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11 July 2010: Nothing! Several situations can be mistaken to mean something more, when they truly don't carry much significance. For example: The friend you've been crushing on for the last six months accepts your third attempt at a friend request, and...
What to do when the person you're attracted to is already taken.
This question has 7 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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7 July 2010: Run the hell away. I've seen several questions of this nature on the site. It seems like a simple problem, although in reality it's not. It's complicated and messy, and almost always leaves one person's emotions in ruins while the other enjoys hav...
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He hasn't replied in three days, should I message him again?
Q. Hi, What do you think i should do next? I saw a totally gorgeous tanned, blonde guy on my friend's facebook! I really lack confidence to make first moves and although people tell me i'm pretty and fun and i should go for it, i feel so fool...
A. 29 July 2010: He's not interested in getting to know you further, otherwise he would continue the conversation rather than brush you off. Also, regardless of there being a reason for him to reply or not, he would have if he really wanted to. It would be best to... (read in full...)
Is she Bi, Lesbian, or just beng friendly?
Q. Hi, I can't tell whether this woman is interested in me. I run my own business inside this shopping centre where this woman works. We see each other everyday and always talk. I'm trying to figure out whether she is a lesbian or not though. She is 20 ...
A. 28 July 2010: It sounds like she may be interested in you, though she could also just be a really friendly person and mean nothing by it. Does she act this way with anyone else?... (read in full...)
What is he up to, what does he want from me?
Q. This guy and I dated for about 6 months. We broke up because he didnt think I was ready for a relationship, basically, and told me he still cares for me. I made the mistake of talking to him constantly, and arranged to see him twice (the second t...
A. 28 July 2010: This may sound harsh, but if he really wanted to be in a relationship with you, he would be pursuing it. He's unsure of what he wants because in reality, he wants to keep his options open and keep you around as a back-up plan just in case. He's just ... (read in full...)
Does he like me, or is it wishful thinking?
Q. I'm not exactly sure how to handle my emotions right now....I just started marching band camp as a freshman, and I noticed a particular boy who is a sophomore. I fell for him given he's absolutely charming! I just, don't know how to handle this. I ...
A. 28 July 2010: Talk to him!... (read in full...)
Please help me, I'm 16 and think I'm pregnant.
Q. am i pregnant or just paranoid? i had unprotected sex on the 29th of april and got the morning-after pill the day after. i got my period as normal a week later. recently ive been getting headaches, feeling sick, light headed, eating more, tired, my ...
A. 28 July 2010: If you've gotten your period as you normally do, you're not pregnant.
You could be feeling this way because of your paranoia, as in a mild form of hypochondria. It could also be a side effect from taking the morning-after pill. Either way, you... (read in full...)
Our 'dates' are all at his house but I want us to go out
Q. Ok... Ive been seeing this guy recently. Date 1: We was supposed to go out for drinks. He called after he finished work saying he was tired but i could come round his place. First off i said no and said we would do it another day when he was less ...
A. 28 July 2010: Although he may not have much money on hand right now, there are still things you could do that don't cost a lot of money. I'm guessing he's lazy, more than anything.... (read in full...)
Why does he masterbate at every opportunity???
Q. Mod note: Your title you chose is already in use. My bf masterbates every chance he gets. Evertime I leave the house even if I just go to the store.. We arnt haveing alot of sex right now. Its really starting to piss me off. I have told him how it m...
A. 28 July 2010: Why exactly does it bother you so much? It's completely natural, especially in the absence of regular sex.
He's likely masturbating so often because his sexual needs aren't being met at the moment, and waits for you to leave to do so because ... (read in full...)
How do I get my mom to understand?!?!?
Q. OK so I'm 13 years old and lots of people say i look way older and there's this guy whos 18, he goes to my church. he is very nice and all we text a bunch....but lately we been txt kinda sexually and well I know it sounds kinda whore-ish but ...
A. 24 July 2010: How 'nice' could he be if he's sending sexual texts to a 13 year old? It's not harmless, at that age you're still inexperienced and naive, and he was trying to use this to his advantage. Your mother is only trying to protect you, show her she can ... (read in full...)
I thought I was his girlfriend? Why did he do this?
Q. I have been talking to this guy for 5 months now. We used to text every day, he used to be really nice and romantic with me. we started having sex, and he is the best i ever had. he started calling me his gf for a while but as a joke. after a ...
A. 21 July 2010: He misses the sex, and thinks he can get it from you whenever he wants.... (read in full...)
Married, but found my soulmate
Q. i'm a 40yo man...married for 11 years with 3 beautiful children. My wife and I seem to be so far apart on so many levels and I am very unhappy. She is also an alcoholic and I'm extremely worried about the affect this will have on our kids. Now to...
A. 20 July 2010: An intervention might be necessary, at least for your childrens' sake. The marriage seems beyond repair, so get a divorce and move on. No one here is going to give you permission to move on to someone else while you're still married. Is there a ... (read in full...)
Dating a married man, but he doesn't want to leave his disabled wife.
Q. dear cupid, i am dating a married man i have been in the relationship for 10 months i love this man very much and when i approach him about the situation he just said yes i am i was so hurt and i don't know what to do he said he love me and still ...
A. 19 July 2010: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-to-do-when-the-person-youre-attracted.html He's not going to leave her. Are you really willing to settle for being second best?... (read in full...)
Married, but found my soulmate
Q. i'm a 40yo man...married for 11 years with 3 beautiful children. My wife and I seem to be so far apart on so many levels and I am very unhappy. She is also an alcoholic and I'm extremely worried about the affect this will have on our kids. Now to...
A. 19 July 2010: Rather than being madly in love with this woman, you're infatuated with her because she's present and available during a dark period in your life.
It's only been a week, how can you believe she's your soulmate? It sounds as though you're trying t... (read in full...)
I'm in love with him, but he's still with his girlfriend!
Q. im in love with my boyfriend but he still has a girlfriend i knew he had a girlfriend before we got together but i let my feelings get the best of me and started going out with him anyway.. he tells me he's not happy with her anymore and what they ...
A. 18 July 2010: This situation is an absolute mess. You knew he had a girlfriend, but still conveniently ignored that fact and started dating him anyway. You've given him the choice to break up with her, and guess what? He hasn't. That alone should tell you ... (read in full...)
I feel like she's tricking me into having kids...
Q. I have 2 questions: My GF is 40, never been in a committed relationship (just FWB) and wants to get married and have a family. I love her, but am getting on after a divorce and while I can see myself with her, just dont have the mindset to think...
A. 17 July 2010: If you're really concerned, use a condom. Otherwise you can't blame her for 'tricking' you.... (read in full...)
Women are psycho???
Q. Men are all the time saying that women are crazy and psycho, but are they unaware that their behavior or certain acts on their part often times is what stimulates women to act irrationally? ...
A. 17 July 2010: I agree with anti, the men who claim women are 'psycho' are just very insecure. This doesn't mean all men do the same thing.... (read in full...)
Should I continue to pursue him?
Q. Met guy online, talked for a week, spent 6 hours together over the weekend. Had plans for the following weekend, he bailed - we continued to talk and then he sent an email saying the spark wasn't strong enough. Didn't reply right away but did send ...
A. 17 July 2010: He's lost interest, move on and find someone else.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's insecurity is ruining our relationship!
Q. hi. 10 weeks ago while my girlfriend was at work i watched a movie called three, it is classified as a thriller but has 2 sex scenes in it. Before this incident i had been going out with my girlfriend for 2months and she has told me she was insec...
A. 17 July 2010: You've done nothing wrong, don't let her tell you otherwise. She has serious issues that need to be dealt with, and really should have been dealt with before she even considered being in a relationship.
The best thing for both of you would be... (read in full...)
Is he playing hard to get or is he not interested?
Q. what's the different signs of a guy playing hard to get and just simply not being interested...
A. 17 July 2010: For men, there's no such thing as playing hard to get. It's either interested or disinterested. Men aren't exactly subtle in this area. If he's into you, he'll let you know in one way or another.... (read in full...)
I have to choose between my parents and my online boyfriend!
Q. Dear Cupid, Well, the situation is really complicated. I met this guy online 7 months ago and we started talking. He was a nice guy and we fell for each other and start a relationship. He lives a world apart, but we keep in touch by phone calls a...
A. 17 July 2010: It's only been seven months, yet he wants to take you miles away from home. Aside from him, you'd know no one else there. He also lied about his age, and you don't truly know this man well because you've never met or spoken to each other in person. ... (read in full...)
Where do you draw the line of being too picky?
Q. has that ever happened to you where you get asked out or hit on by several men in like one week and your not interested in a single one? What is wrong with me? Am i being too picky? I mean i know what i want and none of these guys fit the criteria, ...
A. 17 July 2010: It depends on how narrow your criteria is. Can you be more specific? How educated, well-spoken, etc.?
It's good to have standards, but in the long run it's not going to help you find someone to connect with if they're set too high. What if you f... (read in full...)
Why would he send me nude pictures of himself?
Q. This guy i like knows i like him and he likes me and wants me to be his gf, i have told him i am ok with being his friend soi giess he is ok with it since we still text, but just recently he ignored more for a week and i texted but no response, then ...
A. 17 July 2010: He wants you to do the same, and probably hopes he'd eventually get some no-strings sex out of it as well.... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't want sex but this other woman does...
Q. Hey guys i need your advice. I am married since last 7 years. I am tall and with good physique. My wife has become overweight. Her belly has become very fat. She remain frustrated all the tiem. Has no charm in life. Go to job , come home , eat and ...
A. 17 July 2010: 'Proceeding happily' would be an incredibly selfish thing to do. You're still married, and she is as well.
The fact that you're even asking this question means you fully know it's not right. It doesn't matter how beautiful she is or how unha... (read in full...)
Chatting online to other women, is this cheating?
Q. Im a married man. I was just wondering if its considered cheating on my wife when I chat online to women? I dont carry on a relationship with these women, or have made an attempt to meet them. I DONT think im interested in that. I do chat about sex ...
A. 17 July 2010: Think of it this way: would you want your wife to find out about it? I doubt it.
If you think your partner would be hurt and upset by it, it's obviously something you shouldn't be doing.... (read in full...)
On again, off again bf needs time, hanging with new girl, what do I do?
Q. okay so i met this guy almost two years ago, and we have been off and on, and im usually the one that breaks up with him, but he says he loves me and he acts like he does, but 2 weeks ago i broke up with him cause he was going to a new school, and ...
A. 16 July 2010: He's trying to use you for sex while he goes out, dates other people, and has fun without having to worry about the responsibilities of a relationship. Get rid of him, he's not worth it.... (read in full...)
Am I being taken for a ride over his "flirt texting" affair???
Q. My husband has had a flirt texting 'affair' with a work colleague. They got as far as telling each other they 'loved' each other along with saying they would 'wait for sex' but I don't think anything actually happened. He is full of remorse ...
A. 16 July 2010: That's definitely more serious than flirting, and it's by no means 'just a game'. I agree with CaringGuy, he's only saying this to get away with what he's done and continue doing it. The only thing he's feeling remorse for is getting caught. ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I love him any more, but can't leave!
Q. hi, I am 27 years old i married at 21 and have been with my husband since we were 15 years old. we are coming up to our 6 year ann. and i feel things have gotten out of control. we found out that my husband cant give me children and this is very ...
A. 16 July 2010: I never said it was wrong to want children and a family. It's wrong to try to have a child with another man when you're still married, though. I've already given my opinion on what you need to do, it's up to you to get up and actually do it.... (read in full...)
Opinions appreciated. Am I still a virgin... or not?
Q. hi so, im not sure if i lost my virginity, like his penis was in me but he was pretty thick and i was pretty tight and it was my first time so it was really sore, he pulled out though when i said i couldn't take it so does it mean im not a virgin? ...
A. 16 July 2010: I disagree completely with some of these answers, virginity isn't something which has a lot of grey area. He was in you. You're not a virgin, case closed. ... (read in full...)
Dating site guy coming on too strong?
Q. i signed up on a dating site... this guy emailed me.. we've talked and he seems nice so far.. he thinks am gorgeous and hes smitten.. he emailed me this: him: can i be straight to the point i would love to have a long term relation...
A. 15 July 2010: Usually when someone says something like that, they're trying to manipulate you into trusting them. Just be careful.... (read in full...)
I'm 13, he's 20, and I want to have sex with him, but will he leave me afterwards?
Q. Hey all im a 13 year old girl and my bf is 20 im a virgin and well this has been my first real bf we have been together 4months and well i want to take it to the next step and have sex. i know he probably will want to as well but im just a bit ...
A. 15 July 2010: I'm sorry to sound harsh, but the only reason a 20 year old would want be with a 13 year old is to exploit her inexperience and vulnerability for his own benefit. It's easier for him to manipulate girls your age than girls his age. It's also easier ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I love him any more, but can't leave!
Q. hi, I am 27 years old i married at 21 and have been with my husband since we were 15 years old. we are coming up to our 6 year ann. and i feel things have gotten out of control. we found out that my husband cant give me children and this is very ...
A. 15 July 2010: 'Not only was he fired and ALMOST thrown in jail but my parents after 29 year were on the way to the big d and thats when i found out my dad had cheated on my mom four times. in the middle of all this, my friend was there for support and things ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I love him any more, but can't leave!
Q. hi, I am 27 years old i married at 21 and have been with my husband since we were 15 years old. we are coming up to our 6 year ann. and i feel things have gotten out of control. we found out that my husband cant give me children and this is very ...
A. 14 July 2010: 'we found out that my husband cant give me children and this is very hard for me because i want to be a mom naturaly not raise someone elses kid.'
All I see in this paragraph is me, me, me. I, not someone else.
There's nothing wrong with being... (read in full...)
I think about him constantly, and him about me..but he is with someone else!!
Q. My ex and I have been broken up since End of Nov. 2009. He immediately started dating someone and after 6 months of no contact shows up to my work and says he still cares for me and that he can't stop thinking of me. Well he is still with the same ...
A. 14 July 2010: It's really hard when an ex resurfaces, because it's so much easier to forget someone when you don't have to come into contact with them. He showed up fully knowing this, because getting you to think about him is exactly what he wants. He was trying ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has a girl friend that causes problems
Q. My Bf used to flat with two girls when we started going out. One was very clingy and flirty. she was always all over him, and would write on his facebook how much she loved him. She would call him baby and intimate things, and many thought she was ...
A. 14 July 2010: Drop him. While he did stand up for you, he's still always going to run back to her. You shouldn't have to worry about that every time you have an argument or take a break from each other for a day.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my ex that I miss him?
Q. Should i tell my ex i miss him? Him and I dated for 1 yr and 1/2 it was a very intense relationship, he dedicated everything to me wanted to marry me wrote sayings about me was just head over heals for me well for a lot of reasons we ended up spli...
A. 14 July 2010: He has a girlfriend now, and he's not even the same person you fell in love with. Let him go.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says we're only friends!
Q. for the first time in my life I am so seriously discouraged, I wonder what I can do to cheer myself up. They say publish or perish, but while you try to publish, your relationship perishes. Men run away from women struggling to make it in the ...
A. 14 July 2010: If that's what he's saying, he's not worth being with anyway.... (read in full...)
He never comes to visit me, I always have to go to him! What should I do?
Q. My new boyfriend and I haven’t seen each other since two weeks. He calls me everyday and says he misses me and he calls me honey and sweetheart. Every time he wants to get together he wants me to come to him. I can’t go to his house because my ...
A. 14 July 2010: When men are really interested and into you, they'll make an effort, not give you excuses. I can understand if he's busy, but he's clearly unwilling to find a way to visit you. Even when your dad offers to give him a ride he declines, right? This ... (read in full...)
He's still not divorced! What should I tell him?
Q. I have read all the simular comments and stories to mine.. It all sounds the same! Where to turn, what to do next, and where does it have to end? I ended a 10 year marriage/divorced but living together relationship with the father of my child last ...
A. 14 July 2010: 'I can't imagine not being with him'. This is a dangerous thing to say. It means you're too attached to the security of thinking (not knowing) you'll have someone around in the future, even if that someone is still technically married and won't make ... (read in full...)
Everyone says he's too old for me!
Q. I'am 22.MY man is 35.they tell me that he is too old for mei have been dateing him for two yr.how do i tell him how i feel?...
A. 14 July 2010: Do you feel he's too old for you, too? Your question isn't very clear.... (read in full...)
We were intimate, but now he treats me like I don't matter!
Q. I met a gentleman on a dating site, prior to meeting him we talked and became so close for 3 months, we never talked much about sex until a week before he flew out for the 4th of july. We met and we had a such a good time, the second nite we was ...
A. 14 July 2010: He's just not interested. He got what he wanted from you and left it at that, unfortunately. Don't bother with him, he's not worth the trouble.... (read in full...)
He told me he thinks we should break up!
Q. I started dating my best friend a while ago. It was suppose to be a rebound sort of thing, the two of us helping each other move on from a bad breakup from our past relationship but down the road, we fell for each other. I pretty much fell in love ...
A. 14 July 2010: The reality is that he's probably found someone else, or wants to. I know it's hard to hear, and he has no right to go about ending the relationship this way, but in the end you'll be better off without him.
He wanted to break up with you onli... (read in full...)
Should I choose my best friend or a potential boyfriend?
Q. a guy i really like is kind of a player and dated my now best friend and they were each others 1st time for sex. well she says she would be mad at me if i dated him but she doesn't know if she would be mad at me if i just fooled around with him. idk ...
A. 14 July 2010: How is it okay to fool around with someone's (ex?)-boyfriend, as long as you don't date him?
The attitude both of you have towards dating is worrying, and idiotic to be completely honest. I don't care who this guy is, you shouldn't be taking t... (read in full...)
Opinions appreciated. Am I still a virgin... or not?
Q. hi so, im not sure if i lost my virginity, like his penis was in me but he was pretty thick and i was pretty tight and it was my first time so it was really sore, he pulled out though when i said i couldn't take it so does it mean im not a virgin? ...
A. 12 July 2010: He was in you, so no, you're not a virgin anymore. If you don't know something like this you shouldn't be having sex. ... (read in full...)
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