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11 July 2010: Nothing! Several situations can be mistaken to mean something more, when they truly don't carry much significance. For example: The friend you've been crushing on for the last six months accepts your third attempt at a friend request, and...
What to do when the person you're attracted to is already taken.
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7 July 2010: Run the hell away. I've seen several questions of this nature on the site. It seems like a simple problem, although in reality it's not. It's complicated and messy, and almost always leaves one person's emotions in ruins while the other enjoys hav...
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What to do when the person you're attracted to is already taken.
Q. Run the hell away. I've seen several questions of this nature on the site. It seems like a simple problem, although in reality it's not. It's complicated and messy, and almost always leaves one person's emotions in ruins while the other enjoys hav...
A. 11 July 2010: Ritasanyal, the point I'm trying to make here is that it's more trouble than it's worth. Besides, as I said, how does one know the married/attached person in question won't cheat on the one they're already cheating with? There's no way to know.
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Should I go out with him or wait or not even at .all?
Q. *OP's Original Title* i know this guy who im starting to like but we are still just getting to know each other. he keeps telling me he likes me but i said we should wait to go out until hes older because the problem is right now hes twelve. he said ...
A. 10 July 2010: The things he says or does on Facebook can't be taken seriously, because there's no way to know he's really being genuine. Even in person it's not always easy to tell, but definitely easier.
After all, he could only be saying or doing certain thin... (read in full...)
Why did he sleep with her?
Q. *OP's Original Title* Okay well my ex boyfriend and I broke up. Why is because he wanted to do things that i didnt and anyway he crashed my facebook and put all over it that i am goin gay and im a slut and everyting like that. Well know he claims ...
A. 10 July 2010: Just as you said, apparently she was willing to do the things with him you weren't. He's only interested in meeting his own needs, and that's not going to change if you start dating him again. Dump him, find someone that will respect you.... (read in full...)
Why don't boys like me????
Q. *OP's Original Title* I'm 13 years old and I haven had a boyfriend in a while. I'm my grade, no guys like me and no guys ask me out. I don't know why they don't like me!!!!! It is really making me upset. I'm 5 foot, have breasts and have a pretty f...
A. 10 July 2010: Breasts and a pretty face aren't everything, so I suggest you don't use that to justify why you shouldn't be single.
Instead of waiting for boys to approach you, why not ask one out? If he says no, just move on to another one. You'll never kn... (read in full...)
I love him! Does he love me or just want sex?
Q. I have been dating this person for 8 months now and we have yet to say i love you to one another. The problem is i do love them but i dont think they love me and I refuse to be the first to say it. i dont know if they really like me or just like ...
A. 10 July 2010: How do you know the other person doesn't feel the same way, and like you refuses to be the first to say it? To be completely honest, that's a pretty immature stance to take on something like saying 'I love you'. It has nothing to do with who says it ... (read in full...)
How long should I keep silent and miserable while he enjoys life?
Q. my husband has made certain rules like dont discuss anything about family,friends,work etc.if i do so he pretendwahe cant hear.he is very funloving person to society in the house we hardly speak but sit and watch tv.i cant share my thoughts with ...
A. 10 July 2010: Stand up for yourself, don't let his ridiculous rules silence you.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps making excuses not to have sex with me
Q. I don't understand why but for a while now my boyfriend doesn't really want to have sex. When I met him we were like friends with benefits and he always wanted sex. But now he's always giving me excuses saying that he's too tired. I feel so bad cuz ...
A. 10 July 2010: He might have another friend with benefits on the side.... (read in full...)
Will he say I misused his brother in law? I consider it harmless!
Q. i am very open with my youngest BIL who is 22. started with he shown sexual interest up on me. when i spoke with my husband he told its just normal at his age and i shud not be very harsh to BIL. a day i noticed that he tried to touch on my boobs i ...
A. 10 July 2010: Pleasure doesn't justify it. You're entirely capable of stopping, you just choose not to.
If you don't stop and do in fact decide to tell your husband, you'll lose his trust and possibly even your relationship with him.... (read in full...)
I'm gay, but attracted to my wife. Am I wrong?
Q. I'm gay, that means I'm sexually attracted to other guy and not to a girl. That's a biological fact, I accepted that. I currently married to a woman and I consider my life happy. Sure I'm not sexually attracted to my wife but there is something else ...
A. 10 July 2010: It's entirely possible to be attracted to someone's personality, but not their gender.
Also, it's rare for a person to be completely homosexual or heterosexual. The vast majority fall somewhere in between.... (read in full...)
Will he come back to me again?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been talking for 8 months. He officially asked me to be his girlfriend around February and it was great then he broke up with me a month and a half later. 3 weeks went by i contacted him partially but soon gave up. one day ...
A. 10 July 2010: He's not interested in you any more, stop contacting him. ... (read in full...)
Soon to be ex wife wants a farewell f*ck but I have a girlfriend!
Q. I am about 2/3 the way through a divorce with my wife of 20 years. I have been separated from her for 4 months now and seeing someone else who I care about very much. This woman was an affair that turned into a committed relationship. My wife and ...
A. 10 July 2010: So while she was your wife you thought having an affair was perfectly acceptable in spite of claiming to love her, but now that you're with someone else, you're trying to justify one last fuck -because- she's your wife? That makes no sense. You're ... (read in full...)
How do I experience an enjoyable time without being treated like a strange, creepy person?
Q. I'm middle-aged. I am separating from my wife, at least for six months. The reason we are separating is that she has been unfaithful in several ways, and I want her to experience life without me. As for myself, I have been hurt by her behavior and ...
A. 10 July 2010: You shouldn't get involved with someone else, period. You're still married, and from what it sounds like, the separation is intended to be temporary. Rather than try to get back at your wife for what she's done, get a divorce. Her actions aren't an ... (read in full...)
How to stop my man from flirting?
Q. Hi peeps hope all is well... My question is! How do I get my man to stop flirting with other girls literally infront of me??!! I absolutely hate it, I dont have a clue what the hell to do!! We've only been going out just over a month.. He's the...
A. 10 July 2010: It's only been a month, and he's already showing how little he respects you. It's incredibly rude, and I think at this stage in your relationship, he's testing you to see how much he can get away with.
Most men will on occasion flirt with a w... (read in full...)
I was molested, but my boyfriend is apathetic!
Q. Okay, I'm having a bit of a dilema.. I've been with my boyfriend for two years and 8 months (tomorrow, the 10th, will be 9 months). We've never been a problematic couple and we always try not to argue. But now things have turned for the worst. I...
A. 10 July 2010: There's such a thing as emotional abuse, and he's definitely guilty of it. It doesn't matter how much you love him in this case, because he's already made it clear he won't change for you, even in spite of everything you've been through.
He's ... (read in full...)
Is he committed to the relationship or not?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for about 10 months. I just don't feel like he's committed to the relationship. I haven't met his parents, he has never given me a gift (he sent me a text message for my birthday), and he doesn't invite me to meet his ...
A. 10 July 2010: Everything he's been doing is a clear sign he doesn't feel like putting forth any effort and really isn't committed to you. It sounds like he doesn't even have respect for you, because you're allowing him to treat you as a convenience.
Talk ... (read in full...)
Is my friend trying to set me up?
Q. I'm not sure whether to meet up with my friend and this guy she is friends with . She has been friends with him for a while, and she said he really wants to meet me, and she said he is a nice guy, and he is 32. I'm 26. I know my friend isnt ...
A. 10 July 2010: Just ask her. What harm can it do?... (read in full...)
Descison about sexual experimentation!
Q. I have a big choice to make. I really do love girls but I only like to masturbate to gay porn. Now the opportunity for me to try and experiment with another guy has arisen, and I need to know if you guys think I should explore my sexuality and ...
A. 9 July 2010: Obviously the choice is up to you, but you're still young and other opportunities will definitely come up as long as you look for them. I still don't think you're emotionally ready.... (read in full...)
What to do when the person you're attracted to is already taken.
Q. Run the hell away. I've seen several questions of this nature on the site. It seems like a simple problem, although in reality it's not. It's complicated and messy, and almost always leaves one person's emotions in ruins while the other enjoys hav...
A. 9 July 2010: This isn't a question, it's an article.... (read in full...)
Should I leave him alone and go back to my husband?
Q. ok heres the thing. i am in the middle of a divorce, it will be final in a month. i am most definatly sure that im in love with his childhood best friend. and he says he feels the same way. thing is, he has two kids with a girl i used to go to ...
A. 9 July 2010: Regardless of how either of you feels for the other, he has a family and a baby on the way, which I'm assuming is his. If it comes down to him having to make a choice, he's definitely going to choose his children over you.
Leave him alone. I... (read in full...)
I don't know how to tell him!
Q. i met this dude on the last two weeks of school two years ago till today and from that time i feel in love with him and i don't know how to tell him. he has a gf but she dont care bout him like i do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! what should i ...
A. 9 July 2010: It doesn't matter what you think of his girlfriend or the relationship he has with her, he's taken and therefore unavailable. Tell him when he's single again to avoid making things complicated.... (read in full...)
Is it okay to have a secret affair, as the sex situation is beyond repair?
Q. I am in a sexless Marriage (for over 3 years of no sex), and believe me I've tried to resolve it. But my wife remains uninterested in sex, and it just seems like we share a house as barely friends. I in the meantime have a very high sex drive, ...
A. 9 July 2010: If you're on here asking a question like this, you obviously already know it's wrong. It's not okay. No matter how many excuses you make, it's never going to be okay.
If sex is really more important to you than keeping your marriage and your wif... (read in full...)
How can I find out why this married man is ignoring me without seeming like a stalker?
Q. I have had some emotional "issues" with a married man who has been my friend for 10 years, and because I felt i was falling for him hard I broke off our friendship (via e-mail). I told him I would not contact him anymore. The day after I e-mailed ...
A. 9 July 2010: He's not going to respond after you've already said you want to end the friendship, via email of all things. Why would he? You said you wouldn't be contacting him again, and then in spite of that, sent a message the very next day. It's best to leave ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with him?
Q. uhm , last year i lost my virginity around the age 12 going onto 13 and this year the guy i knew and i still trusted likes me and we started going out for almost 7 months and i think i want to try it out with him i am 13 going on to 14 and this guys ...
A. 9 July 2010: If you have to ask this question, I'm sure you already know the answer. Rather than take the selfish route and mess around with your boyfriend just for the hell of it, you should be more concerned about the baby you've been trusted to take care of.... (read in full...)
Descison about sexual experimentation!
Q. I have a big choice to make. I really do love girls but I only like to masturbate to gay porn. Now the opportunity for me to try and experiment with another guy has arisen, and I need to know if you guys think I should explore my sexuality and ...
A. 9 July 2010: Since you're already feeling guilty without having done anything, you're clearly not emotionally ready for something of this nature. Going through with it would only multiply that feeling and leave you in a worse state than you already were.... (read in full...)
Does he want to be with me?
Q. Hey everyone i need advice i am so depressed i feel like i am all alone ive been single for 6months i broke up with my ex a few days ago we decided to get back together and i have so many feelings for him i love him but he only says that he cares ...
A. 9 July 2010: If he really wanted to be with you, he would be with you and make more of an effort. Men aren't exactly subtle in that area.... (read in full...)
What should we do when friends won't like us going out?
Q. Ok so me and my best guy friend just admitted that we like eachother as more than friends. We tell eachother everything! We know just about everything about eachother. We love eachother but we are scared to start goin out. First off he's my bff'...
A. 9 July 2010: Although true friends should be accepting, it's a red flag when most of them already don't like him. If you really want to be together, ignore what your friends say. It all depends on how much their opinion matters to you.... (read in full...)
Will he say I misused his brother in law? I consider it harmless!
Q. i am very open with my youngest BIL who is 22. started with he shown sexual interest up on me. when i spoke with my husband he told its just normal at his age and i shud not be very harsh to BIL. a day i noticed that he tried to touch on my boobs i ...
A. 9 July 2010: It's not harmless, it's a betrayal of your husband's trust. Why else would you feel guilty about it?... (read in full...)
I'm scared. Should I tell someone what happened?
Q. so i was at my friends house the other night. it was around 1:30 am or sometihng close to that time when i fell asleep on her couch. her brother and her cousin where in her brothers room when i passed out. i woke up at around 2:30 to the feeling of ...
A. 9 July 2010: Tell your mother, or another trusted adult. He might be doing the same thing to other young girls, or will in the future.... (read in full...)
Are the parents being irrational?
Q. So, this past year, we had Austrians come and visit our school. It's tradition to spend the whole week with them and just have fun. There was one in particular, who stood out for me.. and I wanted to get to know him. I didn't know where it would go, ...
A. 9 July 2010: It sounds as though your parents are incredibly biased, and fail to realize the generalizations they make don't apply to everyone. ... (read in full...)
Is he ashamed of me and doesn't want to have any pictures of us together?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm with my boyfriend of 3 months, D*****. I look at my friends pictures online and they have a bunch of silly pictures of them and their boyfriends together, making silly faces, kissing, etc. D***** knows that I want pictures of hi...
A. 9 July 2010: Okay, firstly, there's no such thing as 'practically engaged'. You either are or you aren't, and you've only been together for three months.
Not wanting to take any pictures with you is really odd, there's probably something else going on he's not... (read in full...)
I don't want to be clingy but I would like to maintain contact with her...
Q. So I met a girl in class through a class project and we have talked here and there during school. I'm not madly in love or anything, just interested. But she just graduated and is currently out of the country on vacation. The night before her ...
A. 9 July 2010: Get in touch with her a week or so after she comes back, and keep the conversation light. As long as you're relaxed you won't come off as desperate, and she'll feel more at ease speaking to you.... (read in full...)
He refuses to take my calls, is angry and uspet, but won't give my stuff back! Why?
Q. Hi all, I have been in a relationship for around six weeks with a lovely guy. Alot has happened during that time- and I have met his parents and been on holiday with him.he came on very strong, and his mother told me that he is in love with me. An...
A. 9 July 2010: It's better that you don't respond, he's just playing games to try to elicit a response out of you. That's all he'll ever probably do at this point.... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any reccomendations between residence for uni or off campus?
Q. This isn't a relationship question, but more an inquiry about personal experiences and advice. I have the choice of either living in a residence at my university (in a quad with 6 other people) or with a good friend of mine off campus. On campus ...
A. 9 July 2010: Off-campus would be the better choice. You'll be living with someone you already get along well with, and won't have to share your personal space with 6 other people you don't even know. There's plenty of opportunities to make new friends outside of ... (read in full...)
How do I have a fun sex life as a newly single woman without looking like a whore?
Q. Hi everyone, I thank you for all your advice in advance and I'd greatly appreciate kind yet honest answers :D I'm single, have been for the past 8 months after a five year relationship so the dating scene is all so new to me. That bf was my f...
A. 8 July 2010: Be sure your expectations are realistic before getting involved in anything, and be discreet about it. Don't go into a one night stand or casual fling expecting more to come from it later, because it's not going to happen. ... (read in full...)
My unsympathetic prat of a boyfriend!
Q. About a year ago I developed a lump in my left breast about the size of a ping pong ball. Eventually that lump has increased significantly to the size of a baseball. It didn't hurt or anything and I don't know how it happened but it did and it's ...
A. 8 July 2010: You have every right to feel upset, the least he could've done was be present and help you upstairs. He didn't even do that, and his actions speak volumes of how he'll treat you in the future, should you need help. Leave him. Don't ever make excuses ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to be this ready or is it just that I'm more mature than most females my age?
Q. Hi, My boyfriend and I have been talking for about 19 months but we've only officially been dating for 14 of those months. He's 20 and I'll be 19 in September but neither of our families has a problem with us being together. We've had our ups and ...
A. 8 July 2010: It's not wrong, however I wouldn't necessarily call it a sign of maturity. There are plenty of women older than yourself that don't want or aren't ready for marriage and motherhood, as well as many young girls that want to have children and marry ... (read in full...)
He refuses to take my calls, is angry and uspet, but won't give my stuff back! Why?
Q. Hi all, I have been in a relationship for around six weeks with a lovely guy. Alot has happened during that time- and I have met his parents and been on holiday with him.he came on very strong, and his mother told me that he is in love with me. An...
A. 8 July 2010: *why would you want be WITH someone that acts like a child? Sorry for that typo!... (read in full...)
Why do women always lie about there sexual past???
Q. Hello everyone, Today im here too really find out why women always under sell their sexual past. I found out two of my good friends and including me, That are wives have liad too us about there sexual past. Ive been married for 13 years and come too ...
A. 8 July 2010: Exactly as the others said, it's because any number higher than 1 or 2 seems to elicit your exact respone from many men, and your reaction definitely confirmed her fear in telling you in the first place. This is why some women, not all, will lie. On ... (read in full...)
Is there REALLY an age limit on love???
Q. Hi! My boyfriend of almost six months is 19 turning 20 in August and I`m 15 turning 16 in September, I look older for my age and I`m also more mature than most 15 year old girls. I know a lot of teenagers say that, but, no, I REALLY am. I`m going to ...
A. 8 July 2010: Although it does sound like you two have a good relationship, age is NOT just a number, and love can never be used as the sole reason a large age gap is justified. Just because it worked out with one or two other couples in a similar situation ... (read in full...)
B/f said he "kind of cheated"
Q. Hi everyone, Im a bit confused...basically i have been with my bf for 3 and a half years-in this time we have had an open honest relationship. he was my best friend for years when we were at school and since returning from uni we have been together...
A. 8 July 2010: If he's telling the truth, it definitely sounds like rape. Men CAN be raped, though it's uncommon, and is in no way a form of cheating.... (read in full...)
He refuses to take my calls, is angry and uspet, but won't give my stuff back! Why?
Q. Hi all, I have been in a relationship for around six weeks with a lovely guy. Alot has happened during that time- and I have met his parents and been on holiday with him.he came on very strong, and his mother told me that he is in love with me. An...
A. 8 July 2010: Back off for a week or two to let him cool off. Then call and ask for your things to be returned in a calm, neutral manner. If you sound at all annoyed, he's going to be spiteful and ignore your requests. After that, end it. Why would you want to be ... (read in full...)
I couldn't help probe about her sexual past, but I wish she wouldn't have been so honest!!!
Q. Ok here's my problem. My gf and I have been dating for a little over a year now, at the begining of the relationship I asked the inevitable question " how many men have you slept with"?. She asked me to answer the question first, I told her 80 women ...
A. 8 July 2010: So the real problem is the fact that she wouldn't stroke your ego after you fished for compliments, and instead told you the truth? You got exactly what you asked for, she can't be expected to automatically lie just for your sake. The important ... (read in full...)
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