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writes:Ok, to all women, do you talk to your best friends and tell them everything about your bf. i mean everything, like dirty details?
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reader, trayvis +, writes (4 October 2011):
Here's the thing guys - try just for a moment to imagine something - try to imagine you are a young girl. Put yourself in the shoes of a young girl that's around 17 or 18 years old.
She's constantly inundated with the excitement of one of her girlfriends who slept with a guy last night who was very well endowed. Keep in mind when I write "constantly inundated" I don't mean that it happens everyday but if you have a group of young girls who are all sexually active , one of that group is bound to experience a guy now and then who;s well endowed.
We've all seen how impressionable young girls are and how they gather together in a huddle with big bright eyes,, fully dilated and huge smiles on their face in a highly emotionally charged atmosphere with the intrigue of what their friends are saying bursting at the seams to hear the juicy details . Everyone one has seen them as the girls whisper away to one another in a circle ,, heads lowered , little giggles , soaking up everything they're told.
Yes .... we are dealing with immaturity gone wild at this age -- but the fact still remains ... it is what's important to most girls at that young age whether or not its important later on or not.
Now ... imagine the "curiosity" that's generated from all this emotional excitement between the girls, and how each girl that leaves the huddle, having heard all the hoopla over a guys size with all the excitement. try to imagine what you as a young girl from that time on would like to experience.
You guessed it - curiosity drives them crazy and each girl that leaves the "huddle" thinking I, would love to experience this glorious thing and be the one in the group of girls next time who's the focus of the giddy emotional meltdown.
With the above written,,, keep in mind , its not to difficult to see what each girl who left the huddle has on her mind .. But in order to find it ,, she may need to go through 50 guys to find it .. Which is precisely where the knowledge of a guy who's very endowed comes in ... When girls talk and establish that a particular guy is indeed endowed - the rest of the girls that hear it .. know they need look no further ... the girls don't have to aimlessly look in a group of 50 guys anymore ... they already know where to look to get a big penis. This is where the dynamic of "after girls find out about a guy with a big penis" they all go after that guy to experience this wonderful thing that girls are so excited about. Let's face it at these young ages its not hard for a girl to get what she wants from a guy. Now once she's experienced it ...she too has bragging rights.
So as you can see whether or not women that are older care about going after a big penis - it is important at a younger more immature age - and if it was important to her at one time and she did indeed set her sights on finding a big penis - she probably did find it. so guys .... just know that if girls set there sights on it at one time when it was really popular to do... then your girlfriend has more than likely experienced at least one big penis before you.
But remember this - if she did find it - when she reports back to her friends - you can bet that if it was a horrible experience for her - that is not the story the other girls will hear. Girls love to fantasies and they definitely love to exaggerate, therefore the story will always be - that it was the most wonderful experience to ride that big fat penis, further perpetuating the hype among girls and or women.
For the married woman who didn't get around much before her "marriage" She has to go years ,listening to the other younger single women in work settings and,"women's nights out" talk just like the younger girls about a guy or guys with big penises and how it - turned their world up side down , therefore its in the back of a woman's mind whether she acts immediately on it or not ... So later if divorce happens .. This is where a lot of the so called "transition sex" comes from - after having to hear for years while married from other women what wonderful experiences they've had - the newly divorced woman begins to feel her sense of new found freedom at the age of 40 and says "I'm just gonna have fun for awhile before I get into another serious relationship" that fun for her is her secret quest to fulfill her own formerly perceived fantasies she's heard about for years and one of those fantasies is to find that guy with the huge penis at least once in her life.
By the time a real guy comes into her life - she will never be honest about what she was up to after she divorced and all her friends will be supportive and keep it a secret as well - and if There's one thing you can bet on - its that all her friends also know how her new husband compares to the "one night stand" guy she told them about with the big penis.
Not all women do these things - there are decent women - but many many do.
Who wants to be the guy she ends up with ? how does he know if she's comparing him or not ? - or if she secretly wishes he had a bigger penis. Some of these women are nice women who were married for 15 to 20 years - but they take time out after the divorce to seek out and screw all kinds of men from singles sites and other online resources - before they settle down and if caught ..a woman will always start crying and say "I was so broken" I was this ...I was that.. but the truth is ...they do it because they WANT to and brag about it ... - by the time they settle down with a man they would consider relationship material ... that man enters the picture, then all of a sudden the woman is just an innocent woman who's not been dating since her divorce ... and she will NEVER tell her new man what she really did and how she was with a lot of men ...between her divorce and the day she met him..
Girls and woman are emotionally driven that's why anytime no matter what the age... If a woman has a new man in her life - all the women she knows have to know every detail and believe me they do talk.
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reader, natasia  +, writes (5 October 2010):
 I think Cerberus is right that that whereas women won't necessarily tell all sexual/physical details (very probably not, if in a mature relationship - they become protective of their man's secrets), they WILL give the full emotional low-down on him. Any time you are the least bit mean, for sure the next day at least two of her friends will know all about it ...
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reader, DenimandLace44 +, writes (5 October 2010):
 No, I have never been part of a girl tell-all fest. There has only been one friend in my life that I shared personal things about my sex life with, and that was only because of a problem I was having. It ended up being something that we shared even after the problem was better. If I had it to do again, I wouldnt tho. There are lots of things I wish I didn't know or wish she didnt know as we are no longer friends. :) I never told EVERYTHING but more than I wish I had've...Hindsight and all of that. Some women do, but all women don't.
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reader, mrvhappy +, writes (5 October 2010):
Hi,
The women that I have known/worked with do...across all socail stratas.
I once expericened @ wk (open planned office) some of the ladies were discussing in GRAPHIC detail what they did with thier partners in the bedroom during thier lunch time.
I was sitting at the other end of the room...they didnt know that I could hear EVERY SINGLE word. Eventually I had to get up and walk to the bathroon to wash my face as I was crying with laughter at some of the things that they go upto!! Luckily they didnt see my face as I left the room otherwise they would have been V V embarassed!!
All I can say is I now know which one of thier partners "enjoys Large Bananas"...LMAO....:)
Ohh what happy days!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2010): I think it depends on the relationship between the women. I know my GF will only go as far with most friends to say that "I am amazing in bed" or something like that. But I have found E-mails my GF sent to her other GF about her boyfriend at the time (this was all before me). They were bragging back and forth, and it went into detail...like how big, how deep they went, how many times they came, where they came, how it tasted, etc. Now this E-mail friend was a "sex friend" as she calls her...just a girl she knew from Facebook and they liked to talk about sexual fantasies, boyfriends, etc. The other girl is bi, and I think my GF was a bit bi-curious at one point. So the relationship was very open and sexual, so the conversation was too. But commonly, I'd say only a handful of women are close enough to talk details.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2010): Yes, by in large, girls do tell every frakin detail about their sexual lives with us. The good, the bad, and the ugly. I was shocked to learn that the grouped of women my wife went to school with all know the exact size of my penis. I also now know the sexual proclivities, no matter how weird, of every one of the men that is married to a friend of my wife.
One poster said this is normal and natural. Quite frankly, I am sick of this expectation that men go along with everything women do or feel. These "evolved" men, and there are quite a few on this site, will justify practically anything g a woman does, from cheat g to gaining 200lbs. At the same time, they castigate their fellow men as being depraved dogs, etc.
This is another example of that. Of course it is wrong to tell these details to other women. Can you ladies imaging how you would feel if we exactly described the sag in your breasts, the smell of your $$$$, the wobble of your belly, the lines and unevenness of your thighs, to all the guys over poker? How about your weirder sexual fantasies: being raped by the principal, having sex with the Gardner and his assistant in the shed, Fng your girlfriend at a party while we watch.
Yes, these are the types of storries I have heard about almost all of the men married to my wife's friends. Not just a few, but almost all - more than a dozen. So don't say it doesn't happen.
It's sad that every time I look at Joe now I cringe, cause I know he asks his wife to stick things In his bum. But she has a right to talk about it right? Cause she is a woman, and her emotions trump all...
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 October 2010):
 No, I never did and never will, and I don't even know many women who "kiss and tell ". Well, maybe when they are very young , like in high school. But with time and maturity you become naturally more protective about your private stuff.
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reader, heart-shaped-balloon +, writes (5 October 2010):
 I will rant to my friends about cute or funny or romantic things, or mean things.. But only in vague detail and only rarely. The only person I tell EVERYTHING to is my man.. And I never talk about my sex life with anyone besides him. Ever. Unless I'm not getting any and then I complain, but only if he's there so I can give him trouble ;P Playfully, of course.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (5 October 2010):
 Depends. If it's something really private or something my boyfriend specifically asks me not to say, then no I won't. But if not then sure I'll tell them.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (5 October 2010):
 Nope, never have, never will, but some people do.
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (4 October 2010):
 It totally depends on the person! I know some guys that tell their friends details about their relationships. I personally keep most things to myself. Only occasionally, when I feel comfortable, I will divulge personal stuff to girl friends. I just dont think it's nessasary to discuss every little detail about my life in general, including my relationships. Some things should be kept private. Perhaps if I'm having some kins of issue, I'd be inclined to talk it through with a close friend. But I don't feel the need to share every dirty detail of my sex life/relationship with anyone!
I guess I'm a pretty private person anyway though. Of course it depends on the girl.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (4 October 2010):
I'm sure they say some stuff now and again. I wouldn't worry too much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2010): It depends, at first he was my best friend and I would have never thought of betraying any information to anyone else about him.... but then we started having really SERIOUS problems and it became absolutely necessary for me to have others to talk to about our relationship, including my parents, and my closest friend. My own idea is that relationship stuff should remain as private as possible, as much as possible, however when it gets to be too much to hold in sometimes you need to talk to others in private. I know that there are some women who tell their girlfriends everything, but I'm not like that, and my opinion about relationships like that is that they're definitely not as strong as the one she has with her girlfriends. You should try to avoid a relationship like that if you can. Just my two cents.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (4 October 2010):
 Not all women do. A lot are very private about that and will keep quiet about such personal stuff. As for me and my girlfriends (my closest ones... like 3-4 girls), we do share all the details. Some of us more than others.
It's a very personal decision. To each woman her own! If your girlfriend says she doesn't really share, I'd be inclined to believe her!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2010): Yeah they do, sexually maybe not every detail but emotionally and the things you say and do. Every single detail of all that will be told.
That's normal and natural though, getting other peoples opinions on things is what helps us make sense of life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2010): I hardly tell my best friends any thing about what me and my boyfriend do. I might insinuate that last night was great (lol) but I never go into detail. It's way too personal and I like to keep somethings in our relationship to between me and him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2010): It changes with age, teenage girls can be pretty bad at telling stuff but as women get older they get more reserved and feel less "need" to show off!!
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reader, thatguy88 +, writes (4 October 2010):
thatguy88 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell my girlfriends best friend tells every little detail, but she tells me she doesn't. *wink* *wink*
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reader, natasia +, writes (4 October 2010):
not totally everything. well, i don't. i have a certain loyalty that prevents me. and also one only really goes to the level of detail that one's friends do, and if they don't tell everything, you don't either.
so your secret(s) might be safe ... ; )
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