I like this girl, she asked me for advice about another guy and now I can't contact her online
Q. Well basically, I got talking to a girl in my school year online, let's call her jane. I'd seen her around but never spoken to her in real life, I had a huge crush on her, so when we started talking I was thrilled. We talked for ages and she said ...
A. 25 August 2011: it might be scary but just do it anyway! you're only talking to her as a friend, see how things are with her. what's the worst that can happen??
good luck
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I slept with his friend before I met him. Do you think he will take me seriously or just as a hook-up?
Q. I've gotten myself into a sticky situaion,and need some help. Long story short,I met a guy about a month ago,and ended up staying the night at his house and we had sex a few times that night. About a week or so later he said him and his ex were ...
A. 23 August 2011: just take things very slowly and carefully with this guy coz chances are he knows all about your sex with his room mate and he is interested in you coz he is hoping for the same.
if he is serious about you only time will tell
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Crazy dry and no sex drive
Q. i HAVE A PROBLEM!!! I LIKE MEN BUT LATELY IT BE NO FUN IN THE BEDROOM I've been crazy dry i want be turned on but its not been good, ive even try to play with myself to get turned on but nothing i need help....
A. 23 August 2011: are you with a steady partner? if so is the relationship good? if you are not happy maybe this is why. your age suggests you may be starting your menopause if you haven't already. this can cause dryness and lack of libido. see your doctor if you ... (read in full...)
Taking it slow... from a guys point of view please!
Q. I'm in my mid 40s and I met an amazing man of the same age. We actually went to public school together but recently connected through facebook. We've had three fantastic dates over a period of 2 months and are clearly attracted to one another. We've ...
A. 23 August 2011: as you have come out of a major relationship yourself i think you have become very accustomed to having someone in your life but you need to respect this guys space right now, take a step back and don't crowd him. let him come to you in his own ... (read in full...)
Tricked by a man - again!
Q. What is going on with me ? I have just been totally tricked yet again.I have had my fair share of life lessons regarding relationships but seem more naive than I have ever been. I met a guy who I thought really liked me .he seemed so genuine and we ...
A. 23 August 2011: just remember to not let yourself get swept along too fast again. remember how miserable you were when you thought you had been used and do everything you can to avoid feeling that again. keep your feet on the ground next time!
good luck and best... (read in full...)
Tricked by a man - again!
Q. What is going on with me ? I have just been totally tricked yet again.I have had my fair share of life lessons regarding relationships but seem more naive than I have ever been. I met a guy who I thought really liked me .he seemed so genuine and we ...
A. 23 August 2011: are you going to have sex with him or actually take a step back until you get to know him properly? - which will be a tough thing to do but its not impossible - its your body. if he doesn't understand that just let him go or else this might end up ... (read in full...)
He said I'm loose down there and now I'm really worried!
Q. Hey please help me... Ive recently lost my viginity (on holiday with my bf this week) and he is larger than normal. At first he said i was loose however i explained that i have been very experiemental in my past. however after 3 days of sex he...
A. 23 August 2011: recently lost your virginity and he is larger than average and he says there is a gap?? sorry but i am not convinced by him! obviously you won't be as tight as you were the first time but OMG what exactly does he want?? i think he is having a laugh ... (read in full...)
My dads bought a house in 'the ghetto'. How do I let him know this worries me?
Q. This isn't a relationship question per se, but I'd still like some advice. My problem is that my dad, who will turn 68 in October, just bought a house in a bad neighborhood without telling me in advance. Up until now he was living with my g...
A. 23 August 2011: why has he done this if it is correct what you are saying and he could afford to live somewhere better? is it coz he wants to buy somewhere quite cheap and have the rest of his money to spend on stuff he will enjoy doing? he is still of sound mind? ... (read in full...)
Tricked by a man - again!
Q. What is going on with me ? I have just been totally tricked yet again.I have had my fair share of life lessons regarding relationships but seem more naive than I have ever been. I met a guy who I thought really liked me .he seemed so genuine and we ...
A. 23 August 2011: i hope this practical advice will help -
make a rule book for yourself and don't deviate from it
the rules are
don't go back to his place or have him at yours or go anywhere else secluded for X amounts of dates (this will keep you from... (read in full...)
Tricked by a man - again!
Q. What is going on with me ? I have just been totally tricked yet again.I have had my fair share of life lessons regarding relationships but seem more naive than I have ever been. I met a guy who I thought really liked me .he seemed so genuine and we ...
A. 23 August 2011: hi again, like i said last time - take things slow. you seem to be talking yourself into (or letting the guy talk you into) making you think you have a special connection. this is a dangerous way to think coz it means you will not be alert to the ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says I'm not loud enough during sex
Q. My boyfriend and I have really good sex but he still asks me if I'm enjoying it. I know it's good that he wants to make sure I feel good but it's his reasoning that gets me. He says he's not sure because I'm not loud enough. I moan like the whole ...
A. 23 August 2011: why does he want you to say fake things and make fake noises? maybe you could compromise and get a little more vocal for him but not to the extent where you feel you are being ridiculous, as if you feel uncomfortable doing/saying something this will ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend have to tell me that he finds other women attractive?
Q. Can anyone explain why my boyfriend has to tell me when he see's an attractive girl? When we are out together he will say things like "She is an attractive girl", or sometimes he just continues to stare at a girl we are passing by. Please can ...
A. 23 August 2011: he is either doing it to purposely wind you up and make you jealous or he just has no tact, and if he is your age and still behaving like this then i don't really think there is much hope of him changing.
do you think he maybe is doing it coz he f... (read in full...)
How do I deep throat without gagging?
Q. How can I deepthroat without gagging? I used to be able to do it, but not anymore! And...how do I prevent from my teeth escaping my lips when giving a blowjob?...
A. 23 August 2011: mens favourite part of the penis is the tip so why do you want to deep throat? concentrate more on the tip with your mouth and let your hands do the work further down the shaft. this should help keep your teeth off it and prevent jaw ache.
you n... (read in full...)
How do stop the habit of fancying older men?
Q. Due to my sexual past that started with a man who was more than 20 years my senior, I find myself now - 6 years later - still somehow attracted to men that much older. And I want to get rid of this "habit". I have a super good looking nice man my a...
A. 23 August 2011: don't worry about being a magnet for old men - they often try it on and i think its coz they have the confidence that younger men lack and that they know their chat up lines can be received by you as a cheeky joke. if you want to get with younger ... (read in full...)
How could he just up and leave his family? I don't know what to do!
Q. it has been about 1 1/2 since the father of my 2 kids said he has been cheating and met someone online... this is the worst thing that has ever happened to me he used to be a great father, he would be with his girls everyday help me out with my ...
A. 23 August 2011: he won't give straight answers probably coz he is ashamed and does not want you to know the extent of the dirty truth, and this is coz he doesn't want to hurt you and more than he has done - coz he does not want you to hate him - coz he wants things ... (read in full...)
Why did my wife wait until after we were married to tell me she's got a low sex drive? And how can I get her to think about me and my needs?
Q. Okay i guess to start....my wife and i got married about 6 months ago now. everything was great...but about after 3 months of having amazing sex...it seemed to just stop. when i asked about it...she said she has low sex drive....now why didnt she ...
A. 23 August 2011: so your daughter is 17 months old, getting to the stage where she is running about and getting into EVERYTHING, do you have any idea how tiring looking after a little toddler all day is?
i am sorry, i agree with your wife. maybe she is depresse... (read in full...)
He was the one who sweet-talked about marriage, a few years later he says marriage is like cutting his balls off?
Q. So what is it about marriage that scares guys? My boyfriend and I have lived together for 4.5 years and been dating nearly 5. We live like we are married as it is. My friends are getting married and his friends are getting married and it makes me ...
A. 23 August 2011: i read a little article today in a magazine that said that the way women and men think about moving in together is different - women see it as a prelude to getting married
- men see it as a way to hopefully get sex on tap and to test whether they... (read in full...)
I like this girl, she asked me for advice about another guy and now I can't contact her online
Q. Well basically, I got talking to a girl in my school year online, let's call her jane. I'd seen her around but never spoken to her in real life, I had a huge crush on her, so when we started talking I was thrilled. We talked for ages and she said ...
A. 23 August 2011: so, have you only ever spoken to her online, never in real life? if you want any chance of going out with this girl you are gonna have to chat to her in school too. does she know who you feel about her?
when she asked for your advice about th... (read in full...)
Taking it slow... from a guys point of view please!
Q. I'm in my mid 40s and I met an amazing man of the same age. We actually went to public school together but recently connected through facebook. We've had three fantastic dates over a period of 2 months and are clearly attracted to one another. We've ...
A. 23 August 2011: his wife only left him a matter of months ago so i can understand why he wants a bit of time, free of a relationship to get his head together and devote more emotional time to his son for the time being. it sounds like he just values you more as a ... (read in full...)
I'm 22, she's 15 is it best to stop before things get started?
Q. I started talking to this girl recently, she seemed really nice, really pretty. Then one day we find out how old each other is, she thought I was 17, I'm 22, and I thought she was 18, the girl is 15. Nothing has happened for it to be a legal matte...
A. 23 August 2011: why did she think you were 17? this age gap is quite a significant one given that she is just 15. obviously she is underage so you will not be able to do anything sexual with her, even if its her idea! you would still end up on the sex offenders ... (read in full...)
My low self esteem makes me crave the attention of guys
Q. I'm worried my low self estime will make me do something I regret. The only way I can feel good about myself is if a guy wants me. I don't think i'm very pretty so whenever guys at parties try and get with me I always just make out with them because ...
A. 23 August 2011: you have good insight into what is making you behave this way so that means you are part way to solving it. avoid drugs and alcohol though because that will make your common sense fly out of the window and you could well end up doing something that ... (read in full...)
Are there any signs that an ex still has feelings for you?
Q. Hi i need some help please can you suggest Things to look out for in an ex that they still have feelings for you Why they rush off one minute and find excuses to stay longer next any comments would be appreciated many thanks x...
A. 23 August 2011: indicators that they still have feeling for you...
they are reluctant to get on with their life and meet someone new
they keep in touch with you and are interested to know what you have been doing, they are interested in asking you if you have ... (read in full...)
Could he be my soul mate???
Q. I have just met a new guy and from our first meeting we had an amazing closeness and chemistry. I slept with him on our second date and it was very intense and wonderful. we have loads in common and seem to be on the same wave length in and out of ...
A. 22 August 2011: it might work out well or it might not. sometimes a feeling of knowing someone really well, when you clearly don't and having amazing connection with them when you really have not invested the time into this is getting things very wrong. some guys ... (read in full...)
How could he just up and leave his family? I don't know what to do!
Q. it has been about 1 1/2 since the father of my 2 kids said he has been cheating and met someone online... this is the worst thing that has ever happened to me he used to be a great father, he would be with his girls everyday help me out with my ...
A. 22 August 2011: how awful. i am sorry for you. only he knows why he has done this, maybe the death of his brother gave him a wake up call of sorts, or maybe his feelings just changed over time, maybe the girl chased him. what sort of site did he meet her on though? ... (read in full...)
Our Libidos never seem in sync. How do we align our needs to occcur at the same time?
Q. My boyfriend and I (both 21) have been together for 14 months and we've been having sex since the beginning of our relationship. He was a chronic masturbator as a teen whereas I never masturbated. So... I cum super quickly and it takes him forever ...
A. 22 August 2011: there are other ways to finish him off even after sex has finished for you. might help if he can not masturbate so much especially in the day or two before he sees you. do you not give him enough foreplay? maybe that could give him the head-start ... (read in full...)
Anyone understand the reasoning behind making high schoolers wake up so early?
Q. This really isn't a good dear cupid question but i have no where else to ask this. Does anyone know why they make high school students wake up so early as opposed to middle schoolers and elementary school students? In my school district, th...
A. 22 August 2011: its to prepare you for grown up life when you leave school and get a job. love your comment about having to put on make up and choose clothes! :)
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Is she only offering to do this because other partners have asked this of her? Or should I just embrace new sexual experiences?
Q. hi their im after some views on this please. Me and my new girlfriend has been together for six months and all is wonderfull. She is very sexual and the sex has been great. I have one issue. She was giving me a bj a couple of nights ago and she ...
A. 22 August 2011: she may have been asked for this by other guys or seen it in porn and assumes that all guys want to do this to women. just say no to her, tell her you don't want to do it. i am sure she will be relieved and won't ask you for it again. getting ... (read in full...)
Just how crazy would it be to go see her at her next destination?
Q. So, I met this girl a couple of weeks back. She was in my country on vacation and we spent a week together. We connected in a big way and enjoyed each others company a lot. From here she went on to travel the world for a few more months before ...
A. 22 August 2011: this could work out really well for you. if she likes you she will like you EVEN MORE if you make the effort to meet her in her next destination! that shows you are really interested and i think its really romantic!
however if when she suggeste... (read in full...)
Will a guy still like you even if you don't want to have sex?
Q. Well I was reading someone's question on here about Teen Sex, my question is, will a guy still like you even if you don't want to have sex? I mean, I would love to find a guy that likes me for me and fall in love, but I don't want him to leave me ...
A. 22 August 2011: if a guy leaves you because you don't want to do something well guess what? he isn't worth having.
unless you are with someone who you really have feeling for there is no need for you to have urges to have sex. when you get with a guy you will nee... (read in full...)
I want to try to be a vegetarian. Any advice?
Q. Hi. I'm considering becoming a vegetarian. There are many reasons behind this, but I need some advice. I'm an animal-lover and a bit of an environmentalist. I don't like our general lifestyle either. I know that people have always relied on meat a...
A. 22 August 2011: i find quorn a good substitute (i am not a vegetarian but my son is not a lover of meat so i cook with this quite a lot) maybe you could compromise and still eat meat but only organically farmed meat were the animals are raised and slaughtered ... (read in full...)
Lost my sex drive and I'm only 23!
Q. I have a problem. Im 23 years old and I have lost my sex drive. I have been with my fiancee for a year and 8 months now. Our sex life was fine, both of us were able to get off and enjoy it. Lately, I'd say the last 1-2 months, I have had no interest ...
A. 22 August 2011: its interesting that you say when you have been having sex lately is is more because you don't want to let him down. this is a cycle you are caught up in - you went off sex a bit, maybe this was just because you have been with him a while so it was ... (read in full...)
I think I'm ugly but girls think I'm cute?
Q. I've had a few girls at my school say that I'm cute and some have crushes on me. I know I'm definitely not hot but I've always comsidered myself an ugly kid. I'm pretty short for my age(16), I'm shy, kinda nerdy and have acne that I always notice ...
A. 22 August 2011: you are clearly sensitive to what you perceive as your flaws, other people don't notice them. i know how this feels, if i ever get a zit i think EVERYONE can see it, but then i will mention it to a friend and they'll say 'oh yeah i can see it now ... (read in full...)
Struggling to lose my virginity because of the pain. What can I do to be more relaxed?
Q. I'm having a very hard time with losing my virginity. I'm 20 years old and I've been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. I've tried several times to lose my virginity, but it just never seems to go right. We've tried every position we could think ...
A. 22 August 2011: yes this sounds more psychological than physical. you have tried and it hurts so that in turn makes you expect pain and you tense up more the next time you try. all i can suggest is more foreplay, plenty of lube in case you are not wet enough. ... (read in full...)
I want him back and want him to love me
Q. DC, I miss him so much. I met this guy 3 months ago, and all he wanted was sex without any affection. I knew I would just be used so I dropped the whole idea of being with him especially because he didn't want to try LDR. He had said he liked me but ...
A. 21 August 2011: you can't make someone have feelings for you. don't make the mistake of thinking you can fix this 'poor broken man'. he has shown you disinterest and disrespect from the outset. see him for what he is, you're wasting your time and affection on him, ... (read in full...)
I have given myself to a very rich man and made an escort of myself and now I don't know how to escape
Q. I have a major problem. This all started a year ago when my now ex-boss first kissed me, he told me he has been in love with me for some time but couldn't leave his wife(which was fine with me, I didn't ask for an excuse) As things have progres...
A. 21 August 2011: as you are not IN love with him then this should be quite easy for you to 'escape'. just decide on the moral code you want to have and don't deviate from it. all the bracelets in the world are not gonna comfort you when you are feeling like you ... (read in full...)
Why are girls like this??
Q. The story goes like this. When guy Smses her , she will say "what the hell? mom, dad around, stop bothering me, give me a space!". When guy stops doing so, she will say "you have got changed big time and no more care about me". When guy tells he...
A. 21 August 2011: as a rule girls are NOT like this so don't let this spoilt little princess put you off all women! i can tell that this girl has zero respect for you and she is not into you - if she was she would not dare to treat you like this coz she would be ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is too quiet in bed! Is this normal?
Q. My new boyfriend is so damn quiet in bed that I dont even know when he orgasms. This is becoming quite embaressing because I keep going and I dont realise that he has already come. There is no noise, no movement, no facial expression, no nothing. ...
A. 21 August 2011: if you are intimate enough to have sex with him then i hope you are intimate enough to be able to talk about it? tell him how you feel about this in a tactful and nice way obviously. but this is how he naturally is, and its better to be natural ... (read in full...)
He never wants kisses and affection - just sex
Q. I've been dating this guy for about six months. He never wants to kiss (And I am xtra fresh with my breathe, so it's not that), hardly wants to hug but wants sex. He never take me out and the one time he did, I nearly had to beg for it. I keep ...
A. 21 August 2011: in answer to your question - "But am I being disillusional, and fooling myself of something that obviously doesn't feel right all because I want it to be right"
yes. that is exactly right. this has gone on for six months and will continue to happe... (read in full...)
I left my lover to return to my wife. my lover just wants to be friends now. nothing more
Q. I am a married man with 2 wonderfull children but I just don't love my wife anymore. For this reason I have has a lover for the past year. That is until recently... I left my wife for my lover briefly, but I missed my kids and couldn't handle b...
A. 20 August 2011: i actually sympathise with men like you coz yes you don't love your wife anymore and some people will just tell you to leave her but it is not that clear cut when you have kids is it? if you leave you will lose that 24/7 contact with your kids. but ... (read in full...)
Porn: sometimes it's helpful
Q. I’ve read countless posts about porn. Women saying porn is killing their self-image, ruining their relationships. Men replying that it just goes with the territory, get over it. By and large the women having a problem with porn are young (18-25)....
A. 20 August 2011: that's an interesting point olderthandirt. i think porn can be a damaging influence to some men, they compare themselves to the men they see in porn - this leaves them with insecurity about penis size and insecurity about their performance when they ... (read in full...)
What is it really like to be a mistress?
Q. What is it really like to be a mistress? I have been propositioned by a married man I've known for 2 years. He is 24 years older than me and he really turns me on. Obviously I know this is wrong but it all just sounds amazing. Plus he's had a rocky ...
A. 19 August 2011: of course he will tell you he has a rocky relationship with his wife. its the old 'my wife doesn't understand me' routine. you can't take his word for it, he is an honest man that much is obvious as he is wanting to sneak around behind his wife's ... (read in full...)
What do girls think of guys who offer to buy them drinks?
Q. Ok this isnt really a relationship question but it is related to boy-girl stuff. A friend of mine told me the other night that he has never bought a girl a drink--he says that its basically like prostitution, paying a girl to like you. This struck ...
A. 19 August 2011: its more of an old fashioned and maybe gentlemanly thing to do, if a girl is interested in you she will like that you offer her a drink, if the girl is not interested already she may think you are being a creep for offering but may accept it anyway ... (read in full...)
Porn: sometimes it's helpful
Q. I’ve read countless posts about porn. Women saying porn is killing their self-image, ruining their relationships. Men replying that it just goes with the territory, get over it. By and large the women having a problem with porn are young (18-25)....
A. 19 August 2011: i don't have a problem with porn, as long as it doesn't twist a man's mind and sexuality so that he is unable to perform properly when having real live sex with his partner. OP it is a great shame that you and your wife don't have sex though, just ... (read in full...)
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