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She's so loud. How to I tell her to tone it down?

Q.   My gf and i have been dating for 4 months. We have had sex a few times, and well, she is loud. really loud. Every time she reaches climax she wakes the whole street, never mind our parents. Its really embarrassing, her parents may think I'm abusing ...

A.   7 May 2011: Use duck-tape. No seriously. There are all sorts of expressing pleasure... she's the loud one. I, as a woman, am very ninja when it comes to expressing how awesome I feel. When I reach orgasm - I just start to breathe heavily and that's kind of it. ... (read in full...)

I gave her oral but she didn't reciprocate

Q.   I just recently just performed oral sex on my girlfriend yet she didn't return the favour. She always txts me that she does want to but she didn't. I didn't want to tell her about it since she'll just do it out of pity which I don't want. I'm just ...

A.   7 May 2011: For how long have you been together ? Maybe she's not comfortable enough with giving you blowjobs. Or maybe she's never done it before and she's scared to fail, or she finds it gross. One of the reasons I didn't give my bf a blowjob (before we start... (read in full...)

After some time together, he won't give me any oral.

Q.   I've been with this guy for 1 and a half year now, the longest relationship so far, and I have noticed that his sexual habits have changed somehow during this meantime. In the begginigng, he used to give oral sex to me every single time we had ...

A.   2 May 2011: "I tried to pull a joke on that one day, some months ago, just to give him a hint that I was missing oral sex, he laughed but didnt take that seriously." - because men aren't mind readers. Talk to him seriously about it and be straight to the point ... (read in full...)

How loose is too loose?

Q.   me and my girlfriend have had sex quite a few times and im afraid that she is getting really loose. what should i do. how loose is too loose?...

A.   23 April 2011: She was probably TOO wet.... (read in full...)

Is my clumpy period a miscarriage?

Q.   My fiancée and i have been trying have been trying to get pregnant for 3 weeks now, i was due my period last friday and a week from then i started to bleed. i know that you can start bleeding but there was a clump of blood that i saw? did i miscar...

A.   22 April 2011: It was probably a nasty hemorrhage. I got it too the last time. It was red-black-ish. But just to make sure everything's fine, go see a doctor. ... (read in full...)

What should I do if he isn't putting in as much effort?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 months long distance because I'm away at college. Lately I've been feeling like I'm putting more effort into our relationship than he is. He used to come visit me at my school often during the first ...

A.   22 April 2011: "I have to always send it first." - that's exactly the issue: you text him, call him, blame him for not putting much effort, you hope he will call you or text you first, but if you do all the work, WHEN is he supposed to do it back ? Give him time ... (read in full...)

I really don't want to get pregnant!

Q.   Me and my boyfriend were fooling around this afternoon. We didn't have sex, but we were fondling each other and now I'm freaking out. I've read that pre-cum contains some sperm from a former ejaculation. If he cums, 98% of the sperm flows out....

A.   22 April 2011: Fat chance. But next time, before fooling around, make sure you're safe (ie he fingers you first, then it's your turn). Besides, are you even old enough to have sex of any kind ? You're obviously not -mature- enough to be doing these things, if you ... (read in full...)

My wife was not a virgin

Q.   Hello, my wife and i have being married for 4 years, i just found out she had a hymen reconstruction, i though we where both virgins now am stuck between a rock and a hard place.. I feel like cheating on her for what she did to me.what do you think ...

A.   22 April 2011: "I feel like cheating on her for what she did to me.what do you think i should do?" - This sounds so immature. Her past shouldn't bother you, you have nothing to do with her first time sex or the other men she's been with. Does that make you love ... (read in full...)

G/f gives me bj's just to make me happy

Q.   Hello, i have half a problem. Basically my girlfriend didn't give bj's much because she didnt like them. I wanted to boost this number so i read tips on how to make your girlfriend feel more good about giving bj's, and not pressuring her and stuff. ...

A.   22 April 2011: First off, do you have a proper hygiene ? Because it's the same for guys: some of them hate going down on girls due to hygienic reasons (bad smell/taste). My boyfriend smelled funky down there, so I avoided giving him head until he decided to change ... (read in full...)

How will know true love?

Q.   how will know true love?...

A.   10 April 2011: You won't be able to describe it. When you can't describe, it's love. Love it's an abstract notion, but once you got there, you know it. ... (read in full...)

What is the most common female fantasy?

Q.   I'm very curious. Well I'm just wondering if any women out there can enlighten me a bit on the most common female sexual fantasy? ...

A.   3 April 2011: It depends on the individual, every woman has their own fantasy, there are no boundaries, it could ANYTHING. I, for example, fantasize about being tied up with rope and raped by my boyfriend. But he's too gentle to rape me, so he only ties me up. ... (read in full...)

When I leave the house boyfriend watches porn. Is he a weirdo?

Q.   everytime i leave the house my b/f of 5 years watches porn and chats, he never admits it, and when i mention it he gets really mad and it's a major fight and he says i'm crazy that it's not true. when i get home and go on the computer he sometimes ...

A.   2 April 2011: I wouldn't worry too much about it, he's probably embarrassed. Instead, I'd worry about this - "when I ask him to have sex he says he's sore or tired but when he wants it, i need to be there or he gets mad"...... (read in full...)

Boyfriend just can't seem to get the hint. Any suggestions?

Q.   my boyfriend is very quiet and shy, i ask him by text if he wants to kiss me and he either does not answer or reply's 'dunno' i really want to kiss him so bad! he doesn't even get the hint when i lean forward, what should i do?...

A.   30 March 2011: "i ask him by text if he wants to kiss me" - Why? Are you long-distance or what ? Meet up more often, if you have the chance ! There are people who find it difficult to talk about this kind of stuff over the phone (or internet) and apparently your ... (read in full...)

I hate my body! He says I'm beautiful, but I don't believe him.

Q.   I hate my body? I despise it that I find I am crying over it now! This guy says he is falling in love with me, and he hasn't even seen my body and says he doesn't mind my curves and that he thinks I am beautiful and never met anyone like me...

A.   27 March 2011: I also had PCOS, but I went to the doctor and they didn't give me birth controll pill - they recommended diet + sport + some pills (not BC). That's why I was overweight (mind you - I was obese) and my self-esteem was actually non-existent, so when ... (read in full...)

Girlfriend likes to have hands inside herself when relaxing and then her smell is on everything!

Q.   OK, I've been dating the same girl for 4+ years and we're engaged to get married soon. She had a strange habit, which I'm not really sure the cause or reason. She likes to have her hands in her pants, on her vagina while she is sitting on the lazy ...

A.   26 March 2011: OK, she's got a bad hygiene. Bad hygiene = low self-respect; low self-respect = no respect for the others (including you). I don't know what to say, we all have habits, but this habit of hers suggests a very poor education. No matter how close you ... (read in full...)

Girlfriend likes to have hands inside herself when relaxing and then her smell is on everything!

Q.   OK, I've been dating the same girl for 4+ years and we're engaged to get married soon. She had a strange habit, which I'm not really sure the cause or reason. She likes to have her hands in her pants, on her vagina while she is sitting on the lazy ...

A.   26 March 2011: First off, tell her to go see a doctor, because strong odor suggests that there's an infection and needs to be treated. Also, what's her diet made of ? Because diet is also important. Tell her to eat fruits and healthy, unprocessed food (or at least ... (read in full...)

Sometimes I get so wet, he slips out. Is this normal?

Q.   This is probably a stupid question but is this normal? During sex and foreplay I get incredibly wet!! When my boyfriend touches me I get wet and the more aroused I get and the longer the wetter I get and I mean really wet. Sometimes so bad t...

A.   24 March 2011: He's probably small, but I wouldn't worry. Just switch positions and find what's best for you two.... (read in full...)

After sex it takes him about 30 minutes to recover,is this normal?

Q.   My partner is 20 turning 21 and after he cums hes penis starts to die and it takes him around 30mins or more for him to have another erection is this normal? or dose he have a problem i don't know for he was my first sexual partner please help...

A.   23 March 2011: My boyfriend is 26 yo and needs about one day (~24 hrs) to recover. It's pretty frustrating for me, since I'm horny most of the times. ... (read in full...)

If he doesn't find me physically attractive, who is he visualizing in his mind so that he can get aroused?

Q.   I thin that the title to my question really say it all, the rest of this is background. While my husband has never come out and said it in a complete sentence, he does not find me physically attractive. He says that our sexual relationship, fo...

A.   23 March 2011: "So how am I supposed to believe that he can be with me when I'm not that for him?" - That's not his problem anymore. This is YOUR issue, YOUR insecurity and it has nothing to do with him. ... (read in full...)

No oral because she "doesn't like the thought that she actually did that."

Q.   Me and my girlfriend have been going out for about 15 months, and we get along pretty good. She is my first girlfriend and I think I love her. One thing is though, I would like the relationship to go farther. She also wants to, but she doesn't ...

A.   13 March 2011: She is not ready. End of story. ANY sexual act is sex and she's not ready YET. Telling you that she's ready, but she won't do it, means that she doesn't want to lose you, because sex is probably important to you and she doesn't want to let you ... (read in full...)

Not sure what this grey mucus-like fluid is.

Q.   Hi gang. Me and my girlfriend were preparing to be 'intimate' with each other. I was about to start when I noticed a substance coming out of her vagina. As soon as she noticed it too she became very self concious, but after a while I managed ...

A.   10 March 2011: No, it's not normal, it's most likely an infection. Tell her to go see her doctor immediately. A normal healthy discharge has no color. ... (read in full...)

She is obsessive & I don't know how to handle it!

Q.   my girlfriendd and I have had a relationship for the past 17 months. but she has become so obsessive , she never let's me see my friends..because she thinks they are a bad influence..when they're not. she gets jelous when I lay eyes on another ...

A.   8 March 2011: The problem is on her, so I think that professional counseling might help her overcome the paranoia, insecurities and self-esteem issues. Can't tell you more, because you already know that there's a problem, so the only reasonable way you coul... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is angry because I wont send pictures of my private parts!

Q.   i have a boyfriend for 6months before evrything was ok we dont see each other very often but we text each other on sms and sometimes he will call me, but since a while now he has been willing that i send him naked pictures of myself and my private ...

A.   7 March 2011: He obviously wants to spread the pictures all over the internet, porn sites etc. If you're not ok with this, break up with him. Besides, ignoring a woman's texts and being angry over such childish things like sending some picutres is very immature... (read in full...)

Why can't my family just let me make my own decisions, and learn from my own mistakes?

Q.   I'm sick of my family and some other people i know. Some of my family once went mad at an older man i liked, who also liked me, because he had done some things in the past that they thought were bad, and i think they were mad because of the age gap ...

A.   6 March 2011: Honey, I know exactly what you're going through, I've been there myself and now, because of my overprotective family, I'm seeking therapy. I simply couldn't handle them anymore and got tired of the way they kept on criticizing other people according ... (read in full...)

He lied to me about going out with friends, and now I feel like he wanted to get rid of me. What do I do now?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been a couple for almost 2 yrs. We love each other very much and we trust each other and we're getting married. Thing is, we went out last night and he told me he needs to be home earlier than usual because he's tired. Plus...

A.   6 March 2011: I talked to him and his first reaction was to ask me "how do you know?" Then he said that he accidentally met our friend on his way home and he asked him to join the crew. I asked "ok and what about your work? (I know that work is very important to ... (read in full...)

How do I get rid of the smell down there?

Q.   How do I get rid of a smell 'down there'? I've had my period twice, but even before I ever got it itstill smelled bad like my discharge or my blood smells gross. I take a shower once A day and I wash with soap there but even when i am sitting in a ...

A.   6 March 2011: It could be some infection. Go see a doctor asap. ... (read in full...)

Will a man respect me for being a virgin at 31?

Q.   still a virgin at thirty one will i get the man my heart like, will he respect me for keeping virgin for all those year waiting for him to be the first to break?...

A.   4 March 2011: Usually, a good man would appreciate it, but it also depends on the individual culture. If you saved yourself until this age, you should be aiming for a guy who's able to appreciate it, IF your virginity is important to you that is. There are men ... (read in full...)

After we made out he said he feels like we didn't click why would he say this?

Q.   hi, so there's this guy who lives where i always go on holiday, about ever month. we have known each other for a about two years. I recently started texting him and we did this like every single day and i got very close to him. we started txtin a ...

A.   1 March 2011: He feels like he doesn't like you as a girlfriend and he knows that if he had a relationship with you, he'd only keep you around for sex and nothing more. But he's been honest and he made things clear. What else do you want to hear? ... (read in full...)

What does a man means when he says I will never hurt you?

Q.   When you are in the heat of the moment with a man and you tell him you are falling for them and he says " baby, I would never hurt you" What does that mean? Does he mean he is falling to and can't quite say it? He told me he was so happy that I ...

A.   1 March 2011: Uhm.. that he will NOT hurt you. Don't read too much into it, just be happy, men are straight to the point when it comes to expressing their feelings. I think he means it. My boyfriend says something like "you know I'd never hurt you" and I can feel ... (read in full...)

Why do men like to finger women?

Q.   I am just curious why guys like to finger their girlfriend? Do they get any pleasure beside her returning him a favour like a bj?...

A.   27 February 2011: Quoting my boyfriend: "it turns me on seeing you turned on". 'Nuff said. ... (read in full...)

How can I look better?

Q.   Hello! I really need someone to help me out!! So I been having a problem on wearing dresses because my armpits are kind of black. How can I remove it? Is there a away u can remove the blackness away? I also have black in the middle between my legs! ...

A.   27 February 2011: Uhm... that's your skin's pigment and it's normal to have it. I don't think you can do much about it, but to deal with it.... (read in full...)

I've never gave a handjob before.

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 months. He is my first proper relationship and we really havn't done anything sexually. He has fingered me twice, but I want to return the favour and give him a handjob. Problem is I've never done anything...

A.   27 February 2011: Tell him to guide you (actually, if you're not doing it right, he'll show you himself). Don't worry, it only takes practice. It's normal to fail the first times, because it's not your body anymore, the motions/speed/pressure are different. Just ... (read in full...)

My crush used to sit next to me and flirt. Now that we've changed seats he ignores me! Why do boys act like this?

Q.   So my crush, "Bob," and I used to sit next to each other in a class. We used to talk and he teased me (in a nice way) and we would laugh and he would kind of flirt. We changed seats and now he totally ignores me. He doesn't look at me or talk to me. ...

A.   26 February 2011: No, he's not confusing, you're reading too much into it. He was probably socializing with the nearest person, right ? See what he acts like now that you've changed seats. Does he flirt / talk/ laugh with the closest person to him ? ... (read in full...)

Do guys like clingy girls...

Q.   do guys like clingy girls... me and my boyfriend have been together for a while now and everything is good except that we dont communicate that much... he says that hes not a phone person.. should i believe that? i am away at school and i havent ...

A.   25 February 2011: No, NO ONE likes clingy girls. Absolutely every person needs their space. Anyway, stop making your boyfriend the center of your universe, it seems like you only live for him. It's a good thing, but this should have a limit. You know you crossed this ... (read in full...)

I caught my boyfriend cheating on me by the fake profile that I created. Where do I go from here?

Q.   I have recently found out that my boyfriend has been cheating on me having cyber sex on skype with random girls on the internet. I did this by creating a fake facebook and pretending to be another girl. I know that this is wrong, but I was already ...

A.   21 February 2011: Well, since you're playing this game, do it until the end, date him in person under this fake user. He'll sh*t bricks when he sees you, when he sees who's behind that user. This way he won't have anything to say in order to defend himself and ... (read in full...)

Ladies, honestly, would you rather have a virgin man or an experienced man to love?

Q.   I just want some honest opinions from women on this issue. If experience, how much is preferred and if virginity, how much of a gift is that to her? Is taking your partner's virginity as pleasurable for a women as it is for a man? ...

A.   20 February 2011: As a virgin, I wanted a virgin man as well. Knowing he's been "through" another girl makes me sick. My ex-boyfriend had a relationship with an older divorced woman who introduced him into sex and when I found out I felt jealous. He never pushed me ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend taking advantage of me being jealous!

Q.   i am 13 and my bf is 14. im a very jealous person but my bf seems to be taking advantage of this, one day he came out of lesson telling me how big this other girls breasts are and her bra size. he has done this to me with many girls on many dif...

A.   19 February 2011: Dump him, he's immature.... (read in full...)

My girlfriends vagina smells when we have sex!

Q.   Ok got a question Im new to the site, when my girlfriend and I start to have sex her vagina smells a bit and when I give her oral sex I can taste it. What's going on is there anything we can do to get rid of it? Thanks...

A.   18 February 2011: It depends on the smell. ANY vagina has its personal odor and you should get used to it. It's natural. Does she have a proper hygiene ? Also, it's unnatural to smell like fish or rotten or cheesy smell. It means she's got an infection and ne... (read in full...)

He won't go down on me anymore

Q.   Ok so i have a bit of a sexual problem. My boyfriend does not like giving me oral. We have been sexually active for about 2 years now out of a 3 year relationship but at the begining he liked giving me oral. At the begining he gave me oral everytime ...

A.   18 February 2011: Stop giving him blowjobs. Until he tells you the real reason why he won't go down on you anymore, no blowjobs. ... (read in full...)

I'm attracted to older celebs, is this normal?

Q.   Hiya Cupids, I don't know why but I'm always more attracted to older celebrities. I know this a stupid question but I''m really young and i find people like Bill Nighy and Ewan McGregor really cawutte :) but everybody else i know fin...

A.   16 February 2011: OMG this is me when I was your age :)) I used to have a huge crush on Gary Oldman. ... (read in full...)

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