Do you ever get over a first love?
Q. Do women get over their first love that they had sex with for their first time, or even if it wasn't a first love that they had sex with the first time?nEven if it has been several years since it took place? I would like to hear views from the lady...
A. 29 October 2011: ok well there are a couple of things here that you cannot change -
you cannot change the fact that your wife was with someone before you met and that she had sex with and had feelings for him.
your wife is not actively doing or saying anythi... (read in full...)
Do you ever get over a first love?
Q. Do women get over their first love that they had sex with for their first time, or even if it wasn't a first love that they had sex with the first time?nEven if it has been several years since it took place? I would like to hear views from the lady...
A. 23 October 2011: your marriage sounds lovely and i think you should just enjoy it! some people are never lucky enough to find that special someone who they want to give their heart to and stay with forever. you are SO fortunate! and i agree with the last comment by ... (read in full...)
I told him about my past, he went silent and now wont speak to me until he has 'forgiven me'!
Q. I need some help. When I was 12, i was quite badly raped and beaten to within an inch of my life (I was in ICU for the following 2/3 months afterwards.) I did not open up to anyway and I still remain that way (like, i will jump if anyone touches me, ...
A. 23 October 2011: i am glad you have told him to 'stuff it' (or whatever words you used!) you are not SO damaged that you have to tolerate that sort of treatment from anyone. always remember that! he has got no empathy. you can do WAY better than him.
best ... (read in full...)
Do you ever get over a first love?
Q. Do women get over their first love that they had sex with for their first time, or even if it wasn't a first love that they had sex with the first time?nEven if it has been several years since it took place? I would like to hear views from the lady...
A. 19 October 2011: you are probably over-thinking this, i can only tell you from a woman's point of view and can tell you that me and my friends never ever chat about our first loves with each other, so therefore, they are not on our minds. obviously i cannot comment ... (read in full...)
Why is my fiance trying to look different?
Q. Ever since we got engaged, my fiance has been trying to look different. While I want her to have all the freedom she wants (I don't want to be controlling), She is no longer recognizable to the attractive, beautiful woman she was. She used ...
A. 19 October 2011: what is your relationship like, in general? do you think she might be feeling a bit stifled or controlled by you? if everything else is ok, then i don't think you should worry about her appearance. lots of girls get bored with their look and want a ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to see a red flag -- is it really there?
Q. I wanted your guys or girls opinion on something? I met this realy nice lady, we are about the same age we hit it off great and actually still are, though we have been going out exclusively with eachother for only 6 weeks. Now this woman has neve...
A. 19 October 2011: gosh - you sound like my EX boyfriend, the way you read into her getting home at 1.45am, 'bar time' thats just the sort of thing he used to accuse me of (of note - prior to meeting me he was having an affair with a married woman, so he knew a thing ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to see a red flag -- is it really there?
Q. I wanted your guys or girls opinion on something? I met this realy nice lady, we are about the same age we hit it off great and actually still are, though we have been going out exclusively with eachother for only 6 weeks. Now this woman has neve...
A. 19 October 2011: gosh - you sound like my EX boyfriend, the way you read into her getting home at 1.45am, 'bar time' thats just the sort of thing he used to accuse me of (of note - prior to meeting me he was having an affair with a married woman, so he knew a thing ... (read in full...)
Do you ever get over a first love?
Q. Do women get over their first love that they had sex with for their first time, or even if it wasn't a first love that they had sex with the first time?nEven if it has been several years since it took place? I would like to hear views from the lady...
A. 18 October 2011: i got over mine years ago! this is a very broad question though and i think it depends on who the lady is and who the first love is and the relationship that they had. some will get over, some will not
x... (read in full...)
I neeed HELP!!!!!! virgin about to make biggest mistake of his life!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Q. My friend is 19 and a virgin. We are both going to the same college. He met this girl at a school party and she gave him head over the weekend. She later asked how many gilrs he has been with and he said 0. Her roomate is leaving this week and she ...
A. 18 October 2011: i know your intentions are good but you are just gonna have to let him live his own life and make his own mistakes (which it might NOT be by the way) tell him how you feel but don't be disappointed or annoyed if he decides to go ahead with his plans ... (read in full...)
I hit my girlfriend's brother in the face during a game of cricket and now she wont speak to me! Is she blowing this out of proportion?
Q. 10 days back, while playing game of Cricket , I hit my girlfriend’s brother in the face. Before that , he hit me for two long hits "Six Runs hit" which I couldn’t digest and bowled the next delivery with my full force, the ball took off from goo...
A. 18 October 2011: Normally I would take your side and advise your girlfriend to stop being silly. Injuries are common in sport but no, u sound as if you thoroughly enjoyed this 'accident' and it has made her see you have a cruel streak. All u can do is try to make ... (read in full...)
Haven't had any male interest since I was 14
Q. anon because I don't want anyone I know to see this thread :( Basically what the title says. I'm a 19 year old heterosexual female and I haven't had any male interest - ie. males asking me out / going on dates since I was 14. No one has asked fo...
A. 18 October 2011: ok, maybe it is that all the other girls have grown up too and now you have more competition or are you known as a girl who doesn't put out, where as the other girls do? I AM NOT SUGGESTING YOU START TO - just merely offering an explanation as to ... (read in full...)
Facebook etiquette?
Q. hey guys i had my first day at a new job today and when i got home i started to search someone on facebook to add them as a friend but i only knew her first name. anyway as i was searching i kept clicking on profiles to look at the picture to s...
A. 18 October 2011: instead of adding her directly why not ask one of your friends who she is friends with about her and if they would put in a word for you? you don't know this girl, she might HATE if some randomer tries to friend her coz he's spotted her on a friends ... (read in full...)
Was I hoping for more than my FWB can give? Should I wait or contact him to ask about his "no show"?
Q. Hi everyone my fwb was supposed to cook for me last night, and I was supposed to be staying at his. But I have not heard from him for over a week now, this is not unusual, though what should I do? should I text him? or should I wait for him to get ...
A. 18 October 2011: hope is not a tangible thing is it? like wishes and faith. next time you get so involved with someone - get something more concrete from them from the start. i have heard that men and women feel differently about sex - for us women it is more about ... (read in full...)
Is getting him back a realistic aim? My bf went back to his wife, will he ever come back to me?
Q. I am 29, 5 months pregnant. My bf left me after I called him COWARD because he was too afraid to show his face to my parents and stand up for our baby. After a day, his sister told me that he's gone back to his wife. I am in so much pain right no...
A. 18 October 2011: so he is married and he played around with you and got you pregnant and now he's walked out on you and gone back to the missus?
not a good man to have as a partner or a dad for your kids. so tell me again - why do you WANT him back??
of cour... (read in full...)
Why is my fiance trying to look different?
Q. Ever since we got engaged, my fiance has been trying to look different. While I want her to have all the freedom she wants (I don't want to be controlling), She is no longer recognizable to the attractive, beautiful woman she was. She used ...
A. 18 October 2011: why the change? has she gotten new friends? does she go out more or has changed her job? has she started to idolise someone who looks this way? (a celebrity or someone she knows) maybe she did not really feel confident before, and it does not sound ... (read in full...)
Why do I have the worst of luck in everything, including love?
Q. My main question here is why do I have the worst luck. I wonder, am I cursed? I mean, I haven't had one girl say that they liked me, I also was rejected once. I don't mean to start any religious conflict, but does someone "up there" hate me?? Let me ...
A. 18 October 2011: this is not unlucky. lots of young guys find it hard to get girls but when you get older it will get easier, especially in your thirties - if you are still single then you will have plenty of divorced single mums throwing themselves at you! :)
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do guys even want to be in a casual relationship with a girl who doesn't want to offer him sex?
Q. i've recently starting hanging out with a guy who is in an open relationship with another girl. this works for me as i'm not interested in anything serious, i just enjoy the flirting and the company because we are both attracted to each other. the ...
A. 18 October 2011: well if its gonna be a casual relationship then he is still free to pursue other girls to have sex with.
there is of course the old routine -
her - i won't be having sex with you
him - of course not, that's fine. i love you for your mind
... (read in full...)
I told him about my past, he went silent and now wont speak to me until he has 'forgiven me'!
Q. I need some help. When I was 12, i was quite badly raped and beaten to within an inch of my life (I was in ICU for the following 2/3 months afterwards.) I did not open up to anyway and I still remain that way (like, i will jump if anyone touches me, ...
A. 18 October 2011: 'forgive' you? sorry this is a deal breaker, to say that to you and walk out on you with no further contact is absolutely appalling! i hope if he does come back you tell him where to go!
after what you have been through you need someone who will... (read in full...)
How many men think sex isn't good unless a BJ in involved?
Q. How many of men consider that sex is not good without blowjob? Is intercourse alone not enough to satisfy a man? How many women would perform oral sex on a stable partner vs a casual sexual encounter?...
A. 18 October 2011: a bj is good for them coz it requires no work on their part, and also they don't have to worry about you getting an orgasm like they would be if having sex, so its good for a bit of quick relief for them, as long as a man doesn't pass up sex with me ... (read in full...)
Personality vs looks?
Q. Hi, So I was wondering... Is personality or physical attraction more important? Any thoughts would be appreciated!...
A. 18 October 2011: depends how superficial you are.
some people can be happy with only the personality and still be able to love someone they are not attracted to
some people can stay with someone who treats them like crap just coz that person is attractive
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I'm starting to see a red flag -- is it really there?
Q. I wanted your guys or girls opinion on something? I met this realy nice lady, we are about the same age we hit it off great and actually still are, though we have been going out exclusively with eachother for only 6 weeks. Now this woman has neve...
A. 13 October 2011: very often people pick up on things and it pricks their intuition but then they bury it, the question them self and try to convince their self they are over reacting. so this is tricky. the bruise and the telling you about the ex does not strike me ... (read in full...)
I'm 18, single and unemployed but I want a baby
Q. I have posted a question on here before and received good advice, therefore I wanted to ask for opinions on something that has been puzzling me for some time. I am 18 and my boyfriend is 20, despite my young age, I am desperate for a child. My ...
A. 13 October 2011: got one word for you...
hormones!
it is very natural that you have this yearning to have a baby. it is what nature intended. but i don't think you should do this just yet. it would be better if you could get a bit more of a career and money... (read in full...)
B/f wants a foursome--3 guys and me! I kind of want it too!
Q. I've had the biggest crush on this guy for like a year now. He's super adorable. We flirt all the time. He and I have been "talking" for like two months now. I love when people give me attention and he gives me the most. Last month, we were at his ...
A. 13 October 2011: it is weird yes, i find it more weird that he would want a sibling of his to be involved. is he joking?? but if you want to do it, then go ahead
but... consider the following...
you will need to practice safe sex, obviously.
and ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is not virgin! How do I forgive her?
Q. i have a relation with a girl since march 2011. after 2 months when she come to know that i love her, she told me that she is not virgin. she cried the whole night and told me that she was force by her ex-boyfriend when she was having a severe ...
A. 13 October 2011: well if what she says is true and the ex boyfriend forced her into it, it should be HIM that you need to forgive. she has done nothing wrong in my opinion anyway, but listen, if you insist on your girl being a virgin, that is your prerogative. the ... (read in full...)
She had sex before we met, now I can't trust her.
Q. Hi everyone. I need some advise on what I should do. I have been with this girl for the last 5 years. The problem is that I cant resepct her or do anything nice for her. She has a past, she lost her virginity when she was 15 years old and stayed in ...
A. 13 October 2011: you are damaging this girl, leave her and let her find a good man. sorry but you sound very poisonous. if your post is in any way genuine then i hope you get help for your issues, for your sake and the sake of whoever you get relationships with in ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is just too emotional and needy and I cant handle it anymore, but I don't want to leave her in ths state either.....
Q. Patience with my girlfriend is wearing thin. All she ever does nowadays is complain about everything, she rarely asks me how I am, and if I have a problem she usually just tells me it's nothing or she just doesn't listen at all as if my issues don...
A. 13 October 2011: good for you ghostchild. i think you have handled it well. this won't change things like magic overnight obviously but you have made a great start. i hope she gets the help she needs and applies herself to it. if she goes into therapy there is ... (read in full...)
Don't want mum to know I'm on the pill - how can I fake a period?
Q. This sounds like a stupid question, but there is a reason behind it. I'm 16, so please don't lecture me on legality. Myself and my boyfriend are planning on taking our relationship 'to the next level' soon, and decided to take some precautions- nei...
A. 12 October 2011: your mum is not the guardian of your uterus! i say don't fake nothing. you are a 16 year old adult, so if she asks why your not having periods tell her (even though it is not really any of her business) that you are using the pill, (you are also ... (read in full...)
No condom for anal sex? Is it safe?
Q. My boyfriend is my second boyfriend.. I am still virgin... and he is too. At this time, He wish something for his birthday. He wants anal sex :| at first I really do not agree about it but I love him I want to make him happy. I am a little bit ...
A. 12 October 2011: erm, are you SURE he is a virgin too? HE wants anal. HE doesn't want to use a condom? what about what YOU want?? if he is a virgin, why is he so opinionated about condoms? sorry but he sounds like a bad lot and if i were you i would get him a gift ... (read in full...)
Should I report this guy?
Q. Help! I'm so fed up. A veryyyy long time ago I was a manager of a retail store where I met a lady who was elder and incredibly sweet. She had 2 sons who I also met one living @ home and one living on his own. Let's call the son living at home "Brad" ...
A. 11 October 2011: i totally agree with soveryconfused. take this seriously coz he does sound like a loony and he is trying to force a friendship (and probably more) by intimidating you. block block block him! give him no encouragement or welcome what-so-ever and if ... (read in full...)
Has anyone taken or know of anyone who has been using Isotretinoin?
Q. I'm just wondering whether anyone reading this post has or knows or anyone who has taken Isotretinoin? It's an acne medication. It also goes under the name of Roaccutane, Isotane or Accutane. I believe this drug caused my sister's suicida...
A. 11 October 2011: Accutane side effects (copy and pasted from Accutane/Roaccutane side effects)
Hair loss Pressure within the skullNeurological symptoms Vision problems Nosebleed Hair overgrowth in women Severe allergy Inflammation of the lips Bleeding & inflamma... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is just too emotional and needy and I cant handle it anymore, but I don't want to leave her in ths state either.....
Q. Patience with my girlfriend is wearing thin. All she ever does nowadays is complain about everything, she rarely asks me how I am, and if I have a problem she usually just tells me it's nothing or she just doesn't listen at all as if my issues don...
A. 11 October 2011: ew - high maintenance! she needs to get counselling to get to the root of her problems and to fix them. SHE has to do the fixing though, not sit around waiting for you or anyone else to make everything all right, coz you can't. and she needs to ... (read in full...)
When can I show him my sexy outfit on me???
Q. Hi everyone. I recently bought a sexy outfit to wear for my boyfriend but I am struggling to think of a time when I can actually wear it. We both still live at home with parents and although we spend most nights together, I am unsure of how to...
A. 10 October 2011: so both of you have families who make a habit of barging into your bedrooms do they, even though they know you are with a partner in there? i think you need to have a chat with them about respect for your privacy! do you or your Bf have a car? guys ... (read in full...)
Anyone know any good fake sun tan lotions?
Q. Well since summertime's over, there will be no more laying out in the sun, and I don't want to damage my skin more by laying in a tanning bed. But I really can't stand my skin being this pale. I've tried jergen's sunless tanning lotion but it just ...
A. 10 October 2011: i like the piz buin one and it is not too expensive, i have never managed to find a self tan lotion that smells nice though
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Condom break!!!!
Q. I'm panicking right now. My boyfriend and I had the condom break on us two nights ago. I had forgotten to take my birth control for two days (and so was on my period) before he visited (I took my pill the day we had sex, but I didn't not take two ...
A. 10 October 2011: well that sounds like a catalogue of disasters. yeah you should be worried, as even though he didn't cum, his precum may have contained sperms (especially if he had cum earlier on because some spermy residue may have been left in him) if you find ... (read in full...)
Help! The long and the short of it!
Q. hi I'm just 20 and going to university for engineering studies. We moved to a small town recently. I'm about 5'2" and 140 lbs. There's a big tall amazon girl who is 22 years old in the neighbourhood. She is almost 7 feet tall and about 400lbs, ...
A. 10 October 2011: you will look like an odd couple but does it really matter? why not just go out and see what happens? if you don't like each other on the date you don't have to go out again... (read in full...)
Did he "do it" with his ex... or didn't he???
Q. Basically I have been with my bf for 2 yrs and 7 months, we have been through everything together. But I am too nosey for my own good, and I found on FB that he was messaging his ex talking dirty and he suggested meeting up for sex :O its killi...
A. 10 October 2011: of course he tells you that he has strong views about fidelity, if he was a cheat he would not want to admit would he? maybe he did mess about with her in the early days of your relationship, it sounds like the intention was definitely there whether ... (read in full...)
When can I show him my sexy outfit on me???
Q. Hi everyone. I recently bought a sexy outfit to wear for my boyfriend but I am struggling to think of a time when I can actually wear it. We both still live at home with parents and although we spend most nights together, I am unsure of how to...
A. 10 October 2011: so you both live with parents but you must surely get SOME alone time together? your boyfriend would probably be delighted if you wore it any time, under clothes, under a coat - indoors/outdoors whenever
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I kissed another guy and I have a boyfriend I love alot, I've made a mistake, help!
Q. so me and my boyfriend eric have been going out for about a month and he's kinda been a bad boyfriend and he doesn't hold my hand and walk me to my classes he's not used to doing any of that stuff, and i always cry over him. ppl always tell me he's ...
A. 6 October 2011: you always cry over him and you keep getting told he grabs other girls body parts? he is making you miserable, thats why you kissed your friends brother. i think your boyfriend is bad for you. you will realise this one day
x... (read in full...)
How to find love again? And find a good guy who's a keeper?
Q. hi everyone....my question is simple.i want to know how i can find love again. broke up with my ex boyfriend 4 months ago. I am finally ok with it and have made a decision to move on. But i need some tips on how to get the attention of the really n...
A. 6 October 2011: don't appear desperate, wear nice clothes so you don't give off the wrong signals, don't get drunk or high when you go out, go to nice places, not rough bars, see if your friends know anyone that they would recommend, rather than picking up ... (read in full...)
I'm new to the area. How can I make friends and meet women?
Q. hi everyone, ive recently moved to a new area, 160 miles from my home town, for a job. the contract was only for a year and i didnt know anyone here, but a job's a job so i took it. been here for 6 months now and i really like my job and the peop...
A. 5 October 2011: its hard when you are the baby of the work place and all the others are years older than you, but you might get the odd night out with them. i would think you could make friends with the lads at rugby once they get to know you, join any other clubs ... (read in full...)
I am flattered but is it too early for him to be saying all these things? We've been dating 7 weeks....
Q. I have been dating a guy for about 7 weeks now. things have been really good and we get on so well. He works away mon-fri after getting a job promotion and is doing really well. He told me about his childhood and how traumatic it was.. His mum was ...
A. 5 October 2011: he seems clingy too soon, probably latching onto you to provide the love and affection he has been missing in his life. all you can do is keep your feet on the ground. make this relationship go at YOUR pace, not his because he is not really being ... (read in full...)
You don't bring me flowers anymore..
Q. I've been dating someone for 3 months...we moved fast and are in a committed relationship. I want to know why things change...We used to text constantly during the day..now? Not as much...He used to bring flowers...Now? Nope..We have been ...
A. 4 October 2011: he is getting comfortable. you are providing all his home comforts now, so the 'dating' period where he had to romance you is over. you should have kept him courting you a bit longer if you wanted to prolong the romance. if you are now his cook, ... (read in full...)
Seeing his old messages brought up my insecurities
Q. Well this morning my boyfriend left me alone in his flat as he went to work. I wanted to watch tv online so I turned it on but before decided to check my fb. As he never usually is logged in I didn't expect it when he was. I then began looking ...
A. 4 October 2011: how long have you been together? you have to expect him to have had had a life and chased women before you got together! everyone has a past. learn to think more positively - be happy that you saw nothing to suggest he is still chatting women up on ... (read in full...)
The relationship has lost its spark
Q. I am 20 years old. I have been with my boyfriend who is 25 for a year and a half. We moved in with each other pretty much straight away, about three months in... for the first 3 months of being with him we had sex maybe twice a day... always t...
A. 4 October 2011: sorry to say this but i don't think it is worth you trying to work things out with him. you are the only one out of the two of you that cares about this relationship. how has he switched from being so nice to taking the p!ss out of you all the ... (read in full...)
Will all the men I meet be damaged goods?
Q. Is 43 too old to find a partner capable of a mature but fun and equal relationship? Does it help that I look younger, even though I don't want a younger partner? I am recently out of a relationship that lasted almost two decades and can see where ...
A. 4 October 2011: that's a very negative view and no, they will not all be damaged goods, of course SOME will be but all you can do is stay alert to spot signs of trouble early on and bail out before you get hurt. work on your esteem FIRST before looking for a ... (read in full...)
Is my ex BF gay?
Q. I have been in a fantastic relationship with a 38 old handsome man who speed up the relationship since the beginning by introducing me to his family and friends very quickly and making tons of projects with me, telling me how much he loved me, etc. ...
A. 4 October 2011: from what you say, these features don't mean that he is gay. although he might be. the fact that he sped up the relationship and then 5 months later had a change of heart should give you a clue as to why he has never had a serious GF before you. he ... (read in full...)
What do you get for the guy who has everything?
Q. What do you get for a man who has everything? My boyfriend is a farmer and a mechanic and its his birhtday soon but he says he has everything but what is a good gift for a guy...
A. 4 October 2011: depends what his hobbies or interests are and also how much you want to spend on him. he is telling you he doesn't need anything but this does not mean he has got EVERYTHING - nobody has got everything! he is just being polite, but he will probably ... (read in full...)
We chatted online, why wont he talk to me face to face?
Q. Just met this guys who is really nice and I think I might like him alot. He added me on the Facebook and we started chatting, we have loads in common and I think he wants to be more then friends. However, when I see him around in college he do...
A. 4 October 2011: maybe deep down he is not as confident as he appears. he jokes around with people at college and this can sometimes be a way for less confident people to put on an act that makes them look and feel better. he could be nervous about having a one to ... (read in full...)
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