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We chatted online, why wont he talk to me face to face?

Q.   Just met this guys who is really nice and I think I might like him alot. He added me on the Facebook and we started chatting, we have loads in common and I think he wants to be more then friends. However, when I see him around in college he do...

A.   4 October 2011: maybe deep down he is not as confident as he appears. he jokes around with people at college and this can sometimes be a way for less confident people to put on an act that makes them look and feel better. he could be nervous about having a one to ... (read in full...)

He says he is over his love who died 8 years ago but I don't trust him!

Q.   Hi.. whoever is reading this I do hope I can get some good advice or some kind of understanding as to why I feel the way I'm feeling at the moment! I met a wonderful Man back in July 11 -still together.He has not had any sort of relationship in the ...

A.   4 October 2011: you are not being fair to him to keep questioning him about this. you know that the problems lie within yourself don't you? you went into the relationship being untrusting because of what happened to you in the past. you are jealous of this dec... (read in full...)

How to be in solitude and heal from heartbreak

Q.   So I've learned now that I am not worth that much to my husband and in a great deal of pain. I'm very depressed and lonely. I am not ready to leave this relationship at this time. I don't want another man in my life and I don't want to make friends. ...

A.   4 October 2011: i think you will find this harder while you are still sharing the house with your husband. is it not possible that one of you can move out? you know what you need, time alone and it is good that you recognise this. some people would be desperately ... (read in full...)

I don't think I took my b/c pill when I had unprotected sex!

Q.   hi, i have been taking my pill as normal, about 5 days in i had unprotected sex then today, about 4 days later i found one of my pills on the floor... it can only be from this month as i just moved out. i will be taking a pregnancy test when i a...

A.   3 October 2011: depends what sort of pill you are on for a start, the 'mini pill' offers less protection than the combined one. don't wait and throw it to chance until you can do a pregnancy test. you should see your doctor or family planning clinic about ... (read in full...)

Burning and cutting down below. allergic to semen? help!

Q.   i am absolutely fed up. i always get a burning, splintering, cutting sensation during sex and after my boyfriend has ejaculated. it is worse after ejaculation and so unbearable i cry. my whole vagina swells and goes red and puffy. ive been to ...

A.   3 October 2011: do you think that maybe you are tensing up too much and this is making sex painful and the area sore afterwards? has this happened with previous partners or just him? if you think you may be allergic to his semen, try using a condom and see does ... (read in full...)

His antidepressant medication is ruining our sex life

Q.   Hi there My boyfriend suffered from depression for a few months and was subsequently put on sertraline. While he was on it we had an active sex life, however he had difficulty maintaining an erection and achieving orgasm. He also was unable to sl...

A.   3 October 2011: the sexual side effect of this drug can still be present a long time after stopping the medication, even years. maybe he is feeling depressed again after stopping the medication, in which case this could be the reason he is not into sex at the ... (read in full...)

Just Wondering, how much does the average wedding cost?

Q.   Hey Aunts! I was just wondering how much weddings cost these days, the whole church, reception, flowers, dress etcetc. On average? I'm from England so preferably '£' please, but I'll figure it out in dollars or other :P Thank you!!...

A.   3 October 2011: there is no average wedding. mine cost £20 for a gold ring, £78 for the licence, food in a pub afterwards, no new clothes, no special car, no honeymoon. very basic, but still a wedding! then you get the other end of the scale - gypsy weddings which ... (read in full...)

Can I make myself taller?

Q.   m 22 yrs old n my height is 5.4 inch only.. Is there another way to increase my height .. Plz suggest me How to increase my height?...

A.   3 October 2011: i don't think you can as at 22 you will have grown to your full height now. i suppose all you can do is to wear shoes and sneakers which have a thicker sole and maybe style your hair in a spiked up style. this will make you look taller. also make ... (read in full...)

How can I belive that my boyfriend really loves me?

Q.   My boyfriend tells me that he loves me. When ever I go out with him, and some cute girls comes around us, he keeps looking at her many times. He thinks that I don't see him looking at other women. One time I mentioned him about it but he gave me ...

A.   3 October 2011: how is the rest of the relationship, aside from him looking at other women? if he treats you with respect, looks after you, is mostly always there when you need him, helps you, doesn't take you for granted, is interested in you and your life, is not ... (read in full...)

Why would she delete that other guy's comment from her Facebook wall? What could she be up to?

Q.   A girl I met recently added me to Facebook and we had a 2-3 hr conversation on fb. I've met her a couple of times and both times she was very nice and laughed at all my jokes and all that usual stuff. On the second time I met her I even touched her ...

A.   3 October 2011: if the convo with the other guy was there before you and her chatted and now it is gone this could mean that she doesn't want you to know in case you get jealous about her chatting to other guys. she likes you and doesn't want anything to cause a ... (read in full...)

I knew my teacher liked me...now he's at another school should I email him?

Q.   So last year I was a junior and there was a certain English teacher/coach I has a crush on. I didnt have him as a teacher because he taught freshman english.He's a very young teacher not much of an age difference. Well last year He had overheard my ...

A.   3 October 2011: i suppose there is no harm in a friendly email, but do remember that until you are 18 he legally cannot get into a relationship with you. teachers are not allowed to date minors, even though he is not YOUR teacher anymore. you say he likes you- are ... (read in full...)

How do I get to the bottom of the real reason behind our breakup?

Q.   My boyfriend of 5 years broke up with me 2 days ago. We lived together (for 3 years now). I moved out immediatly and now live at my parents. It all started about 2 weeks ago. I told him I felt like he was not really happy to see me (he would no...

A.   3 October 2011: sweetheart there is really nothing you can DO about it. you just need to accept that its over, accept that its a waste of time trying to get the truth out of someone who is being shady and accept that you make your own closure - it does not have to ... (read in full...)

Is my B/f telling me the truth when he says he calls his ex "darling" more out of habit that feelings for her?

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for a year now. He was previously married for 20 years and has 2 children from this relationship. We were invited to his daughter's birthday party which I was ok (within reason)to go to. I knew when I got together with ...

A.   3 October 2011: i think your boyfriend senses that you are insecure about the fact that he has had a long marriage prior to meeting you. there should have been no need to warn you before going into the party that he might slip up and call her darling. there should ... (read in full...)

Do girls like sweetheart guys?

Q.   Do girls like sweetheart guys? I'm still single and I feel like I can't harm anyone, I would drive my girlfriend home from school or work etc. I would pay for meals, when shes cold I would warm her with a nice hug and might even offer her my jacket. ...

A.   3 October 2011: you may be trying too hard and that can put girls off. show them you are a man, not a puppy. i think you sound an absolute darling but i am 39 and have had my share of horror-bags now so i would appreciate stuff like this but to be honest, at 16 i ... (read in full...)

How do I deal with feeling so Betrayed? My husband told family intimate details of our sex life.

Q.   My husband recently told my family that I let him try anal sex. This was really rude, disrespectful, and certainly uncalled for on my part. I am really upset that he felt it was 'ok' to share this private and personal information with my family of a...

A.   3 October 2011: erm, are you married to a teenager?? has he explained to you what on earth made him want to tell your family? if he is telling THEM stuff like this i dread to think what he tells his buddies about your private life. very disrespectful. very ... (read in full...)

Am I being used for money, sex, and transportation or am I seriously being paranoid and over-reactive?

Q.   So my boyfriend and I have been together for almost five months. At first everything was great he announced us being together on Facebook and all that. But one day he suddenly set his status to single. I didn't make a big deal out of it because I ...

A.   3 October 2011: he is keeping his options open by looking to the facebook community like he is a single guy. of course he will see you every night while you are paying for everything, driving him around and having sex with him. he will only give these perks up ... (read in full...)

I don't want to lose my online guy!

Q.   i have been talking to this online guy for 7 months over phone everynight for hours. we laugh and joke and sometimes have phone sex. I know everything about his family, ex etc and he talks to me when sad. He told me he likes me alot . the last ...

A.   2 October 2011: he talks to you for something to do. sorry. i have have had men like this this and yeah, its nice at the time but a phone relationship is not like an 'in person' one. your voice keeps him company in the evenings. if he rang a sex chat line it would ... (read in full...)

Why would this guy still be on the dating site? I feel so used and disillusioned!

Q.   I met a guy last week from a dating site for the first time. We had an amazing time and had sex which was fantastic! Of course this all sounds quick, but I believe it was the right thing to do at the time even though we only knew each other couple ...

A.   2 October 2011: all you can do is use this is a lesson in how NOT to date! you slept with him too soon (sometimes it can work out for people but for you and him, it really doesn't look like it will) you FELT you knew him well enough but really, you didn't did you?... (read in full...)

Is it because of age factor or something else? Please help me

Q.   i fell in love with a girl, who was just 15-year-old when i was 22. It has been more than 1 year having this relationship. She is about to be 17 in october 22 and i have been 24 lately. She loves me alot. She claims to love me more than all the ...

A.   2 October 2011: before you get into relationship with any women you need to look at WHY you are like this. this problem is not just going to go away. it is not because of your age difference, it is not because she is easy to abuse and she forgives you. it is ... (read in full...)

Nearly a year with him and he's never given me oral sex!

Q.   ive been with my boyfriend nearly a yr and hes never given me oral sex!! he doesnt even talk bout it!! its the same old thing, nothing spontaneous we just watch tv go to bed, light goes off he gets on me does his business and says i feel better now ...

A.   30 September 2011: if he doesn't like oral he should not have to do it. i can't imagine i would like it if i was a bloke or a lesbian! can you talk to him about his reluctance and find out why? is it just inexperience that makes him not want to do it? maybe he has ... (read in full...)

I'm shocked at how ugly I look in our home-made porn film

Q.   I know this will sound like a stupid problem, but here it goes. My boyfriend had an idea last weekend, to record ourselves having sex with his phone. He sent me the videos, because he said they were a huge turn on and that he loved them. But I ...

A.   30 September 2011: you think your orgasm face looks terrible but to your boyfriend he probably loves it and finds it his favourite face! the more wild looking the better, it shows that you are totally lost in the moment so you are not even thinking what you look like ... (read in full...)

I think my boyfriend is shooting blanks

Q.   Hey guys I need a little help... Me and my boyfriend have been trying for a baby for 3 months now and wev still not got pregnant Im 21 and already have 2 kids from a previous relationship and my boyfriends 30 and doesnt have any kids Iv been pr...

A.   29 September 2011: tell him to go to the doctors and ask for a semen analysis to be sent. tell him to pack the fags in (they greatly reduce a man's fertility) he needs to eat healthy to optimise his chances too. could be that the men you were with before had a much ... (read in full...)

She saved herself for marriage, but we went too far! She's been crying for days!

Q.   I was an arse. I've been with this woman for a year and she has been saving herself for marriage. Last week, she asked me to let her experience only a bit of myself and I impulsively took her. She hasn't stopped crying for days. She says she lov...

A.   29 September 2011: sorry, but i think you are being manipulated by her. she wants to wait til marriage? fine, but why ask you to slip a bit in and then cry when you push it in too far? i don't see how anyone can be that naive that they would expect you to slip it in ... (read in full...)

Is it a good idea to get pregnant, aged 16?

Q.   im 16 and me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 months we've been sexually active for 2 months straight and well he has told me he wants to have a baby. i dont really want to have a baby right now because im going through some legal problems ...

A.   29 September 2011: i am so glad that you have paid attention to the advice you have received and that you have had a re-think. please do not let your boyfriend persuade or bully you into having a baby (as it seems to me that it is primarily HIS wish, not yours!) you ... (read in full...)

Ladies, which do you prefer - the cook or the dancer?

Q.   Just out of curiosity to all the women out there, which do you prefer - a man who knows his way around the kitchen or a man who knows his way around the dance floor? And why? (I'm just taking a poll of sorts after an interesting discussion among...

A.   28 September 2011: the cook, definitely! when i don't feel like cooking i would rather have a man who says 'don't you worry, i will make dinner' than someone who says 'look at this!' and does a dance in front of me, and then i end up having to make the dinner anyway! ... (read in full...)

I feel like I am competing with her kids and her ex

Q.   Is it screwed up to feel as though you are sharing someone with kids and an ex? As though they're never fully yours and always belong to an ex. Its so tough to admit it though. ...

A.   28 September 2011: ah, well really there should not be a reason that he is like this towards you, unless he somehow thinks that you were on the scene while they were still together. what does your girlfriend say about this? did he ever accuse her of seeing someone ... (read in full...)

I feel like I am competing with her kids and her ex

Q.   Is it screwed up to feel as though you are sharing someone with kids and an ex? As though they're never fully yours and always belong to an ex. Its so tough to admit it though. ...

A.   28 September 2011: i wouldn't worry about this. lots of people are just not friendly and maybe he feels as awkward coming out to the car as you would feel getting out of the car and going to his door. you and the ex really don't need to have any interaction with each ... (read in full...)

Is it a good idea to get pregnant, aged 16?

Q.   im 16 and me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 months we've been sexually active for 2 months straight and well he has told me he wants to have a baby. i dont really want to have a baby right now because im going through some legal problems ...

A.   28 September 2011: no, still not a good idea. you are very young and have your life ahead of you, plenty of time to have babies when you have enjoyed your youth a bit longer. if you get pregnant you will regret it, i think i can guarantee that! especially when you ... (read in full...)

Getting uncomfortable with my boyfriends increasing voyeuristic interests...am I make too much of this?

Q.   I am starting to become uncomfortable with my boyfriend’s increasing voyeuristic interests. After many years of a sexless marriage, I am divorced and in an exclusive relationship with the greatest guy in the world. We are incredibly in love with ...

A.   27 September 2011: i think your boyfriend is just trying to see how far he can push the sexual boundaries in your relationship. he is fortunate that he has someone who is adventurous enough to do the things you have been, but now he is just getting greedy. i am sure ... (read in full...)

I feel like I am competing with her kids and her ex

Q.   Is it screwed up to feel as though you are sharing someone with kids and an ex? As though they're never fully yours and always belong to an ex. Its so tough to admit it though. ...

A.   27 September 2011: a bit more info would be helpful. briefly though, i will just say that being with someone who has children already is really not for everyone. it is lots more complicated than getting with someone who has no kids and an ex still in the picture. if ... (read in full...)

Is it a good idea to get pregnant, aged 16?

Q.   im 16 and me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 months we've been sexually active for 2 months straight and well he has told me he wants to have a baby. i dont really want to have a baby right now because im going through some legal problems ...

A.   27 September 2011: i don't think i can add anything to the common sense answers below. just to re-iterate - no, this is definitely NOT a good idea and i hope you come to your senses - and quick! as your mother will probably be the one who would end up helping you ... (read in full...)

How much trouble would we be in if we have sex at a movie theatre and get caught?

Q.   I am 19 and I have been with my bf Brett for 2 yrs. Our 2 yr anniversary is on wednesday and I wanted to do something special so I asked him what he would like to do. I was kinda shocked when he sadi he had 2 things he had always wanted to do the ...

A.   27 September 2011: it is called 'lewd conduct' and you could be prosecuted, have your names in the local press and end up a laughing stock and an embarrassment to your family. i am sure there are clubs you can go to if you are into this, where like minded people will ... (read in full...)

How do I stop becoming bitter?

Q.   After you have been burned by someone, how do you stop from becoming bitter and cynical about love? I still feel my heart becoming harder. And anger and frustration dampening my hope and enthusiasm so that I do not believe in love anymore. What...

A.   27 September 2011: you just have to keep remembering that not all women(?) are the same. yes there are some utterly rotten people in the world who will delight in f***ing you over.... there are also some gems who will love you and give you everything you are looking ... (read in full...)

After seeing his emails I feel like I can be replaced

Q.   my Bf left his fb open on my pc... i didn't realize it was his at first clicked on the messages and saw that he was in serious contact with his ex... to the point of lending her 2500.00 to get a place... she is having issues with her man etc... same ...

A.   27 September 2011: has he told you he is in contact with her or is he doing it all sneakily? you say he logs on and chats with her after a fight with you- are the fights frequent? what i mean is - are you sure your relationship is a compatible one? the thing that ... (read in full...)

Is it because I don't like him or because it's all so new?

Q.   So I met this guy who was a massive player, he would flirt with me and boast about how many women he's had, in response I would laugh at him and tell him what a loser I thought he was. Time passed, he kept calling me and eventually he as...

A.   27 September 2011: don't try to force yourself to love this guy back, just coz he has said it to you! your intuition and knowledge about his past behaviour should not be ignored. you say he has acted like a pig and he is really trying to change to fit in with your ... (read in full...)

How common is it for women to have sex because they think it will help "catch" a guy?

Q.   I realize this is a very broad question, and every woman is different so there's no single "right" answer, but I'm curious what people's general thoughts are? To what extent do women have sex because they think it will help them catch a guy? I r...

A.   27 September 2011: this implies that women do not really like having sex but they tolerate it in order the manipulate a man. i don't agree, in all cases. there is a mixture of women in the world - some have it because they love sex, even with guys they do not love, ... (read in full...)

How do I deal with my husbands family

Q.   I have been married for 4 years to a very kind and loving man but I do not get on with his family. His family take the mickey out of me and call me posh and snigger about me behind my back. We come from very different social backgrounds and they go ...

A.   26 September 2011: i think that what started as mickey taking has now escalated into them believing you really do think you are better than them because you now go out of your way to avoid them. that does make you look very aloof (to them) i'm afraid. peopl... (read in full...)

Is it realistic for me to want to date a guy of a certain build when I know I'll never be that slender myself?

Q.   so am so attracted to really tall thin lanky guys... not stick thin but like a naturally thin guy. Like an "Adam Levine", "John Mayer", "Jared Followill" type of thin looking guy. Thing is I am nowhere near thin. I have never been thin...wont ever ...

A.   26 September 2011: lots of people have a certain type, it is not wrong to have preference and if your preferred type looks nothing like you then so what? lots of skinny lads like bigger girls anyway x... (read in full...)

I left in the middle of the night after sex, now he never wants to hear from me!

Q.   Hey everyone, about a month ago I started seeing this guy and he was an absolute sweetheart to me and things were going well... Anyway, last night we went on a date and we planned that I would stay at his house for the night. We had sex multiple...

A.   26 September 2011: hmm, not sure about this. if he really liked you why would he want to just bin you like that just for leaving in the middle of the night? you might have had a really important reason. he could have at least asked you for why and heard you out, ... (read in full...)

Getting close to my daughter's dad again and I'm so confused

Q.   My ex bf Josh and I have a 5 yr old daughter together. We started dating when I was 16 yrs old and he was 18 yrs old. I got pregnant when I was 19 (she wasn't planned). We mutally decided to break up 2 yrs ago. I'm not really sure why we decided to, ...

A.   26 September 2011: well i hope your friends and family are pleased for you, i suppose some of them will be worried also but remind them that NOBODY gets a guarantee with their relationship. you have good as good a chance as any though coz you have been a couple ... (read in full...)

I'm 13 and I have feelings for a 20 year old man

Q.   So im 13 going to be 14 and there is this guy that i like but hes 20 and he knows that i like him and he says im not supposed to but i seriously like him i can't stop thinking about him. He always listens to my problems and try's to protect me. He ...

A.   26 September 2011: so he is in a teacher role. if he gets further involved with you by dating you, he can say goodbye to the chance of any job like this in the future coz he will never be allowed to work with kids again. it sounds though like you are the one who is ... (read in full...)

Getting close to my daughter's dad again and I'm so confused

Q.   My ex bf Josh and I have a 5 yr old daughter together. We started dating when I was 16 yrs old and he was 18 yrs old. I got pregnant when I was 19 (she wasn't planned). We mutally decided to break up 2 yrs ago. I'm not really sure why we decided to, ...

A.   26 September 2011: yeah i know what you mean about changing things and your daughter being hurt if things don't work out. maybe you could keep things low key in front of her. just date him, don't have him move in with you or stay the night until you are sure you can ... (read in full...)

Getting close to my daughter's dad again and I'm so confused

Q.   My ex bf Josh and I have a 5 yr old daughter together. We started dating when I was 16 yrs old and he was 18 yrs old. I got pregnant when I was 19 (she wasn't planned). We mutally decided to break up 2 yrs ago. I'm not really sure why we decided to, ...

A.   26 September 2011: why not give things another shot? you say you don't know why you broke up in the first place so there is obviously no big issue or problem that caused the break up. maybe it was just the age of you both and the responsibility of a child together ... (read in full...)

I'm 13 and I have feelings for a 20 year old man

Q.   So im 13 going to be 14 and there is this guy that i like but hes 20 and he knows that i like him and he says im not supposed to but i seriously like him i can't stop thinking about him. He always listens to my problems and try's to protect me. He ...

A.   26 September 2011: a DECENT 20 year old man would not be interested romantically in a girl of your age. if he IS interested romantically in you it means he is a PAEDOPHILE - there is no other word for him, so if this is the case you really need to keep away from ... (read in full...)

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