What makes you keep someone in the FRIENDS ZONE?
Q. More of a vent than a question, but input is appreciated. I am a 42 yo, single parent who has taken a hiatus from dating for awhile. I seem to keep attracting men that just do NOT have their lives together or much to offer other than sex. ...
A. 7 August 2011: people, the point of this this thread seems to have been lost somewhere along the line doesn't it?
the op is not asking for opinions on her writing style of the use of capitals or anything else. please stay on topic or else it makes pretty p... (read in full...)
Can't stop having sex with this ugly girl. HELP!!!
Q. Right now I am currently married. The relationship has fizzled out the last few years. For the past 2 and a half years I have been having sex with this girl Jamie. Shes my age and has a daughter. The problem is that she is got a nice body but she is ...
A. 5 August 2011: i understand, you and the wife are living separate lives then. if you really want to get back on track with her you need to be using your time and energy on working on that, not on ****ing someone else! the chances of reconciliation will be ... (read in full...)
What makes you keep someone in the FRIENDS ZONE?
Q. More of a vent than a question, but input is appreciated. I am a 42 yo, single parent who has taken a hiatus from dating for awhile. I seem to keep attracting men that just do NOT have their lives together or much to offer other than sex. ...
A. 4 August 2011: i think you handled it ok. you have still been nice to him, you could have run a mile in the other direction when he started showing you he liked you, but you didn't! you have never taken your friendship away from him. He is probably well aware of ... (read in full...)
Why arent women hardwired to accept porn if all men are hardwired to watch it?
Q. If all men are "hardwired" to look at porn and women other than their girlfriends or wives then why aren't all women hardwired to be understanding and accepting of this? ...
A. 4 August 2011: lots of women are hard wired to spend vast amount of money on shoes and designer hand bags. Their husbands are unfortunately not hard wired to be happy about it
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He has slowly stopped making any effort with me and told me he is just 'busy'. How do I ask him what is going on?
Q. So I've been seeing this guy for about a month. At first he was all into me telling me how beautiful I was and how he couldn't wait to spend more time with me. We had sex (yes I know it was stupid) bit he reassured me nothing would change in the way ...
A. 4 August 2011: sorry it sounds like this guy sweet talked you into bed then lost interest when he had won his prize. it happens a lot. don't feel bad, you are not 'stupid' you just trusted someone who turned out to not deserve it. see this as a life lesson. be ... (read in full...)
I have lost weight and my breasts look terrible! Help!
Q. Please, i have this problem that is bothering me so much. It may only be aesthetics but its really getting my down. I have always had big breasts, although they have always been in proportion to my frame. They have never been pert, nor have i ever ...
A. 4 August 2011: surgery - a boob lift, though you probably won't get this on the nhs as they are cutting a lot of services and procedures at the moment. to help yourself, try bio-oil to minimise the stretch marks and keep the skin supple and moisturised. take ... (read in full...)
Could I only be considered beautiful if I were white?
Q. Is white beauty the 'ideal'? I'm brown skinned, black haired asian female and I'm getting a bit disillusioned about being brown. Blonde hair, thin lips, blue eyes and all that is meant to be the 'ideal' of beauty and quite frankly without gouging ...
A. 4 August 2011: no white beauty is not the ideal. in every race there are people who range from beautiful looking to ugly as sin. and every individual has their own ideas of what is beautiful and what is not. personality also helps a lot too. if a physically ... (read in full...)
Can't stop having sex with this ugly girl. HELP!!!
Q. Right now I am currently married. The relationship has fizzled out the last few years. For the past 2 and a half years I have been having sex with this girl Jamie. Shes my age and has a daughter. The problem is that she is got a nice body but she is ...
A. 4 August 2011: so you're the one who calls and she agrees to have sex with you whenever you contact her? she is not actively pursuing you? if you really want to stop having sex with her the answer is simple. delete her phone number. the marriage must have died ... (read in full...)
What does it mean for a relationship to 'move forward'?
Q. Yo so I got a question. My girl broke up with me last week because she says our relationship wasnt movin forward. I asked what that meant, I asked if it meant she wanted me to propose marriage. She said no, she didnt mean that, it was just that the ...
A. 4 August 2011: 'we're not moving forward' 'its not you, its me' 'we just want different things' 'it's not what it looks like!' 'the cheque is in the post'
these are the bog standard answers to the difficult questions we sometimes face.
as long as you know... (read in full...)
Is this cheating?
Q. Is it cheating to make a profile on a dating site and chat to singles,with the intent of meeting? I cought my gf doing this and she said it was just to pass time, because she is at home all day doing nothing (I'm the only one that works). What...
A. 3 August 2011: sorry love but it sounds like she has had enough and is looking for someone to replace you. so how well do you actually know this woman? maybe she has used you for a meal ticket for her and her daughter and now you have served your purpose.
i can... (read in full...)
I wish I had never done this and now he is gone!
Q. I dont know what to do,or who to turn to.Ive done a really stupid and selfish thing,made a huge mess. My ex bf and I dated for 3 years,we broke up over a month ago.Im the one who screwed it up,forever.I have a 3 and a half year old daughter.My ...
A. 3 August 2011: you're right, this IS a mess. sounds like your daughters father just made lied about wanting to be a family with you and his daughter, just so he could get into your pants. and the poor guy who was there for you all along was dumped callously via ... (read in full...)
I miss my fun nights out and my friends...what happened to the man I fell in love with?
Q. I need advice with my relationship please! I started going out with my boyfriend 5 months ago and although I love him a lot, I'm already growing frustrated with how he acts sometimes. The man I fell in love with was fun, cheeky and loved going on...
A. 3 August 2011: it is hard to comment on his behaviour coz there is two sides to every story.
maybe when you are out and having a drink with friends you get too loud, too flirty, get too much attention from other men, drink too much and get silly, maybe your fri... (read in full...)
I hate the quarelling between my mom and dad!
Q. Hey there...i think this is a special problem happened to me.here it goes i hate to hear and listen quarreling with my mom and dad about sexual interest conflict at least once a week when he came from work in countryside and he stayed for two days ...
A. 3 August 2011: you're an adult, why not move out so they can have their privacy? if this is not possible have a quiet word with them and just tell them that you hear them argue and i you don't like listening to them shouting about their private stuff
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I hate the quarelling between my mom and dad!
Q. Hey there...i think this is a special problem happened to me.here it goes i hate to hear and listen quarreling with my mom and dad about sexual interest conflict at least once a week when he came from work in countryside and he stayed for two days ...
A. 3 August 2011: you're an adult, why not move out so they can have their privacy? if this is not possible have a quiet word with them and just tell them that you hear them argue and i you don't like listening to them shouting about their private stuff
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The girl he likes on this competition show has a strong resemblance to his ex wife, should I leave him over this?
Q. Me and my bf watch this competition show. we usually pick our favorites. i noticed that the girl he picked has a strong recemblance to his ex wife. when they dont show her enough on the show he starts complaining that they dont show "his girl" ...
A. 3 August 2011: 'you' noticed the girl on the show looks like his ex? does he even agree with you? maybe he has a certain type of girl that he finds attractive, it is fair to say that he found his ex wife attractive is it not? it would be more worrying if he ... (read in full...)
My parents saw some naughty texts exchanged with my boyfriend!
Q. Me and my boyfriend sent a couple of naughty texts to eachother. My parents some how saw them, they're worried about me. I dont no what theyre worried about theyre not mad just worried and i dont no why. They keep asking me what im going to do about ...
A. 3 August 2011: tell her the code then (unless there is more stuff you don't want her to see) get your phone back but then, like i said before you will just have to delete things before they check. it is horrible to be secretive but they have invaded your privacy ... (read in full...)
My parents saw some naughty texts exchanged with my boyfriend!
Q. Me and my boyfriend sent a couple of naughty texts to eachother. My parents some how saw them, they're worried about me. I dont no what theyre worried about theyre not mad just worried and i dont no why. They keep asking me what im going to do about ...
A. 3 August 2011: talk to them about this, put your point across in a mature way and when they really think about it hopefully they will realise how unfair they are being and will give you the phone back. i would probably not trust them to not snoop again if they ... (read in full...)
Is this cheating?
Q. Is it cheating to make a profile on a dating site and chat to singles,with the intent of meeting? I cought my gf doing this and she said it was just to pass time, because she is at home all day doing nothing (I'm the only one that works). What...
A. 3 August 2011: there are other places to chat than dating sites, sorry but this sounds like an excuse. she may not have cheated YET but she is either preparing to, or she is there, like a troll to waste people time and let them think they will get a date out of ... (read in full...)
My parents saw some naughty texts exchanged with my boyfriend!
Q. Me and my boyfriend sent a couple of naughty texts to eachother. My parents some how saw them, they're worried about me. I dont no what theyre worried about theyre not mad just worried and i dont no why. They keep asking me what im going to do about ...
A. 3 August 2011: they have no right to take your phone off you. apart from anything you NEED a mobile for your own safety, like if you are stranded somewhere and need to get in touch. do they not realise that taking away your ability to send naughty texts does not ... (read in full...)
Paranoia is ruining my life, I can't express myself any more
Q. Hey, sorry if this is really long and i'll stay to the point. Basically i think i have social anxiety, it's pretty ovbious but i havent been offically diagnosed with it. I am 14 years old and about 7 months back i suffered an extr...
A. 3 August 2011: you should not have discharged yourself. go back to your doctor and get re-referred to the unit if possible. stay with them until you do not need them anymore.
to combat depression get exercise, just something enjoyable for half an hour a day, i... (read in full...)
I'm worried that my man may be attracted to my good looking sister!
Q. I would like to understand if I am being unreasonable in my conclusions, or if my bf is covering up his blunder. Here’s the details of the situation: 1. My sister, I’ll call DD, is attractive and she has sort of a Betty Boop killer figure. S...
A. 2 August 2011: his response seemed insensitive, amazing how some men's common sense and tact turns to mush when there's a good looking woman around! but maybe you are being hyper-vigilant coz you know your sister is a looker and you know that there has been ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a 19 year old pregnant girl on his hands. What next for our relationship?
Q. So, things are bad and I find myself wishing I hadn't started this mess. I am crazy in love. I have been with this man for 9 months now and I spend almost everyday with him. Needless to say, I'm attached. He is also in love with me. Problem is m...
A. 2 August 2011: what were the circumstances for him getting her pregnant (apart from the obvious!) did he cheat on you or were you on some kind of break?
normally if a man has a pregnant ex or fling, whatever i would say if he wants to be near the child an... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to feel hurt by my boyfriend's decision?
Q. I have been dating my bf for almost 2 years. We went on one vacation over a year ago and always talk about where we can go next. But he always says he would love to travel with me but he can't go but doesn't have money and time off work. He was ...
A. 2 August 2011: it seems to me like this guy's got a ready answer for everything. you have taken him back and given him a chance to prove he's grown up and changed? - how's he doing so far?
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Why wont the doctors help me? what is going on with me?
Q. ok before evryone tells me to go to a doctor, iv already been but seem to be getting nowhere. iv already tried swapping doctors and getting a second opinion but because of my catchment area, the surgery wont let me see another doctor... right, long ...
A. 2 August 2011: that's great news. hope it goes well for you at the gynae and they get you sorted out
best wishes
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Is it okay for a beautiful woman to be narcissistic, rude and conceited?
Q. Right so I have this friend who is a woman. She's gorgeous. At first I fancied her a bit, but we soon realized it would not work. So we've remained mates. Thing is, she gets very conceited at times. She tells me these stories about guys she date...
A. 2 August 2011: nah, she may be beautiful on the outside but she sounds ugly on the inside. you are getting nothing out of being friends with a spoilt princess like her. being gorgeous is not what has made her like this, it is people like yourself who enable this ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to feel hurt by my boyfriend's decision?
Q. I have been dating my bf for almost 2 years. We went on one vacation over a year ago and always talk about where we can go next. But he always says he would love to travel with me but he can't go but doesn't have money and time off work. He was ...
A. 2 August 2011: its fine to feel hurt by this, he has more or less promised you a holiday together and then just gone back on his word when something 'better' came up. its fine to let him know you are pissed off about this and it is good that you have a holiday ... (read in full...)
My parents saw some naughty texts exchanged with my boyfriend!
Q. Me and my boyfriend sent a couple of naughty texts to eachother. My parents some how saw them, they're worried about me. I dont no what theyre worried about theyre not mad just worried and i dont no why. They keep asking me what im going to do about ...
A. 2 August 2011: don't break up with him if you don't want to. parents are not happy when they realise that their child has grown into a sexual adult, but as long as the texts were not detailing any dangerous sexual practices then they need to just get over it and ... (read in full...)
He promised not to move away but I have seen a link to a website for a job in Australia! I don't want a LDR, so what should I do?
Q. I have been with my bf for over a year now. he is at uni studying engineering and doesnt know where he wants to work when he graduates, but he knows that he doesnt want to stay in the uk all his life. When he graduates next year, I will still ha...
A. 2 August 2011: " i have judt seen a message that was sent to my bf giving him the website to apply if he is interested"
was this message sent to him by the friend who is going to Aus? of course that mate will want your BF to go too so they have got a buddy to... (read in full...)
Dating problems!
Q. I have a problem with dating, im over 20 now but cant speak of any relationship at any point in my life; though i've made some attempts before it all lead to nowhere as we crash even before we start. Its a long story but plz, bear with me and ...
A. 2 August 2011: you're not emotionally cold or else you wouldn't care about this and be here asking for help. you are maybe not as affectionate as they would like, maybe they just want too much coz they are needy or maybe you could do with being a bit more relaxed ... (read in full...)
Why wont the doctors help me? what is going on with me?
Q. ok before evryone tells me to go to a doctor, iv already been but seem to be getting nowhere. iv already tried swapping doctors and getting a second opinion but because of my catchment area, the surgery wont let me see another doctor... right, long ...
A. 2 August 2011: ok so the scan was normal, but its obviously not normal to have no period for this long. go back and ask for a referral to gynaecology . if the GP refuses put a written complaint into the surgery's practice manager. they are then obliged to look ... (read in full...)
I sent a text saying I was breaking up with him but he didn't respond. What does that mean?
Q. Hi,im going out with this guy at first it was so great we would go out every weekend until some months ago he stoped going out with me and when i ask were he was, he says i was with the guys.im fed up with it told him wanted to talk but his been ...
A. 1 August 2011: it may mean that as you broke up with him by text (very bad etiquette!) that you don't deserve a reply. if you broke up with him, why do you care? you got what you wanted, move on with your life now
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Unhappy in my marriage. Should I leave for a 70yr old man or is he too old?
Q. Should I stay or go? I'm soon really soon to be 50. August 12th. I've been married to a man a was very much in love with for 8 years. He has always looked at porn said that what he does when I'm not home is none of my business. He stopped touching ...
A. 1 August 2011: if you are not happy with your current man and you have feelings for the 70 year old and you are sure he is genuine about all the stuff he has promised you and how he tells you he feels about you then i think you should be with the 70 year old. if ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is working 7 days a week and never has time to see me! I'm worried it's just an excuse.....
Q. i've been with my bf for 3years. and for the past 1 year i find that his behaviour is changing. each time i want to spent time with him, he will keep on giving me excuses such as i'm busy with work. i'm so tired. when we 1st noe each other we always ...
A. 1 August 2011: sorry but it sounds like you are wasting your time with this man. he never wants to see you but he cannot tell you, maybe he is scared of your reaction, or he does not want to hurt you by ending the relationship or maybe he is happy to keep you in ... (read in full...)
Baby dreams at the age of 16?
Q. Hey I'm 15 and i really want a baby I'm an honour student and I'm responsible.I have thought about this so many times before, about how am i going to work with school. My friends say that I would make a great mother because I'm caring and sweet ...
A. 1 August 2011: why the rush? you have got a lot of life ahead of you, enjoy your youth and freedom a bit longer. being good with other peoples kids is a hell of a lot different than dealing the hard slog of dealing with your own babies, who you don't get to hand ... (read in full...)
Am I just insecure? Will it make a difference if I lose weight? I want to attract a G/f.
Q. I'm really not crazy about the way I look and I'm trying to find a girlfriend. I've never had one before nor even kissed a girl. I feel that something is stopping me. I'm a nice guy, and outgoing, the problem is that I am very insecure when it come...
A. 1 August 2011: do you know what your BMI is? but also remember, some people have more muscle content though so you cannot really judge your body just by what a set of scales say. if you are sure that you are overweight, and get the opinion of a couple of trusted ... (read in full...)
Is life 'uncomplicated' for singletons?
Q. Single life, we are told in any case, is the life of riley. However, if you look at the questions on this website and were too do a survey of the martial status of the questioners I bet just as many would turn out to be single as do attached, in ...
A. 1 August 2011: after a long career in disastrous relationships i am having a well earned break and couldn't be happier - i never thought i would say that. there are things that us singletons miss out on, vacations are the biggest thing i miss coz my friends go on ... (read in full...)
Husband mistreats me and now he's dying. I'm not sure how to handle things
Q. my husband call me bitch whore tells me i cant cook tells me im not allowed to touch his money tell me im a fat useless bitch infrontvod my kids, i did leave him but after 5mths took him back thinkingbhe had changed he shouts at me all the time ...
A. 31 July 2011: don't feel guilty. he has made you resent him. he CHOSE to be abusive to you. now you have your feelings and you are entitled to them.
when you say you wish he would die sooner, if you really don't want to be with him you should leave. if you feel... (read in full...)
Will I ever quit feeling like he's hiding something from me
Q. I caught my boyfriend looking at internet porn and some of it was illegal. After confronting him and forgiving him, things seem fine. I am able to search his internet history (complete history, including anything he might delete or look...
A. 31 July 2011: his computer might be clean as a whistle but the fact is that you caught him in the past looking at something of a disturbing nature, now that you know what his tastes are you cannot trust him. this is NOT your fault, its his. what you are really ... (read in full...)
What is wrong with the male species?
Q. I would prefer if Men answered this but any answers I get i will be grateful I,m sick and tired of men using me. I only ever kissed 3 men before and when we text they just seem less interested and then they just stop texting me. Now i can admit ...
A. 31 July 2011: you just haven't met the right one, by being overweight you are limiting the number of men who will be interested (sorry, but its true!) so do something about it - get fit, healthy and confident!
slim gorgeous women meet idiots and players ... (read in full...)
Am I experiencing a phantom pregnancy?
Q. Recently my body has been acting REALLY weirdly. My stomach has bloated out by a HUGE amount (I keep getting asked if I'm pregnant it's that bad) and it's rock hard. I honestly look 6 months pregnant. I'm getting cravings for strawberries, my boobs ...
A. 31 July 2011: don't want to worry you but i would definitely see a doctor tomorrow. tell them your symptoms and let them examine you
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Can eating ice make you gain weight?
Q. Hi, I know this isn't a relationship question but I need a serious answer as I can't find one on google. I have gained a stone in the last year and I'm worried its because of my addiction to ice? I'm very active, I don't have time for 'exercis...
A. 31 July 2011: no. ice is just frozen water, so does not contain calories in fact it can burn calories coz it makes your body 'work' to bring itself back up to the right temperature.
if your diet and exercise level has remained the same but you are now gain... (read in full...)
Settling down......
Q. I need some advice about 'settling down' Okay so I'm 25 and my whole life pretty much ive been single. This is because I live in a fantasy world. I believe in a romance with a guy I'm attracted to and wana share my most intimate life stories with. ...
A. 31 July 2011: this is a shame and it happens a lot! that butterflies feeling you are looking for, does wear off when you have been with the guy for some time but in its place real love has (or hopefully) will have grown. why aren't you attracted to this nice ... (read in full...)
I really like this guy but think he is not interested...should I delete his number?
Q. Why didnt he reply? is he just not interested? i like him alot.? I really like this guy work. He stares at me when am not looking, he smiles whenever we talk and he's very friendly with me. I gave him my number and he rang me and ta...
A. 31 July 2011: no need to delete his number. just act normal tomorrow, don't be shitty with him coz that will just ruin everything between you. there could be loads of reasons why he has not replied, maybe he did not even get your text, it CAN happen. some ... (read in full...)
Am I experiencing a phantom pregnancy?
Q. Recently my body has been acting REALLY weirdly. My stomach has bloated out by a HUGE amount (I keep getting asked if I'm pregnant it's that bad) and it's rock hard. I honestly look 6 months pregnant. I'm getting cravings for strawberries, my boobs ...
A. 31 July 2011: get a pregnancy test. not everyone has morning sickness. when we crave a food it can be because our bodies are deficient in certain vitamins and minerals that certain food can provide, or maybe you are convincing yourself that you are having a ... (read in full...)
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