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writes:Recently I was on a business trip to America attending an exhibition. As part of my work I had to walk around and see what the companies were doing at each booth and find out some info. I walked past one booth in particular and there was an extremely beautiful girl working behind the counter. I looked at her for briefly at the same time our eyes met and a connection was made. I walked away and came back later pretending I wanted to find out about the company she works for and ask her questions. I didn't really know what I was talking about and when I talked to her she couldnt really answer my questions either. I went back to a colleague and told him I had met the most beautiful girl so he told me to show her to him so we went back and talked to her some more. There was an event going on later that evening so I asked her if she was going and she said she would be. I noticed she had a ring on her ring finger and assumed she was married and wouldn't be interested.She never turned up to the event and the next day I didn't bother going back to see her. The following day my colleague and my boss had visited her a couple of times and they said she was asking after me. i thought they were winding me up and on the last day my colleague told me to go with him and see her. He left us to talk and I clumsily asked her out for a drink in the evening but she had to do some work stuff so we would meet late at 11pm and she gave me her hotel name and room number.I called her later that evening and met her, I was really nervous before hand. I ran to 7/11 and bought some condoms and then on the way back I bought a rose for her but decided a rose was too much so i left it on the kerb. I met her at the hotel and we chatted for a bit at a couple of bars. She asked me why i left it so late to ask her out and I said because I thought she was married and she told me she just wore the ring to keep dirty old men away. I took her to one bar that was on a pier and we sat outside in front of the dock where there were boats lit up by lights and we kissed. She told me I shouldnt have kissed her because she will miss me. There wasnt really anywhere to go and she asked about my hotel so I asked her if she wanted to see it but she said she is not that type of girl.We went to her hotel and sat in the lobby for a bit kissing and embracing and she said I was the nicest guy in England she ever met. She said she wouldn't have gone on a date with me if I lived in America and we talked about visiting each other, she lives in Switzerland. She also said things were moving fast. I had to get a flight early the next day and she still had to pack so we both reluctantly got up and had a final kiss and embrace before I left her in the hotel lobby.I went back home feeling awful, I never made such a strong connection or had such a strong attraction to someone in my life. The next day my flight was delayed and so I spent a good few hours at the bar thinking of the girl and the night we spent together.Upon arrival back home she had sent me an email on facebook saying thank you for a wonderful night and how glad she was we got the chance to meet and gave me a goodnight kiss. I replied back the following day but I am usually really bad at messaging girls on facebook and I go really over the top. I said it was a perfect night and that we should keep in touch and could I have her phone number because I didnt get it when I was there (she took mine but I didnt have my phone with me).Ten days later and no reply so I emailed her again just saying stupid like 'are you over the jet lag'? And told her I was planning my next trip to Barcelona and said maybe she could come for a couple of days and meet me?Still no reply over a week later.I can only draw a few conclusions:Either she's not really that interestedShe is really marriedORI creeped her out by being too mushy and forward (seems to be the most likely one)I have not been able to stop thinking about this girl since I left America to the point where I am losing sleep and feeling down. She is my perfect girl looks wise, I cant say we know each other really well but it felt like there was an instant attraction and very strong connection. I really would like to see her again or at least talk to her. I thought about writing to her and telling her how i feel but im scared that she will be freaked out. I've completely fallen for her in no time at all... I don't know what to do!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (13 October 2010):
 Ok maybe sometimes you come on a little strong to women and this would scare them away, if you are a guy that falls for a girl really quickly it can come across as needy and clingy, yeah sure you can tell a girl you like her but dont make to much contact with her let her do some of the running as well and dont try and spend to much time with someone only after a few dates.
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reader, Anonosaurus +, writes (13 October 2010):
Anonosaurus is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo two weeks on from my last message to her and still nothing. Furthermore every time I log on to Facebook chat and she is on there it doesn't take her long to disappear. My mind is running wild with theories but one that I think is possible is that she is married and has an unfaithful partner. Whilst away she felt lonely and also fed up of her husband so decided to play to my interest.
I still think about her every day and wonder if maybe she knew how much of an impression she made on me and whether or not I made any on her. I've also been thinking a lot about the way I am and that I never seem to find someone who likes me as much as I like them. I just want to be happy and have a relationship but every time I fall for someone it seems to fizzle out and die.
I never have problems going out and meeting women, I'm attractive enough, can be charming when needed and everyone who knows me thinks I'm a nice guy. When I was in the US I had the pick of eight girls at one point but I chose her. Maybe I go after the wrong girls? I'm really feeling down about this whole situation at the moment.
I want to move on and be positive but before I went away and even before I met her I was feeling this way and had problems in the past getting into relationships and getting past the first couple of dates. Is it important to let women know your feelings early on? This is something I really struggle with
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (6 October 2010):
Ok well i dont think that you should write to her and tell her how you feel, as if she hasnt replied by now then she might think that you are being quite pushy. If she doesnt reply then i think its best to say that she is not interested. Ok so it sounds like you both had a great time and it sounds like you are in lust over what could be. If she doesnt get in contact with you again i think its best that you try and forget her, it does sound a little bit dodgy that she had a ring on her wedding finger as this is a bit far fetched for a women to wear a ring just to keep dirty men away never the less she may have been telling the truth. If she doesnt reply then dont contact her, take up a new hobby or go out socializing and meeting new girls in your area to keep your mind of her, think about it this way a relationship between the both of you would be quite difficult as you live so far apart could you honestly see it working out? Try and meet some girls that live close to you, and remember that night with this girl to be a special night and one you will more than likely always remember. If you feel like you really need an answer from her then mail her and ask her did you come on to strong and if you did that you are sorry you just think she is a wonderful girl and would like to meet her again then leave it in her hands.
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reader, DenimandLace44  +, writes (5 October 2010):
 If you have messaged her a couple of times or more with no answer, you need to back away and wait. The ball is in her court now, and you need to wait and see if she wants to play. She now knows you are very interested, and only she knows what here feelings are toward you. I have no idea if she is 1) married...or 2) scared...or 3)something else.
goodluck hon
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