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Don't compromise yourself. You are all you've got.--Janis Joplin
Don't listen to those who say, "It's not done that way." Maybe it's not, but maybe you will. Don't listen to those who say, "You're taking too big a chance." Michelangelo would have painted the Sistine floor, and it would surely be rubbed out by today. Most importantly, don't listen when the little voice of fear inside of you rears its ugly head and says, "They're all smarter than you out there. They're more talented, they're taller, blonder, prettier, luckier and have connections…" I firmly believe that if you follow a path that interests you, not to the exclusion of love, sensitivity, and cooperation with others, but with the strength of conviction that you can move others by your own efforts, and do not make success or failure the criteria by which you live, the chances are you'll be a person worthy of your own respect.--Neil Simon |
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Could he have meant it when he said "I love you"?
Q. Ok so I'm with this gorgeous, intelligent, and delicious latino man and everything's been good for eight months. We have 14yrs between us but we get along well (if he doesn't play 80s music and I don't try to show him the loveliness of Il Divo ...
A. 23 October 2010: Aww, thats wonderful! I love happy endings. Congratulations! :)... (read in full...)
Could he have meant it when he said "I love you"?
Q. Ok so I'm with this gorgeous, intelligent, and delicious latino man and everything's been good for eight months. We have 14yrs between us but we get along well (if he doesn't play 80s music and I don't try to show him the loveliness of Il Divo ...
A. 23 October 2010: Aww, thats wonderful! I love happy endings. Congratulations! :)... (read in full...)
Could he have meant it when he said "I love you"?
Q. Ok so I'm with this gorgeous, intelligent, and delicious latino man and everything's been good for eight months. We have 14yrs between us but we get along well (if he doesn't play 80s music and I don't try to show him the loveliness of Il Divo ...
A. 23 October 2010: Aww, thats wonderful! I love happy endings. Congratulations! :)... (read in full...)
I told him I love him, but he's making plans he won't commit to, with me.
Q. I'm 19 years old and gay. A little over a year ago I fell in love with one of my best friends. I told him how I felt about him in November and I know he avoided me for a long time. Whenever I would ask if we could get together he would tell me that ...
A. 1 October 2010: I'm sorry life is so hard for you right now. I understand from personal experience some of what you say, and I can only try to understand. Life is tough when you feel betrayed by someone you trust. Be strong. Be true to who you are. Feel free to ... (read in full...)
I told him I love him, but he's making plans he won't commit to, with me.
Q. I'm 19 years old and gay. A little over a year ago I fell in love with one of my best friends. I told him how I felt about him in November and I know he avoided me for a long time. Whenever I would ask if we could get together he would tell me that ...
A. 30 September 2010: Cindy is right. He keeps trying to be friends but you are all about SAYING you want friendship. Bv your ACTIONS say I'M IN LOVE WITH YOU! He can't figure out how to handle it, so he hides. But hunny YOU are driving him away. Unrequited love is ... (read in full...)
Is this being intimate?
Q. Hi there, Are you being "intimate" If you cup your ex g/f face in yr hand when saying goodnite and giving her a kiss on the cheek and a hug?...
A. 30 September 2010: Oddly enough the more I think about it, the kiss on the cheek, and hug aren't so much, but cupping the face is. ;)... (read in full...)
Is this being intimate?
Q. Hi there, Are you being "intimate" If you cup your ex g/f face in yr hand when saying goodnite and giving her a kiss on the cheek and a hug?...
A. 30 September 2010: In the situation you describe, I wouldnt say it was intimate. A casual hug and kiss on the cheek. If you have a current gf, she may feel different though. :)... (read in full...)
Is this being intimate?
Q. Hi there, Are you being "intimate" If you cup your ex g/f face in yr hand when saying goodnite and giving her a kiss on the cheek and a hug?...
A. 30 September 2010: What is the rest of the story? Its a loaded question.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for 13 years old to want to have sex?
Q. I'm 13 years-old and my boyfriend is 13 too this weekend my boyfriend want's me to give him a hand job and a blow job , is it normoal for kid;s our age wannaing to do that ??? Thanks i hope some one can help me with my Question xx ...
A. 30 September 2010: I agree totally with the others. :) ... (read in full...)
Something just doesn't feel right about our sex life! Is he gay?
Q. My husband is a great guy. He is very Affectionate but.. I wonder sometimes If he could be gay, he is overly concerned With his looks and cleanliness, hates To get dirty. When we have sex, he only Wants to orgasm when he enters me from Behind...
A. 30 September 2010: I dont know if he is gay. I dont think anyone here could tell you that. I do think if your intuition tells you there is something off then generally it is. You really need to talk to him and find out what is going on. Good luck.... (read in full...)
My gut says she is hiding something
Q. Ok so im somewhat seeing this girl latetly she has been going out and drinking a lot she has a lot of guy friend and everything plus she is still inlove with her ex. she allways seems to treat me like crap after she sees him and its like she is ...
A. 30 September 2010: You asked for guys help. I'm not a guy, but I can tell you that this girl does not respect you. And she is not in love with you. She will continue this until you kiss her goodbye because you allow it. You need to find some strength, and respect ... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend want kids or is he just being silly?
Q. my boyfriend is 26 and do you think he wants kids or is just being silly? these are things he has said to me: once we drove past a new playground and he said "we should have lots of kids so we could go to the playground all the time". we wer...
A. 30 September 2010: He wants kids someday. He is thinking about the future. :)... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is expecting twins with another woman
Q. Me and My boyfriend have been together for 6 years we had a falling out last year due to his craving for woman and his dishonesty so we broke up for three months and than got back together needless to say we are about to have a baby girl. Just ...
A. 30 September 2010: Is this a boyfriend or husband? Its going to take a lot of talking to get thru this. A lot of remorse and recommitment to you from him, and a lot of patience and forgiveness from you. Only you can decide if what you two share is worth it. Im sorry ... (read in full...)
How a crush destroyed my marriage.....what is your opinion?
Q. The excerpt below is a series of narratives I wrote 2 years ago after I developed a life-changing crush on a woman. Since then, this woman moved away, I lost touch with her, I fell away from my wife and had an affair (with a different woman), my ...
A. 30 September 2010: Its oh so easy to judge and point fingers. Its much more difficult to do the right thing when its you. He didnt defend his actions, he didnt try to justify. He would probably do things different if he could redo. But the questions and feelings ... (read in full...)
What do women really, actually want?
Q. Why do women so often say they want things that aren't the man himself, e.g. clothes, tatoos, car, house, money, job, hairstyle? If you ask a man what he really wants, he wants a good looking, healthy woman who doesn't actually need makeup, or ...
A. 30 September 2010: Oh my goodness! I have omitted a sense of humor...and the ability to forgive. Two very important things. :)... (read in full...)
What do women really, actually want?
Q. Why do women so often say they want things that aren't the man himself, e.g. clothes, tatoos, car, house, money, job, hairstyle? If you ask a man what he really wants, he wants a good looking, healthy woman who doesn't actually need makeup, or ...
A. 30 September 2010: He must be thoughtful, faithful and dependable.Able to withstand my strongwill (cant abide a wuss). He has to be a good provider. (not be wealthy, may even be poor, but a man who gets up and goes to work everyday, doing what it takes to provide a ... (read in full...)
I told him I love him, but he's making plans he won't commit to, with me.
Q. I'm 19 years old and gay. A little over a year ago I fell in love with one of my best friends. I told him how I felt about him in November and I know he avoided me for a long time. Whenever I would ask if we could get together he would tell me that ...
A. 30 September 2010: You are getting your answer. He doesnt want to get together. He wants to be nice, but you always turn it back into, lets get together. Let him go, quit trying to connect. He isnt interested in you "that way."... (read in full...)
My (ex?) wife's schemes
Q. My wife gets big ideas and they cost a lot of money. These ideas involve significant amounts of risk and also breaking the law sometimes. I'm just a regular guy and I object. As a result she told me we're getting divorced and she's paying me out. ...
A. 30 September 2010: If it's illegal don't do it. If you are uncomfortable with it, don't do it. You should move out. Someday she will get caught and you better hope you are gone. Good luck. ... (read in full...)
When naked, do women still want to be treated with respect?
Q. I have found that when women are naked, they still want to be treated with respect. And I don't have the answers to all life's questions, but I want to know something...Do women prefer being treated with respect, or do the enjoy being ...
A. 30 September 2010: ...and if she has a nasty rash...? Ick, just dont go there with your mouth. (if you go there at all, wear a condom. You say you are strange. I say you are different. There is nothing wrong with asking questions. ... (read in full...)
When naked, do women still want to be treated with respect?
Q. I have found that when women are naked, they still want to be treated with respect. And I don't have the answers to all life's questions, but I want to know something...Do women prefer being treated with respect, or do the enjoy being ...
A. 30 September 2010: Its a valid question. Hopefully, you know this person and these issues have been discussed beforehand. Some ask for (and offer) a test before sex. I wouldnt wait until you were engaging in sex, about to give/receive head before you asked. I think it ... (read in full...)
When naked, do women still want to be treated with respect?
Q. I have found that when women are naked, they still want to be treated with respect. And I don't have the answers to all life's questions, but I want to know something...Do women prefer being treated with respect, or do the enjoy being ...
A. 30 September 2010: Different cultures may be different. My guy wouldnt say p****. He doesnt say much. :) we are all different. But most women I have talked to love to be touched there. Not just diving in but working into it. Be considerate. :)... (read in full...)
What do women really hate about men?
Q. What do women really hate about men? This is a copy of another posters question aimed at men - I liked it so much, I copied it, but in reverse!...
A. 30 September 2010: In most ways I love men. But the one thing that I hate about men in general is their inability to share their emotions. To verbalize them.
My guy is the man of my dreams in every area but this one. I hate having to guess what he is feeling and ... (read in full...)
Still bleeding after 1st time sex 8 days ago. Is something wrong?
Q. Dear Cupid This is really embarrasing, basically i had sex with this guy who had a very large penis and it did hurt as it was my first time, but you see i have been bleeding for longer then 8 days i think. I thought it was my period that star...
A. 29 September 2010: Sweetie this is definitely NOT normal. You need to see a doctor as soon as possible. You could have torn something inside. The other aunts are absolutely correct. ... (read in full...)
When naked, do women still want to be treated with respect?
Q. I have found that when women are naked, they still want to be treated with respect. And I don't have the answers to all life's questions, but I want to know something...Do women prefer being treated with respect, or do the enjoy being ...
A. 29 September 2010: I'm sorry Bruce, but I cannot imagine having sex and the man saying "How about I kiss your vagina?" Seriously? When I have sex, I am very relaxed and comfortable with my guy...(I am not relaxed and comfortable at every point but you understand what ... (read in full...)
B/f angry at me no matter what I do!
Q. I am getting really confused! My boyfriend is going through an angry patch and everything I do and everything I say ends up making him agitated with me! I do not know what I am doing wrong!! and to my knowledge I have been nothing but supporti...
A. 29 September 2010: Yes, I agree! I can't add a thing. :)... (read in full...)
When naked, do women still want to be treated with respect?
Q. I have found that when women are naked, they still want to be treated with respect. And I don't have the answers to all life's questions, but I want to know something...Do women prefer being treated with respect, or do the enjoy being ...
A. 29 September 2010: We don't want to be disrespected. Ever! In long-term relationship with a lot of love and trust we may want/allow acts that appear or are considered disrespectful. Example given earlier is one such act. But I wouldnt even consider it with someone I ... (read in full...)
I want someone that I have a deeper connection with.
Q. I have been in this relationship for almost 2 years. And we have been living together for almost 1 1/2 years. He is a great guy; loyal, caring, trusting, respectful, same values, kind, and I know he would make a good husband and father. He will ...
A. 28 September 2010: jmtmj has it right, almost. I do think movies, tv, books, all make love some magical thing that is not in the least real life.
But I do believe in butterflies, sparks, and real love. I will say that I dont feel it all the time, there are hard time... (read in full...)
How did she manage to get over me so quickly???
Q. My girlfriend for the last year dumped me on Saturday, and we had a good relationship, and i really loved her. But she left me because she "didn't have any time for me" I was ok with this, until she got a new boyfriend today. How did she get over ...
A. 28 September 2010: I'm sorry to say that I bet the farm she was already well on her way to a relationship with him, before she ditched you. Whether it was a full on relationship, or just someone she was flirting around with, he was waiting in the wings you can be ... (read in full...)
I want to leave for all the wrong reasons
Q. Hi there. I am a 47 year old gay man in a gay relationship for the past 17 years. Ever since I was young I knew I was gay and built my life around being gay. However in recent years I found myself being attracted to the opposite sex and to follow ...
A. 27 September 2010: The third option is to leave for all of the right reasons. You need to leave and figure out what it is you want. I'm not so sure that this woman is in love with you, I really doubt it, but I do think she has awakened in you things that you will ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's kids were fine ... until I saw an old picture of her ex and now I feel cheated!
Q. Im 29 and shes 27, her kids are 2 and 5. We've been going out for about a year, just recently i saw some old pics of her kids, herself and her ex, they were never married... I saw some pics of them playing in the park and christining ... ...
A. 27 September 2010: I agree with Birdynumnums, if you feel this way, then no amount of talk is going to change how you feel. It is time to move on. And don't date women who have children. Some men can do this easily and some can't. I think you have found that you ... (read in full...)
Do you think my wife could have lesbian desires?
Q. well this may sound strange i have always thought my wife is attracted to very good looking women. Recently a friend of her'S and me supposedly committed suicide and we finally were able to verify that .Long story short she used the tub twice today ...
A. 27 September 2010: Maybe she did have something with this woman, or maybe not. The fact is she chose you. She is with you, and it sounds like you have a good life and a good sex life.
She may just be mourning her friend in her own way. Crying in the bath or show... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to love who she is, but be uncomfortable about her past?
Q. My girlfriend has been feeling increasingly distant the past view months. We have been on a smooth relationship until now, but I sometimes wonder if she's started to stray elsewhere in her mind. I feel somewhat responsible, because she seem unhappy ...
A. 27 September 2010: Maybe you will find something that speaks to you on this thread...
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/retrograde-jealousy.html
I hope it helps. :)... (read in full...)
Wife and I are more like roommates--do we stay together for our kids?
Q. HI, I have been married for 10 years and have 3 kids. My wife and I argue from time to time (I would say it is fairly normal) but thereis no abuse of any kind. I would desribe us as upper middle class and our kids are really great and they m...
A. 27 September 2010: I agree with anon. You both need to change. This marriage has potential to be renewed. I recommend counseling. If after you do not find a way to make this work, then reconsider leaving. As too couple time, it is the best thing we ever did ... (read in full...)
How do I overcome the feeling of not being good enough during sex?
Q. I have just meet a really lovely guy who is 10 years older then me. he says that he has been praying for someone like me and thinks im perfect just the way i am. sex is really big to us both and deep down im extreamly sexual, the problem is that ...
A. 27 September 2010: I think woman on top is a position that makes us feel on display. When we feel insecure about our bodies, this position is a little hard for us. The thing is that men are visual (well arent we all really) and they love to see us while having sex. ... (read in full...)
Reflections of a Cheater: Hope Is On The Horizon
Q. Downtown is quiet today. Of course, there is the light roar of a car passing on the street behind me, but overlooking the river, feeling the warm wind around me, and hearing the slap of the water against it's banks, this may as well be a tranquil ...
A. 27 September 2010: I wish you the very best. I think it was really brave of you to open up and tell us the things you have. I do bellieve in second chances. In fact I believe in 3rd and 4th chances, but it is harder to believe in them when you are the wronged party. ... (read in full...)
I am gay but about to marry a woman, does anyone have any advice on how to make my marriage work?
Q. hi, im jay 28 yrs old gay and dont have any feeling for girls. but i have too marry a girl very soon, i have already stopped my gay activities and want to live like other married couples and i have heared that many gays are married and have kids ...
A. 27 September 2010: If you do this without her knowing it you are cheating her out of a husband.
And you will be very sorry, and you will make her very sorry.
It's just a horrible place to be trapped in, but one you must face with honesty. ... (read in full...)
How can I get our friendship back on track after I told him I didn't really like his sex?
Q. I told someone that i didnt enjoy his sex now hes ignoring me but he's really sweet and i miss him we were friends before anything..how can i get our friendship back on track? ...please help! :(...
A. 26 September 2010: Wow, there is nothing you could have said that would have been worse. You should never never put down a man's (or a woman's) sexuality. I don't know why it is, but that is a very vulnerable subject for us all.
I know that by now you know that you ... (read in full...)
What do men think about women with deep vaginas?
Q. What do men think about women with deep vaginas?...
A. 26 September 2010: aha! Now I understand what you mean. Being stretched out. (which I can totally understand!) :) Thanks for clarifying. ... (read in full...)
What do men think about women with deep vaginas?
Q. What do men think about women with deep vaginas?...
A. 26 September 2010: uhm...female here. How would a girl measure her vagina? Not by sticking a ruler in I hope? I'm a bit older but I have never even wondered about this. Men...? ... (read in full...)
I'm too scared to lose my virginity.
Q. So I'm 14 and i want to lose my virginity. But I'm also extremely scared. I don't really know what I'm scared of but I am. So I just wanted to know if there is any tips people can give me on this. Like why am I so nervous and scared to lose my ...
A. 26 September 2010: Trust your feelings. Someday it will be the right time and you will be ready. Losing your virginity is a big deal. Save it for someone, sometime and someplace special. ... (read in full...)
Does having a low IQ affect people's ability to have sex?
Q. I've got to be honest...I scored below average on an IQ test, and I have made a lot of bad decisions with my life. But the question is...Does having a low IQ affect people's ability to have sex? I mean, it would obviously cloud their judgement. ...
A. 26 September 2010: No it doesnt. However I don't think you are dumb. You articulated well, spelled correctly, and used punctuation! None of that text talk...some very bright people do not test well. Back to your question...I know ... (read in full...)
Could he have meant it when he said "I love you"?
Q. Ok so I'm with this gorgeous, intelligent, and delicious latino man and everything's been good for eight months. We have 14yrs between us but we get along well (if he doesn't play 80s music and I don't try to show him the loveliness of Il Divo ...
A. 26 September 2010: I agree with LLindy87. If he hasnt been saying it...then it means he doesnt just say it without meaning. I think he said what was in his heart.... (read in full...)
How can I initiate a kiss?
Q. Hi,everyone. This is a bit weird problem. I'll appreciate your help. I,m 21, my girl friend is 18. Its first relationship and practically first love for both of us. In my country things are kinda back dated. We love each other so much. The problem ...
A. 25 September 2010: There are several ways to do this. If you are sitting side by side on a couch...pull her against you. Just keep getting your face closer and closer until you are cheek to cheek. Stay that way for a while, gently rubbing her cheek with yours. Then ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for breasts to be flat when a woman is lying down?
Q. I have a somewhat silly question I haven't seen asked here before. I have size C breasts - good enough when standing upright, but when I lay down they go flat...too flat for my liking. I wish they defied gravity haha! So my question is, do ...
A. 25 September 2010: Yes in fact they sometimes want to hide in your armpits. LoL!!! Believe me its not a problem for men to figure out how to play with them.
Laying on your side is always good though, or being on top. But they are pretty ingenious...they just have... (read in full...)
I recently came out and want to have a male date at my graduation
Q. Hello, I am a 17 year old gay male and live in a small town in Saskatchewan. I came out when I was 15 and all I've been able to think about is how happy it would make me to have a boy as my grad escort. But as I said, I live in a small town, and ...
A. 25 September 2010: I dont know what it would be like to be the one fighting for my rights. I have the easier road. I have friends that are gay and I love them and respect them. So as i said, selfish is not the right word. I was only trying to say that others are going ... (read in full...)
My wife wants to work things out but I don't think I can
Q. i have been with my partner for 8 years we have a most delightful little girl who is five. back in may we got married. in june things started going wrong. we did nothing but argue. this continued for the next couple of months and now i have bee...
A. 25 September 2010: In May you got married...In June you argued. That lasted a couple of more months. Then you moved in with friends...
Has the past 4 months made you forget the vows you made in May? Let me remind you, they went something like this...
I, (Bride... (read in full...)
I've never done this before but I want to ask her out
Q. question dear cupid, should i tell this woman i fancy her. i've liked her for a long time now. i would like to ask her out but don't know how to go about it. as i've never done it before. she is 5 years younger than me will that make any difference ...
A. 25 September 2010: Has she given you any reason to believe she is interested in you? If you feel that she may be receptive, GO FOR IT! Like the others said, start slow. Coffee or something. The age isnt a problem. Good luck, keep us posted. :)... (read in full...)
Facebook hints please
Q. facebook hints if a married woman's page on facebook ( i got to know the page by chance) didnt show her full name or a particular picture of her and the most important didnt show her martial status meanwhile in the interest she mentioned t...
A. 25 September 2010: Usually the answer is friendship...then maybe men or women. If it only says men or women, I would suspect she is open to more than friendship. Not a definite indicator, but it is suspect.... (read in full...)
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