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If I hate him, can someone please help me figure out why I stay?

Q.   I'm seeing a man I like sometimes, hate sometimes who annoys me most of the time. He can be sweet but still. Now I'm shocked that I've spent seven months with him! He's the opposite of what I appreciate in a man: ungentlemanly, often conceited and ...

A.   14 January 2013: There are many women - and I'm not saying this is you - that stay with men they know aren't good for them, just because they hate being alone. They figure it's at least SOMEone with them. That could be the problem? I'd say hang out with some girl ... (read in full...)

After 3 dates she broke up with me because she said I acted like I didin't like her

Q.   hi, this girl i have been seeing has just 'dumped' me, so i was wondering if you help me pleease cos im gutted! basicly i had 3 dates with her, they were all good, i enjoyed them, and she ses she enjoyed them too, and yesterday morning she just...

A.   31 October 2012: I don't know if you meant to do this, but this is the reason playing hard to get backfires. Sure, this is to lure the other person towards you - to not act all mushy and needy - but it does make it look like you are not interested in a relationship. ... (read in full...)

We broke up. So why can't I just "unfriend" him in my head?

Q.   I've just broken up with my boyfriend of 3 years because we couldn't get over problems of fighting about mainly money (he didn't seem to want to put in an effort to make any) and he had a problem with drinking. He was not abusive and is actu...

A.   10 August 2012: You were with him for 3 years. That's a long time, so it's going to take a long time to get over him. Just try to get back to your normal routine and you'll be feeling better in no time.... (read in full...)

Is it normal to not feel pleasure during sex?

Q.   Hello there! I suppose this is quite to the point, but I literally feel nothing during sex. At first, sleeping with my boyfriend was painful. But that's normal and we've gotten through that, but never once has it been pleasurable. I'm gett...

A.   10 August 2012: There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Nature is just cruel to women that us women rarely orgasm just from penetration alone. That wonderful bud called the clit makes all the difference. Try to use a little vibrator on your clit while your man ... (read in full...)

I have a question about birth control.

Q.   Oh, someone please help me! Nobody has answered my question, not even Google. This is about birth control, I'm not sure if this is the right place to ask this question, but it's the only place I feel comfortable turning to. Okay so, I got ...

A.   9 July 2012: Two things I want to pass onto you: 1) It does take a little while for the body to get used to birth control pills, so don't worry about experiencing period-like symptoms. Once your body gets used to the pill, you'll be fine. 2) Be sure to... (read in full...)

Do employers look at college transcripts?

Q.   I'm going to be a 4th year in university. I attend a reputable business school but I'm a C-average student. B-average within my GE classes. Do employers look at grades? Unfortunately I chose my major when I didn't know what I want so I'm not ...

A.   6 July 2012: I wouldn't say all, but most employers look at your grades. Especially your final year, to see if you continued to work hard, or had "senioritis." People who did very well in school (3.5 GPA or higher) usually put their GPA on their resume under ... (read in full...)

Did I make the right decision in ending this relationship?

Q.   My ex boyfriend came to the statse with a visa that expired a few months ago. He told me that he was planning on going back to mexico this summer to obtain a new one, but evaded it last minute byecause he didnt want to risk not being able to come ...

A.   6 July 2012: You did not betray him. You did the right thing by ending things. When you're living on your own, do you want to be paying for your housing and his at the same time? Working two jobs because he can't either cause he's illegal or he's lazy? Of course ... (read in full...)

Online guy--we're going to meet should I take a parent the first time?

Q.   so three years ago i met a guy online, he lives in another country . So we were friends for about a year then it kind've became an online relationship when he told me he liked me and i liked him back. We talk on video call etc and ive spoken to his ...

A.   15 June 2012: I agree with citadel. Make sure you and he are in a public place. You don't have to bring your parents when you meet him, but make sure they know where you're going to be, just in case. Good luck :)... (read in full...)

We met on facebook and he wants to have sex with me

Q.   MODERATOR NOTE: TWO QUESTIONS COMBINED FROM SAME ASKER so im 16 and i know this guy from fb that i have been iming 4 bout a month now he is 23 and realy cute n he asked me out and wants to sleep with me but he said if i dont sleep with him then he ...

A.   9 June 2012: NO!!!!!!!!!!!! I cannot stress that two-letter word enough, for your question. No! No! No! 1) If the man will leave you if you refuse to have sex, he does not care for you. Period. You do not deserve a scumbag like that. You deserve a man who love... (read in full...)

How do I handle embarrassing visits to the doctor?

Q.   My mom took me to the doctor to get a referral for X-rays for my injured knee that I damaged when running during practice for Track. So there was this Medical Assistant guy and he was the one who checked my weight and stuff like that. He also asked ...

A.   17 May 2012: Wow, that guy sounds like a big creep! Tell your doctor, or at least tell the secretary and she will take care of it, if you don't want that guy to hear you. That is unprofessional behavior. And I, too, always feel uncomfortable when a male doc... (read in full...)

Social anxiety is keeping me from 'getting out there'

Q.   Hi everyone. I'm 19 and at uni. Unfortunately, I suffer from very bad social anxiety and I really struggle in new, different and out of the usual situations. I've done a lot of things that other people haven't (I've actually traveled to the othe...

A.   1 May 2012: I'm similar to you. I suffer from anxiety and, while I'm friendly to people, I was never really the "popular" kid and was never in the "popular" group. I just had my small circle of friends at school. I'd say just start out slow with your anxiety. ... (read in full...)

Where in Europe is best for filming the beauty of everyday life?

Q.   I know this is a relationship website, but please I really need advice on where in Europe has the best action? (Not in that sense). Basically, I have a film project coming up and I have always wanted to film things that are amazing, so the culture, ...

A.   8 April 2012: I agree with janniepeg - if you're on a tight budget, go to the smaller, quieter places, cause places like London, Rome and Paris will kill your budget! I personally have always wanted to see the Swiss Alps, so I'd say Switzerland. Or Eastern ... (read in full...)

I've been offered a university place hundreds of miles away, how do I tell my boyfriend?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have been together for just 3 months but have said 'i love you' already, I do love and fancy him and he thinks the world of me and treats me well. What I am hiding from him is that ive been accepted into my top 3 choices for ...

A.   8 April 2012: Decide on this: do you want to live YOUR life with YOUR dreams, or do you want to do what your bf wants and live HIS life? Also, who's to say the two of you will stay together? Definitely take the scholarship and get your education at the university ... (read in full...)

Is it wrong to spank your kids?

Q.   My mother thinks im cruel because i spank my two year old. I am not ashamed that i do. I only spank him on the rump when hes doing something he knows he shouldnt do. For instance getting into the trash, taking silverware out of the dishwasher, ...

A.   4 April 2012: See, this is the problem with kids in the world these days - kids KNOW they can do whatever they want because spanking nowadays is considered "awful" and "child abuse." Puh-lese!! As my mom told my oldest brother one time when my brother was mad at ... (read in full...)

The expression "stop looking and you'll find someone" isn't working for me!

Q.   I've heard this over and over again... That the reason I can't find a girlfriend is because I'm looking for one, and that as soon as I stop looking, I'll suddenly end up in a relationship. "Happens when you least expect it," "I found my partner when ...

A.   11 March 2012: That phrase means to not constantly look for a partner. If you're constantly looking, you'll look desperate and that's not good. If you just go about your life, hanging out with friends and having a good time, women find that desireable and ... (read in full...)

B/f inexperienced and winds up hurting me while trying to make me feel good

Q.   Ive been going out with my boyfriend for almost a year now and we both virgins and want to stay like that till we both feel ready for sex. The problem is when we do make out he likes to rub my clit but he rubs with alot of force which leaves me ...

A.   11 March 2012: Tell him! Trust me, he won't get his ego bruised by telling him. If he really loves you, he will get the point because he would never want to hurt you. Either use lube or your natural juices for him to rub your clit. With no moisture, it's jus... (read in full...)

Why does my boyfriend ejaculate all over my stomach?

Q.   I wonder if any of you could help me. My boyfriend who is one year older than me always withdraws from me during sex and ejaculates and squirts it out all over my stomach. I am just wondering if anybody has experienced this before? Is this an ...

A.   11 March 2012: I think it's a combination of Hugh J and Saashiie... (read in full...)

Girlfriend called me stingy when I had no money. Will she stand by me after marriage if I have nothing?

Q.   Hi, I have been in this relationship going to 3 years now. .Almost every time we do have a slight misunderstanding, though distance is not helping matters here, we only see each other once in 2 months.She recently told me that am not romaanti...

A.   10 February 2012: It doesn't sound like your marriage will work out if she's like this now. She sounds rather selfish to me. She has to realize that a relationship is not about how much money one person has; it's about how compatable the two of you are and how much ... (read in full...)

Should my mother allow me to spend the night with my boyfriend?

Q.   Okay so I wanted to know that if your 16 years old and your boyfriend is 17, and you guys have been together for a year and seven months but have known each other for three years. Should you be able to stay the night with him. My boyfriend lives an ...

A.   10 February 2012: Sorry to burst your bubble, but I personally would not allow my daughter to spend the night at her boyfriend's until she was at least 18. Then, she'd be considered an adult, but even then I wouldn't be too sure. There's always the risk and ... (read in full...)

Can the hymen be ruptured during a pelvic exam?

Q.   is it possible for a pap smear to break your hymen? i got one yesterday, failed to tell them i was a virgin and as soon as she opened the speculum i was in so much pain i wanted to cry. i had a little bleeding after the test and now im fine but i ...

A.   15 January 2012: Following up what Person12345 is saying, when I'm getting a pelvic exam, I'm always a bit tense, but my doctor always tells me to place my hand over my stomach and take deep breaths, then let it all out, take a deep breath, let it all out. Still ... (read in full...)

Can the hymen be ruptured during a pelvic exam?

Q.   is it possible for a pap smear to break your hymen? i got one yesterday, failed to tell them i was a virgin and as soon as she opened the speculum i was in so much pain i wanted to cry. i had a little bleeding after the test and now im fine but i ...

A.   15 January 2012: The hymen can be broken during lots of things, not only for sex: playing sports, riding bikes, even riding a horse can break the hymen. And yes, during pelvic exams.... (read in full...)

Do guys find black hair attractive in girls?

Q.   i know this is a random question but i just want to see what everyones opinion was, mostly from a guys perspective. Of course a lot of guys like or "love" blondes then theres the burnettes and red heads. what about the girls with black hair? in my ...

A.   28 December 2011: Any guy who doesn't like you just because of the color of your hair doesn't deserve to be with you. I agree everything Cerebus says - women call in all shapes, sizes and colors and that makes us all unique.... (read in full...)

Is it important to have things in common when you date?

Q.   Everyone I've dated, and people that have shown interest in me have never shared anything in common with me. Personality, hobbies, likes, interests etc... I was seeing someone for a little over a month and that ended because we had little i...

A.   22 December 2011: It is important to have things in common, but having different likes is ok, too - it would feel like you were dating yourself if your significant other had the exact same likes and dislikes. But too many differences can lead to problems later on, ... (read in full...)

When is the right time to tell someone about how sexually experienced you are?

Q.   This might seem like a funny question, but when do you think is the right time to tell someone about how sexually experienced you are ?. Should you wait until you actually become sexually active with them, or should you tell them before that ?. I ...

A.   22 December 2011: There's the ol' saying about "3rd date is when you have sex." So definitely don't mention anything sexual on the first or second dates. I personally would wait until you are kissing and making out with him and it could lead to more before telling ... (read in full...)

We both had sex for the first time last night but he lost his erection!

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for ten months today. And last night, we both gave each other our virginities. I am very tight though, it was our second attempt, But I finally had relaxed and found a position to get it in. I was in so much p...

A.   16 October 2011: No surprise he went soft - he was probably worried about the two of you getting caught and that can definitely affect a mood! A couple things I want to mention: 1) You said you were in so much pain both times he penetrated you. Did you two do e... (read in full...)

I had sex with my married boss to keep my job and now I feel sick!

Q.   I think i have just had sex with my boss to save my job. Ive always known hes fancied from since i started. but at the start of the year he told us that out of 3 of us 1 of us would get sacked. its just an office job but its a job so i decided ...

A.   3 October 2011: OP - you're right, unfortunately we live in a tough economy where we can't just pick and choose our jobs. Chances are if you left, it would take a long time for you to get another job. Just watch your back and do what you said, that you'll report ... (read in full...)

I can't get hard when we try to have sex for the fourth time in a night. Should I be worried?

Q.   me and my girlfriend have been together about a month now and we have had sex multible times and it was amazing. ive never had a problem getting hard for her even after having sex with her to go again. but my question is after the 3rd time of ...

A.   30 September 2011: Four times a night is a lot! You just need a break and some energy back (food and drink - not alcohol; alcohol doesn't help an erection). You're perfectly fine, just need a break every now and then.... (read in full...)

I had sex with my married boss to keep my job and now I feel sick!

Q.   I think i have just had sex with my boss to save my job. Ive always known hes fancied from since i started. but at the start of the year he told us that out of 3 of us 1 of us would get sacked. its just an office job but its a job so i decided ...

A.   20 September 2011: Find a new job! You got what you wanted - you weren't the one getting sacked - but what is going to happen in the future? Is he constantly going to grope you? Is he going to get a hotel room every weekend and invite you over? You have to think of... (read in full...)

Does sex on the first date ruin the chance of a relationship?

Q.   I am now seeing this guy whom i have been talking to for while on the internet.I tried not to have sex with on the first date as I have been told that he will dump me and a relationship will not happen if you sleep with them straight away.I asked ...

A.   9 September 2011: He's right that you are not teenagers. Teens are more prone to have sex right away and the guy (usually) dumps the girl immediately after. But I would still be wary about having sex with him so quickly. Get a chance to get to know him. Men always ... (read in full...)

What is the dating 101 advice for my situation?

Q.   Hey all, I am working at a restaurant as a waiter. There is this girl that works as hostess. She is very nice and pretty. I like to ask her out but don't know how. I also don't know whether I should wait or not because I have just started working ...

A.   27 August 2011: My dating advice would be, first of all, be very careful with dating within where you work. You say she is a hostess (I'm assuming the same place you work). If things don't work out, things can become quite awkward at work. With that in mind, I'd ... (read in full...)

My brother walked in on us having sex. Now its awkward. What should I do??

Q.   This is quite a long story but please stick with it. A few days ago, my boyfriend was away doing preseason training with his and my brothers team. They are both professional rugby players so are away a lot training and playing etc. Anyway, i h...

A.   16 August 2011: I agree with both previous posters. Don't talk about it at all to your brother. Just act like nothing has happened and eventually your brother will get over it. Tell your bf to not mention it to your brother either, as you said they're on the same ... (read in full...)

Getting over your first crush?

Q.   i had my first crush when i was 11 and now i am 14 but i cant forget about him pls help me i dont know waht to do...

A.   3 August 2011: You will never forget your first crush, nor will you never forget your first love. My first crush was in kindergarten (age 5) and my first love was about eight years ago. You just have to continue on with your life. Trust me, you will find your soul ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend punching things because he couldn't find his wallet. Is this emotional abuse?

Q.   Hiya lovlies last weekend my bf and I planned a last minute roadtrip to his home town, he picked me up and we had to go to his place as he thought he left his wallet back at home. We got to his house, searched the whole place and could not find i...

A.   20 July 2011: This is a major red flag to me. Yes, he did not hit or push you this time, but what about the next time? I'd say wait it out - maybe it was just a really bad moment for him - but if he does it again and/or show aggression to you, then get out of ... (read in full...)

Is cybersex cheating?

Q.   I have a cybersex habit. I had it before I met my wife and I still have it. I have a very high sex drive and my wife just doesn't keep up with me by any stretch. To me it is just a step beyond jerking myself off. In fact, that's what it is. Some...

A.   20 July 2011: Yes, cybersex is cheating. Just because you're not having physical sex with someone doesn't mean it's not cheating.... (read in full...)

I'm really nervous about kissing...I have no idea how to do it!!

Q.   I have never kissed anyone and neither has my boyfriend. He used to be very shy and quiet like me, but suddenly is teasing me about kissing all the time. I am really nervous. I have no idea how to do this, and now I feel worried sitting close to...

A.   20 July 2011: There honestly is nothing to it. Just don't think about it or it will become a flustered, embarrassing moment for you. It's hard to explain, but it's just something our bodies are accustomed to doing, so just don't worry about it and have fun :)... (read in full...)

What do I do? My husband ignores me!

Q.   i have been with my husband for over 4 yrs. we hve a 3 yr old. he works a lot on his feet all day, hes a manager at a convenience store. he doesnt go out at all its work and bk home. i dont boss him around he has the freedom to do as he pleases hes ...

A.   16 July 2011: Try going to a marriage counselor to talk things over, and try to find out if there's an underlying cause to his ignoring. Maybe it's just cause he's tired from work or maybe there's a deeper issue; who knows unless the two of you talk to someone. ... (read in full...)

Pardon, your slip is showing!

Q.   My Aunt has recently given me some brand new 1960s style underwear which includes some waist slips with pleated hems one black, one brown and one white.I could not resist wearing them and these slips are absolutely gorgeous and when the pleats of ...

A.   16 July 2011: I personally have never liked it when my slip is showing. I think there's a simple solution to your problem: don't wear the slips at work, but save them for when you go out and want to be attracted by men? You want to look professional at work; not ... (read in full...)

How can I stop from reaching my climax too early and prolong the experience for both of us?

Q.   Im only young and have been with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half, weve been having sex for just less than that too. we have a great sex life, and both seem to enjoy it. I know that premature ejaculation is a common problem in males but for ...

A.   16 July 2011: The nice thing about us females that men can't do is cum more than once. So once you cum, try to cum again - I hear the second time is even better than the first. You are one lucky girl!... (read in full...)

What does it mean if a man stops making love to you half way through??

Q.   Hi What does it mean if a man stops making love to you half way through??...

A.   12 July 2011: "Bleeding Hearts" are very pretty. I wouldn't read anything into it.... (read in full...)

What does it mean if a man stops making love to you half way through??

Q.   Hi What does it mean if a man stops making love to you half way through??...

A.   9 July 2011: Maybe he's gone soft?... (read in full...)

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