Getting close to my daughter's dad again and I'm so confused
Q. My ex bf Josh and I have a 5 yr old daughter together. We started dating when I was 16 yrs old and he was 18 yrs old. I got pregnant when I was 19 (she wasn't planned). We mutally decided to break up 2 yrs ago. I'm not really sure why we decided to, ...
A. 26 September 2011: well i hope your friends and family are pleased for you, i suppose some of them will be worried also but remind them that NOBODY gets a guarantee with their relationship. you have good as good a chance as any though coz you have been a couple ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and I have feelings for a 20 year old man
Q. So im 13 going to be 14 and there is this guy that i like but hes 20 and he knows that i like him and he says im not supposed to but i seriously like him i can't stop thinking about him. He always listens to my problems and try's to protect me. He ...
A. 26 September 2011: so he is in a teacher role. if he gets further involved with you by dating you, he can say goodbye to the chance of any job like this in the future coz he will never be allowed to work with kids again. it sounds though like you are the one who is ... (read in full...)
Getting close to my daughter's dad again and I'm so confused
Q. My ex bf Josh and I have a 5 yr old daughter together. We started dating when I was 16 yrs old and he was 18 yrs old. I got pregnant when I was 19 (she wasn't planned). We mutally decided to break up 2 yrs ago. I'm not really sure why we decided to, ...
A. 26 September 2011: yeah i know what you mean about changing things and your daughter being hurt if things don't work out. maybe you could keep things low key in front of her. just date him, don't have him move in with you or stay the night until you are sure you can ... (read in full...)
Getting close to my daughter's dad again and I'm so confused
Q. My ex bf Josh and I have a 5 yr old daughter together. We started dating when I was 16 yrs old and he was 18 yrs old. I got pregnant when I was 19 (she wasn't planned). We mutally decided to break up 2 yrs ago. I'm not really sure why we decided to, ...
A. 26 September 2011: why not give things another shot? you say you don't know why you broke up in the first place so there is obviously no big issue or problem that caused the break up. maybe it was just the age of you both and the responsibility of a child together ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and I have feelings for a 20 year old man
Q. So im 13 going to be 14 and there is this guy that i like but hes 20 and he knows that i like him and he says im not supposed to but i seriously like him i can't stop thinking about him. He always listens to my problems and try's to protect me. He ...
A. 26 September 2011: a DECENT 20 year old man would not be interested romantically in a girl of your age. if he IS interested romantically in you it means he is a PAEDOPHILE - there is no other word for him, so if this is the case you really need to keep away from ... (read in full...)
I'm 13, he's 18. Would it be ok to date him?
Q. i always feel a lot older than i am. me and this guy like each other and flirt a lot, and it might lead to a relationship but we're just seeing how things go as hes 18, im 13 and we don't want to rush into anything. i know it would be illegal to ...
A. 25 September 2011: it is not ok to date him. of course you both know that sex will be illegal - it will at give him 'sex offender' status, very probably a prison sentence too where he will be locked up with REAL paedophiles and rapists, and then when he is released ... (read in full...)
I have led this guy on, just to get me over my ex. I don't really like him though. How can I let him down gently?
Q. Last week I followed some really bad advice and it's got me in trouble. A friend said to get over my ex I should casually try flirting with other guys. So I did this and a guy sent me a message asking for my number, I asked for my girls advice cus I ...
A. 25 September 2011: why should he HATE you? just let this fizzle out before it even starts, there is nothing wrong with being honest with him and just let him know that you are not really interested in anything at the moment because you are not over your ex. he will ... (read in full...)
One of my college friends is a girl and my GF is really freaking out over it
Q. I am in college and have only made 2 friends since starting. one of them is a girl. i am not attracted to her more than a friend. i am deeply in love with my girlfriend and would never want anyone else but she keeps on accusing me of wanting to date ...
A. 25 September 2011: sorry, am i right in understanding that your GF has been meeting people on craigslist and going home with them while she was in the relationship with you? and she is freaking about you having a female friend at college?
i could understand your GF'... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is still in love with her ex. Should I break up with her?
Q. I will try to make this as short as i can... My gf still feels something for the ex...more specifically love...now...it would be normal in a long relationship...but she was with him 4 months only...and wasted a year trying to win him back...and t...
A. 25 September 2011: absolutely you should break up with her. you just happened to me the ex's best mate? makes me think your girl has hand picked you as the one who would hopefully make her ex the most jealous.
your GF is just settling for you coz she can't have him... (read in full...)
I cheated on my wife. Should I tell her?
Q. I cheated on my wife 14 years ago. I didn't have an affair. It was just one day in a motel room with an ex-girlfriend. I felt terrible about it even as it was happening. My wife does suspect something may have happened. In fact, I think she susp...
A. 25 September 2011: whether to tell her or not depends on whether she is still questioning you about it now and you are lying to her and making her think she is crazy, OR as it is a long time in the past, are you thinking of just bringing the subject up? when last did ... (read in full...)
My wife has told me she is disappointed in the way I proposed to her
Q. Hi I proposed to my now-wife a year before we got married. When I asked her, she started to cry, but not because of joy. She said yes, when I repeated the question. Later I found out, that she is very disappointed by the way I asked. We now are marr...
A. 25 September 2011: sorry but she is being a bit of a brat about this. she cornered you into asking and now she is unhappy that you did not spontaneously decide to ask her yourself. does she make a habit of telling you how to feel and what to think and do? i ... (read in full...)
I applied the 'no contact' rule, but last night I caved in and texted him
Q. Recently I wrote about the affair that I had ended I've been working really hard on keeping busy etc but last night I broke 'no contact' and text him. What should I do if he replies? Should I just ignore it and carry on with NC? I've tried d...
A. 25 September 2011: thats the spirit! you can do it and you will feel so much better for it
best wishes
x... (read in full...)
Should I try to trust him?
Q. Me and my fiance have been together just over a year now. Our relationship has been awesome, we rarely fight and we enjoy so much of the same things and just have a lot of fun together. I recently gave birth 2 weeks ago to our son, but 4 days before ...
A. 25 September 2011: babe you don't have to 'learn' to do anything! he was flirting with other girls, it is not a flaw of yours that you now do not trust him. when i read your post i thought he was a young lad, until i got to the part where you said he is 30! if he is ... (read in full...)
I got a new boyfriend over the weekend (by text!) what will I say when I see him at school?
Q. dear cupid, this is an emergency and I need an answer asap! so I found out the boy I really liked, liked me! so after we talked at a school dance, I had my friend ask him if I could have his number and he said sure! I was very happy, anyways ...
A. 25 September 2011: don't worry - he likes you! there is no need to feel shy, it might be weird at first but just remember - this is the same boy that you asked out and he said yes and you got along ok before, ok? he hasn't suddenly turned into an alien just coz he is ... (read in full...)
Is my man interested in more than friendship with her?
Q. Well my current relationship is kinda unsure to me, only because i often hear about his friend he had in high school. He said more then once that if he was ever to marry anyone, it would be her. He claims she is a friend to this day and often calls ...
A. 25 September 2011: sweetheart i am sorry but it really sounds like he is settling for you because he cannot have her. it will be hard for you but i think in the long run you will find happiness if you break up with him and make yourself free to meet someone who wants ... (read in full...)
How do I earn his trust back?
Q. I 've dumped my ex-boyfriend twice within a two month period. Honestly, the first time I dumped him was because he hadn't contacted me in three whole days. So I returned his belongings, and I when I did his mother answered the door. He ended up ...
A. 25 September 2011: i think a third chance is possible BUT is the relationship going to just carry on in the same way if you do get back together? i think he hurt you badly by not contacting you for three days, there was no need for him to do that and i do not blame ... (read in full...)
If I were to lose weight, would my calves get smaller?
Q. This doesn't have to do with relationships but I would still really be grateful if you could help me! I feel VERY insecure about what I feel is a serious physical defect and wonder if there's anything I can do? My calves are WAY too big!! Mos...
A. 25 September 2011: are you sure your legs are as bad as you think they are? get an opinion from someone you trust. if your legs are more chunky than you want them to be, try specific exercises for the area. you see it may just be the shape you are, in which case even ... (read in full...)
How do I get this older guy, who's known me since I was little, to notice me and see me as a woman?
Q. i really need help with this, pleaseeee. i've known this guy almost all my life, years have gone by and we have both definitely grown a lot. He is so attractive and hot, and i am just now starting to notice him. He is a couple of years older then...
A. 25 September 2011: by all means flirt, but be aware of when to give up if he appears uninterested. your age difference is not SO bad really, be aware that he is recently out of something long term so he may not be able to connect with you emotionally like you want ... (read in full...)
Is it likely she will ever return to her family?
Q. If my wife left me after 18 years of marriage for another man, and she left the kids with me. She is no longer with this man, but has another boyfriend now in a long distance relationship. My kids will not accept this new man, and refuse to be ...
A. 25 September 2011: if you forgive her and want her to come back you should tell her. you need to question your motives though. if you just want her back because you miss the familiarity and would rather have a cheating wife back than to carve out a new life for ... (read in full...)
Sending my ex a hello?
Q. Hey, my ex and I broke up like 6 mos ago. I told him that he had to let me go and I had to let go of him too, that we needed not to contact each other (he started seeing another girl, but still kinda would text me and reach out to me). I know he's ...
A. 25 September 2011: if you feel like your message might be misconstrued then just don't do it. it could mess with his head, give him false hope, ruin his relationship with his new girl. no harm in saying hello if you see him in the street but i think to actively 'seek ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but I can't stop thinking about my ex
Q. a few months ago me and my boyfriend that i consider to be the love of my life broke up since then iv been going out with another guy and i do love him he's amazing but i can't get my ex out my head im still crazy about him even though we broke up ...
A. 25 September 2011: you were not over your ex. you got into a new relationship to try to cover up the pain you were feeling instead of actually working through it. this is why your feelings about your ex and the break up are not resolved. when you say you cannot get ... (read in full...)
How can anyone be so selfish?
Q. I have known the father of my youngest child for over 27 years. Yesterday it was my birthday and he made no effort despite the fact that I asked my child to remaid him. I know my child said something as he said so himself/ I was working yesterda...
A. 25 September 2011: this relationship sounds like it has got more problems than merely lack of birthday card. you say you have wanted to get out of it, but also that you suggested going away for his birthday. if he doesn't make you happy and you want to break up with ... (read in full...)
I applied the 'no contact' rule, but last night I caved in and texted him
Q. Recently I wrote about the affair that I had ended I've been working really hard on keeping busy etc but last night I broke 'no contact' and text him. What should I do if he replies? Should I just ignore it and carry on with NC? I've tried d...
A. 25 September 2011: breaking up with someone can be like kicking an addiction. you just have to not give in to your craving. just roll with the feelings you have right now and KNOW that you will not always feel this way. just be stronger every time you feel like ... (read in full...)
I'm not sexually attracted to my girlfriend!
Q. I've met a fantastic woman, she is funny, intelligent, thoughtful, sweet with a heart of gold... doesn't sound like much of a problem does it? The problem lies in attraction, I met her from a dating site, we hit it off immediately as we are both of ...
A. 25 September 2011: you are right, its not all about being gorgeous and in time everyone's looks fade, but the problem with you and her is that sexual chemistry is lacking (i believe we can have great sexual chemistry even with someone who is not great looking) early ... (read in full...)
Is his Borderline Personality Disorder responsible for his varying feelings for me? First loving me and then falling out of love..
Q. At the start of the year, I moved to a different country for three months for work purposes. I was single and had been very happy for many years. So it came as a surprise when I met a man, started dating him and continued seeing him after I left and ...
A. 24 September 2011: OP, you just need to get over this though because he is really not worth analysing. he may be have mental problems or he may just be a lying disrespectful manipulating a**hole, labelling him is not gonna change a thing. just learn from what's ... (read in full...)
Is his Borderline Personality Disorder responsible for his varying feelings for me? First loving me and then falling out of love..
Q. At the start of the year, I moved to a different country for three months for work purposes. I was single and had been very happy for many years. So it came as a surprise when I met a man, started dating him and continued seeing him after I left and ...
A. 24 September 2011: BPD can only be diagnosed after thorough assessment by a mental health professional. you seem as if you are giving him this label in order to make sense of his rotten treatment of you. do not make excuses for him, see him for what he is - a man ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend took another girl to a hotel but swears he didn't cheat. What shall I do?
Q. sorry about this being so long ... i met my boyfriend at the age of 16 and weve been together ever since, weve had a lot of ups and downs and now i need advice. After been together 6 months, it was just a pritty average relationship then...
A. 24 September 2011: if his mum and sister are telling you to dump him and that you can do better then that REALLY does not make him look good does it? i am sorry hun but people do not need to book into a posh hotel just to 'catch up'. i am betting that they have gone ... (read in full...)
He says he can't wait to marry me, but yet he is making no moves to live with me
Q. I have been going out with my bf for 3 years and I am more than willing to live with him now. But he signed a contract to live with his pal for 3 years and refuses to compromise. So we still have 2 more years of that 3 years to go. This means for ...
A. 24 September 2011: sounds like he is spinning you a line when he says he 'can't wait to marry you' - i am not saying he will NEVER want to marry you but 'can't wait' is stretching the truth a bit. you both want different things out of the relationship at the moment, ... (read in full...)
I don't enjoy travelling. Why can't my family just accept that?
Q. My family is always trying to get me to go on family vacations and my parents are always trying to get me travel by myself too. The problem is I hate to travel. I tried family vacations, I tried traveling by myself and I have tried traveling ...
A. 24 September 2011: you are an adult and as such should not have to do things that you hate just to please other people. if you were expected to travel to say, a wedding or some important family event, then yes, that's the time to put your dislikes to one side and make ... (read in full...)
Tips for a mind blowing blowjob?
Q. I want to give my boyfriend an incredible blowjob? What can I do, I'm not ready for sex just yet, and I have only ever given one blowjob in my entire life and that was with him, my first time ever, and he said I was very good that it was "awesome"...
A. 24 September 2011: deep throating is not really the way to go, men are more interested in the tip of their penis so concentrate more on that, plenty of saliva, hand action too and as long as you know he has no stds - swallow and act as if its delicious - they love ... (read in full...)
What does it mean if a guy cannot find someone he clicks with no matter how hard he tries?
Q. What does it mean for a guy who has never had a girlfriend and he is still a virgin and no matter how hard he tries he just can't find that woman he can click with, even just for the time being nothing is happening in his life, no one can give him ...
A. 24 September 2011: it is hard to say what this means. you are only young and have not met the right one yet. where are you meeting women? i suggest meeting them somewhere that relates to an interest you have, so at least you will have SOMETHING in common and you can ... (read in full...)
My bf never texts me or asks me to come over on his days off. What does this mean for our relationship?
Q. I hardly see my boyfriend anymore because we work different schedules now. He works mornings/afternoons, and I work evenings (both work at different companies). I am trying to get a different job that will allow me to work morning hours. That way, ...
A. 24 September 2011: what does he do on his days off? if he wanted to see you he would ask you, the fact that he doesn't ask obviously says he does not want to see you (for some reason) talk to him, do not just make your decision based on his verbal answers though, ... (read in full...)
He's changed his password on Facebook? And not mentioned it to me. Am I over-thinking this?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for just over 19 months now. He cheated on me after about 10 months and after that he completely changed his attitude and I could honestly see that this mistake was something that he regretted, so I took him back ...
A. 24 September 2011: i think you should just ask him. he may have changed his password because he is doing something he does not want you to see OR he may have changed it because someone else has hacked in, but if that was the case, why would he not tell you?? sounds ... (read in full...)
Is there medicine for wetness?
Q. is there any medication one can take to reduce the wetness during sex?...
A. 24 September 2011: no, there is no medication. wetness is the way it should be. does your man not like it? most men do. if it is just yourself feeling embarrassed about it then don't be. if you really think it is a problem, then just try taking some tissues to bed ... (read in full...)
Its easier for us to be mean to each other rather than nice!
Q. i have been woth my boyfriend for 4 years and we have a 3 year old son. recently i dont want to have sex with him and dont like it when he tries to kiss me. we argue alot about nothing and i cry alot.we both say very hurtful things to each other and ...
A. 24 September 2011: i think it is a good idea for you to see a counsellor. once you are in a pattern of being horrible to each other it is very hard to get out of because the more heated arguments you have and nasty names you call each other, the more additional ... (read in full...)
He is such a tight-wad in everything. Should I stay or go? It bothers me that he thinks women are after his money.
Q. I am a 46 years old woman. I've met this man 16 years older than me after my divorce. He is a wealthy man with his own house and car and still earning a good income. Im in a low paid job and just earn enough to support myself. I've got my own h...
A. 24 September 2011: wealthy people don't get wealthy by being very generous. do you KNOW that he thinks women are after his money? maybe if you were the rich one and he was on a low income you would pay for stuff that he needed, your attitude to money is obviously ... (read in full...)
I'm suspicious of what went on at this bachelor party
Q. My boyfriend went on a bachelor party out of town for the weekend with his friends recently. He's already gone on a few of them before during our relationship and has always been good about communicating, even if it's just at the end of the night to ...
A. 22 September 2011: of course your boyfriend is not going to admit what he has done, but unless this friend of his that texted him is living in a complete fantasy world, then that text DOES mean what you think it does. i agree with the other poster who said why would ... (read in full...)
I honey-trapped my own boyfriend.....he doesn't know it was me and hes broken my heart!!
Q. I am in bits right now.....really need some help. Ive been seing my long distant lover for 9 months. Hes in the army but we saw each other when we could. Latley he had become really distant from me though......his calls and texts became very rare ...
A. 22 September 2011: i know you feel devastated right now but in time you will be just glad that you found him out for what he really is. you could send him a nasty message or call him and tell him what you know or you could just let him sweat and wonder what he did ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend proposed...but went looking for a second-hand ring!
Q. So my boyfriend proposed to me the other day. All was going well until he started searching for an engagement ring. We were talking on the phone and he said "Here's one I think you'll like" and sent me a picture of the ugliest ring I'd ever seen. ...
A. 22 September 2011: he is probably comfortably off because he is thrifty and likes a bargain. men don't tend to have very good taste with jewellery anyway, jewellery is a very personal thing to buy for someone else, especially an engagement ring which hopefully you ... (read in full...)
Is she after me for rights to live in UK permanently
Q. Hi, I have a GF now fiancée, I asked her to marry me, however I am now starting to think after what some people said wither she is after me for just rights to live in the UK permanently as most people from country do this, is there any way I can ...
A. 16 September 2011: if you have doubts you shouldn't be marrying her. but from the things you say that make you think she doesn't love you, i don't think you should be worried. it is not bad to go out with friends and not text while she is with them. like anyone who is ... (read in full...)
I don't want a bad breakup but I want to end things
Q. I feel like a jerk because I want to break it off with my girlfriend of 8 months. I'm separated from my wife and while there is no going back, I am just not attracted to my girlfriend anymore. She's a great girl and I don't want to hurt her, but I ...
A. 16 September 2011: i totally sympathise with you, it is NEVER nice to finish with someone but also you need to realise that the longer you keep this going you are wasting her time. you just need to tell her, in person (but to be honest i think on the phone is ok, but ... (read in full...)
He won't give me a chance because I remind him of his ex
Q. I've met a lovely man who like me is getting divorced. We've agreed were attracted to each other but he's now said he doesn't want a relationship because I'm too nice and remind him of his ex wife! What should I do? I've agreed to stay friends ...
A. 16 September 2011: if he is just coming out of a marriage and going through a divorce he may just want a bit of space on his own or dating around for a while rather than getting caught up in another relationship just yet, so yes, it is good if you do the same and not ... (read in full...)
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