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I feel I know a lot about relationships and how they tick. I was married for six years and have two children. I have lots of relationships previous to my marriage. I am currently in a great relationship with an awesome guy and we are really happy. What makes me tick? Loving my children, starting over after a failed marriage and now being a single mom. I feel that I am a strong woman and try to love life to it's fullest each and every day :D

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Do you think men really want to get married??

Q.   Hello. Just wanting some opinions from you uncles. How do you feel about marriage? I want to hear from the men that are married and the ones in relationships. It seems to me that it's usually (almost always)the women pressuring for an engage...

A.   13 June 2013: Thank you for everyone's input :) We both are divorced and have kids of our own. My ex husband and I felt the need to get married because our daughter came pretty quickly in our relationship (three months) than we had our son. We eventually g... (read in full...)

My husband always looks at other women and tells me that's normal. I can't bear it! Help?

Q.   whenever i am out with my husband, he always look at other womens which i can't bear. its hurting me always. due to which i don't talk to my husband 2-3 days. but still he does the same. i spoke to him about this. he says it's normal. but i can't ...

A.   30 May 2013: My guy knows not to make "looking obvious" when we are out. When we first met, he would point all of the "hot chicks" ((immature sounding )) on tv/movies which pissed me off. I told him to be respectful and stop saying that in front of me. Did y... (read in full...)

She's not over the pain of what I did. What should I do?

Q.   Ex finally started talking to me after 2 months NC. I hurt her really badly and destroyed her self-esteem. Obviously she missed me so much that she decided to stop ignoring me, but she is being really mean and cold towards me. I'm trying my best to ...

A.   6 April 2013: What did you do to hurt her?... (read in full...)

I overheard my husband saying he wish I would lose weight. Now I feel sad and like absolute crap!

Q.   I don’t know what to do. It all started New Year’s Eve, my husband and I were at his company’s party and I went to grab him another drink. As I was walking back, I saw my husband and one of his employees talking, when I walked up behind my husband ...

A.   20 February 2013: He absolutely had no right to talk about you to someone (especially at a party!) It's offensive and just cruel. Maybe he will think before he speaks next time. Our significant other is our business and should be kept that way. I have the opposite... (read in full...)

What is the key to happiness? Is it a sum of everything, or something specific (such as love)?

Q.   They say you "can't find a home in the arms of a man", I suppose meaning that a man can't provide you happiness or be 'the big thing' of your life. I just wonder, what is the key to happiness if it isn't love (as in a relationship)? I...

A.   7 January 2013: I think that having someone special in your life (mate) makes up a portion of one's happiness. I feel that you need to have your own individual hobbies, personal space, friends, family, ect.. Things that make up *you* My boyfriend and I realize ... (read in full...)

How can she just forget 6 years, our dog, our house, and our family with someone who came in the picture for 3 months?

Q.   Im a 25 year old male, who just broke it off with my girlfriend of 6 years, due to her cheating. I cheated on her once early in the relationship,when we were already serious. I never told her,but she always had her suspicion. I know there was no ...

A.   14 December 2012: I totally agree with person12345. SHE KNOWS in the back of her mind that you cheated long ago. What you guys had, was never fully formed into an honestly loving relationship. She knew that you were unfaithful and you did as well. She is now looking ... (read in full...)

My wife has been cheating on me for 3 years. How do I get her to want me?

Q.   Where do I start? I've been married for 12 years but been with her for for 18. We have 3 boys who I wake up for every morning to make all the money I can so they have everything. My wife doesn't work, I was raised thinking u should support the ...

A.   11 November 2012: You need to get out of this marriage! She is rotten for cheating on you. End of story. It's obvious she is using you. You do seem like a nice guy that deserves a lot better than she can offer you. Have some pride in yourself and leave! Don't le... (read in full...)

Body image ruined due to porn

Q.   My partner looks at naked pics of those typical perfect bodied women. If they're not naked they're usually close to it. Although I have a good body, I have small breasts which are now a little droopier due to having given birth. Breast feeding. ...

A.   5 November 2012: It is disrespectful that he does that in front of you. I would be upset as well. We all know that those photos are photo shopped, fake boobs, fake tans, fake eyelashes, and the list goes on and on... Your partner loves you. That's why he is... (read in full...)

Found a 'sext' on my wife's phone

Q.   My wife and I have a wonderful relationship...but I do work a lot and she wishes she had more attention. Anyway a friend of mine recently friend requested her on facebook and I guess began chatting with her. I came home the other night and wa...

A.   12 October 2012: Trouble! Don't let this continue. You need to MAKE the time for your wife. If you let this picture/ sexting go on? It will turn into her sleeping with him. She prob. sent naked pics. of herself to him already. I have been down that road before..... (read in full...)

Is physical pleasure the most important thing about sex and does sex turn men into horny, unthinking animals?

Q.   I feel alienated from people because I don't believe in casual sex and favour intimacy over physical pleasure. I've been told that my views come from immaturity and that once I have sex everything will change and I will become nothing short of a sex ...

A.   6 October 2012: Sex can be a truly wonderful thing when you are in a beautiful and loving relationship. In my opinion? There is nothing better :)... (read in full...)

I'm in love with a married man who is ready to leave his wife for me but I don't want to break up a family. What should I do?

Q.   I am in love with a married man. I am 23 he is 29. He is willing to leave his wife for me. She lives in another country. I don't know what to do, because ever though we are deeply in love with each other, i don't want to break up a family. They ...

A.   20 September 2012: I have heard that same "song and dance" before... I was in the same exact situation about 10 years ago. Promises of leaving the wife then we will live happily ever after... yada yada yada. It's all a big lie! He is stringing you along so you don't ... (read in full...)

Does a cheater deserves a scond chance?

Q.   Just a little of insight please. I have just foud out that my hub of 3 years have cheated on me for 4 months.We have 2 sons, the youngest was only 1 month old whne he started sleeping with the other woman. He works deployed 4 months on, 2 months ...

A.   17 September 2012: YOUR husband made the choice and cheated on you. End of story in my book... There are absolutely NO excuses at all. He was well aware that he has a wife and beautiful children at home. That to me, is absolutely unforgivable. I see that you are ... (read in full...)

Is she being selfish and inconsiderate, or am I the jerk for feeling this way?

Q.   My Gf of about 6 months is starting to get on my so tired the relationship is like a full time job with no day off... i do whatever she ask from babysiting her young child to taking her to work and other places she needs to go.Movi...

A.   18 August 2012: I read about half of your post & decided that you need to leave this money grubbing girl. She is using you for your money & that sucks... There are so many other wonderful girls in this world that would deeply appreciate you for your kind heart. Y... (read in full...)

We've been together 2 and 1/2 years. Yet still he kept explicit pictures of his ex's bodies. Am I justified to feel insanely jealous over this?.

Q.   A few months ago I found some explicit photos and videos of my fiance and a couple of his exes. I wasn't happy with him having them and told him so, eventually he threw them out. Then I found he had some on his laptop, he said he had forgotte...

A.   18 August 2012: I don't have ONE pic of any of my ex's... None at all. As far as I'm concerned... these people are out of my life for a reason. I would be pissed as hell at him. It is disrespectful towards you and I would tell him to get rid of them or else I w... (read in full...)

Am I with "the One"?

Q.   HI I want to know if im with the "One".I keep a diary and every day for the two years of our relations I rate my happiness with my partner.I am average 70% happy with my girl.i have asked my friends and the say they are like 90% happy with their ...

A.   18 August 2012: You will know it in you heart if you have found "the one" No doubt or questions in your mind. :)... (read in full...)

Why do certain qualities make women more attractive to men?

Q.   What is most attractive in a women? - Amazing at sports - Artistic and creative - Speaks another language - Plays guitar - Someone more intelligent than them For some reason, so many of my guy friends and my brothers go on about h...

A.   14 August 2012: Cerberus said it perfectly!!!! So many girls/women are superficial. Smart guys love a girl with a brain! :D... (read in full...)

Is checking partners phone wrong

Q.   So there has been a lot of talk in magazines etc about Jools wanting to check Jamie Oliver's texts....and I have to say whilst it's wrong I can kind of understand it... My boyfriend has always been very private about his phone, to the point that h...

A.   8 August 2012: I trust my boyfriend. His phone is locked & I am not concerned one bit. He doesn't look at my phone and I don't ask to look at his. We have our own groups of friends, and he has his. It's sort of our own business I guess?? You need to trust ea... (read in full...)

Great sex stories?

Q.   Hi, just wondering, what's the best sex you have ever had? Where was it at? Who with (friend, spouse, etc)? What made it so great? Was it a special, intimate moment? Also, what was your "first time" like? I just think it's interesting hear...

A.   8 August 2012: First time was so terrible & it hurt!!! In the woods sneaking off with my first bf. I think I was 15 yo.? Best is currently with my bf. I am 41 now. He is amazing in every single way. Gives me a rush just looking at him. He does everythi... (read in full...)

Advantages and disadvantages of dating a younger man?

Q.   Ladies, what do you think about dating a younger man? One of my friends recently broke up with her ex and began dating her current boyfriend one month later. He ex is 1 year younger than her and her boyfriend is 2 years younger than her. I know the ...

A.   6 August 2012: I am 41 and my guy is 34. As you get older things seem to even out maturity wise. ( in my opinion. ) I look younger than my age so we look like an even match. I love his youth, his energy, young apperance and his attitude. I really don't think age ... (read in full...)

Is it too much fir me to want my wife to wear a little make-up?

Q.   I really need advice.I have been maried for 18 question is we have one dissagrement I would really like it if my wife would wear a little mascara, eye shadow and lipstick.Not everyday just like three or four times a year.l love her she is ...

A.   28 July 2012: I would personally be offended if my b.f asked me to put on makeup... He tells me that I look beautiful without it. I wear makeup when we go out somewhere like to a restaurant or somewhere special. I don't put it on for him but only for myself, ... (read in full...)

Is 11 inch height difference too much? People keep telling me she is too short for me.

Q.   Hello, My height is 6'1½" inches, she is around 5'3" we have nearly 11 inch height difference. We have been together for half a year I have never thought of height difference as a problem. I'm OK with it. I love her and we are planning our futu...

A.   23 July 2012: You both have the same size beating hearts. Love is love & that's all that matters.... ;)... (read in full...)

What are your views on strippers?

Q.   Whats your view on strippers?? My boyfriend is going to be at a stag on saturday night and there is going to be 2 strippers. By that I mean one at around 8pm and then another at like 10pm. I hate this. Im insecure for starters as Im over...

A.   19 July 2012: Absolutely not! I also have a "no stripper policy" with my bf. Giving money to strange, naked, desperate for money women?? NO NO! I don't care if it's a bachelor party, guys night out, ect... If I ever found out that he went? He would be right out ... (read in full...)

Married 27 years, love each other like brother/sister. Do I stay here miserable or move on?

Q.   I'm 45 years old. I married my wife when I was 17, and we've been married for 27 years. We've raised 4 kids together and we have 3 grandkids. Our relationship has been very tough almost from the beginning. We have separated a few times, but I always ...

A.   18 July 2012: I totally agree with Bondgirl72. It sounds like you tried your very hardest to make your relationship work and you are at ends now. I think you should move on :) Things may be strange and sort of hard at first ( being on your own ) but there will be ... (read in full...)

The spark is gone in the bedroom!

Q.   Im married for 8 years. The relationship is good we love each other very much. The problem is the spark in the bedroom is not there anymore. How can I fix that. She push me away if I try foreplay. What should I do? I really love my wife so I would ...

A.   16 July 2012: I feel it it time to sit down with your wife and have a serious talk ( because all else failed. ) Sometimes us women need to be pried opened in order for us to reveal our true feelings... Take your time and be empathetic. ... (read in full...)

I'm 44 and still a virgin. Should I lose my virginity to an escort?

Q.   I am a virgin at 44 and was looking for advice on how to remedy the situation. In my case i have always had comments aimed at me because i'm let's say not exactly nice-looking. Ugly in fact, let's not beat about the bush.Because of this i have never ...

A.   13 July 2012: No don't buy an escort! It will lower your self esteem even more. Be proud that you haven't had sex just to say that you aren't a virgin anymore! Wait for that special person. I am 41 and failed at my marriage and had sex with the wrong people ... (read in full...)

No contact now for nine days -- is it really over?

Q.   My ex and I broke up the beginning of May of this year because ofnmajor trust issues. I found out that he had not fully gotten over his Ex about 4 months into our relationship. I found out that he would go running back to her every time we had a ...

A.   30 June 2012: Sorry, I'm not a guy but I went through something similar.I really know what your going through. My relationship wasn't quite as long as yours was though. It sounds to me like your idea of what you thought was love wasn't the same as he was ... (read in full...)

I've been told that I'm good looking, easy going, genuine and have a sense of humor. I thought these were desirable qualities. So why do I get zero interest from women other than wanting to just be friends?

Q.   I really don’t know what to do anymore and I’d really appreciate any advice I can get. I’m 26 years old and have never been in a romantic relationship or had a serious girlfriend. I’m really beginning to wonder if there will ever be a woman ...

A.   29 June 2012: You sound like a very serious guy to me being that you are military. Girls love a little mystery & not trying to be perfect. We like someone that is fun and has a great sense of humor!! I met a guy that reminds me of you that was very nice, ... (read in full...)

I can't handle seeing the way women are portrayed in the media!

Q.   I cant handle the way I am so consumed with worrying about other women and the way they look. Worrying what my boyfriend thinks when he sees them, or worrying if he will notice them. This goes for women on the street, in stores, anywhere we go. I ...

A.   29 June 2012: I know EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL... I go through feeling like you do everyday. I DO look at myself in the mirior and KNOW that I am attractive. My boyfriend tells me that too. Yeah, looking through mags and watching tv/movies I do feel terrible and ... (read in full...)

Is she interested in a threesome or not?

Q.   I have discussed with my wife having a threesome. We were watching porn one evening and I asked her if she would prefer mfm or fmf, she said mfm of course if she was to do it and she was not that interested. Ok....I did get an answer. The ...

A.   27 June 2012: I think you are just horny. Leave your wife alone about it. She obviously loves you. Yeah, porn isn't for real. In real life relationships, there are feelings involved & us women are emotional creatures. This could complicate things. I would leave ... (read in full...)

Tired of waiting for love to return

Q.   husband left me for a 24 year old with a 3 year old. they are now living together and are engaged. our divorce is not final, and i found out he has not payed my attourney yet. they seem to be getting along pretty good. but everyone tells me it wont ...

A.   18 June 2012: Everyone here is right. Raise your head up high, smile and know you are better than he is!! Could things EVER be the same if he left her and came running back to you?? It sounds to me like he wants to have YOU to fall back on if things don't work ... (read in full...)

'X' in a text message, is it just for people close to you or for anyone and everyone?

Q.   Ok, so this may sound strange to some but agreed upon by others - I just want to know weather I'm being unnecessarily stupid and to get others views. I've been with my girlfriend for just over a year and we moved in with each other two weeks ...

A.   15 June 2012: My one British guy friend uses X quite often when we message each other. We are only friends ( I live in the US ) I wouldn't worry about it. ;)... (read in full...)

How many men out there are NOT into pornography and find it degrading?

Q.   Hello Dear Cupid, I've been in a relationship nearly 4 years - 3 of which my bf used online porn most days, even perusing it while I was asleep naked a metre away from him, even though I was always happy and curious to explore our sex life. We fough...

A.   14 June 2012: I totally agree with the male reader that posted. I can see my boyfriend writing the same exact words. It is simple release for guys. Being tired after work ect... Porn is an easy way to "get off" and being physical is sometimes just tiresome. Have ... (read in full...)

Old flame from 33 years ago has written me, where do I want this to go?

Q.   ok here goes, while in high school I was so in love with this guy, while we were super friends I don't think he really thought of me in the girlfriend way. After high school he went into the service. You have to understand I never forgot about him. ...

A.   9 June 2012: It's exciting, makes your heart beat fast and it's so tempting! I have been there as well. My first boyfriend that I was absolutely crazyyy about (( we were 16 y.o.)) hit me up on facebook. I was married for 7 years. I think its just a thrill. ... (read in full...)

Should I leave my bofriend of 3yrs for masturbating with porn?

Q.   Should I leave my bofriend of 3yrs for masturbating with porn and taking viagra when Im asleep and wake up and catch him? He doesnt give it to me when i want it enless we are off work together. He said that he will continue to do it and i told him ...

A.   25 May 2012: He sounds lazy and inconsiderate of your feelings, Tell him to screw off...... (read in full...)

For those of you who are sucessful in love: How did you do it?

Q.   I have noticed that so many people (me included) are suffering when it comes to love. Maybe we are just doing all the wrong things. Maybe there is more to love than pure chance. One way to be successfull I've heard is to pay attention to wha...

A.   20 May 2012:  Loving eachother, honesty, open communication, trust, Having a sense of humor and having fun together as friends. Keeping our indivuality yet being a couple with having things in common. Having patients, bringing out the best in eachother, ... (read in full...)

I don't feel good enough for my boyfriend after his comments about these models and how he wanted to give me 'the boot'....

Q.   Hello, I really hope someone can give me some advice with my goes..! I have been with my boyfriend for about 2 and a half years and it has been a great relationship. Before we got together he had a reputation of being a flirt, e...

A.   18 May 2012: You need to kick this dude to the curb! If he thinks he can do better than you? Tell his ass goodbye! You don't need someone that makes you feel sad and insecure in your relationship... You really need to stop this bad cycle of taking him back.... (read in full...)

As a person, she IS my dream girl...but sexually, the attraction is minimal. What can I do?

Q.   I don't find my girlfriend that attractive, but I am overwhelmingly happy with who she is as a person. What do I do? My girlfriend and I kind of stumbled into dating each other. We met at a party one night and ended up drunkly hooking up (havi...

A.   14 May 2012:  I was once in the same kind of situation as you. I had a best friend named Christopher. He made me laugh and was such an awesome person. We loved hanging out together. There was no sexual chemestry on my end anyway... Out of the clear blue sky, he ... (read in full...)

A man wearing pink skinny jeans?

Q.   First reaction/ thought that comes to mind when you see a male wearing red/pink skinny jeans???...

A.   14 May 2012: Super duper gay! I personally don't think anyone should be wearing them ;)... (read in full...)

My husband has gone from an amazing lover to not even wanting me

Q.   Please help me! My husband has gone from an amazing lover to not even wanting me. He's even gone as far as going into the other room to watch porn instead of waking me up for sex at night, which I'm up for. It's killing me because he used to love ...

A.   9 May 2012: Do you possibly think that he might be gay? Tranny's are men dressed as women..... kind of strange if you ask me... I would be scared if my guy was found watching that shit :/... (read in full...)

He gets his kicks from sex but I don't get mine! How can I get him to pay more attention to my needs?

Q.   Hi everyone. I have been posted a question but I found no response. I am trying to know that what is missing in our love relation. My hubby is very hot for sex. He likes sex, and lots of it. I found him sexualy hot but not emotionaly.he cares ...

A.   9 May 2012: Basically you need to sit down with and him and let him know how you feel. Was the sex bad when you met him? If so, you knew this from the start and still married him... Sex is pretty high up there when it comes to a relationship. I was in ... (read in full...)

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