions for her..why?
Q. I have been married to my wife for 25 years and over the last 5 years or so sex has become at best sporadic. My wife, as opposed to me, has never had a particularly high sex drive, but it is getting to the stage now that sex is so infrequent that my ...
A. 5 October 2010: I hear this from men and women of this age range. Sometimes it is the woman who isnt interested a great deal in sex, and sometimes it is the man. Whichever way the dice rolls, it is a horrible experience for the one left wanting more.
When a spou... (read in full...)
Too soon to rush into marriage...
Q. Hi, I am in a relationship with a girl. We're both 23 (in 2010). The problem is that her family will try and get her married not after 25 or 26 years of age but i will still be pursuing my higher studies at that age and so wont be able to talk abo...
A. 5 October 2010: I'm not sure about your customs there, but is it possible to have a loooong engagement?... (read in full...)
My Swiss beauty...
Q. Recently I was on a business trip to America attending an exhibition. As part of my work I had to walk around and see what the companies were doing at each booth and find out some info. I walked past one booth in particular and there was an ext...
A. 5 October 2010: If you have messaged her a couple of times or more with no answer, you need to back away and wait. The ball is in her court now, and you need to wait and see if she wants to play. She now knows you are very interested, and only she knows what here ... (read in full...)
Does body buiding exercises stop growth in teens?
Q. Does body buiding exercises stop growth in teens?...
A. 5 October 2010: No, as long as you stay away from garbage like steroids. As long as you have a proper workout routine and use things like protein powder (which is completely safe, its just powdered meat basically..lol)
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Paranoid thoughts... or is he really cheating?
Q. I've been with my bf for 6 months but ive always had this suspicion hes still seeing his ex, I know hes still friends with her but i cant think of a way of finding out without saying something which i dont really want to do as if its completely ...
A. 5 October 2010: Have a friend go with you and follow him discreetly. See who he meets and where he goes. Just a thought. I wouldnt accuse him, but usually the gut feelings are on target in my experience.... (read in full...)
Wow! Is there such a thing as love at first sight?
Q. I've been with my bf for a year. I met his friend for the first time 3 months ago. Where we both fell straight in love with each other. Love at first sight. No joke. We've seen each other only twice since, both occasions lots of mutual friends were ...
A. 5 October 2010: I don't know if there is love at first sight, but I do know there is instant attraction. I think a lot of people have mistaken lust for love. And there is definitely lust at first sight. I tend to not be a big believer in love at first sight, but I ... (read in full...)
Is there a relationship between self-worth and the way you are treated in relationships?
Q. Is there a relationship between self-worth and the way you are treated in relationships? Is it really too much to ask for someone to just be good to you, to not play games, just be honest with you and love you for you? ...
A. 5 October 2010: No, it is not too much to ask. A relationship built on less than that is doomed to fail. ... (read in full...)
Yikes!!! Is he possessed?????
Q. hey, i am very confused about someone right now who goes to my church. i am probably just paranoid but i think he is possessed; maybe. im in a program for teens at church, and i see him there. he stands at the far corner and glares at me every time. ...
A. 5 October 2010: In your opinion what did "join me" mean?
I don't have any idea about the mindset of this person, but is there is something about him that creeps you out, then you need to talk to an adult advisor at your church. I think he knows he is scar... (read in full...)
Masturbatory problem...
Q. i have had a problem with masturbation for 20 years and my penis is so small now. i am planning to take some tablets to increase my penis size. is there any way i can stop myself enjaculating before my girlfriend takes off my boxers? i cannot then ...
A. 5 October 2010: Sorry buddy, but there are no tablets that will make you larger.
What type of problems are you having with masterbation? Premature ejaculation can sometimes be prevented by masterbating a few hours earlier.
And as far as size is concerne... (read in full...)
Does she just want to be friends or is she hinting that her and this dude have an open relationship?
Q. I got this girl's phone number while she was working at a clothing store. Well, we were joking back and forth texting and after a few messages she told me that she has a boyfriend. I made a joke about him beating me up if I tried to get her ...
A. 5 October 2010: I agree with the other aunts, I think she is just suggesting friendship.
If she is suggesting more, remember a girl that will cheat on her boyfriend to be with you...will probably cheat on you before it is all over.
Don't pursue someone ... (read in full...)
1st time sex and bleeding?
Q. is it normal for girls to bleed there first time havin sex? should i be worried if its ben happenin longer than an hour?...
A. 5 October 2010: Yes it is normal to bleed for a few hours...sometimes a few days. (not heavy, just some light bleeding)
Sweetie you didnt ask for, nor do you want a lecture, I'm sure, but I cannot in good conscious answer your question without adding, you are ... (read in full...)
Is my spouse hiding something???
Q. Your spouse says they need their privacy and has a password on their computer account that they won't give you. Does this mean they are hiding something or is it harmless?...
A. 5 October 2010: Well since I said "on the other hand" twice, I suppose its good that we have two hands...LOL... (read in full...)
Which Path to Take?
Q. I have been married 18 years. I have 2 great children ages 13 and 16. I have been an abused spouse. Verbaly, emotionally and physically. We really never got along. My wife left me for another man 10 years ago. We reconciled after a year ...
A. 5 October 2010: GET CUSTODY OF THOSE KIDS....that's the most important thing right now. Get your divorce. Get your head on straight, and your thoughts clear. Then go knock on the door of the woman you love.
Life is short, love is hard to find, and even hard... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend act so differently in front of his friends?
Q. ok my boyfriend always seems to act different when hes with his friends. it really annoys me but i dont have the guts to say anything becuz i think he might get mad. should i keep quiet or speak up? ...
A. 5 October 2010: Sometimes boys this age feel the need to "show out" for their friends. It's a direct reflection of their immaturity and age. He will probably outgrow it someday, but it will not be soon. You can talk to him and hopefully speed up that process. If ... (read in full...)
Is my spouse hiding something???
Q. Your spouse says they need their privacy and has a password on their computer account that they won't give you. Does this mean they are hiding something or is it harmless?...
A. 5 October 2010: I am a person who is both open and one who likes my privacy.
I do tend to share things that I look back on and think "why in the heck did I say all of that?"
On the other hand, although I have personal friends and private texts ect...my... (read in full...)
Do women tell their friends EVERYTHING about their boyfriends???
Q. Ok, to all women, do you talk to your best friends and tell them everything about your bf. i mean everything, like dirty details?...
A. 5 October 2010: No, I have never been part of a girl tell-all fest. There has only been one friend in my life that I shared personal things about my sex life with, and that was only because of a problem I was having. It ended up being something that we shared even ... (read in full...)
Do you always have a thing for your first love...?
Q. Hi DC, Just a general post from something that I saw on TV the other nite about a couple who reunited after 40yrs apart (leaving thier respective partners/families) Do you always have a thing for your 1st love? Is the expression "1st Love neve...
A. 5 October 2010: No I don't. In fact when I happen to see him and his family somewhere I only feel relief that I didn't end up with him. He is a very nice person, but very boring. LOL ... (read in full...)
How can I help my family to cope with my cousin's cancer?
Q. HI Aunts and Uncles I've just had a close cousin diagnosed with advanced liver cancer. He is only 46 and we are all pretty devastated about this diagnosis. His father (my uncle) died 3 years ago from complications with his lungs. His death hi...
A. 5 October 2010: I just want to say to you Moo's Mum...I too am sorry for your loss. I have lost my dad at 52...and a young cousin at 16. It IS much harder than losing a grandparent. There is the feeling of a life cut short. It seem's so unfair. Such a tragedy. But ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I should follow my head or my heart
Q. i've been going out with my boyfriend for 5 months now , its been a very tough relationships as we both come from different backgrounds .. i'm from a quite nice one .. his isn't so fortunate .. but we love each other very much . i really truly love ...
A. 3 October 2010: When you look back on your life, the things you have surrounding you won't matter. The people will. Men and women have lost kingdoms by choosing love. Thats because they reached a choice of facing a life of everything a heart could wish ... (read in full...)
Does breast feeding mess up your breasts?
Q. Hey well i heard that breast feeding messes up your nipples like makes them not soft any more and stuff and that they wont go back to normal is that true?...
A. 2 October 2010: No its not true. It may change them temporarily, but not long term. And Cerebus is right, the benefits are worth a few discomforts.... (read in full...)
Am I big enough to break my girlfriend's virginity?
Q. I'm planning on having sex with my virging g.f next week... we hve both agreed on that... the problem is that my penis measure 15-16cm long, will it be able to break my g.f virginity??? I don't want to end up the looser at the end... ...
A. 1 October 2010: Since this will be her first time too, please; go slow, lots of foreplay, and use a water-based lubricant. Those 3 things will make a LOT of difference. ;)... (read in full...)
A snapshot of my lonesomeness
Q. Not a relationship question but i wrote this recently, after getting out of a long relationship...Its kind of a snapshot of my lonesomeness, wondering what the next chapter in my life will be(even though i am more than happy its over i still felt ...
A. 1 October 2010: I loved the article. Great writing. You should have signed your name.... (read in full...)
Am I big enough to break my girlfriend's virginity?
Q. I'm planning on having sex with my virging g.f next week... we hve both agreed on that... the problem is that my penis measure 15-16cm long, will it be able to break my g.f virginity??? I don't want to end up the looser at the end... ...
A. 1 October 2010: Honey you are the average size of a man. You are the perfect size. However, if you are considering having sex, please be safe. Use protection, wear a condom. :)... (read in full...)
What's more important ?
Q. Ladies! what's more important to you a man or money? Gentlemen! what's more important to you love or hanging out with your friends? :) thinks carefully ladies and gentlemen!...
A. 1 October 2010: A man...but does he have to be broke? hahaha... (read in full...)
I told him I love him, but he's making plans he won't commit to, with me.
Q. I'm 19 years old and gay. A little over a year ago I fell in love with one of my best friends. I told him how I felt about him in November and I know he avoided me for a long time. Whenever I would ask if we could get together he would tell me that ...
A. 1 October 2010: I'm sorry life is so hard for you right now. I understand from personal experience some of what you say, and I can only try to understand. Life is tough when you feel betrayed by someone you trust. Be strong. Be true to who you are. Feel free to ... (read in full...)
I told him I love him, but he's making plans he won't commit to, with me.
Q. I'm 19 years old and gay. A little over a year ago I fell in love with one of my best friends. I told him how I felt about him in November and I know he avoided me for a long time. Whenever I would ask if we could get together he would tell me that ...
A. 30 September 2010: Cindy is right. He keeps trying to be friends but you are all about SAYING you want friendship. Bv your ACTIONS say I'M IN LOVE WITH YOU! He can't figure out how to handle it, so he hides. But hunny YOU are driving him away. Unrequited love is ... (read in full...)
Is this being intimate?
Q. Hi there, Are you being "intimate" If you cup your ex g/f face in yr hand when saying goodnite and giving her a kiss on the cheek and a hug?...
A. 30 September 2010: Oddly enough the more I think about it, the kiss on the cheek, and hug aren't so much, but cupping the face is. ;)... (read in full...)
Is this being intimate?
Q. Hi there, Are you being "intimate" If you cup your ex g/f face in yr hand when saying goodnite and giving her a kiss on the cheek and a hug?...
A. 30 September 2010: In the situation you describe, I wouldnt say it was intimate. A casual hug and kiss on the cheek. If you have a current gf, she may feel different though. :)... (read in full...)
Is drinking occasionally SO bad?
Q. My wife and I are having very hard time in our relationship. My wife is very loose temper and gets upset very easily. We are married from last 7 years and have 2 kids. In last 7 years we are having fight almost once every month or so. Whenever we ...
A. 30 September 2010: Not for everyone. However it is for you, because you promised her before you married her you would stop. Then you talked her into a night out with the guys, and now you want it at home. It doesnt mean either of your positions are right or wrong. But ... (read in full...)
Is this being intimate?
Q. Hi there, Are you being "intimate" If you cup your ex g/f face in yr hand when saying goodnite and giving her a kiss on the cheek and a hug?...
A. 30 September 2010: What is the rest of the story? Its a loaded question.... (read in full...)
I told him I love him, but he's making plans he won't commit to, with me.
Q. I'm 19 years old and gay. A little over a year ago I fell in love with one of my best friends. I told him how I felt about him in November and I know he avoided me for a long time. Whenever I would ask if we could get together he would tell me that ...
A. 30 September 2010: You are getting your answer. He doesnt want to get together. He wants to be nice, but you always turn it back into, lets get together. Let him go, quit trying to connect. He isnt interested in you "that way."... (read in full...)
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