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I am about to start a mixed-sex school. Please give me some tips on talking to girls

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Question - (31 August 2011) 5 Answers - (Newest, 25 October 2011)
A male Ireland age 18-21, anonymous writes:

Hi im 13 years old and just after going to secondary school from an all boys school but ive never talked to a girl before and get nervous when around them and icant even talk to them please give advice on how to talk to a girl

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A female reader, chocogirl United Kingdom +, writes (25 October 2011):

i'm around your age too. really all you've got to do is be yourself. talking to girls shouldn't be too different from talking to boys. just remember to be courteous and nice. if you are funny or sexy those are pluses. If you can just hold a conversation with a girl for a minute without it getting boring, you have definitely achieved something good. it's easier than it seems!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2011):

I'm acctually the same age, and a girl . haha

It's easy talking to girls . Be yourself . And try not to make it 'awkward' ... if that makes sense. By 'awkward' i meen , if you're gonna try to talk to a girl , keep the conversation going as long as possible, talk about random things , and be funny. Girls love it when guys are funnny !

Soon enough , when you guys start to know eachother really good , you'll know exactly what to talk about.

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A female reader, shrodingerscat United States +, writes (31 August 2011):

shrodingerscat agony auntTalk with them the same way you would with your guy friends.

Girls are HUMAN BEINGS, just like you. They may seem mysterious or hard to understand, but they suffer through a huge range of the same exact programs that you do. They get nervous when talking to boys, too! But remember, they're people. Treat them as such. Try and relax.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2011):

Here is the big one, the one that so many guys spend years learning: Making friends with a girl for a while first is not the way to get into her pants later on.

Becoming her non-sexual "friend" is easy and low-risk but it is counterproductive in the long run. If you want to be sexual with her then you need to let her know you feel that way about her before you have known her very long.

Google the terms "Friend Zone" and "Ladder Theory" to understand the whole principle better. There are always lots of exceptions to any rule about people but this stuff applies to at least the majority of girls.

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A female reader, angelDlite United Kingdom +, writes (31 August 2011):

angelDlite agony auntyou are just experiencing 'a fear of the unknown' once you start mingling with girls at school you will learn they are not really aliens. just talk to them like you talk to lads, it will become second nature to you so don't worry. practice by talking lots to the unattractive girls, if you find them less intimidating

good luck


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