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I've added some new quotes today (but also kept the earlier ones below)
And the next two quotes are from a wise Uncle on this site called BrownWolf http://www.dearcupid.org/people/brownwolf
“I very thankful for the ounce of common sense I have...because sense is not that common. :) “
"Stay away from foolish people; they have nothing to teach you."
That quote about foolish people from BrownWolf is so true. A weak person cannot be trusted. With a strong person you have more certainty, they are not afraid to stand up and be counted when they are needed.
And I especially like BrownWolf's first quote above on common sense and so I asked BrownWolf for permission to replicate it here. BrownWolf then generously offered the second quote, above, as well.
When you meet a person for the first time, then imagine they are facing their biggest challenge ever:
With this mind-set it reminds us to be kind and use empathy because we can never truly know the extent of personal challenges a person is currently facing.
Badgering a person and humiliation with unreasonable demands for "I have to know" is more likely to harm than help. We do not "have to know". Be kind. Listen carefully and remain supportive. Then the person will willingly reveal more and feel safe to reveal more again.
We can never assume that things are much easier than things are for ourselves.
It encourages one to listen carefully and employ empathy in our dealings with others.
In life we face many things. But with each challenge we can grow a little stronger. When you meet a person with great strength of character it is possible that they grew that strength as a result of some very tough obstacles and some personal tragedies.
Never underestimate such a person.
Strength does not imply brutality nor cruelty and often not even physical strength.
A truly strong person will never seek to harm another. They know their strength and they know that kindness will move mountains more easily than brutality.
Then there is one of my favourites: Sun Tzu.
The wisdom of Sun Tzu is still as fresh as the day he wrote it 4000 years ago:
“A leader leads by example not by force. “
And now some less well known quotes:
“It is much more valuable to look for the strength in others. You can gain nothing by criticizing their imperfections.”
by Daisaku Ikeda
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”
by Maya Angelou
“Challenges are what will make us stronger.”
by Zainab Alsaati
Respect other people's feelings. Even if it doesn't mean anything to you, it could mean everything to them. (quoted by many, but generally considered to be by 'unknown')
'As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do.'.....Andrew Carnegie
I also respect the Chinese idea of "face" - there is no need to humiliate people. It demeans the one doing the demeaning. there are better ways to call a person to account with dignity. Focus on the Issue when there is a problem rather than be accusatory to the person
'Spilled water is hard to regain' (fù shu nán shou)
"Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt,
kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate." .....Albert Schweitzer
'A sunny disposition is worth more than fortune.
Young people should know that it can be cultivated; that the mind like the body can be moved from the shade into sunshine'. .Andrew Carnegie
"We will not be remembered by our words, but by our kind deeds." ... Author Unknown, from A Great Life Lesson
“It always seems impossible until it's done.”... Nelson Mandella
"Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless." .....Mother Teresa
"Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough." .....Franklin D. Roosevelt
'Teamwork is the ability to work together toward a common vision. It is the fuel that allows common people to attain uncommon results.'...Andrew Carnegie
what's your favourite quote?
But all is not sweetness, kindness and light in this complex world.
There really are afflicted and inadequate people in this world who get their pleasure from deliberately trying to hurt others.
They do this out of an inflated sense of their importance in the scheme of things. They feel entitled to be mean to others. They have become arrogant over the years.
Yet they are not the strong individuals they think they are. Instead they are passive aggressive bullies.
There are those afflicted with traits that are so petty and unkind that one wonders what has happened to make them that way?
Their arrogance will not allow them to step back and get help for their afflictions.
Instead, like a bull in a china shop, they just keep on head butting harder and harder, using the same tactics they've been using for years to try to get their own way.
What traits cause the problems for such insecure arrogant persons with an inflated sense of entitlement?
Here are a few of the afflictions that continually cause problems in their relationships:
Negativity?
Passive Aggression?
Being Hate filled towards those they see as ''less'' than themselves = everyone?
Envy
Jealousy
For those afflicted with those horrible traits all I can feel for these tormented souls is pity that they are beset with such inadequacies and negativity.
The traits result in them concocting a lie that they are the victims, when in reality they are instead the bullies, the overly judgmental and nasty arrogant persons who enjoy hurting others.
Just feel sorry for them and their inadequate responses.
Then go forth and find things to enjoy in life. Find the positive, find ways to be supportive and kind to others. It is win win in every way on all sides.
Turn your back on cruel unkind and bitter people. Leave them to scheme alone. Their negativity causes their faces to betray their bitterness within.
Their hearts harden and they wonder why others can be so unaffected by all their schemes to hurt others. They are the losers who think their nastiness towards others is justified. |
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Why do I lose confidence in my ability to do public speaking?
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I know you are hurting really really bad. But the other girl is shallow, and not in your league. If, short term, she's getting close to him, Do NOT get all work... (read in full...)
I feel like this girl is replacing me more and more each day....
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The other (new) girl may be a pain in the butt. But don't allow the green eyed monster to ruin your bond with your guy.
And I imagine it was very difficult missin... (read in full...)
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K... (read in full...)
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While you also have a c... (read in full...)
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If she is more interested in impressing her friends then you are correct, just any old metal may not suffice.... (read in full...)
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... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to be angry with him for making these money decisions without me?
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Is my boyfriend trying to dump me again??
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Being moody and nasty is not the way to treat to anyone. I cannot imagine any woman would appreciate been treated in such a nasty manner by her part... (read in full...)
My friend doesn't want to know me anymore despite everything I did for him!
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S... (read in full...)
I need an outsiders prospective...Does my husband just want out of this marriage?
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How can I overcome this guilt thing....
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How can I overcome this guilt thing....
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I recall a guy, when I was newly widowed, who I dropped like a hot potato. He had gone... (read in full...)
Was she trying to avoid awkwardness?
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A. 26 January 2011: i think she is still regretful and ashamed that she cheated.
She also took her cue from your behavior. You gave no indication that she meant anything to you now. That's part and parcel of of a rejection.
So she was not going to chance speaking... (read in full...)
Does she still care......
Q. I bumped in to my ex the other day I havnt seen her for six months, the breakup was hard she cheated on me with someone i walked away, the otherguy never worked out, but i remained in my view dignified. Communication since the split has been limited ...
A. 26 January 2011: you have nothing to lose if you ask to meet her for lunch (less threatening, implies no expectation of more) and see how the interaction goes. Find out how things have been going, where her life is going, her hopes from now on. Any dreams for the ... (read in full...)
Trying to get over my wife's affairs, but every time I dream I see her with other men......
Q. I am 45 year male married past 21 years My wife had 2 affairs in recent times when i was away on tours One with my friend and other with some internet man She said it was emotional thing which somehow eneded on bed She say now everything closed ...
A. 26 January 2011: you either get over it or you destroy many other good memories of your marriage with your wife.
It was wrong that she did this. And you need to work hard at re-connecting with your wife. And re-kindling all the passion that existed between the two ... (read in full...)
Why is he always talking about how he likes girls with dark skin when he is in a relationship with me?
Q. So I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months. He is 34 I'm 19. Another thing that I don't understand is that he likes dark skin girls but I'm light skin. He likes girls with a big butt and curvy but I have boobs and skinny. He likes girls with no ...
A. 26 January 2011: you are the girl he likes and deep down in his heart he is very comfortable with you.
Lots of guy claim (fantasize?) that they love girls with really very big breasts. But in truth they rarely step out with such a girl.
Guys fantasize about al... (read in full...)
Is this a joke of a relationship?
Q. My bf took his female friend to dinner, and picked her up from work after he finished work. Yet he made me pay my way to work today (he drives me extremely rarely and he had the day off today so I didn't think it was a big deal). He called me quite ...
A. 26 January 2011: your relationship is a pale shadow of a real relationship. You really do deserve better.
A man counting the cost of transporting his girlfriend is a man who is not in love. This man's actions scream out loud and clear that you are not a woman he t... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my husband tell me where he is going when he leaves?
Q. 1.My husband everytimes he leave the house or come home even he go out of country he seldom to tell me where he went ? 2.He always hide me what is doing with his works ? what should I do with these situation ? ...
A. 26 January 2011: he is thoughtless and inconsiderate to you. His bahavior is not respectful to you. A husband and wife should live in equitable harmony. With empathy between the two of you always paramount. Where respect and honesty co-reside.
When there is time... (read in full...)
My faith in him is broken... I need your help!
Q. My heart is torn. The issue is i been married for five years separated for a year and a couple of months. Well my husband was having issues with keeping a job and had depression. He does smoke weed and started experimenting with Ecstasy. He slowly ...
A. 24 January 2011: I feel so sad for you and your daughter have had to go through so much.
Your husband sounds like a millstone. What sort of influence is his for your daughter if he's mentally absent, even if he's there as a physical presence?
And if he slips ba... (read in full...)
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