His temper is threatening to spoil this relationship!!
Q. I'm so stuck with this. I don't know if I'm being over picky or if I'm being sensible. My partner of 2 years is brilliant. No, better than that, he's incredible! We met a few years ago through mutual friends and he made it obvious he liked me but ...
A. 18 July 2014: This is so sad. I have been through something similar. Hopefully he is not trying to control you and your life? Keep an eye open on increasing attempts o do this. It may start with making you feel uncomfortable about seeing friends, or what you ... (read in full...)
He is 13 and never met his father, who now has a brain tumour
Q. I am a single mum of 1 son whos never had a dad in his life hes had male figures like my dad and brothers , ive just found out the father of my child has a brain tumour, we split before our child was born and he hasn't seen our son ive read up on ...
A. 5 July 2014: It is so nice of you to consider this. Ask him. Don't just turn up. Brain tumours can be cured. Some Dad's think their kids are better off if they leave them alone. I don't know what his motivation is, but giving him a chance is a generous and great ... (read in full...)
My friends betrayed me when I was vulnerable
Q. Hi everybody, I'm guessing I'm going to get a lot of opinions on this question, I'm feeling pretty rubbish about it and I understand I was irresponsible. Please don't answer my questions with insults or lectures as I've had that off my parents and ...
A. 2 July 2014: They have shown what they are. Animals. My response ranges from go to the police and press charges for assault, to lie low and make new friends. I would want to know that the pictures had been deleted at the least. Tell them your parents think the ... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever successfully rekindled with an ex?
Q. Anybody have any success stories about getting back with an ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend? I'm talking about after a long break up. I've recently been "dating" my ex who I was with for 8 years. We broke up two years ago. He told me he never got over ...
A. 2 July 2014: Of course it can work. All you need to do is find a way of sticking together and communicating at difficult times in the future. He must have felt abandoned by you when he was ill, but you also felt that. Don't gloss over this. Depressed people are ... (read in full...)
Is this the right course for me? Disabled wife, no sex for years. Now I have a platonic female friend
Q. I am a married man with a disabled wife, and I suffer from extreme caretaker's depression because of it. Recently I ran into a divorced lady of about my age, who used to be friend of my wife's (they turned out to be very non-compatible a...
A. 28 June 2014: Your wife may be disabled but that does not have to mean no sex. Tell her about your feelings on this matter and ask to see a sex therapist together. You can't be expected to have no sex all your life. You are supposed to be a team and if this lack ... (read in full...)
He's lost his job and now I feel like we're over. He's cold and distant. Is this relationship over?
Q. He's lost his job and now I feel like we're over? My bf was the sweetest, caring and very attentive when he had a job. But he's lost his job 6 months now and he's just so distant and cold. He hardly calls or texts me. We argue every time w...
A. 28 June 2014: Tell him that you will be there for him when he is ready. Let him know that you understand how he feels (probably worthless) but one day the same thing might happen to you. In which case you would hope for his support, just as you offer it now. It ... (read in full...)
I feel like he's been incredibly selfish
Q. Hi all, I would love some advice. Me and my boyfriend have been together for four and a half years. We obviously have our disagreements and bickers and I've learnt throughout the years how stubborn my boyfriend is. He can acknowledge he's...
A. 25 June 2014: Don't "talk" before his birthday, you will likely just argue again. I think the idea of taking a short break is a good one. Tell him you want to be on your own a few days with no communication, a kind of retreat and refresh. Since you have found ... (read in full...)
Why does my ex FWB still talk sex when he says he just wants to be friends
Q. So yesterday I called a guy out through text that i used to hook up with/have FWB's with about why he is always saying sexual things to me when we are just supposed to be friends now. He has said these things to me almost a dozen times and every ...
A. 25 June 2014: He see's you in the context of sex, not friendship, so can't be bothered to invest the effort needed to be friends. Being friends would mean a connection of sorts, plus respect. I don't think he does respect you. He might well be a sexist. Although ... (read in full...)
My sister is attractive. I have low self esteem problems. How can I overcome these issues?
Q. Hello I have suffered with low self esteem for years and need to get over it really! I have a sister who is beautiful, tall, slim and popular. My family always used to comment how she looked like a model and their faces would light up when sh...
A. 23 June 2014: All I can use as an example is my husband's first wife. She is classically beautiful whereas I am characterful, have more qualifications and a better figure. It took me ages to feel OK and a least her equal. I do now, especially as my step daughter... (read in full...)
I've just learned that my boyfriend's parents dislike me
Q. Why do boyfriends parents always hate me? I have had 3 serious boyfriends and the parents have always disliked me but I don't know why. An event that happened today has opened my eyes to this. My partner and I have been together 2 years, livi...
A. 22 June 2014: It is not you, it is down to your choice of man. It looks to me as though he goes complaining to his parents about you. Probably about nothing, but it has become a habit? If you can honestly say that you have done nothing to annoy them, it makes me ... (read in full...)
Her ex is my friend, they're still friends, and I'm having trouble dealing with it
Q. Curious for general perspective, and especially grateful to hear from anyone who is dating, or has dated, a guy, while you (the girl's) "ex" or old hookup buddy stayed around as friends to both sides. Assuming your new relationship is/was healthy, ...
A. 21 June 2014: The problem will resolve as soon as he gets a girlfriend, so I would not worry too much. Until then get a bit of distance between he and you, spend time together without him around.... (read in full...)
I found an empty condom wrapper and a phone number in his clothes after he came home from a stag party!
Q. I think I'm over thinking this but I need another view point on this one. What would you think if your boyfriend came home after a stag party, and then the next morning you found an empty condom wrapper in his pocket along with a phone number ...
A. 20 June 2014: It would be nice o know what happened after you had our advice.... (read in full...)
I've been faking it for a year and don't know how to tell him, so I'm thinking about breaking up with him so I don't have to explain!
Q. Hi. I need help! Background info: 25 years old, up until very recently I thought that I was incapable of orgasm, I thought maybe something was wrong with me because I've never orgasmed during sex, figured out that I'm pretty normal and can only ...
A. 19 June 2014: This can happen because girls are so focussed on their boyfriend that they put their own needs second. Getting a girl to the point of orgasm, can take a bit of work and time. It isn't like the pretence of porn, where everything seemingly happens in ... (read in full...)
How do I tell her without offending her about her wiping issue?
Q. Hi I just started dating a new girl . The sex is great and we both oral fixated me giving and her getting . There is one problem she wants her anus licked which I usually enjoy doing but there is a problem with this she has a wiping problem back ...
A. 18 June 2014: You could say that you are hesitant because you once had a bad experience when someone didn't clean thoroughly. It put you off. Would she mind being really thorough as you have a phobia now.......
If that doesn't work make a rule that you have a s... (read in full...)
Gambler lies about gambling, what else is he lying about?
Q. My husband travels and has a gambling issue. I've already took out a 70000 second mortgage to pay off his credit cars before we were married. After we were married he continued to gamble several thousands dollars of our money. He said he was ...
A. 16 June 2014: Separate your finances as a matter of urgency. See the divorce lawyer. I get no sense of love coming from him.... (read in full...)
Gambler lies about gambling, what else is he lying about?
Q. My husband travels and has a gambling issue. I've already took out a 70000 second mortgage to pay off his credit cars before we were married. After we were married he continued to gamble several thousands dollars of our money. He said he was ...
A. 16 June 2014: Don't end up with no financial security at retirement. He is not reliable and may sink you with him. He seems addicted to many things. I hope he doesn't break your heart as well. He is a consumer who has not addressed his addictions, which means he ... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my time or can we fix this?
Q. My boyfriend and I had a huge fight last night and I'd like some help working out where to go from here please. We have been together for almost 5 years now, and at the moment we don't live together. He asked me to move in about a year ago, but I ...
A. 16 June 2014: On one hand he is willing to make the huge change of emigrating. On the other not willing to change his daily working hours to better your relationship. That just does not make sense to me. He could be clear that you are his life choice; "the one... (read in full...)
Is it inappropriate for your boyfriend to hang out with other females one on one?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about 10 months now. He is 30 and I am 21. We are currently trialling living together (I have not officially moved all my stuff in). We have a bit of an issue about friends of the opposite sex. I don't really have ...
A. 16 June 2014: My husband says that males don't have female friends, just potential girlfriends. I am not sure about that, but I do know that friendships when a couple need to be inclusive, not exclusive. There exists an intimate knowledge between exes and... (read in full...)
I'm utterly ashamed of my drunken behavior in front of my ex and his girlfriend!
Q. Im so ashamed and embaressed. So lastnight I went to a friends birthday party. My ex from a very long time ago was there. I had drunk quite alot and I was flirting outrageously with him. Then later on in the night his girlfriend arrives. I did not ...
A. 15 June 2014: Everyone messes up sometime. Just apologise, it will make you feel better. Then ration how many drinks you can manage without becoming a pain! Drink water between drinks. I know that you are horrified at your behaviour, they need to know too. Once ... (read in full...)
Were there enough red flags on this first date to justify no second one?
Q. So, I went on a first date with this guy tonight, and, while he was a nice enough guy (easy to talk to, interesting), there were a couple of things that seemed like red flags. We met up in an area where there were lots of restaurants in o...
A. 15 June 2014: The only caviat I would have, is check he isn't mean. Whilst looking for a good deal is fine, mean is not. I like thoughtful, generous people, which doesn't mean spending loads, but being appropriate. I try to be that way myself!... (read in full...)
Were there enough red flags on this first date to justify no second one?
Q. So, I went on a first date with this guy tonight, and, while he was a nice enough guy (easy to talk to, interesting), there were a couple of things that seemed like red flags. We met up in an area where there were lots of restaurants in o...
A. 15 June 2014: The fact that he loves his cat and deeply at that is not a red flag. Going Dutch and looking at the best deal was correct in my opinion. The term "red flag" applies to signs of having bad within him and I don't see how you think those are relevant. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps looking at attractive women no matter where we are and its making me lose my self-confidence
Q. I have been dating a guy for two months who I get on well with and really fancy. However, when we are out together he seems to notice every young attractive woman in sight. He doesn't stare but he does notice them and keep looking at them if we are ...
A. 14 June 2014: It is horrible to be with someone who does this. When I was 42, I had a boyfriend who was like that. Often the girls would notice as well, which made me wonder whether they felt sorry for me!
I discovered later that he was a bit of a porn lov... (read in full...)
Why would a good looking, successful guy be on a dating site when he can get any girl in real life?
Q. So I met a guy online a couple of weeks ago. He's really good looking (models on the side) has a good job and seems pretty successful. He asked for my number and has been been texting me almost every day ever since but has never called. He always ...
A. 14 June 2014: Looks mean nothing, it's what is inside that counts. Being handsome is good luck but also means he will have lots of girls after him. It means taking more care, in a way. Hope you have a lovely time. Do check out whether he has long relationships or ... (read in full...)
What can I do to make my girlfriend feel better about herself?
Q. I don't know what to do about my girlfriend. When we first got together she was really confident and sure of herself (maybe because she'd just lost a huge amount of weight). About six months into our relationship she got really paranoid about my ex ...
A. 14 June 2014: Keep your comments to yourself! Start complimenting her, tell her what makes her unique. She must have qualities that you value above all else. Tell her why you think she is pretty and what makes her so special to you.... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 13 June 2014: Hello Tom. I am glad that things have calmed down. Based on the way that your wife changes her mind so much, perhaps it would not be a good idea to agree to sell the house. You might have agreed, based on the renting together idea, only to fi... (read in full...)
Threesome is not working out for me and now she lives with us!
Q. I am 35 years old and my husband and I have been happily married for 13 1/2 years (until recently that is). About two months ago, my husband and I started having threesomes with an 18 year old female friend of the family. Everything was going great ...
A. 12 June 2014: You are introducing threats that may or may not damage your relationship. From the friend I have who have tried anything like this, I see only broken marriages. Two weeks ago my Dad died. He and my Mum struggled at some points in their almost 60year ... (read in full...)
I feel like I have had a snapshot of my B/f and his life and want out of the relationship.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend about 5 months now and over the last couple of weeks I have been staying at his while some major repairs are being done to my home. I noticed some 'odd' behaviours in my boyfriend (who is 39) right at the start when I ...
A. 11 June 2014: It is possible to have a relationship with someone who has Aspergers or autism, but it takes a special kind of person. He can't help the way he is and it doesn't make him bad. However it can be a challenging thing to do so, up to you.... (read in full...)
I'm confined to my own room while my roommate gets to decorate and furnish the rest of the apartment...
Q. I'm at a crossroads at the moment and it's stressing me out. I don't know what to do. My college roommate and I lived in our dorm room for two years and got along great so we decided to rent an apartment so we could increase our living space a bit. ...
A. 11 June 2014: I understand completely. It is your first home and you have as strong an interest in it as she does. Part of the excitement is in creating the home space and doing it as a team. SHe has hijacked the whole excitement. It may feel more like her place ... (read in full...)
Depressed and sad and don't know where to turn to get through this time in my life. How do I manage this depression?
Q. I have chosen to ask my question on here as I have nowhere else to turn. On paper I know that I am quite fortunate: I have a good group of friends, been in a stable loving relationship for over a year and I have just finished my first year of my l...
A. 11 June 2014: The first thing to do is look for the company of positive people. It helps massively. But also speak to your GP as suggested. Cognitive behavioural therapy is excellent for helping to look at things in a better light. There is a free website called ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend who works as a stripper, gets drunk at work and has things done to her, is jealous of my female friends on Facebook and insists that I un-friend them.
Q. Hi, my girlfriend of about a year broke up for a couple of months ...got back together 2 months ago. During that time I made made friends on facebook with a girl from work. There was a brief flirty exchange when she accepted my friend request but ...
A. 7 June 2014: Girls who work in the sex industry earn a wage, but pay with their trust. They see how even normal married and attached men will be unfaithful in the right circumstances. That is why they make bad relationship material. Even though they profit, they ... (read in full...)
He's ignoring me & I don't know why
Q. I have been getting to know this guy and we have gotten close but not really in a full relationship, more like friends taking it slow. I do want more and had hoped for this in the future. Because he is getting over a break up I am not pushing ...
A. 7 June 2014: No you should not ask again. You don't need to get another rebuttal, because that is what it would be. He is not a prospective relationship.... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 6 June 2014: Yes, show her where the money has been spent and ask for an apology. In a way I am pleased that you have become a bit more irritated yourself. I am sure if she had simply asked, you would have provided the answers. It was rather unforgivable. In ... (read in full...)
What to do when I am sure my fiance is still in contact with his ex-girlfriend, the love of his life
Q. Okay, here it goes. I live with my fiancé and we each have our own computers and cell phones and don't share our passwords and have a level of privacy. He told me when we got serious that he didn't want me to have contact with my ex-boyfrien...
A. 5 June 2014: I'm sorry but there is no evidence that SM is her. It says 01/04 but the meeting was 01/06? Plus I have thought things like that before and found out it was a garage appointment. You have taken two letters and from that created a whole story. And ... (read in full...)
Am I being a gold digger?
Q. I am in a struggle. I met a nice guy last August and we have been dating ever since. Prior to that I was in a long relationship with a man from the US. He is starting to put a bit of pressure on me to take the relationship to the next level and I ...
A. 4 June 2014: I don't think you will be happy. In any case you didn't say anywhere that you love him. You will have to talk things through and see if he plans or can plan to make some changes to accommodate family life. I hope he can compromise or think ... (read in full...)
How can I calm my fears before I see the Doctor for my appointment with Dr in 2 weeks time?
Q. Ok so I know everyone on here is going to tell me to see my Dr- I will do in 2 weeks time as that was the soonest appointment but in the mean time I just wanted some advice/ reassurance. I found 2 small pea size lumps on 1 side of my neck -at 1st ...
A. 3 June 2014: Google "NHS Walk-in Centres" in your area. You can just walk in any time with no appointment and see a GP. What is happening to our NHS. The same situation happened to me, no apps available. I had something completely different and ended up ... (read in full...)
Husband wants a threesome, how can I fulfill this sexual experience?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles. I need to know how to go about having a threesome with my husband. First off I am bisexual, so theres no issue with wanting to be with woman sexually. My husband has always wanted to experience a threesome. Its just a fantasy. ...
A. 3 June 2014: Nobody that I know who has tried this, has a relationship that has survived. It introduces a threat, which it seems to me is hard to get over. The event will replay in your mind and very move will be analysed.
If this threesome involved two men I wo... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 31 May 2014: Well how horrible and how deluded. The fact that she is paying the mortgage now, does not negate the fact that this has been a partnership. She can not simply kick you out or sell the house without your permission. However you get the advice, do ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 30 May 2014: Tom, you can go to mediate or to a solicitor. Mediation first would be useful because it will describe both of your positions in an open, balanced way. Either way make sure you get advice and do not fall on your sword. Remember that you will have ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 30 May 2014: You can't do anything that isn't part of divorce proceedings. Who will the children live with? You, she doesn't want the responsibility of them any more remember. In which case you get most of the money. How can you have a mortgage with so little ... (read in full...)
My LDR can see prettier women in porn, so why bother taking it to the next level?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship and we have not yet been sexual in person . Next time we meet we will take it to the next level but in the meantime we enjoy that online but I'm worried about how I can possibly keep my bf interested when he ...
A. 29 May 2014: If he understands how much it hurts you he will give it up. All relationships are give and take. If I had a habit that made my husband very unhappy I would stop. A myth has developed in society, of entitlement. A woman dare not ask a man to give up ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 28 May 2014: Hi there. I am really chuffed that you enjoyed your trip and yes, it is really nice that you were all being thought of. Wonderful memories to share with your kids. The counsellor is probably just answering the needs expressed by your wife and ty... (read in full...)
I found an empty condom wrapper and a phone number in his clothes after he came home from a stag party!
Q. I think I'm over thinking this but I need another view point on this one. What would you think if your boyfriend came home after a stag party, and then the next morning you found an empty condom wrapper in his pocket along with a phone number ...
A. 24 May 2014: Actually I did mention forgiveness. However I don't think it is possible to think that far ahead. You can't know what you will do until the truth is there. Then, if he does confess what would you make of his silly friends and the forthcoming ... (read in full...)
I found an empty condom wrapper and a phone number in his clothes after he came home from a stag party!
Q. I think I'm over thinking this but I need another view point on this one. What would you think if your boyfriend came home after a stag party, and then the next morning you found an empty condom wrapper in his pocket along with a phone number ...
A. 24 May 2014: Not over thinking, perhaps trying to explain away,avoid or go into denial. All understandable. It's as obvious as the nose on your face. Not only that your instincts are telling you it is true by making you feel you don't want him to touch you. ... (read in full...)
I found an empty condom wrapper and a phone number in his clothes after he came home from a stag party!
Q. I think I'm over thinking this but I need another view point on this one. What would you think if your boyfriend came home after a stag party, and then the next morning you found an empty condom wrapper in his pocket along with a phone number ...
A. 24 May 2014: The reason the wrapper is in his pocket is because he was too drunk to be careful about it. Nobody planted it there, they would all have been too drunk to plan such meticulous sneakery.... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 24 May 2014: Oh Tom, so sorry to hear your sadness. You are doing the right thing though. It may take a long time for her to come around. She has a lot to test out first. My husband tries to do a lot for me as well, to the point where it makes me feel in... (read in full...)
I found an empty condom wrapper and a phone number in his clothes after he came home from a stag party!
Q. I think I'm over thinking this but I need another view point on this one. What would you think if your boyfriend came home after a stag party, and then the next morning you found an empty condom wrapper in his pocket along with a phone number ...
A. 24 May 2014: Stag nights are occasions when anything can happen and from what you found I would say it did. You need the truth and you must talk to him. The fact that he showered makes me think that he felt dirty, possibly. Despite the best intentions, naked ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 22 May 2014: Sorry I made you repeat some details, I'm afraid my attention to detail is a bit erratic for various good reasons. Please bear with me. After exchanging all of the words and ideas as we have, it does seem to come back to your original posting... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 22 May 2014: As usual I do like CMMP's answer. ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 21 May 2014: I see, she feels she is carrying you financially. So does she think you are being lazy then? Being honest, are you picking up the housework or is she doing that as well? Hope you don't mind me asking, but speaking personally, I know it can be a ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 19 May 2014: Of course it is OK. You all need use of the French house to save money, so she will have to cooperate over dates. I suppose she isn't planning to hog it for the whole summer?! (Apologies for sounding miffed when I don't even know her). This situ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 19 May 2014: Good news about the phone. I would have thought there would be something there if that guy was making moves. Since she has been honest, perhaps there is just some peripheral flirting there and nothing more. Hope so.
There is a whole lot of diff... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 18 May 2014: I sent a fuller answer which doesn't seem to have been published. Anyway, your instinct has prickled you. It isn't the same as guessing or overthinking. It is a moment when a penny drops, or a block of cold lead falls into the stomach. Those ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 18 May 2014: CMMP's reply is very realistic, again. Whereas my instinct is to want to know and therefor investigate, his is to wait it out and simply tell her your expectations.
I don't envy you, how very painful and difficult this must be.... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 18 May 2014: This is your instinct speaking. Pay it some respect. The previous lies justify your feelings totally. Of course it all needs handling with care and you must not mention it at all if you want to carefully follow it up. Is this who she sees on ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 15 May 2014: Well done! I am so happy that you got your time away booked. Interesting that he got angry about you going to the cinema don't you think? I certainly do. Asking how you can afford/take the time is just her way of showing a slight miff. She will ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 12 May 2014: Not wanting you to see her naked is not odd seeing as she wants to separate.... not sure why you think it is? Mind, sleeping in bed together still is, so combined rather a bag of mixed messages. Her shopping list is child like. Aspirational ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 11 May 2014: PPS I really like CMMP's answer. Shame one of you can't do VSO or something. ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 11 May 2014: If you are both truly stuck, stay pleasant but start living your life and as some of the others say, give her a load of space. Be friendly but not a loving husband, not intimate. ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 11 May 2014: With hindsight do you think sticking to your concert plan would have been best? I suspect maybe. I also think her explosion was about feeling cross with herself for caving in. Then cross with you. Old habits and comforts die hard!
I suspect you ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 7 May 2014: Sounds as though you are doing really well. I know what you mean about the Christian angle to that book. I admit I used it myself, but I had to overlook the religious side and filtered the common sense bits. I liked the way it invited a person to ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 7 May 2014: Not that I think you will need those other ladies, I hope you save your marriage.... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 7 May 2014: I do think walking from the room is the correct idea because it shows that there are consequences for talking to you as she has. Not nasty, but your feelings are affected. The thing I do not understand is how she will take her independence and above ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 2 May 2014: Just going out on Wednesdays is not much of a sign. I am sorry if I introduced the idea. I have been cheated on obadly in the past which probably caused me to refer to it. Not now thankfully. In the past I would have been checking things. I try not ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 30 April 2014: It would do you no harm to start looking outside the home for some activities. You might insider going on a short break by yourself, doing activity that you always wanted to do. It might be a wrench but it would be healthy. For you, it would be a ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 29 April 2014: I can never be sure whether my responses go due to our awful internet access. Hence repetition. Apologies! ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 29 April 2014: As the main breadwinner she would have to pay the montage if you stayed to look after the kids. Do not fall on your sword, she is taking you for granted. See a professional and find out. Start to protect your position and do not be a yes man. She ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 29 April 2014: She may have to continue paying the montage if you stay and look after the kids. That is why you need advice. She is the main wage earner, so is in the position that men usually are. Please do not fall on your sword. She needs to understand the ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 29 April 2014: Another thing to stress. If she wants to separate it must be her that goes. Do not leave your family home. You have every right to stay there and continue to care for your children. She needs to be clear how this separation will be achieved. If you ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 28 April 2014: Another thing to stress. If she wants to separate it must be her that goes. Do not leave your family home. You have every right to stay there and continue to care for your children. She needs to be clear how this separation will be achieved. If you ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 27 April 2014: Get yourself someone 10years younger? Pity's sake CMMP! I can see you love her. Real love can be hard to find. It involves comparability, not just age, or hair colour or anything else. You also have a shared history, which creates a very strong ... (read in full...)
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