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I'm a mother of 7...and I'm a full time EMT. That means I give emergency medical care and drive an ambulance. I am an adrenalin junkie and I love helping people. :)
Don't compromise yourself. You are all you've got.--Janis Joplin
Don't listen to those who say, "It's not done that way." Maybe it's not, but maybe you will. Don't listen to those who say, "You're taking too big a chance." Michelangelo would have painted the Sistine floor, and it would surely be rubbed out by today. Most importantly, don't listen when the little voice of fear inside of you rears its ugly head and says, "They're all smarter than you out there. They're more talented, they're taller, blonder, prettier, luckier and have connections…" I firmly believe that if you follow a path that interests you, not to the exclusion of love, sensitivity, and cooperation with others, but with the strength of conviction that you can move others by your own efforts, and do not make success or failure the criteria by which you live, the chances are you'll be a person worthy of your own respect.--Neil Simon |
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What can I do to keep a girlfriend happy?
Q. i have a girlfriend and am scared that she may not want to go ahead in this relationship, so i want to keep her happy what can i do to keep my girlfriend happy? ...
A. 27 December 2010: You cannot be "someone" or something that you are not to keep her. Be yourself. Has she insinuated or said she doesn't like you as you are? ... (read in full...)
He talks about sex all day but just goes to sleep when the lights are out.
Q. My bf talks about having sex with me all day but when it's lights out he just falls asleep. Why?...
A. 27 December 2010: Have you asked him 1) why he talks about sex so much and 2) why he doesn't actually want to have sex? You need to be talking together about this. ... (read in full...)
I think I'm a lesbian but won't be accepted by my peers
Q. I'm a 22 year old and I think I'm a lesbian. I never had any type of.dealings with.a female but this is something that is constantly on my mind. It's to the point where I sometimes watch lesbian porno wishing it was me. But I'm afraid I won't be ...
A. 25 December 2010: Sometimes we have to just live what we are even if it isnt the popular view. You will be able to live as you are for awhile, but there will come a time when you are so miserable, you will HAVE to be yourself. And when you reach that point it will be ... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend the monster wants to try again!
Q. I don't know what is right or wrong anymore about love. My exbf was a monster. He ripped my heart out and taunted and did vicious things to me for entire year after he dumped me. I went all the way down hill and hibernated but he still found ways to ...
A. 25 December 2010: Followtheblackrabbit has it right. Do not go back to this man. Even if he has completely changed your history is just to much to overcome. He needs a fresh start and you do not need to have to relive everything everytime you look at him.
If ther... (read in full...)
Dating a man 20 years older I really can't see what I am getting out of this relationship
Q. I am 35 in a relationship (for 20 months now) with a man of 55. I love him, he wants to marry me, but i am hesitating. Sex is nearly absent (he has medical sexual problems), there is no financial security, and all issues that come with 20 years age ...
A. 25 December 2010: If you are asking, then its time to leave. You arent in love, and arent being fulfilled. He of course has everything he needs in a relationship, but you on the otherhand do not.
Its never easy to make changes, but you can do it. You will crea... (read in full...)
Did I really lose my virginity? I'm not sure
Q. Hi, I'm a 17 year old girl and just recently had sex for the first time. But it didn't hurt and I didn't bleed. Does this mean that I didn't lose my virginity? ...
A. 25 December 2010: Please learn more about sex, before having it again. You are not a virgin. If his penis went into your vagina, you are not a virgin. Please tell us you used birth control and he used a condom?
You can get these free from a health clinic almo... (read in full...)
How do you break a relationship that isn't honest to start with?
Q. I've been in an open relationship with someone for almost 3 months but I've been treating it as if it was a real relationship. I know open relationships are shallow and I really hate them but she didn't want a real one. The worse thing is that I ...
A. 25 December 2010: You just tell her that this arrangement is not working for you and you feel its time for you to move on. Keep it simple, and do not attempt to make her feel guilty, seeing as it was clear from the beginning that she was not going to commit. You ... (read in full...)
Are tampons comfortable?
Q. im 13 and i started my period not long ago and i use pads but there really uncomfortable and panty liners :/ i want to try a tampon but im not sure if it hurts? if its even more uncomfortable? and whats its even like to have one "in"?? please help ...
A. 25 December 2010: MrsTetzlaff I wonder if there is something in the tampon tha you are allergic to? Because I've never experienced anything like the things you mentioned...I haven't had any problems with them at all, but if I had had your problems with them... ... (read in full...)
One of my breasts is bigger than the other, will this affect my relationships?
Q. dear cupids, This question has been botherin me for a long time now. I have unequal breasts. One is half the size of the other. Will it affect my relationship in any way?? Do men give too much attention only to your outer appearence? Bcoz of this ...
A. 21 December 2010: No ones breasts are exactly the same size. And after 28 years my hubby has never ever mentioned it. LOL! Don't worry about it. You are normal....and I promise you guys are just as worried about their bodies as we are. :)
We don't care if thei... (read in full...)
Did I deserve getting hurt?
Q. Before i write this i know some people are probably thinking i deserved what happened but here goes. I was out one night with some friends and a guy i know was there too. Me and him had a casual thing a while ago but that finished. I regr...
A. 21 December 2010: Honey, this is really out of our scope of expertise here at DC. I think you have had some really great input, but you should see a professional. Perhaps someone could post some links to what is available in your area. The pain you feel, and the low ... (read in full...)
I cant get over my wife's past!
Q. Hi all, please help me in this issue, i hate the partner/lovers changing girls, I had no girl friend or sex in life, i used to watch a girl but no use, now i m arranged married person but after few years i came to know my wife had 2 bfs but not sex ...
A. 21 December 2010: Sometimes we expect certain things to be a certain way. It throws us for a loop when we find out they were different than we had imagined. Here is a link to one of the best articles on this site about this subject. Please read it, I think it will ... (read in full...)
Do men like lingerie or women naked?
Q. So I got some realllly cute Lingerie at Victoria Secret to wear for my boyfriend the other day and I guess the thought never ran through my head but do guy's really enjoy lingerie or are most men just all for the full blown nakedness?...
A. 21 December 2010: It depends on the mood, the setting and the timing. But every woman needs sexy lingerie! And every man loves it! (I love Victorias Secret!!!) :) ... (read in full...)
Are girls hypocrites???
Q. Why do women/girls criticize guys when they are just as bad as us? For example: "Guys only care about looks" "all guys are dogs" etc....
A. 20 December 2010: Wowsers!!!!Pffffft!!!! I'm with Chigirl...
Not all women call men derogatory names. And not all men call women insulting things. I think that there are hypocrits in both genders, as well as good. :)... (read in full...)
Very disturbing behaviour from my son
Q. Hi everyone, I hope you can take the time to help! I have a ten year old son, and since he was born he's been the sweetest, smartest, and generous boy I've ever known and wanted. He did his homework every night and I've never had to ask him twice to ...
A. 17 December 2010: Something is going on and you are right to be concerned. Is there a chance he could be being abused or bullied? There are a handful of red flags here and you have to find a way to reach him. He may not snap timorrow, but he is definitely on a path ... (read in full...)
13 year old son sexting. What should his punishment be?
Q. Just caught my 13 year old sexting with a girl in his class. They sent each other pictures of each other and everything. Not sure what his punishment should be. His phone was taken indefinitely. Not sure what else I should do. What do u all think?...
A. 9 December 2010: I have five children at home and three have phones. They have texting but no media capabilities. The oldest is 19, and pays his own bill, the other two are 17, and 13. When they get out on their own they can have whatever they want but not under my ... (read in full...)
My wife left but acts as though I kicked her out! I don't understand why!
Q. A question for women my ex recently left because she said that we grew apart. She was the one who wanted to leave so I told her to leave it began to get a bit messy because she did not have the money to leave and expected me to give it to her. This ...
A. 8 December 2010: Letting go is the best thing... Anything else is seen as clinging and controlling. ... (read in full...)
Why is my Girlfriend Dry during and before sex
Q. Hi Just wondering if any of the readers here have had their partners having issues with lubrication?. Ive been with my partner years now, we have both been STD tested, are monogamous and trying for a baby, so dont use protection. This wee...
A. 6 December 2010: This is a very very common menopausal issue. She is probably perimenopausal... Which means she is still fertile, but the hormones are beginning to change. Dont make a big deal out of it because it has absolutely NOTHING to do with her arousal level. ... (read in full...)
He called me a prostitute! I'm his mistress!
Q. I'm having an affair with a married man. Well today his wife caught us in a hotel and called me a prostitute? Then she started fighting my man and in the midst he told her I didn't mean nothhing to him but a prostitute! Wtf?! I'm a mistress! Will ...
A. 6 December 2010: Send a bill to his house. :) ... (read in full...)
Am I too young for this guy? Am I missing out on something?
Q. Three years ago, my father brought a man over to the house who he introduced to us as his colleague from work. He is 20 years younger than my dad making him now 35 and 15 years older than me. In present time, I'm actually about to turn 21 the end of ...
A. 5 December 2010: I have to say I was leaning toward sayin go for it until I read your very last line...."Please help... I feel as though I'm about to be trapped."
Something about that line sets off alarm bells in my mind....
Only you know your heart but some... (read in full...)
I want to get under the covers and play again like when we were 6!
Q. I have a family friend that i have been attracted to for a long time now. she is beautiful. we have been close since birth. when we were 5 or 6 we used to kiss. we would get under the covers in my bed and just play around for hours, nothing down ...
A. 3 December 2010: Hahahaha.... Great post Lepew! :)... (read in full...)
Why am I hurting so much?
Q. Hey, I was in a relationship for about a year with a guy that i believed in my heart was the one. we got together and things were good for a few months then i started to feel like he was scolding me like a child, when he would hurt my feelings by ...
A. 30 November 2010: Yes, and although you know in your heart you have done the right thing...the right thing is not always easy. As Brooklyngirl said, it doesn't go away overnight. In fact, there may be time for the rest of your life, that it comes to mind and you feel ... (read in full...)
For girls, what's your taste in guys?
Q. I know every girl has diffrent taste in guys but these are just a few questions I can think of off the top of my head that I want to know the answer to 1.Do girls like guys with long hair? 2.Do girls like guys who call them babe or baby? (I d...
A. 30 November 2010: It has to be a whole package, looks and personality. He could be the greatest looking guy in the world, but if he doesnt listen, and care about my feelings, then he is ugly to me.
I like a man with a little meat on his bones, someone with a good... (read in full...)
How can I get our relationship back on track?
Q. I'm 17 and I got my first boyfriend a year and a half ago. We're still together, but recently he's been acting differently around me. I feel like now he doesn't care about me at all. He started acting differently when his brother died a couple of ...
A. 30 November 2010: I think you need to accept that this relationship is over. He has disconnected himself emotionally. Sometimes this is the way that death affects people. I don't know his thought process, but it seems that he doesn't have the energy emotionally to ... (read in full...)
Why am I hurting so much?
Q. Hey, I was in a relationship for about a year with a guy that i believed in my heart was the one. we got together and things were good for a few months then i started to feel like he was scolding me like a child, when he would hurt my feelings by ...
A. 30 November 2010: Because the loss of hopes and dreams always hurts. That is natural and normal. Let yourself grieve and then move on...... (read in full...)
Is he going to marry me? Or not?
Q. Please help! My boyfriend of one year seems unsure if he wants to marry me. This really hurts me because at this pont am ready to be married to him. He used to be so sure about getting married--but lately he said.. we didnt get along so well that he ...
A. 30 November 2010: He is right, you need to be sure. Another year isnt too long to take to be sure about one of the most important decisions of your life...
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What is with his kisses?
Q. hi my boyfriend and i have been together for 2years and everytime we kiss he always just pek kisses me why is that?...
A. 30 November 2010: dirtball covered it pretty well....
Does he kiss you on the mouth? If he does then, put your hands on either side of his face next time and pull him close...hold him there, and open your mouth a bit and kiss him deeply and see if he resp... (read in full...)
Need a good honest opinion of what to do now.
Q. My girlfriend of 9 months told me from the beginning of the relationship to never ask her about her past sexual experiences and it bothered me having to be so mysterious.... last night she was extremely drunk and we were having sex and I asked her ...
A. 27 November 2010: Thank you Tennisstar88... That is indeed the article. I am on my phone today and could copy the link.
Poster only you can decide whether you are willing to move forward with this woman. Good Luck Honey, Denim... (read in full...)
Need a good honest opinion of what to do now.
Q. My girlfriend of 9 months told me from the beginning of the relationship to never ask her about her past sexual experiences and it bothered me having to be so mysterious.... last night she was extremely drunk and we were having sex and I asked her ...
A. 27 November 2010: You knew it wasnt going to be pretty...and you asked her anyway. She hasn't cheated on you.... That's the important thing! Let the past be exactly that... The past.
Tisha-1 has an article on her profile page on retroactive jealousy that is very... (read in full...)
Will talking about intimate subjects cause a problem in our marriages?
Q. Hii...I am married and happy.I found a guy who is my close friend.We share couple of intimate topics.He is also married.We feel that we are getting attached and loving eachother.I too feel to spend the max time with him.though we never met just that ...
A. 27 November 2010: Yes... You are missing something in your own marriage or you wouldnt be doing that to start with. That makes you very vulnerable, and believe me this guy will seem to really get you.
You are on the brink of ruining your life. Stop now befo... (read in full...)
I want to stop being rude!!!!!!!!!!!!
Q. ok, so here is the deal im gettin married in less than 30 days. lets call her miss bee, well miss bee and i have been together going on 10 years. i love her deeply, we have two sons and have been together since high school. ok so my ? i have been ...
A. 27 November 2010: There is something in your life that you keep bottled up... Frustrations etc, and she is the person you feel unconditional love from and you let off the steam with her.
You need to search your heart and figure out what is causing the frus... (read in full...)
She says she doesn't want to get back how to convince her gently?
Q. First of all, sorry for the long text. Jump to the [TL;DR] sections if you're in a hurry. ABOUT US We've been together for the best five years of my life. We considered ourselves soulmates and we had agreed to spend our lifes together. We ...
A. 27 November 2010: Well then babes, its time to let go. It takes two to make a relationship work and she isnt meeting you half way. She's not meeting you ANY of the way. No matter how good it was before my guess is she has found someone else. Hugs, Denim... (read in full...)
She says she doesn't want to get back how to convince her gently?
Q. First of all, sorry for the long text. Jump to the [TL;DR] sections if you're in a hurry. ABOUT US We've been together for the best five years of my life. We considered ourselves soulmates and we had agreed to spend our lifes together. We ...
A. 26 November 2010: So if I understood this all correctly, you two haven't been physically in the same room...since the "break-up?" And the breakup was done by text or email or messenger, not face to face?
I think you should go and find a way to sit down face to face... (read in full...)
I love my husband... but I love this woman too!
Q. i am so confused and unhappy. i am married and i have 2 kids. im am also in love with a female. my husband is really good to me and our children. we have been together since high school but we only been married for 2 years. i left my husband for ...
A. 26 November 2010: Honey, reread your question....surely you know the answer...
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How to convince my bf for sex??!!
Q. i am in a ldr relationship.i am committed to my bf since 1year and 4 months. me and my bf are soon going to meet and i want to spend some intimate moments with my bf. i want to have sex with my bf but i dun know how to say. moreover he doesn't se...
A. 26 November 2010: You don't. He is smart enough to know he isn't ready and if you are mature enough to be having sex, you should be mature enough to understand...not everyone is ready at 16.
You should be cultivating a strong friendship and not obsessing abou... (read in full...)
Still deeply in love with the man I met abroad, but still have very strong feelings for my husband....
Q. I am happily married but went abroad alone and fell in love with a single man. He started everything and i fell so deeply for him, now he called it off without any valid reason. I feel like a bitch...please help. I am still deeply in love with him ...
A. 26 November 2010: Put this into proper prospective. It was obviously a short time fling for him...he knew you were going back home and had no intention of anything going on past that.
You are at a vulnerable age, and you gave in to a sweet talking man. You aren... (read in full...)
Should I have stopped hanging out with my friends to make her happy?
Q. So me and my girlfriend just broke up because I keep going to hang out with my friends at least once or twice on the weekends. Should I have just stoped hanging out with my friends to make her happy?...
A. 26 November 2010: You did the right thing...I think you know you did. I think that you are sad and lonely and second guessing yourself, but down deep you know you cannot live in a relationship that dictates you cannot spend time with friends.
I have been marr... (read in full...)
My girlfriend still shares a bed with her ex! What should I do?
Q. Hi. Well I got a problem. My girlfriend and I live miles away from each other. I live alone, and she lives with her 5 bestfriends. 3 of them are guys, one of them is her ex. I'm a really jealous kind of guy, and she knows that. I really dont like it ...
A. 26 November 2010: She's playing you honey, she is definitely not YOUR girlfriend, and she is not his EX. You are a long way away, he is there. You are not in her bed, he IS...
Those are the facts. It doesnt matter what she SAYS to you, anyone can type anyt... (read in full...)
Can't get out of an intensely committed relationship......
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for almost 3 years, and lately things haven't been going well. She tends to control me and I tend to resist by just dropping out which only makes things worse. Out of subconscious spite I'll do things that I know ...
A. 25 November 2010: (sorry I clicked the button and wasn't thru :) )
find something seperate to do. The process of finding yourself is very painful, and very difficult. You will have days when you don't think you can do it. But you will never feel like your own pers... (read in full...)
Can't get out of an intensely committed relationship......
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for almost 3 years, and lately things haven't been going well. She tends to control me and I tend to resist by just dropping out which only makes things worse. Out of subconscious spite I'll do things that I know ...
A. 25 November 2010: This is not healthy for either of you. I had a friendship that got really out of hand, too intense and too much time spent together. She fortunately realized it and figured out that things had to change. It took several weeks of no contact, and ... (read in full...)
What cologne should I get my boyfriend for christmas?
Q. Not really a relationship question as such but something most people will have an opinion on I hope. I want to get my boyfriend some cologne as part of his xmas present, but I'm completely clueless when it's comes to male fragrance and was hoping ...
A. 23 November 2010: Armani Gio di Aqua, Armani Code, True Religion....mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm... (read in full...)
Can the depo shot stop your period right from the first time you take it?
Q. So, just got my depo shot on the firtst (first time ever). And I still made the mistake of having sex before my week was up (3 days before). My period was supposed to come around this week and hasn't shown. Needless to say, I miss Aunt Flo and am ...
A. 19 November 2010: Well, I have found the cheap ones work just as well as the more expensive ones. Trust me I've used lots and lots of them between 10 pregnacies and 7 years and counting of menopause. Shoulda bought stock in the company.... ;) ... (read in full...)
Can the depo shot stop your period right from the first time you take it?
Q. So, just got my depo shot on the firtst (first time ever). And I still made the mistake of having sex before my week was up (3 days before). My period was supposed to come around this week and hasn't shown. Needless to say, I miss Aunt Flo and am ...
A. 18 November 2010: You may not want to hear my experience because it was a horrible one. I skipped the first month completely, and then Aunt Flo visited for over 6 weeks. I called the doctor and she acted like it was perfectly normal. :( I also gained 30 pounds that ... (read in full...)
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