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I'm a mother of 7...and I'm a full time EMT. That means I give emergency medical care and drive an ambulance. I am an adrenalin junkie and I love helping people. :)
Don't compromise yourself. You are all you've got.--Janis Joplin
Don't listen to those who say, "It's not done that way." Maybe it's not, but maybe you will. Don't listen to those who say, "You're taking too big a chance." Michelangelo would have painted the Sistine floor, and it would surely be rubbed out by today. Most importantly, don't listen when the little voice of fear inside of you rears its ugly head and says, "They're all smarter than you out there. They're more talented, they're taller, blonder, prettier, luckier and have connections…" I firmly believe that if you follow a path that interests you, not to the exclusion of love, sensitivity, and cooperation with others, but with the strength of conviction that you can move others by your own efforts, and do not make success or failure the criteria by which you live, the chances are you'll be a person worthy of your own respect.--Neil Simon |
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Lip gloss as a lubricant?
Q. Oh my gosh, well, I was like really well in the mood. And I used lip gloss as a lubricant, and I'm scared can this damage you? :/ Any help would be very much appreciated. ...
A. 13 October 2010: Were you having sex with someone, or were you masterbating? If you were alone, then what the other aunts said is on target. If you were with someone and they were using a condom, then it could potentially affect that condom. Anything with petroleum ... (read in full...)
Why do you answer to these questions?
Q. I just want to know something, why do you guys answer to these people? what do you plan to get out of it? do you think "God" will reimburse you for your efforts and "love"? do you feel better by helping others you don't know? I really don't see any ...
A. 12 October 2010: aah...there's something rewarding about trying to help other people. No, I don't really think we are earning stars for our Crowns, or brownie points from the Throne...however there is something called the Golden Rule.
If you have never needed a ha... (read in full...)
My girlfriend misbehaved with my younger brother
Q. hi i am 27 years old and my girlfriend is 21 years old ,once my younger brother who is 22 misbehaved with her ,she told this incidence to me...and when i asked whom did u told except me ,she told her sister,but after some days she told she only ...
A. 11 October 2010: I'm really sorry but I am confused by your post. Would you mind to clarify?
Your girlfriend misbehaved with your brother? How and what did she do? Did she act inappropriatly or did she simply confide in him about another issue with another ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a stepfather to fall in love with his stepdaughter??
Q. I am 48 and my stepdaughter is 44 is it wrong for us to fall in love with each other ...
A. 11 October 2010: Her mother is deceased? If so and there has been a appropriate time lapse, then there is nothing at all wrong with it. I think there will be people who do not approve, but its really just a personal opinion of theirs. Just be prepared.
I know a co... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a stepfather to fall in love with his stepdaughter??
Q. I am 48 and my stepdaughter is 44 is it wrong for us to fall in love with each other ...
A. 11 October 2010: Her mother is deceased? If so and there has been a appropriate time lapse, then there is nothing at all wrong with it. I think there will be people who do not approve, but its really just a personal opinion of theirs. Just be prepared.
I know a co... (read in full...)
How offten does a normal couple have sex?
Q. Dear cupid, Please help have been married for 24 years have 3 children 23,19,and 11 not currently working off on disability due to back problems have had back problems since 1990 and now most recently Fibromyalgia im pain all the time some times so...
A. 11 October 2010: 3~4 times a week. :) Your hubby is lucky. Lots of men his age would be very happy with 1~2 per week. Hes being selfish about it...... (read in full...)
First Time Oral Sex And Worried About A Smell
Q. hi im Ellz im 17 Hey Agony aunts and Uncles i need some advice! Ok so my bf and i have had sex before and ive given him oral before but hes never done it too me, And im worried, i keep 100% shaven down there anyway but im worried about mayb...
A. 11 October 2010: I always shower just before. :)... (read in full...)
Three year relationship ruined?
Q. Ohk so ive pretty much ruined not only a friendship i have had for nearly three years with this guy (lets call him Thom)and his bestfriend (Daniel). Thom was explaining to me the other week that he liked me and that he thinks me and him would work ...
A. 11 October 2010: What you did was so very cruel and insensitive. You publicly hurt and humiliated Him. Even drunk, you knew better. Time may help, I dont know. Give him time and space. Stay away from them both for now. Let them try to repair their friendship. ... (read in full...)
Her husband found out about our secret love and now she has to stay away from me!
Q. I recently told my best, married, friend that I was in love with her. And that I have been for several years, and that I've been waiting for her marriage to dissolve. That sounds vulturous, but it isn't. I'm just way too nice, believe it or not, and ...
A. 11 October 2010: If it is meant to be, then it needs to be done right. She makes a clean break, spends time alone getting her head cleared, and her divorce finalized. Spend time courting her, and see what happens. Until then...do the right thing.... (read in full...)
A Glimpse into Love
Q. I'm the kind of girl who goes around barefoot, fights pessimism daily, and has thoughts wild enough to graze with antelope. I've heard love on the radio- songs that sigh heartbreak or gush with joy at finding someone who truly grasped their he...
A. 11 October 2010: No, its much better than a romance novel. It's real. ;)... (read in full...)
Her husband found out about our secret love and now she has to stay away from me!
Q. I recently told my best, married, friend that I was in love with her. And that I have been for several years, and that I've been waiting for her marriage to dissolve. That sounds vulturous, but it isn't. I'm just way too nice, believe it or not, and ...
A. 11 October 2010: Stay away and let her work on her marriage. Nothing shes ever said matters. All that matters is that he is trying, and she is staying. Back off and let them work on their marriage. Hard I know. Hugs... (read in full...)
Why won't my partner use my name?
Q. Hi there, I have a very unusual problem with my partner of 7 years. He will never use my name, not my first name of even a pet name. If he wants me and I'm not in the room, he will shout 'are you there'. I mentioned this to him early on in our ...
A. 10 October 2010: I am glad to hear that he is intimate in his own way. I do think that there are walls that he has up for whatever reason. Only you can know if these are walls that really matter.
Sometimes we build walls to keep out pain, and to keep people from... (read in full...)
I don't want him to use me for sex!
Q. So I just recently broke up with my boyfriend less then a week ago and I won't go into details but I know for sure its over and I feel as if I am pretty much over him. But during our relationship I was talking to a good friend of his who was helping ...
A. 10 October 2010: I don't think he is using you for sex. I think he genuinely likes you. I would suggest you give yourself some time to heal before spending time together. Maybe text and IM but not spend a lot of time together in the same room.
This will also give... (read in full...)
Calling Christians - Can a spouse do so much wrong that you just can't come back despite what the bible says?
Q. I am a very spiritual person. I love people and always look for the good in them. I am someone who can be involved with someone who has 2 tons of bad and 5 pounds of good, and I shift the scale to the good. But I am in a marriage where I have lost ...
A. 10 October 2010: I think that you cant find any two people to agree on much that is religious. I have a strong christian background and do my best to do right.(not always successfully unfortunatly) I have sat and listened to people preach things that i just shake my ... (read in full...)
Why won't my partner use my name?
Q. Hi there, I have a very unusual problem with my partner of 7 years. He will never use my name, not my first name of even a pet name. If he wants me and I'm not in the room, he will shout 'are you there'. I mentioned this to him early on in our ...
A. 10 October 2010: Great answer by Youwish. (Actually the second one that I read of hers so far today.)
I too believe it to be a sign of intimacy. I think that in some way he is holding back a piece of his heart. I dont know if that is because he has been terr... (read in full...)
He wants to take my virginity... and I'm scared I'll lose him if I say no.
Q. Am a 14 year old girl with a 17 year old boyfriend who wants 2 have 6 kids with me in the future. the thing is now he wants 2 break my virginity. I am still a virgin and am not ready. I dont wanna loose it. He's the best boyfriend ive ever had ...
A. 10 October 2010: The other aunts have given you great advice. This boy doesn't have a clue about life. He only wants sex. In the real world having 6 kids is DAMNED HARD WORK.
I have 7. Only 4 still at home. My husband worked 92 hours last week to provide a home... (read in full...)
Damn boys!
Q. damn boys! i love this guy. he doest love me back but he flirts, now he saying we should have sex. what should i do? im in love with him and i realy want to. ...
A. 10 October 2010: Honey the thing is he doesnt love you. He wants to use you.
You are too young. You dont need this baggage in your life right now. I promise you that if you give in, he will still not love you. He will use you and walk away laughing to flirt with... (read in full...)
Very worried because my LDR girlfriend suddenly disappeared!
Q. guys im really freaking out !! my LDR gf just disapeared!! its been 4 days now , we used to talk like every single day , but now she is not online anymore , i tried to call her but her fone is jst ringin !! no one is pickin it up , i called her ...
A. 10 October 2010: Have you been having relationship issues? I think that this is the hardest thing about LDR's...the lack of actually knowing what is going on in their lives. I have friends that I communicate with that I can laugh and joke with when inside I am ... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend but it doesn't feel like I do...
Q. i have a boyfriend but it doesn't feel like i do because he doesn't hold my hand or call me . what is wrong with me ?...
A. 10 October 2010: Honey, What do you mean by I have a boyfriend? Is this a guy that has told you that you are his girlfriend? How often do you see him? Where do you see him? How old are you and how old is he? Have you had sex with him? Can you give us more ... (read in full...)
Oral sex question for the ladies... workin' on technique!
Q. So, I have a short goatee... not 5 o clock shadow just a tad bit longer that can create a nice maybe sandpaper feel lol.... do ladies like this if im goin' down on one? Like if I rub my trimmed beard against their clitorus? I'm workin on technique ...
A. 10 October 2010: Well, you made me smile on a bad day. Woohoo Cindy! :)... (read in full...)
First time my boyfriend has ever been violent, should I give him a chance if he goes to anger management?
Q. Two days ago, I tried to talk to my boyfriend about his behavior dealing with other girls, not the first time out of 4 years we'd talked about this. I had prepared myself to finally let him go (or at least I thought I had). I did it all in a very ...
A. 9 October 2010: Please post and let us know that you are alright. I'm worried about you.... (read in full...)
I'm 30, will my penis grow anymore?
Q. Q I am male age 30 yrs: Q-I am a 30 year old male with a 4 and half inch penis. Will my penis grow anymore? It is correct for sex, If not then what to do ignore me english grammer. What the correct size of women vagina and male Penis pls help ...
A. 8 October 2010: No it will not grow. It is on the smallish side, but plenty big enough for great sex. The important thing is that you learn to use it, as well as your fingers and tongue.
You have all it takes to make a woman happy. And her size will fit you.... (read in full...)
Husband after marriage asked about my past and then served me with divorce papers!
Q. My husband and I are married for 10 months. Right after we got married he strictly asked me if there was anything about my past I wanted to share. So I believe in you marry your best friend and I told him somethings that I had done that I'm not so ...
A. 8 October 2010: I'm sorry for your pain. I think the ball is in his court. Hopefully, he will get his mind wrapped around this, but if he doesn't, you will get thru this. How horrible to find that the man you thought would love you thru anything, can't deal with ... (read in full...)
I almost caught my b/f having a "crafty tug", how do I tell him I'm not freaked out about it?
Q. This question could be a bit long and I apologise for that. The situation is, today I came home from work early and when I let myself in the hall I noticed my partner jumped up and switched off the telly really quickly and sat back down again....
A. 8 October 2010: That struck my funny bone. I think you should just matter of factly mention it and that you didnt mind. You can say that it was funny and you were glad it was you catching him rather than him catching you. :) Then move on. Don't make a big deal out ... (read in full...)
How do I get my daughter to see what a jerk her boyfriend really is?
Q. I need advice. My daughter has bee dating her boyfriend for 4 months now. She thinks they're serious. He turned 21 a few weeks ago and chose to spend his birthday with another girl...."just a friend"...because she promised (after he and my daughter ...
A. 8 October 2010: I agree with the other mother's here. What Person12345 said really struck a chord when she said, " I'd imagine that's one of the hardest things about being a parent, having to watch your kids make mistakes and learn from them."
That truly is the ... (read in full...)
Is my body normal?
Q. Hi, im 15 years old.I love my body, short,small breasts,wide hips, that stuff. Theres just one thing that bugs me, my clit.i dont know how to explain, but it sticks out like its big.you know what i mean? Its always been like that since i started ...
A. 8 October 2010: You are normal. :)... (read in full...)
First time my boyfriend has ever been violent, should I give him a chance if he goes to anger management?
Q. Two days ago, I tried to talk to my boyfriend about his behavior dealing with other girls, not the first time out of 4 years we'd talked about this. I had prepared myself to finally let him go (or at least I thought I had). I did it all in a very ...
A. 8 October 2010: Do the names Scott and Lacey Peterson mean anything to you? (I cant see you country's flag because I am using my phone. If you aren't from the USA you can google them.) After reading the title I was ... (read in full...)
Seriously???
Q. I have been married to my wonderful wife for 10 years, been together 12. We have two kids, and are each other best friends. She is 6 years my senior (not that that matters, really- just sayin'...) Before we met, she worked with a guy 15 years older ...
A. 8 October 2010: Why hasnt your wife put a stop to it? Methinks she likes it. And she likes knowing that it makes you jealous. Its an ego trip. She needs to draw a line... (read in full...)
Oral sex question for the ladies... workin' on technique!
Q. So, I have a short goatee... not 5 o clock shadow just a tad bit longer that can create a nice maybe sandpaper feel lol.... do ladies like this if im goin' down on one? Like if I rub my trimmed beard against their clitorus? I'm workin on technique ...
A. 8 October 2010: hahahahahaha...WOW! That bad eh?... (read in full...)
Oral sex question for the ladies... workin' on technique!
Q. So, I have a short goatee... not 5 o clock shadow just a tad bit longer that can create a nice maybe sandpaper feel lol.... do ladies like this if im goin' down on one? Like if I rub my trimmed beard against their clitorus? I'm workin on technique ...
A. 8 October 2010: I like it, in fact my hubby will put off shaving...but some dont. Ask your lady. :)... (read in full...)
Why wont my husband perform oral sex on me?
Q. I have been married to my husband for 11 years now and I am very hurt by the fact he will not perform oral sex on me I give him bjs all the time but he won't ever return the favor. I desire it so much that I often think about cheating to get oral ...
A. 7 October 2010: Me too! Good for you! :)... (read in full...)
Married with kids and I have a crush on my doctor!
Q. Help!!! Any advise out there about getting over a crush? I am in my forties married to the man of my dreams and have two beautiful kids but can't get my MD out of my head! I did not really like him at first but then he started flirting with me and ...
A. 7 October 2010: woohoo!!!!! way to go girlie! Have fun with the hubby, and ignore the good doctor. :)... (read in full...)
Can you give a guy a blowjob even if you have a sore throat?
Q. Can you give a guy a blowjob even if you have a sore throat?...
A. 7 October 2010: I personally wouldn't just because. But I did google it and everything that I read stated that it was not unsafe. The information stated that a man could not catch your cold thru his penis...and that in fact, there is some studies seem to point ... (read in full...)
Married with kids and I have a crush on my doctor!
Q. Help!!! Any advise out there about getting over a crush? I am in my forties married to the man of my dreams and have two beautiful kids but can't get my MD out of my head! I did not really like him at first but then he started flirting with me and ...
A. 7 October 2010: I know, me too. They are just critters of a different mindset. LOL My hubby seldom thinks of it on his own, without some gentle (hahaha) reminders. But even just a couple or three hours away from the kids, and alone, does clear out the cobwebs and ... (read in full...)
Married with kids and I have a crush on my doctor!
Q. Help!!! Any advise out there about getting over a crush? I am in my forties married to the man of my dreams and have two beautiful kids but can't get my MD out of my head! I did not really like him at first but then he started flirting with me and ...
A. 7 October 2010: You have a great hubby and children. Don't throw that away. We have probably all at one time or another had a huge crush, or even felt genuine love for someone else. I think when we put that behind us, and focus all of our energy on what we have ... (read in full...)
I can't feel him ejaculating inside me, is that normal?
Q. Well, my fiance and I started having sex about 2 weeks ago. We were both virgins and we wanted to wait until we get married in May but it kind of happened by accident. We talked and decided it was OK even though both our families are really ...
A. 7 October 2010: Yes its normal. I can't feel the actual ejaculation either. I feel all of the things you describe...
Be careful, be safe. Be happy. :)... (read in full...)
Why wont my husband perform oral sex on me?
Q. I have been married to my husband for 11 years now and I am very hurt by the fact he will not perform oral sex on me I give him bjs all the time but he won't ever return the favor. I desire it so much that I often think about cheating to get oral ...
A. 7 October 2010: I agree with male anon...we have a huge double standard here. If a male had posted this and said, my wife wont give me a bj OR a hj...we would have all said to him:
You should never ever pressure her into doing something that she is not comf... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a great kisser! Should I praise him for this?
Q. Hello all. I've been dating my boyfriend for over a year now. He's never had a relationship before, never dated a girl actually and he's a virgin. I've had 2 previous relationships, but never had sex. I'm 22 he's 26. We haven't had sex yet, I'm...
A. 6 October 2010: What a refreshing post! Of course you tell him! ;) good luck, and enjoy!... (read in full...)
How can you do everything right and still get shafted???
Q. I really don't know what to say right now except that my heart is breaking. I'm a very passionate person and much like a Wolf if given the opportunity I will love you forever. After taking a break, which was in her words not supposed to be ...
A. 6 October 2010: Professional help is a great move for her. Its a huge step in the right direction. She just has so much pain. I hope she finds the help she needs. Be careful that you dont feel that you are a failure. You are human, and we just arent equipt to ... (read in full...)
How can you do everything right and still get shafted???
Q. I really don't know what to say right now except that my heart is breaking. I'm a very passionate person and much like a Wolf if given the opportunity I will love you forever. After taking a break, which was in her words not supposed to be ...
A. 6 October 2010: Professional help is a great move for her. Its a huge step in the right direction. She just has so much pain. I hope she finds the help she needs. Be careful that you dont feel that you are a failure. You are human, and we just arent equipt to ... (read in full...)
We are trying to move past the second affair. Should I stay or should I go now?
Q. I have been with my husband for 9 years, I cheated on him about 7 years ago and he found out. I never came clean but he is pretty sure that something happened. We have been married now for 6 years and for the past 2 years we have had a rocky ...
A. 6 October 2010: I agree with the others especially Jmc930. There doesn't seem to be enough love in the rubble to rebuild.... (read in full...)
How can you do everything right and still get shafted???
Q. I really don't know what to say right now except that my heart is breaking. I'm a very passionate person and much like a Wolf if given the opportunity I will love you forever. After taking a break, which was in her words not supposed to be ...
A. 6 October 2010: You're welcome. Do you know if she had an abusive childhood? That generally contributes to their downward spiral. Its so very hard to stand by and see it happen. So hard to watch them walk away. Be good to yourself and know you tried. But the truth ... (read in full...)
How can you do everything right and still get shafted???
Q. I really don't know what to say right now except that my heart is breaking. I'm a very passionate person and much like a Wolf if given the opportunity I will love you forever. After taking a break, which was in her words not supposed to be ...
A. 6 October 2010: Sometimes girls like this girl who had a rough time getting thru the teen years, do not know how to accept a better life. They don't feel deserving and they cannot open their hearts up. They are somewhat setting the stage for failure. They won't let ... (read in full...)
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