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I've added some new quotes today (but also kept the earlier ones below)
And the next two quotes are from a wise Uncle on this site called BrownWolf http://www.dearcupid.org/people/brownwolf
“I very thankful for the ounce of common sense I have...because sense is not that common. :) “
"Stay away from foolish people; they have nothing to teach you."
That quote about foolish people from BrownWolf is so true. A weak person cannot be trusted. With a strong person you have more certainty, they are not afraid to stand up and be counted when they are needed.
And I especially like BrownWolf's first quote above on common sense and so I asked BrownWolf for permission to replicate it here. BrownWolf then generously offered the second quote, above, as well.
When you meet a person for the first time, then imagine they are facing their biggest challenge ever:
With this mind-set it reminds us to be kind and use empathy because we can never truly know the extent of personal challenges a person is currently facing.
Badgering a person and humiliation with unreasonable demands for "I have to know" is more likely to harm than help. We do not "have to know". Be kind. Listen carefully and remain supportive. Then the person will willingly reveal more and feel safe to reveal more again.
We can never assume that things are much easier than things are for ourselves.
It encourages one to listen carefully and employ empathy in our dealings with others.
In life we face many things. But with each challenge we can grow a little stronger. When you meet a person with great strength of character it is possible that they grew that strength as a result of some very tough obstacles and some personal tragedies.
Never underestimate such a person.
Strength does not imply brutality nor cruelty and often not even physical strength.
A truly strong person will never seek to harm another. They know their strength and they know that kindness will move mountains more easily than brutality.
Then there is one of my favourites: Sun Tzu.
The wisdom of Sun Tzu is still as fresh as the day he wrote it 4000 years ago:
“A leader leads by example not by force. “
And now some less well known quotes:
“It is much more valuable to look for the strength in others. You can gain nothing by criticizing their imperfections.”
by Daisaku Ikeda
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”
by Maya Angelou
“Challenges are what will make us stronger.”
by Zainab Alsaati
Respect other people's feelings. Even if it doesn't mean anything to you, it could mean everything to them. (quoted by many, but generally considered to be by 'unknown')
'As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do.'.....Andrew Carnegie
I also respect the Chinese idea of "face" - there is no need to humiliate people. It demeans the one doing the demeaning. there are better ways to call a person to account with dignity. Focus on the Issue when there is a problem rather than be accusatory to the person
'Spilled water is hard to regain' (fù shu nán shou)
"Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt,
kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate." .....Albert Schweitzer
'A sunny disposition is worth more than fortune.
Young people should know that it can be cultivated; that the mind like the body can be moved from the shade into sunshine'. .Andrew Carnegie
"We will not be remembered by our words, but by our kind deeds." ... Author Unknown, from A Great Life Lesson
“It always seems impossible until it's done.”... Nelson Mandella
"Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless." .....Mother Teresa
"Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough." .....Franklin D. Roosevelt
'Teamwork is the ability to work together toward a common vision. It is the fuel that allows common people to attain uncommon results.'...Andrew Carnegie
what's your favourite quote?
But all is not sweetness, kindness and light in this complex world.
There really are afflicted and inadequate people in this world who get their pleasure from deliberately trying to hurt others.
They do this out of an inflated sense of their importance in the scheme of things. They feel entitled to be mean to others. They have become arrogant over the years.
Yet they are not the strong individuals they think they are. Instead they are passive aggressive bullies.
There are those afflicted with traits that are so petty and unkind that one wonders what has happened to make them that way?
Their arrogance will not allow them to step back and get help for their afflictions.
Instead, like a bull in a china shop, they just keep on head butting harder and harder, using the same tactics they've been using for years to try to get their own way.
What traits cause the problems for such insecure arrogant persons with an inflated sense of entitlement?
Here are a few of the afflictions that continually cause problems in their relationships:
Negativity?
Passive Aggression?
Being Hate filled towards those they see as ''less'' than themselves = everyone?
Envy
Jealousy
For those afflicted with those horrible traits all I can feel for these tormented souls is pity that they are beset with such inadequacies and negativity.
The traits result in them concocting a lie that they are the victims, when in reality they are instead the bullies, the overly judgmental and nasty arrogant persons who enjoy hurting others.
Just feel sorry for them and their inadequate responses.
Then go forth and find things to enjoy in life. Find the positive, find ways to be supportive and kind to others. It is win win in every way on all sides.
Turn your back on cruel unkind and bitter people. Leave them to scheme alone. Their negativity causes their faces to betray their bitterness within.
Their hearts harden and they wonder why others can be so unaffected by all their schemes to hurt others. They are the losers who think their nastiness towards others is justified. |
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Or
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Two things stand out.
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I need opinions on the way I approached her. Was my way too aggressive? Did I scare her away?
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My boyfriend's co-worker offered to help us move. I don't want this convicted felon co-worker near me. Am I being unreasonable?
Q. My Boyfriend is moving out of his apartment next week and told me today that a coworker has offered to help us move. The coworker is a convicted child molester. He molested and abused a 5 year old child. I sincerely do not want to be around thi...
A. 19 June 2011: tell your guy to find someone else to assist and ask him to respect your wishes on this. I know I would be unwilling to have the man in my home. Children are sacred and must be kept safe. Although it sounds like you do not yet have children I would ... (read in full...)
Why wont my wife talk about her sexual past?
Q. what could the reason be for my wife not want to talk about her sexual past before we got married ? she shuts the subject down cold, the thing that bothers me is the one thing she said- i don,t remember how many there was, there was not that many. ...
A. 19 June 2011: It would appear that your wife is a lady with style and class and therefore she tactfully closes down on what is her business only, completely private, and no one elses's business but her own. She finds it ill-bred and demeaning for anyone to think ... (read in full...)
I do love him. I want him back. Am I getting back with him for the right reasons?
Q. Ok- i was dating my ex for 2 years and i ended things about 9 months ago. Since then he's been contacting me and trying to get back with me. and we've actually hung out a few time and had a really fun time. And he is usually saying things like i ...
A. 19 June 2011: you mentioned that you are 'not OK with hurting him again' ?? So was it an event that happened, or the break up itself that hurt him?
You say you love him. He is the 'Greatest guy you've ever met' AND he's keen to get back too.
And neither of you h... (read in full...)
Why am I only attracted to much older men?
Q. Okay, so heres the thing, I'm young (19), and basically I'm pretty much only attracted to men who are, on average, about thirty years older than myself (pretty much between the ages of 45-60). I've only ever been with guys my own age though.....
A. 19 June 2011: You do sound intelligent and possibly a little more sophisticated than average. You look for good conversation and a guy who has some style and class. Guys who can fulfill those requirements and be the same age as you are probably going to be very ... (read in full...)
Is this his polite way of breaking up or what else could he mean?
Q. I'm confused right now. my bf told me he needed space like one week.. is this breaking up with me in a polite manner or he just need a little time without me?...
A. 18 June 2011: He should be more forthcoming with you, and explain himself better. If he has a family crisis I am sure you would want to know. If he has a work issue or some studies he wants to concentrate on then there should be no problem telling you. He may ... (read in full...)
Is kissing the girl you love is everything in a relationship?
Q. I love her so much.. But we have not kissed each other yet.. Now she is in abroad for study.. Before i couldn't ask her for kiss because i didn't want to hurt her feelings.. Just last night of the day she was leaving the place, i asked for k kiss, ...
A. 18 June 2011: Kissing not everything. Trust is the most important thing in a relationship. Without mutual trust (on both sides) you do not have a relationship.
A person you trust is a person who feels they can discuss and share anything with you. There is no hesi... (read in full...)
Questions regarding college and the gay community...
Q. I'm about to start college really soon and I am very excited! Anyways, I'm a guy in the closet and I really want to come out because I want to start dating and meeting other gay people. The reason I can't at the moment is because I come from a very ...
A. 18 June 2011: hi,
Your question made me curious. Are you just curious about gay or genuinely gay? Because some of your comments surprised me.
For instance I am happily hetrosexual. But I would never think of using the words 'disgusting question coming up..' in... (read in full...)
Why do some gay guys don't seem to be gay at all?
Q. I have a friend who I've known many years. He always dated women and didn't seem gay. Then he came out a couple of years ago. I was surprised. His boyfriend is hot and doesn't really seem gay either. Such a shame! Is it just me or do I have a bad ...
A. 16 June 2011: Macho guys, gay or not, are noticed by interested guys and girls. You don't think Julio (South American singer) would ever fail to impress the guys and the girls? I realise (now) that he's gay. But I can still marvel at his hip swivelling cute ... (read in full...)
Why do some gay guys don't seem to be gay at all?
Q. I have a friend who I've known many years. He always dated women and didn't seem gay. Then he came out a couple of years ago. I was surprised. His boyfriend is hot and doesn't really seem gay either. Such a shame! Is it just me or do I have a bad ...
A. 13 June 2011: I agree with Cerberus completely.
Gay guys, based on my experience, bring a different perspective and impeccable taste to life. I notice their good taste long before I come to know that they are gay. Style wise they are often impressive and make... (read in full...)
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