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writes: I'm 14 and the weekend just gone me and my boyfriend both had sex for the first time, Stupidly we didnt use a condom but he said he pulled out in time. We went to a clinic the next day and got an after morning pill, Its been 2 days and im late for my period and really worried. What if i need an abortion, How much are they , Would i have to tell my mum. Please help =(
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2007): actually if you live in California you dont have to tell your parents if your pregnant nor if you got an abortion for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2006): An abortion isnt free, it is alot of money-taking a baby out of your body, come on like that is at no charge-other than that alot of younger people wouldnt be having children if this opperation was free-you NEED to have a parent with you it is the law, so all the other people, who answered *it was free and noone needs to with you* are all wrong-ask some one if you dont believe me
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2006): I just wanted to let you know that I got pregnant and considered having an abortion. Went all the way down to th clinic, got on the table and everything and was about to have it. I looked up on the ceiling and saw something that said, "It will all be over soon". That one line caused me to get up, bust out crying and run out of the clinic like a mad woman. I am not saying that no one should get one, Im just saying I couldnt. I am so glad I didnt. She is going to be 6 years old in June and she honestly is the best thing that ever happened to me. She has the best personality and makes me laugh so hard all of the time. Maybe she is this good because god is thanking me for having her, maybe she is this good because she is part of me..but I cannot imagine ever not having her...so if you are just think about it really hard before you do. 14 is young but even if you dont have it, you will remember that baby for the rest of your life.
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reader, lissie +, writes (10 May 2006):
 hi hunny. first of all buy a test so u no for sure! if ur not pregnant then u were lucky, but if u are there is only U who can make the desicion what to do...but a termination i no from past xperience is a horrible thing to go through and it will mess your head up for years to come! but on the other hand having a baby will too! abortions dont cost nothink on the nhs. i didnt tell my mum at first as i was petrified about what she'd say but i told her in the end and it brung us closer together she was mad for a bit,,, but she trusted me more after 4 telling her! DONT let anyone make a decision for you, thats the best advise good luck hun xxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, NG +, writes (10 May 2006):
I'm sorry to tell you that the way you think and what you are doing is a result of your immaturity....first you shouldn't have had sex at this stage....you're too young!!! Second, not using a condom. Third....going for a morning after pill....don't you know how many side affects it has. Fourth...if it was last weekend and you're supposed to get your period this week....therefore you weren't fertile...and there is no way you could be pregnant. fifth....thinking of an abortion...don't you know what will you go through??? for not telling your mother....i won't blame you because i would be very disappointed in you.
at last, having your period late could be a result of the morning after pill. you should have read the label too!
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reader, cfliberal +, writes (9 May 2006):
First things first: get yourself a box with two pregnancy tests and take one now. If it's negative, take the second one in a week (assuming you don't start between now and then). Two negative tests a week apart means you are probably not pregnant. If it's positive, get to a family planning clinic immediately.
As to the abortion issue, it depends on where you live as to whether you have to tell your parents. Many clinics have aid of some kind available if you can't afford to pay full price for the procedure. Your boyfriend should help you with costs on all this. An abortion is far less likely to damage you than a pregnancy carried to term at this age.
Regardless of how this turns out, pulling out is not effective contraception. Sex is a big responsibility, so you need to consider it as such if you plan on continuing to be active. At your age, condoms are more for STD protection. You need fool-proof contraception to help you avoid future scares like this one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2006): If he pulled out AND you had the morning after pill it is very unlikely you are pregnant. Stress can delay a period so it is no indication that you are pregnant.
I think you should tell your mum, if you can. Tell her you've had the morning after pill.
I hope things work out for you.
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reader, bonym  +, writes (9 May 2006):
 My dear at 14 you should not even be in this mess. Sex is not just a case of rumpy pumpy, if you are not ready for a child yet or the responsibility of a child you are not ready for sex. Abortion is not the easy answer to your problem, "if I get pregnant, I can just go and get rid of it" you cant think like that my friend. Dear,I am not judging you and please dont think I am being harsh on you, but if you have used the morning after pill and he withdrew from you "in time" then you may be ok. Having an abortion so young is risky too, it can cause problems later on in life. My dear,as old fashioned as I may sound, you are too young for sex and like I said, you seem to think abortion may be the solution, but it is not, a baby is a life and if you and your boyfriend were irresponsible, you need to start taking responsibility. xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2006): take a at home pregnancy test. it is the same as going to clinic. i should know. and if it is positive, i think the right thing to do is tell your mother about it. afterall, she does need to know. what if you fall really sick from having an abortion. your mom is the one that is always going to be there for you and its just not fair to not tell her. sure you'll get into trouble, but thats doesnt mean your mom doesnt love you. of course she's going to freak, but thats normal and not nothing to worry about. i personally dont like abortions. i think its cruel. if you look at the stages of pregnancy, the baby already has a heartbeat as early as a couple of weeks of conception. i dont care what anyone else says about it just being "an embryo" or just "a fetus"! its a living baby "your baby!" its not just some piece of meat that you could just shred up and throw in the garbage! Just in case you didnt know, that excactly what they do when doing the procedure. look up videos and live pictures on the internet on abortions. its so sad. they even show pictures of a baby develped at 4 months that was aborted. plus abortions carry on major complications. what if you want to have a baby in the future. some people cant concieve! dont worry if you are. there are other options like giving the baby up for adoption. doing an abortion is unhealthy physically and mentally! you wont be able to live with yourself if you have it done. i had my first child at 14yrs of age and i struggled a bit, but the truthe of the matter is, is that noone is ever prepared for a baby. whether its someone as young as you or someone who is of age. babys cost. im now 21 and me and my little girl are very happy together. its something that im very proud of. of course you miss out on your teen years, but it doesnt have to be negative. think positive and everything will be alright. hope this has helped. sorry for this being so long.
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reader, soletshearit +, writes (9 May 2006):
 Listen before you start panicking if he pulled out and you got the morning after pill you may have just caught yourself but please DO NOT WAIT FOR A PERIOD THAT MAY NOT COME...you don't have to tell your mam if you don't want to...my advise would be to get yourself to the nearest family planning clinic or something similar and get a pregnancy test. An abortion is a very big thing to do and you need to be sure that if you are going to do it that you get it done in a legitimate clinic and that you get yourself the proper support. There is a clinic in Liverpool called the mersey side clinic, the procedure costs about €500 but you would have to get the boat or fly over too...its probably well out of your budget at such a young age...if there is anyone that you can talk to that you can trust completely 110% to support you then it may be good to take them with you while doing the test. Please get a test and give yourself a definite answer...feel free to send me a private mail as I would like to help as much as I can...Keep me posted x
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