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Got family problems going on and me and my boyfriend are fighting constantly

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Question - (31 August 2011) 2 Answers - (Newest, 1 September 2011)
A female United States age 22-25, *adwrold16 writes:

I have been with this guy since Febuary 27th 2011;

I have known him for a long time... I do love him.

I feel so lost with out him. In a way I depend on him alot. But we are constantly fighting. I can not stand it at all. I have so much going on, with my grandma being in the hospital and my grandpa trying to get custody of me; and Im praying he does. I was born in a bad environment. Then I moved here with my grandpa, and I have gotten better. then I started dating this guy... and Im still doing good. But i am carrying so much around with me, and Im tired. we fight over the little things. and He turns them into big things. he can not stand being wrong. he controls me. I love him, But i dont know if i should stay with him or not. should i? I have no idea what to do. I don't want to hurt him. But i have to do what is best for me...

I dont want to make him cry. and he is the kind of guy who says "its not over till I say it is" and I know he loves me. I can see it in his eyes. But it takes two to be in a relationship. not on, and Im excluded from it. and that bothers me. I do every thing I can to make him happy. Like letting him see me every day. he comes to my grandpas everyday, and eats and watches tv. He is very helpful for my grandpa outside. But im stuck inside cleaning my room and everything else. Im so tired. and so exausted. Tell me what I should do.

I cant handle this fighting. Im so tempted to beat him up; this is hard.

Help me!

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A female reader, angelDlite United Kingdom +, writes (1 September 2011):

angelDlite agony auntyou seem stressed with all that is going on with your family, your boyfriend therefore irritates you (stressed people do not have a lot of patience) he is making this worse by insisting on seeing you every night when sometimes you would rather just have a bit of time to yourself. this is why you feel like hitting him. the best thing he can do for you is to see you a bit less, maybe you will both enjoy your time together instead of arguing all the time


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A female reader, Lately United States +, writes (1 September 2011):

Just be friends. If he is this controlling now he will be controlling all the time. If you like him to much to let go then you need to have a serious talk with him. You have your entire life ahead of many people are in this world many people in this many eligible guys you might be interested in ??? The answer is more than however many is in your school. But out of all those eligible guys you..YOU choose to get drained and exhausted and frustrated and it worth it? Is he worth it? Maybe he needs to know that you are worth it and he needs to start treating you better.

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