I think my boyfriend is falling out of love with me
Q. Im feeling rather worried :( Im afraid my boyfriend may be having second thoughts about me, but doesnt want to admit it or hurt me. He was the one who came to me and made the effort to ask me out, he was so sweet at first, he always used to put ...
A. 12 September 2011: hi rebecca,
sorry to hear this, i know you feel terrible at the moment and you probably cannot imagine ever feeling any different but you will get over this, trust me. what you need to do is get out and about with your friends and family, plan fun ... (read in full...)
I would like to be more than friends, but she is a serial cheat and I worry that she would do the same to me
Q. We're both 16 and we've known each other for about 5 years and been best friends for about 2 years. We are very honest to each other and we've both admitted to liking each other however one of us or the other has always been in a relationship so ...
A. 6 September 2011: good! i am glad to hear you are feeling more positive and in less of a muddle now :) i hope it goes well for you. it says good things about you that you have stopped to consider the consequences instead of jumping in head first into a relationship ... (read in full...)
I would like to be more than friends, but she is a serial cheat and I worry that she would do the same to me
Q. We're both 16 and we've known each other for about 5 years and been best friends for about 2 years. We are very honest to each other and we've both admitted to liking each other however one of us or the other has always been in a relationship so ...
A. 6 September 2011: you're very welcome bpops. its a difficult subject to bring up, counselling coz some people don't recognise that they need help, she may just think that she cheats coz she is a bad person. i hope she can honestly open up to you about this though and ... (read in full...)
I don't usually date younger guys but I like this one. Shall I make an exception?
Q. So I like this guy...and I know for a fact that he likes me too..but he's a sophomore and I'm a senior...I've never even considered dating younger because of boys maturity levels in the first place. I've tried to reconsider because I do like him but ...
A. 6 September 2011: we have all heard that girls mature quicker than boys, but i think this is a sweeping and unfair generalisation. i reckon it depends entirely on the individual person. if you like him give him a chance. if he proves to be childish, re-think the ... (read in full...)
How do I come clean? Or should I keep quiet and take it to the grave?
Q. HELP!! I cheated on my boyfriend to get revenge on him for cheating but I haven't been able to tell him. I know he'll get jealous, but I'm afraid he will break up with me and I don't want that because things are great now. He thinks he's the only ...
A. 6 September 2011: you only kissed the guys and you are young and he had cheated on you already and the relationship was not as good as it is now - and for these reasons i would say, don't tell him. its not worth the upset it will cause. he will not trust you if he ... (read in full...)
Ladies: Why would someone not want a boyfriend? Doesn't every girl want to be loved by someone and have a guy that they can call there own?
Q. This is a question to the females of DC.... Now, a while back I was very interested in a girl, we had been friends for a little while and I told her that I wanted to be more than that - however, she told me that she didn't want a bf, so I was pre...
A. 6 September 2011: please don't fall into the trap again! its clear that her new guy is not treating her as good as she thinks she deserves so she comes back to good old YOU to boost her confidence, give her attention, give the boyfriend something to worry about, all ... (read in full...)
How can I make this girl laugh no matter what mood she is in?
Q. First of all this is not really much of a relationship problem at the same time it is though. I want to know how a guy can have a good sense of humour or a way to make the girl he loves laugh no matter what mood she is in. This girl I like so much ...
A. 6 September 2011: "a cheap casual word which many people use too easily to get them all sort of things that she wants."
sorry, that didn't make sense - should have read THEY WANT not SHE WANTS
:/... (read in full...)
How can I make this girl laugh no matter what mood she is in?
Q. First of all this is not really much of a relationship problem at the same time it is though. I want to know how a guy can have a good sense of humour or a way to make the girl he loves laugh no matter what mood she is in. This girl I like so much ...
A. 6 September 2011: yeah course you can tell her you love her and she will probably be delighted and feel like she is in a slushy film! but - is it realistic?? love can be a very powerful word when used truthfully or it can be a cheap casual word which many people use ... (read in full...)
I would like to be more than friends, but she is a serial cheat and I worry that she would do the same to me
Q. We're both 16 and we've known each other for about 5 years and been best friends for about 2 years. We are very honest to each other and we've both admitted to liking each other however one of us or the other has always been in a relationship so ...
A. 6 September 2011: like i said bpops, many many people have fallen into the same trap of thinking they can be the one that saves a person (from themself) from what you now tell us about her upbringing this girl has got problems that i really don't think you are ... (read in full...)
My selfishness has left me single and miserable
Q. My selfishness left me single and miserable. How can I figure out what is wrong with me why I did this. I left my fiance hanging to hang out with some guy that isn't good for me or any other woman. Let's call my ex fiance Bob and the other man ...
A. 5 September 2011: don't be so hard on yourself! it was not your 'selfishness' that made you start something with Rick, it was the fact that Bob was not treating you right and he was just basically not the right man for you. So it didn't end up coming to anything ... (read in full...)
How can I make this girl laugh no matter what mood she is in?
Q. First of all this is not really much of a relationship problem at the same time it is though. I want to know how a guy can have a good sense of humour or a way to make the girl he loves laugh no matter what mood she is in. This girl I like so much ...
A. 5 September 2011: sorry but she sounds high maintenance with her 'random moods'. you are not there purely to entertain her. she should not expect other people to be responsible for her moods, if she has got a mood disorder she needs to get help for it, for her own ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is falling out of love with me
Q. Im feeling rather worried :( Im afraid my boyfriend may be having second thoughts about me, but doesnt want to admit it or hurt me. He was the one who came to me and made the effort to ask me out, he was so sweet at first, he always used to put ...
A. 5 September 2011: its normal for people to be less attentive when they have been together for some time. when you first met he was all about impressing you and charming you, now he is more relaxed and sure about the relationship he does not feel the need to make so ... (read in full...)
My mother is emotionally abusive to me and treats me like a naughty child
Q. I have a terrible relationship with my mother. And its not one of them stereotypical type of bad its really bad. I am 20 years old and she treats me like im 6. Im not allowed to go out with my friends, if i do she constantly calls me and embarass...
A. 5 September 2011: god and i thought my mum was bad! can you move out? the family that you say will no longer speak to you will understand your reason for moving out surely? she is really nasty to you and it actually sounds like she has some kind of disorder
x... (read in full...)
I would like to be more than friends, but she is a serial cheat and I worry that she would do the same to me
Q. We're both 16 and we've known each other for about 5 years and been best friends for about 2 years. We are very honest to each other and we've both admitted to liking each other however one of us or the other has always been in a relationship so ...
A. 5 September 2011: if she is doing this to every guy she meets then it sounds like she has got some emotional problems, she craves attention and can't resist a new guy who shows an interest in her even though she has got a boyfriend. he problems probably have roots ... (read in full...)
How can I make my co-worker interested in me again?
Q. What should I do about him? is he mad at me? i really like him:(? There's this guy at my workplace. He stares at me when am not looking. He was really nice and friendly with me. So I gave him my number and he even rang me a few times when...
A. 5 September 2011: why did you not show up and then ignore his call? i am not surprised he has lost interest in you and you say he is insecure after his last relationship break up? what you did will have made him feel even worse. you could try talking to him about ... (read in full...)
Could using a vaginal pessary have made me lose my virginity?
Q. Had a vagina infection and am a virgin. Had to use inserting tablet and while inserting it hurt and for 3 days i bleed but not much just litle patches in my pant. Am i still a virgin? ...
A. 5 September 2011: yes it could have broken your hymen and that is why you bled but sometimes the hymen can be broken for no reason, it depends on the woman, so really the hymen is not a true indication of virginity. the only time you lose your virginity is when you ... (read in full...)
Should I or should I not date if I'm not over a guy I love?
Q. Hi everyone. I am in a bit of a pickle and I don't know what I should do. See, I am in love with a man who doesn't feel the same way for me. I know, I know, and I'm trying to move on from that. The problem is that I genuinely do love the guy and ...
A. 5 September 2011: there is no harm in going on dates as long as you are honest with the guys and not leading them to believe you are emotionally available to them right now. its your call though. i have always found that if i am not over an ex yet, i don't even want ... (read in full...)
I'm concerned about my vaginal tightness!
Q. Hi im 16 and still a virgin. (going to get a bit graphic sorry) When i masturbate i normally only use 1 finger, however recently i tried to experiment and found that i could fit up to four fingers with little discomfort. I now feel absolutely ...
A. 5 September 2011: it will be fine, men can enjoy sex even with women that have had a few babies bust their way out of there so don't you be worrying about four fingers! yes kegal exercises definitely work, they are easy to do and can be done any time, any where. not ... (read in full...)
Ladies: Why would someone not want a boyfriend? Doesn't every girl want to be loved by someone and have a guy that they can call there own?
Q. This is a question to the females of DC.... Now, a while back I was very interested in a girl, we had been friends for a little while and I told her that I wanted to be more than that - however, she told me that she didn't want a bf, so I was pre...
A. 5 September 2011: ah, i didn't know you were ever fwb so, that means you were not one of these guys that she would just see as a friend but with no attraction then! well, its good that you've moved on and you are not doing what she wants, when she wants anymore. ... (read in full...)
Sick of being second best......
Q. How do I deal with being second best? I'm second best when it comes to everything. My partner has a better ex. She was prettier and cooler and they only broke up because she cheated. He would never have left her had she not. I'm also second best...
A. 5 September 2011: maybe you're trying too hard? you are being too nice and people are just so confident that you will always be there for them when they feel like seeing you. so seem to have a downer on yourself and you are thinking negatively
you say that you... (read in full...)
Ladies: Why would someone not want a boyfriend? Doesn't every girl want to be loved by someone and have a guy that they can call there own?
Q. This is a question to the females of DC.... Now, a while back I was very interested in a girl, we had been friends for a little while and I told her that I wanted to be more than that - however, she told me that she didn't want a bf, so I was pre...
A. 5 September 2011: its fine for someone to not want a boyfriend, especially if they have a history of bad relationships or they see friends and family members in bad relationships it shows them that having a boyfriend is sometime just more hard work and problematic! ... (read in full...)
We are both married, had an affair and now he has stopped contacting me, what can I do?
Q. hi i recently had a six week affair with a married man, i am also married. it started out online then we realised we knew each other, we met up quite a few times kissing etc then we got more serious we had sex once. now i have heard nothing from him ...
A. 5 September 2011: he is married so it sounds like he was just looking for a bit of fun and as you are also married he thought you would be perfect for some no strings attached sex. he played the 'friendship' card in order to make you feel comfortable to have sex ... (read in full...)
We were supposed to be friends but he didnt even tell me he is married and expecting a baby!
Q. I'm having a bit of a crisis and I'm probably mad but here goes. I split with my ex partner in November last year, though we dragged it out until January with sweet I miss you type e-mails (there was never a doubt of still loving each other, j...
A. 5 September 2011: he has rushed into it with his wife hasn't he? probably a rebound fling and on some level he did not want to tell you coz he harboured wishes to get back with you and so did not want to spoil your friendship, make you jealous, make you realise he ... (read in full...)
What is going on? Should I get a lawyer?
Q. I told My separated husband, I'm pregnant by someone else. He said it didn't matter. We went on meanwhile he was seeing someone else. He needed his car fix and I gave him the money. Later he broke it off and said he wanted the divorce. Constantly he ...
A. 5 September 2011: although it is always best to sort these things out amicably between you if you can, if he fails to respond positively to your requests then yes, you should definitely get a lawyer
x... (read in full...)
I've got myself into this mess. I slept with my ex. How do I get over this and move on?
Q. Okay, so I now deserve the stupidest person in the world award. I split up with my ex quite a few months ago. I didn't communicate with him at all after that. I've invested so much time in getting over him (it was my decision to break up, we were...
A. 5 September 2011: you say you are scared in case he thinks you can be FWB? well, just don't do it! i think you need to cut contact coz you obviously are not over him yet or else this wouldn't have happened and you wouldn't be here now being all upset and confused ... (read in full...)
Is my friend toxic? she seems to nick friends off you. Is she too much trouble?
Q. Hi. I have one friend who I spend more time with than anyone else. We were at school together, we’re at uni together and we’re even sharing a house this year. She’s been one of my closest friends since I met her but she can be pretty annoying...
A. 5 September 2011: she is really jealous of you and this always makes for a toxic relationship. she does not have the confidence to go out there and make friends for herself so she watches you to this, getting jealous at the fact that YOU CAN, and then when you have ... (read in full...)
He has cheated on me.What's a girl to do? he asked me "so what are we?" what did he mean by that?
Q. Ok im not sure where to start.. all im going to say is i have no idea what the hell im doing. and im 15 that would make sense for that reason huh. Anyways awhile back in Feburary this year i met this guy(22yrs old) online, yeah i know, anyways ...
A. 5 September 2011: you will find someone don't worry. the guy you met is just a WRONG ONE - any 22 year old guy who has phone sex first night with an under-age girl is definitely not a good guy so let him go. you have just had the misfortune of meeting this idiot but ... (read in full...)
Texting male friends constantly while we were watching a movie, should I be okay with this?
Q. So I met this girl, we hit it off And started seeing eachother. One of the things we talked about was how her last boyfriend was very controling, wouldn't let her have male friends, go out to the bar with her girlfriends And so forth. Well I don't ...
A. 5 September 2011: i think you did the right thing in ending this, she would be a fine girlfriend to have if you were the same way - trawling bars with all your guy friends who constantly try to set you up, every weekend and going out LATE. she and her mates beha... (read in full...)
Texting male friends constantly while we were watching a movie, should I be okay with this?
Q. So I met this girl, we hit it off And started seeing eachother. One of the things we talked about was how her last boyfriend was very controling, wouldn't let her have male friends, go out to the bar with her girlfriends And so forth. Well I don't ...
A. 5 September 2011: there is no way this is acceptable. maybe this is why the last boyfriend was so 'controlling' and 'didn't like her having male friends'. you only have your girlfriends version of the state of that relationship. i am sure if you asked HIM about it ... (read in full...)
G/f gave permission to cheat since she wants to wait till after marriage to have sex
Q. I pretty much just met the woman of my dreams... except for one thing. She doesn't want to have sex until marriage. She tells me that she is a virgin and wants to stay that way until she is married. The strange thing is, she has told me that I could ...
A. 1 September 2011: what she says is fine, she is sticking to her moral code but does not impose this on you. so right now she is waiting for mr right and to marry him. does she make no indication that this might be you? if she does get serious about you in the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is already engaged to someone
Q. I am dating this other guy,well he is 12 years older than me, he is great...he treats me well, and we started dating in January this year but the sad thing is he has a fiancée and they are living together, should i go on with this relationship?...
A. 1 September 2011: nah don't bother. he has proved he is a lying cheat with no morals or genuine care for other people. if you are hoping he will leave his fiancée for you, well, maybe he will maybe he won't.
if he doesn't want to leave her he will drop you when... (read in full...)
Paranoid about girlfriend talking on the phone
Q. am i being paranoid or is it justified for me to be worried when my gf might be talking on her phone and the moment i walk into the room she will not even say bye to the person she will just hang up, when i ask who she is talking to she will just ...
A. 1 September 2011: if what you are saying is true and you are not exaggerating then yes,this behaviour definatley sounds iffy. taking it into the bathroom is always a red flag, abruptly ending calls, shutting down the screen and hiding what she has been reading, ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to want to spend every weekend with my boyfriend?
Q. Hi. Here is my issue. Me and my bf have been togther almost 2 years, and i feel there has always been an issue with his friends being very important to him. He works shifts so sometimes I dont get to see him much at weekends. It's not that he spends ...
A. 1 September 2011: yeah you're being high maintenance ;) i think because you lack a social life of your own you are relying on your boyfriend too much, he will resent this if you carry on. if your 4 friends are not available can't you find someone who is? or how ... (read in full...)
Got family problems going on and me and my boyfriend are fighting constantly
Q. I have been with this guy since Febuary 27th 2011; I have known him for a long time... I do love him. I feel so lost with out him. In a way I depend on him alot. But we are constantly fighting. I can not stand it at all. I have so much going on, w...
A. 1 September 2011: you seem stressed with all that is going on with your family, your boyfriend therefore irritates you (stressed people do not have a lot of patience) he is making this worse by insisting on seeing you every night when sometimes you would rather just ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel terrible after giving oral sex to my boyfriend?
Q. I have been dating a guy for a month and a half. Having had not so great ex's (2 in total) in the past, I wanted to be careful about the next guy I chose to be with. I'm still a virgin, but I've had oral sex (I could classify as a technical virgin ...
A. 1 September 2011: i suppose all you can do is wait, stick with this and watch how he treats you from now on. maybe he was just after one thing or maybe he is a genuine guy. all you can do is get to know him better and he will show you what sort of person he is. i ... (read in full...)
I am 18 seeing a man double my age. Do I tell my mom or let things ride?
Q. Hi guys i really need your opinion on what to do. I have been seeing this guy who's going to be turning 37 this October, i am 18 turning to 19 next year February. I don't care about the age difference because we talked about it and we are cool with ...
A. 1 September 2011: tell them. you should not keep secrets like this from your parents, they should know where you are and who you are with, (for your own safety) expect them to have a go at you, but just tell them you are an adult now and have the right to see him if ... (read in full...)
How do I get back the girl I fell for?
Q. hi everyone. I need some help as i am at aloss as to what to do. My wife to be has massive self image problems and no confidence. She has gained 6 stone since we have been together. This doesnt bother me as she is the girl i have fallen for. But all ...
A. 31 August 2011: six stone is lot of weight to put on. i think your girl has gotten complacent in the relationship and maybe your softly softly approach isn't working. she needs a wake up call or else she will continue to gain weight, not do any housework and ... (read in full...)
Why had my boyfriend dumped me?
Q. My boyfriend has just dumped me completely out of the blue! We enjoyed a long weekend together and when I said goodbye to him on Monday evening we kissed and arranged to chat in the week. Then he called me today and said ' I just want this ...
A. 31 August 2011: he has either done this coldly as an act of revenge for dumping him previously or he is scared that you will dump him again so he wanted to get in there first. could be lots of reasons though, maybe something happening in part of his life that you ... (read in full...)
I am about to start a mixed-sex school. Please give me some tips on talking to girls
Q. Hi im 13 years old and just after going to secondary school from an all boys school but ive never talked to a girl before and get nervous when around them and icant even talk to them please give advice on how to talk to a girl...
A. 31 August 2011: you are just experiencing 'a fear of the unknown' once you start mingling with girls at school you will learn they are not really aliens. just talk to them like you talk to lads, it will become second nature to you so don't worry. practice by ... (read in full...)
She lied and told me she was a virgin, the truth came out while drinking
Q. Dear cupid, the woman i am suppose to marry is a liar. 2 years ago i asked her if she was a virgin because i am and didnt want to waste each orther's time if we had different ideals about premarital sex. She said she was a virgin, now that i am ...
A. 30 August 2011: stick to your morals OP. this woman is a fraud. if you had known at the beginning that she did not suit your preference list she would never have gotten a further date with you, let alone carry on seeing each other and end up falling in love. a ... (read in full...)
He wants me to have sex with someone else because he has no sex drive, and he wants to fool around with a man again as he is bisexual! How do I cope with this?
Q. I'm in need of some serious advice. So lately my husband's sex drive has plummeted and our sex life hasn't been that great because along with his sex drive his stamina has plummeted as well. Well he sat me down two days ago and said that he knows he ...
A. 30 August 2011: he has no sex drive or stamina for you, but he will have them when he has got a man? he is giving you the green light to have sex with someone coz that is exactly what he plans to do and he wants to make it 'fair'
you are young so i guess yo... (read in full...)
I cant stop sleeping around when I'm drunk!
Q. I have a very embaressing problem. I cant stop sleeping around when Im drunk. In the past month, Ive gone out a couple of times and got absolutely plastered, pulled some bloke and took him back to mine. I have sex with them then I kick them out. In ...
A. 30 August 2011: the rejection by this man has probably knocked your confidence so when you are out getting drunk and have men chatting you up it is boosting your confidence, but this is only a temporary fix and then the next day when you are sober and you wake to ... (read in full...)
Married woman feeling very guilty over feelings for a married man, how do I get rid of these feelings?
Q. i have a male friend who is married and we have been friends for over 4years. I am married also, happily, and that is why i am very confused as to why i'm having such feelings for this man. We have never done or said anything inappropriate or menti...
A. 30 August 2011: firstly sit down and have a good think about what you would do and how you would feel if your husband had a female friend who he wanted to get into. this is called empathy and when you have this ability it can make your choices in life a lot more ... (read in full...)
She lied and told me she was a virgin, the truth came out while drinking
Q. Dear cupid, the woman i am suppose to marry is a liar. 2 years ago i asked her if she was a virgin because i am and didnt want to waste each orther's time if we had different ideals about premarital sex. She said she was a virgin, now that i am ...
A. 29 August 2011: why do you say she won't like sex? i can understand WHY she would lie to you, because she was ashamed of what she did, but you say she did not seem sorry, was this because she was drunk though?
the fact that she has been with 10 though and lied... (read in full...)
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