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11 July 2010: Nothing! Several situations can be mistaken to mean something more, when they truly don't carry much significance. For example: The friend you've been crushing on for the last six months accepts your third attempt at a friend request, and...
What to do when the person you're attracted to is already taken.
This question has 7 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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7 July 2010: Run the hell away. I've seen several questions of this nature on the site. It seems like a simple problem, although in reality it's not. It's complicated and messy, and almost always leaves one person's emotions in ruins while the other enjoys hav...
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Why do guys not show feelings?
Q. I was wondering why is it that guys do not show feelings. They act cold and like they could care less. Me and my boyfriend recently broke up 2 months ago. We spent a lot of time together and got close. We had a lot of good times together. I know I ...
A. 23 June 2010: Usually, the one doing the dumping has already gotten over the loss because they know what's to come long before the relationship ends, while the one getting dumped is caught off guard and feels as though the change is very sudden. This is why he's ... (read in full...)
Do women worry about their parts the way men worry about theirs?
Q. I love the female form. There are so many variations of the female genitalia. What is the reason some women's labia majoria is hidden and others are larger and seem to hang out. Secondly, do women get hung up on there vaginas like men do with ...
A. 23 June 2010: Just like any other part, everyone's born different. And no, we don't give it a lot of thought.... (read in full...)
Why do I get emotional when we fool around?
Q. This is a bit strange but whenever I fool around with my boyfriend I get really emotional and I don't know why. I cry for some reason!! . embarassing but true...it just seems like i'm crying of sadness after we just lay there but i'm not sad. I ...
A. 23 June 2010: It could be due to hormones. Are you taking bc or another form of contraception that has estrogen? ... (read in full...)
How do I stop period cramps?
Q. Wot can one do to stop period cramps....
A. 23 June 2010: Take a painkiller first, then take a hot shower or bath. After that, place a heating pad on your stomach or back while drinking caffeine-free tea. Chamomile has so far worked the best. I've heard raspberry leaf tea also helps, though I've never ... (read in full...)
The married man I am having an affair with is cheating on me!
Q. im having an affair to a married man and we are now six years, the problem is he's having a fling relationship to another woman, how can i stop him on this kind of habit i feel so hurt and jealous..what will i do for him should i leave him but i ...
A. 21 June 2010: This is karma telling you to wake up and move on. It doesn't matter how long you stay with him, there's always going to be someone else. Why give him all of yourself when you're now only getting a third in return?
Something like this is exactly ... (read in full...)
She won't have sex with me!
Q. hello, me and my girlfriend are having relationship problems and i need your advice. Me and her have been goin out for 5 months and i have been waiting for her to want a physical relationship with me but everytime we engage we only get as far as ...
A. 21 June 2010: She's obviously not ready to go that far with you yet, that's no reason to break up with her. It's only been five months. If you really care about her, give it time.... (read in full...)
He cheated and then almost killed himself! Do I give him another chance?
Q. hello. i need help.... MY boyfriend of 8 months has been cheating on me with his ex.. on day i was hanging out at home when his ex girlfriend came to my house and told meh everything. ill tell u the convorsation " Yeah. hes been h...
A. 21 June 2010: Even if men were 'designed' to have sex with as many women as possible, as one of the answers says, that doesn't justify the act of cheating. There are still such things as impulse control and morals, which is also part of being human.
Get a... (read in full...)
We're sleeping together, but he's with someone else!
Q. I been working with this company for a year…my coworker are really cool…One of them has become my closest guy friend, his gf broke up with him after 4 yrs in November of last yr…I was there for him through those tough times. In February of this yr I ...
A. 21 June 2010: You say you need more of a connection to be intimate, and you're fully aware he has a girlfriend, yet you're still having sex with him? Cut off all contact with him, there's no way you'll be able to stay 'just friends' judging by your poor impulse ... (read in full...)
He dumped me, but says he doesn't want to lose me!
Q. Well...I just got dumped and was with the guy for almost a year it wouldve been a year next month on the 16 :( but me and him still keep in touch he tells me he loves me..I say the same but he tells me that he feels like i'm getting hurt to much by ...
A. 21 June 2010: Cut off all contact. What's the point in playing hard to get?... (read in full...)
He dumped me, but says he doesn't want to lose me!
Q. Well...I just got dumped and was with the guy for almost a year it wouldve been a year next month on the 16 :( but me and him still keep in touch he tells me he loves me..I say the same but he tells me that he feels like i'm getting hurt to much by ...
A. 20 June 2010: In saying that, it's clear he's hoping you'll stick around as a backup while he's free to see other girls. If he really loved you and didn't want to lose you, he wouldn't have dumped you.... (read in full...)
Does he want a relationship or just sex?
Q. Hi, so i'm in a relationship with this lad about 100 miles away, and i go to where he lives about 7 times a year and love him so much. Ive always liked him for two years but never thought we could have a relationship, as when i have asked in th...
A. 20 June 2010: He just wants sex. If it was more than that, he would still be making an effort to keep in touch.... (read in full...)
Why can't I gain weight?
Q. Hey. I haven’t put any weight on since I started my period – that was aged 12. I’m 18 now. I’m 5’2 and barely weigh 7 stone. I’m not happy with my figure. I want to put weight on and I wish I was curvier. I don’t think I’ve grown at all since about ...
A. 19 June 2010: I have the same problem, I'm a little over 7 stone and also 5'2. There isn't much you can do, your metabolism is likely very high, and burns up the calories you take in before your body has a chance to convert it to fat.
Relatives often ask pryi... (read in full...)
The man I'm in love with is married!
Q. I work with a close friend who has fallen in love with me. He told other co-workers, who told me, but I pretend not to know. However, this man is married. He has only been married for two years and they have no children. I have known him this whole ...
A. 19 June 2010: Keep doing exactly what you have been doing, and don't make it known that you have feelings for him. He's still married, and it's up to him to get out of that situation, not make it worse.... (read in full...)
I don't feel comfortable making out with my boyfriend, but I don't want to lose him
Q. Okay, well..my boyfriend is 15 and im13. I like him and he says he likesme,but im not sure if im livinq up to his expectations. Everytime we're toqether he tries to make out with me and i pull away and i think im makinq him mad.. What shuld i do?! ...
A. 19 June 2010: Instead of worrying about making him mad and how to satisfy him, you should be concerned with how -you- feel and what -you- want to do.
I can already see this becoming a theme. First, you give in and make out with him. Then he says he wants to... (read in full...)
I want a threesome too, but I also feel jealous and insecure about it?
Q. Ok so my boyfriend and I have only been dating for four months but have been friends for over two years. He wants to have a threesome and I am not against it but I need advice on helping with coping with it. When I think about it I get angry and ...
A. 19 June 2010: Four months isn't much time. It's way too early to include another person, in my opinion.
Don't agree to a threesome just because he wants it. If you're not completely ready for something like that, it's only going to make things more complica... (read in full...)
We have reconnected but he's in a relationship, should I pursue him or back off?
Q. Ok... So I've known this guy since middle school and we recently started talking, it had been years since we've seen each other (we're both 27 now). I just recently found out that he's been in a relationship for 5years and they have 2 little boys ...
A. 19 June 2010: Back off. He's already taken, and you have a child to worry about. ... (read in full...)
Will he ever be ready for a relationship with me?
Q. Hi there I was wondering if anyone had an opinions about my situation Im 21 years old and am head over heels for a guy the same age as me. He has been messaging me all day ever day for atleast a month now. I spend a couple of nights a week wi...
A. 18 June 2010: He enjoys your company and misses you because you're having sex with him. When you're already sleeping together, there's no such thing as 'not being ready' for a girlfriend. It's just an excuse he's using to keep you attached while he keeps his ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is friends with his ex, and I think he still has feelings for her!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for six months. He broke up with his last serious girlfriend in March of last year, rather, she broke up with him. They dated for 4 years, though she cheated on him numerous times throughout the relationship. ...
A. 18 June 2010: There's definitely still something there, even if it's only one-sided. Also, the fact that he said he'd rather end your relationship before ending his friendship with her is a huge red flag. Listen to your intuition, if something doesn't feel right, ... (read in full...)
Is this younger woman flirting with me?
Q. I have read post here from younger ladies some who are attracted to older men much older than themselves like decades. Now I am only interested the legal age ladies as in my state that would be 18 where I live. I am attracted to a young lady...
A. 18 June 2010: She'll be more obvious in that case, yes. Small talk about dark chocolate and being a health nut is not flirtatious in the least. If she always keeps the topic of conversation that general, she's not interested, she's just being friendly. This ... (read in full...)
He wants to have sex with me... to practice!!!!
Q. Hello, I'm a 17 year old straight girl, and recently one of my male friends, who is gay, was telling me about how it's common for gay guys to have sex with their female friends sort of as 'practice'... He didn't directly ask me but I'm inferrin...
A. 18 June 2010: That's crazy, and he's lying. Why would a gay man want to practice with a woman when he can do so with other men? He could be bi, but he's still your friend and there are complicated emotions involved with anything sexual shared between two ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend can be a real bitch sometimes!
Q. I really love my girlfriend of the past year and a half and we have even talked of marriage. The problem is that whenever she gets a little bit frustrated and stressed about something (her job, waiting in a long line, etc...) she takes it out on me ...
A. 17 June 2010: It's ridiculous how many of you are throwing around the word 'bitch', saying your girlfriends are terrible people, yet you're still in the relationship. Remember, there's two sides to every story. If things are really that bad, leave. No one is ... (read in full...)
Why is it an insult to be labeled a feminist?
Q. Why is it an insult to be labeled a feminist now? A true feminist wants equality in every aspect. Why is that so bad? A true feminist never says things like, "the world would be better if women were in charge." A feminist just wants women and men to ...
A. 17 June 2010: I blame it on ignorance and fear. Most people these days think of feminists as bra-burning man haters, which is the complete opposite of the truth. ... (read in full...)
Is this younger woman flirting with me?
Q. I have read post here from younger ladies some who are attracted to older men much older than themselves like decades. Now I am only interested the legal age ladies as in my state that would be 18 where I live. I am attracted to a young lady...
A. 17 June 2010: As a 23 year old woman, this is my perspective on the situation; while there's a chance she could be interested in you, she's probably just being nice. The age difference isn't the only factor, as I've noticed men of all ages tend to think friendly ... (read in full...)
Does this normally happen while on birth control?
Q. Okay so I know im not pregnant. I did have unprotected sex 7 weeks ago BUT I got my period 2 days after that and then on the 28th. Both were normal. I also took a test the day after I was suppose to have m period and it was negative. He al...
A. 16 June 2010: Your body is probably still adjusting to the hormones. This happened to me for a while as well when I first started bc, cramps and everything. It's one of the side effects and should eventually go away.... (read in full...)
If I was meant to be with my fiance then why did my ex come back into my life?
Q. A few months ago my ex boyfriend came back into my life. When we ended it, it was on the phone and not much of a conversation. I tried to push him out of my mind and eventually he was gone. That was a little over a year ago. We have been talking ...
A. 16 June 2010: I personally don't believe in things being 'meant to be', in this case. Your ex is back in your life because you allowed it, simple as that. If you didn't want him to be, you wouldn't have started talking to him again.
You feel like you still ca... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to watch me have sex with a girl!
Q. ok so my bf asked me if i would do sexual things with another girl while hes watching.. idk whats that called but i have been intrested in that (we are both 18) so he said if i wanted he could try and find someone for me to do stuff with. but then i ...
A. 16 June 2010: Of course he wants to join in, a threesome is the ultimate male fantasy. If you're uncomfortable at all about the idea of bringing another girl in, don't do it. What matters most is that -you- want to do it too, not just for him.... (read in full...)
Wasting time?
Q. I've been engaged for almost 3 years. I'm always the one keeping the conversation, affection, etc. going. When I stop and sit back and just watch and pay attention to what he does, nothing happens. He never has anything to talk about. It's now a ...
A. 16 June 2010: I agree with Sara, he has no reason to make any effort because you're the one doing everything for him. He doesn't return your gestures because he knows you're going to keep it up anyway, so why bother?
It's not a relationship if you're the one ... (read in full...)
He thinks I'm cheating!
Q. Hi Everyone. Am so sad, confused, annoyed and upset. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and four months. Am 21 years old and he is 29. We are great together, we enjoy each others company but there is an obstacle that is bringing our relation...
A. 15 June 2010: Because he's insecure, as I said. If you want him to change, you're going to have to make it clear there are consequences to the way he treats you.... (read in full...)
He thinks I'm cheating!
Q. Hi Everyone. Am so sad, confused, annoyed and upset. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and four months. Am 21 years old and he is 29. We are great together, we enjoy each others company but there is an obstacle that is bringing our relation...
A. 15 June 2010: It would probably be better to break up with him and save yourself the emotional agony, because it sounds like it's not going away any time soon. There's no reason for him to treat you like that, and you've already said he won't listen to you or ... (read in full...)
Is there still a chance for a relationship?
Q. I met a guy around a week ago. he gave me his number and we met up three times. During the first two 'dates' he was very polite and we kissed only on the cheek and were just friendly with each other. On the last date (today) he told me he li...
A. 15 June 2010: Maybe, but that doesn't mean it's over. Keep going out with him if you like, but don't sleep with him. See how he reacts to this change. If he starts to become more distant, it means he doesn't see you as anything more than a friend with benefits. ... (read in full...)
He thinks I'm cheating!
Q. Hi Everyone. Am so sad, confused, annoyed and upset. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and four months. Am 21 years old and he is 29. We are great together, we enjoy each others company but there is an obstacle that is bringing our relation...
A. 15 June 2010: No, it's not white. A female orgasm isn't visible the same way a male's is, and most women can't climax from only vaginal intercourse. If he's not doing more than that, that's probably the reason. ... (read in full...)
He thinks I'm cheating!
Q. Hi Everyone. Am so sad, confused, annoyed and upset. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and four months. Am 21 years old and he is 29. We are great together, we enjoy each others company but there is an obstacle that is bringing our relation...
A. 15 June 2010: He's clearly very insecure. He's probably frustrated and taking it out on you, because he won't admit his performance may be lacking. Either way, there's nothing wrong with you. If anything, he should be more concerned with how to get you to climax ... (read in full...)
Should I tell this girl my real age?
Q. my sister is 17, and she used to be bisexual, but now she only likes girls. i'm 14 and i'm bisexual. i like both and i can't change it for now. my sister always tries to get me with her friends and there's this one she tried getting me with but the ...
A. 15 June 2010: If you want things to progress with her, then tell her the truth. It's going to come up eventually, and you'll only end up looking foolish by not being honest.... (read in full...)
Casual sex with friend. Mistake?
Q. I have this guy friend and we are extremely close. We actually know EVERYTHING about each other, including all the really personal inner-crazy feelings and how and to what we masturbate to. It was a really flirty relationship and we had talked about ...
A. 15 June 2010: You obviously want to be more than friends with benefits, which is exactly why you should never become friends with benefits with someone you care that deeply for. He's made it clear he doesn't feel the same way by keeping your relationship at its ... (read in full...)
Advice please!!! What does he want from me!???
Q. Sorry for the long post, I don't know how else to give a better idea of what I'm dealing with than to tell the whole story, lol. I have been in a "friends with benefits" relationship with a guy for about 8 months now. We'd been "seeing" each ot...
A. 14 June 2010: He's acting sweet and lovey-dovey because he wants to keep you attached so you'll stick around as a backup, and interrogates you because he wants you to himself while he's free to do as he pleases. As the first poster said, stop having sex with him ... (read in full...)
My husband left me once before for a another woman..is history about to repeat itself?
Q. I have found out that my husband of 22 years is involved with another woman, I have found out that he calls and txts her numerous times every day, I'm not sure if they have a physical relationship. Her husband has confronted my husband 2 times at ...
A. 13 June 2010: He left you once already, only to be taken back and forgiven. Now he's becoming more emotionally involved with another woman. Taking his past actions into consideration, I doubt things between them are completely innocent. Talk with him about it in ... (read in full...)
Why did he kiss me like this when we are just friends, plus he has a girlfriend!
Q. I recently split up with my longterm boyfriend after a whole heap of problems. We are still friends and spend time together (by time I do mean exactly that i.e. cinema, food out, but nothing more). Whilst we were going through the tough months I ...
A. 3 June 2010: It sounds like he just wants more no strings sex. The only way you can find out how he really feels is to talk about it. If he wants to be with you but doesn't want to leave his girlfriend, you'll know he's not looking for a relationship, just the ... (read in full...)
Should I believe him that he will leave his wife for me?
Q. Hi i am divorced and currently dating my first boyfriend. We met a year ago.......he is still married and also says i must give him some time to sort out certain issues then he will file for divorce. He has sorted out some of the issues...now i need ...
A. 3 June 2010: I agree with the other poster, he would have already filed for divorce and been done with it if he really wanted to leave her. Men like him will feed women this lie just so they can have their cake and eat it too. If you still want to be with him in ... (read in full...)
He would date her if he was single! Should I be worried?
Q. hey everyone! my boyfriend of 5years told my best friend that if he was single he would totally date this girl let's call her X! and he asked my best frend if this X is single! should I be worried?? and my boyfriend and this X text each other.a...
A. 3 June 2010: Those who have said not to worry have most likely never been in this situation. I was in one very similar to this recently, my now ex-boyfriend had been regularly hanging out with a girl he was attracted to, and made sure to carefully omit that ... (read in full...)
Help! I want to break up but I think he might be the one!
Q. Hi guys so I have been in a relationship for 5 years. The constant problems that we are having and have had in the past I feel are going to end us. Logically it is the right move to end the relationship but deep down inside I have this nagging ...
A. 3 June 2010: I don't believe in soulmates or 'the one' myself, but for argument's sake, he can't be 'the one' if you think the relationship should logically end. Obviously complicated emotions are involved, but in reality that nagging feeling is hesitation in ... (read in full...)
I love him but he left me because of a compatibility test!
Q. Hi I need help. I am so confused. I have been dating this man for 10 mths. We met on match.com. We have had a great time together. Now he is questioning out compatability long term. He says I'm a wonderful person, good looking, kind, caring, I ...
A. 3 June 2010: Why would you want to be with someone that bases your relationship on a compatibility test? That's such a glaring red flag. If he really wanted to be with you, he would be with you. Instead, he fed you a sob story to get you to hang on, so that just ... (read in full...)
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