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11 July 2010: Nothing! Several situations can be mistaken to mean something more, when they truly don't carry much significance. For example: The friend you've been crushing on for the last six months accepts your third attempt at a friend request, and...
What to do when the person you're attracted to is already taken.
This question has 7 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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7 July 2010: Run the hell away. I've seen several questions of this nature on the site. It seems like a simple problem, although in reality it's not. It's complicated and messy, and almost always leaves one person's emotions in ruins while the other enjoys hav...
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Star signs and love
Q. This a rather strange question but I'm very curious about this specific little subject :) A lot of people turn to the zodiac for tips on love and relationships. When I tell men I'm a Scorpio, they either think sex fiend, or possesive, jealous psycho ...
A. 30 September 2010: According to the zodiac and nearly everyone I know, I'm 100% Pisces. My personality does fit the description really well, but that's all there is to it for me. It's a bit of fun, sure, but I wouldn't use it as a basis for anything serious.... (read in full...)
Can I say this ONE, LAST, SHORT thing to him?
Q. I posted awhile back about a guy not texting back (see background info below this post). Recently a friend told me about how shy this guy is and I should give it one more chance. I just wanted to say one last, short thing to him (to make it clea...
A. 30 September 2010: You're making yourself too available, as I said in your last question. It's a huge turn-off for men, because there's no challenge there.
Besides, even shy guys can work up the nerve to reply to a text. The fact that he hasn't contacted you at a... (read in full...)
He's married, but I like him!
Q. Hi! I've been working in my current job for a few years now, and everything was really nice until a new colleague joined us in the office. He's hot, I mean really hot, and nice and kind and gentle and funny and all the other good things about a ...
A. 30 September 2010: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-to-do-when-the-person-youre-attracted.html
He's unavailable, end of story. Find someone else that's single.... (read in full...)
Is it okay to pull away from the person you think loves you to test them?
Q. I never thought I would consider “testing” my boyfriend, but here I am dealing with some doubts that are driving me to seek action. My first boyfriend of over 1.5 years is by all initial impressions a great guy. We share the same values, respect ...
A. 30 September 2010: This is a manipulative mind game twelve year old girls like to play, you're an adult. You shouldn't have to test your boyfriend's love in the first place. If you feel you do, that's a problem that should be discussed.... (read in full...)
Friend who only talks about herself!
Q. Hi guys, just a question. I would appreciate some advice. I have a good friend who talks about herself most of the time. She would call me and tell me about herself, sometimes even asking me to ask her a question so she can tell me more about he...
A. 30 September 2010: I agree with the previous answer, distance yourself from her. If she calls up just to tell you about her day, tell her you're busy and can't talk. If you're out with her and she rambles on about herself, change the subject. Don't let her talk over ... (read in full...)
I know she still loves me but she won't say it!
Q. hello, i am 25 and split with my girlfriend 4 weeks ago, we where together for 3 years and its really broken my heart when we ended, the reason we finished was because her mum passed away and a week later she ended our relationship, she said she ...
A. 29 September 2010: Leave her alone, she's going through a lot right now and doesn't need your pestering to add to it. See how she feels in a few months, but until then, leave her alone.... (read in full...)
He says she's just a friend!
Q. My husband has been sending texts to his "friend" at work that says things like - only if you caddy for me while topless and nice ass! He says that she is just a friend and that he's sorry and didn't mean to disrespect me, but what should I think?...
A. 28 September 2010: Texts of that nature don't usually take place between people that are just friends with no interest in one another. He's definitely interested in her, and being a married man, has no business acting that way towards anyone other than you.
He ma... (read in full...)
Is this a sign he likes me?
Q. I have found a guy on facebook I really like. We knew each other growing up and have gotten back in contact. He's single as am I. He likes almost every post I submit, usually in 1 minute and comments on most. He also befriended my bff who he ...
A. 28 September 2010: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/facebook-what-does-it-really-mean.html
It's Facebook, not real life. If you want to get to know this guy just message him, it's not a big deal. He's not going to think less of you for it. Talk to him and work up ... (read in full...)
Would a womanizer/player ever change if he met the right girl?
Q. There's this guy in my class whose a notorious player. He's systematically made out with like every girl I know, and has no reservations about being completely physical with a girl he just met. He's cute, charming, and has a killer sense of humor, ...
A. 28 September 2010: He's acting that way because you're acting disinterested, which I'm sure he's not used to. You're a challenge to him, and considering he's known to be a player, I'm guessing all he's interested in is conquering that challenge.
He's not going to... (read in full...)
I don't understand why he would cheat on his new girlfriend with me
Q. Hi I was in a relationship for 6 years with the father of my 2 year old girl. We split up last July through his choice. He believed he didn't love me because he kept looking for something else in other women, he kissed two girls during the last ...
A. 27 September 2010: He wants to have his cake and eat it too. He's not ready for the responsibility that comes with being in a relationship with you, but still wants the benefits of one. Sleeping with him isn't going to win him back, you're only allowing yourself to be ... (read in full...)
How do I stop his cheating?
Q. i have a problem with my boy friend he is cheating i dont know what should i do to stop this thing...
A. 25 September 2010: End the relationship.... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend have a midlife crisis or was it that he just couldn't keep it in his pants?
Q. I have been going out with a guy for 7yrs and we were blissfully happy up until last November. He is 3yrs older than me. We bought a house last November which he probably pushed for more than I did but we both knew it was the right decision deep ...
A. 23 September 2010: You say he's three years older than you, so he can't be more than 28. He's nowhere near having a midlife crisis at that age. It sounds like he wanted to play the field a bit before settling down, which tends to happen when a couple takes a break ... (read in full...)
He's suddenly ignoring my texts! What should I do?
Q. hi to everyone here..i had a problem..well,thereis a guy n i m having a trong crush over him.in starting,for 2-3months we jus met at work daily for 4-5mins,he use to talk to me,i thought he was interested in me.then,later,i also got ...
A. 23 September 2010: It sounds like he's lost interest. Being sent texts of the same thing three or four times until he answers comes off as desperate, and he probably felt smothered by it. Stop trying to contact him and let him contact you first.... (read in full...)
FWB relationship--i do not want to feel like I am just good enough for sex
Q. I have been in a FWB relationship for four months. It is a long distance thing and from the beginning was clear that it will never be a real relationship. He started talked to me every day, chasing me for months and caring about me. He was very ...
A. 21 September 2010: Sex is what a FWB relationship is based upon. It's not about anything else, otherwise it would be a definite, exclusive relationship. I understand he may be a great friend and act like he really cares about you, but ultimately he comes to you for ... (read in full...)
Will telling her what I did win her back?
Q. I'm mid twenties, and I dated this girl for two and a half years and she loved me SO SO fiercely. We were pretty much joined at the hip, and I loved her, but she definitely loved me more than I did. Eventually this took a toll on her and we broke ...
A. 21 September 2010: While it may seem that way from your point of view, it definitely won't seem that way to her. Who she's dating is really her own business, even if you know for a fact the guy is a jerk. Trying to meddle will only reflect poorly on you.
Also,... (read in full...)
Will telling her what I did win her back?
Q. I'm mid twenties, and I dated this girl for two and a half years and she loved me SO SO fiercely. We were pretty much joined at the hip, and I loved her, but she definitely loved me more than I did. Eventually this took a toll on her and we broke ...
A. 21 September 2010: Don't tell her about the fake profile, it'll only make you look like an insecure stalker and she'll think less of you for it. Just let things play out between them, eventually she'll either find out or he'll move on to someone else.... (read in full...)
Is online flirting and porn entertainment... a sort of infidelity?
Q. My wife is really upset that I log into dating chatroom websites, sex webcam sites, and porn sites and view the contents and talk to online flirts, such as myself. I see this as a bit of harmless flirting and a diverting form of entertainment. Why ...
A. 21 September 2010: While you're not physically cheating, what you're doing can be considered emotional cheating. You're showing a side of yourself to other people that should be reserved for your wife. Also, how can she know online flirting won't turn into physic... (read in full...)
Was he just looking for a reason to break up with me so he could date this other girl?
Q. I have just come out of an upsetting breakup with someone I was deeply in love with. We broke up over a very silly reason, which I'll get on to in a minute, and yet, though he often told me he loved me, he has a new girlfriend, someone I was ...
A. 21 September 2010: I went through something very similar last year. My ex seemed really off during the last two months we were together and when we did break up, it seemed like he was just making excuses and even blamed me for things HE did. About a month later I ... (read in full...)
He won't be clear with me about our relationship...do I stay or do I go?
Q. hi i have been seeing this guy for about 5 months now, at the first few months he would ask what would i say if he was to ask me out (as his gf) i replyed i would say yes! ever since then i have not heard anything more about it, just recintly he ...
A. 20 September 2010: He's being vague because he wants to date other women and keep his options open, while still having you around as a backup plan. It keeps you hooked because it's confusing and makes you think about him more often than you should while he keeps ... (read in full...)
I've never had sex because I'm not comfortable about my penis size
Q. Ok so I'm a 19 year old male, and I've had sex before I just never felt comfortable due to my penis size. Nobody has ever said that it's small or anything but a lot of people try it on with me and I'm always afaid that my penis isn't big enough. My ...
A. 20 September 2010: Five to six inches is average, you have nothing to worry about.... (read in full...)
Is it ok to have a relationship with my married boss?
Q. Hi there, I got divorce recently because my husband cheated on me,anyway, I 'm here alone in USA.(new arrived). I'm working in a company. The manager has some feeling towards me even before I got divorce. he asked me if I'm married or not. ...
A. 20 September 2010: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-to-do-when-the-person-youre-attracted.html... (read in full...)
Should I put up with her behaviour for the sake of the relationship? Or is this just unacceptable?
Q. My girlfriend continues to force things I don't like on me after I told her I don't like them [ie I tell her I'm not a cat person/allergic, she keeps dumping her cats in my lap; I tell her I don't like going certain places and she still always ...
A. 20 September 2010: You were completely justified in saying that. She doesn't seem to care about others at all, and staying with her in spite of that isn't going to make her snap out of it. She needs to learn to think outside of herself. Ending the relationship, or at ... (read in full...)
I feel bad for not contacting him, should I say sorry?
Q. I asked this guy out. He cancelled on me once and we rescheduled for later in the week. Then he ignored my attempts to contact him about our plans. I got mad and sent a text to him calling him an ass. He sent a smiley face back. And then i sent ...
A. 20 September 2010: If anything, he should be the one that feels bad. He was messing around with you and being an ass, you were right to tell him so.... (read in full...)
Is the loyal boyfriend thing an act to keep her with him so he can mess around on the side with people like me?
Q. Hello :) Ok, well a guy i know, who but what people have told me has a bit of a reputation, has been sending innapropriate texts to me and a few other people, sexual ones. He has a gf and from seeing photos of him and her, and her family etc... ...
A. 20 September 2010: Yes, it's an act. He's pretending to be loyal around his girlfriend just so she doesn't get suspicious. If he really cared about her as much as he pretends to, he wouldn't be messing around with other girls behind her back.... (read in full...)
Can you still have your period even if you are pregnant?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for four months and one month i didn't have my period but the beginning of the next month i had it but i still have the feeling that im pregnant. can you have your period even being pregnant?...
A. 20 September 2010: No, you can't. It's normal for your period to skip a month occasionally at a young age.
At your age, you should already know how your reproductive system works. Look it up and educate yourself before deciding to have sex again, otherwise you coul... (read in full...)
Why would he lie about having a girlfriend and why is he so persistant on keeping me in his life?
Q. a guy I've been talking to for 4 months lied to me about having a girlfriend,even though I asked him specifically if this girl was. we're only "friends" but we do have an intamate relationship.. when i found out i told him i didnt want to be his ...
A. 20 September 2010: He wants to have his cake and eat it too. He sounds like the type to give no thought to how his actions might affect others, and instead figures two girlfriends are better than one.
Considering the way he's been acting, I doubt he'd respect ... (read in full...)
Why is this guy not texting me back?
Q. I met a fab guy while on Spring Break with friends. The guy and his friends were cool, not sleazy and wanted to do daytime stuff with us like lunch, coffee etc. In fact my friend is dating his friend and its going really well. It really felt like...
A. 19 September 2010: He means you're making yourself too available. Men don't respond to that behaviour well, they see it as clingy and desperate. They like to chase, and you've already let him catch you.
I'd avoid making 'so easy to get confused' comments as well,... (read in full...)
Kids having sex!
Q. OK lately I see a lot of questions here where children from the age of 14-16,17 years think that they are old enough to have sex. They don't understand anything about it. They think that they are ready. There are even parents who agree with the idea ...
A. 18 September 2010: While I definitely agree with Odds' answer concerning the influence of media and inconsistency on the parent's part, I don't agree with the theory of single parenthood having an effect of this nature on a child. My father was present until my ... (read in full...)
We set up a date, he cancelled, and now he's ignoring me
Q. i was working this last summer as a cashier. and on labor day weekend i end up working with this guy who was also working the summer, i just hadn't met him yet. i thought he was cute and decided to talk to him. things went pretty well and one week ...
A. 18 September 2010: Let it go and let him text you first. If he doesn't, he's just not interested any more.... (read in full...)
Proper to ask if ex-gf is seeing someone??
Q. My ex girlfriend and I have broken up recently and have given each other some space to just let things settle for a little bit. We decided that we would remain very good friends and would try and talk to each other. However, I was wondering can I ...
A. 18 September 2010: Not only is it inappropriate, but it'll make her suspicious of your motives in agreeing to stay just friends.... (read in full...)
How do you treat it when your boyfriend wants to take a break?
Q. When your boyfriend of 2 years asks for "space" or "a break" for a while, because he wants to do his own thing for a while (no other explanation offered by him, no matter how much I pry), how should I treat it? Should I treat it as him leaving m...
A. 18 September 2010: A 'break' is a convenient excuse people use to play the field while still having their former boyfriend/girlfriend around as a back-up plan. They use the vagueness to their advantage; if it didn't work out with someone else, they have you to go back ... (read in full...)
I'm too old to get pregnant at 39, right?
Q. I thought i already post last 2 days ago and i cant find my post so here i am again writing again. Hello to all, i just wanna ask something. I am 39 years old. 4 days after my days i took a pills. But then i realize i am already old so i stop my...
A. 17 September 2010: Until you start going through menopause, you're still able to get pregnant. ... (read in full...)
Where can I find birth control pills for cheaper?
Q. So after foolish stupidity, I told my boyfriend I was setting up the "no glove, no love" rule since Planned Parenthood is hella expensive with pills. His first thought, "I don't like condoms, why this all of a sudden?" Uh, cause I don't want to get ...
A. 17 September 2010: Don't let him talk you out of your decision, he's not the one that has to get pregnant and carry a baby for nine months. He's not going to take the risk of pregnancy seriously because it won't affect him in the same way, which is why the pull-out ... (read in full...)
20 and ready to have a baby...
Q. I am 20 years old and I am ready to have a baby. My fiance is 24 and he says that I am to young. I know that it would possibly be better if I wait but I want one now. I have always been around kids and now that I'm moved out of the house and ...
A. 17 September 2010: Either way, I think you should wait a few years. At 25 or so you'll not only still be young enough to keep up with a child, but also have a bit more experience in life. You'd be amazed what a difference five years can make, especially in your 20's.... (read in full...)
My friend is making a big mistake! How can I make her see sense?
Q. My friend who's my age is having sex in a week w/ a guy who's not even her boyfriend (she doesn't have one). Basically, she's in love with this guy and he's a total player. He hooks up with anyone that has boobs and something to stick it in (yes, ...
A. 17 September 2010: No problem. Everyone is entitled to their own beliefs as long as it's not harming anyone, but clearly she's deluded in thinking having sex with him and is going to make him change and want to be with her. I can imagine how hard it must be to see all ... (read in full...)
Can a straight man turn gay and then turn straight again? I think were in love!
Q. Hello. I do not know who to turn to about this and am hoping someone out there can give me some advice. My best friend is a gay man. We are very close. We spend a lot of time together and we both truly love each other and have said so numerous ...
A. 17 September 2010: He's not entirely gay, he's likely bisexual. If things don't work out with his current relationship, find out where things lie between you and him. You'll never know how things might have turned out if you don't at least give him a chance.... (read in full...)
Any ideas on how I can tell my ex to quit contacting me!
Q. On saturday, my ex boyfriend is getting married to a girl he has been going out with for two years. When I found out in January I was elated, mainly because it ended badly and we were arguing a lot, and because we had many mutual friends, it came to ...
A. 17 September 2010: Why should you care what your ex thinks about you? So what if he thinks you're jealous? You know you're not.
Let him know you no longer want to stay in touch and that any further attempts on his part will be ignored, then delete him and be done ... (read in full...)
How do I play the player?
Q. How do you get a guy back for playing games with you for months and leading you on... and then he all of a sudden stops seeing you and talking to you?... I want to get him back because I see him out all the time and i deleted him from my phone... ...
A. 17 September 2010: The best way to make it look like you don't need him is to let it go and ignore him, not plot revenge. If anything, trying to get back at him will only make you look immature and a bit desperate.... (read in full...)
If he loved me, then why does he still display flirtatious and suspicious behaviors?
Q. I have been dating this guy for almost a year and i can honestly say that i love him now and that he loves me but i am 5 and a half months pregnant and I did not love him at the beginning. my question is if he loved me as much as he wants me to ...
A. 17 September 2010: He might care for you, but he definitely doesn't respect you.... (read in full...)
20 and ready to have a baby...
Q. I am 20 years old and I am ready to have a baby. My fiance is 24 and he says that I am to young. I know that it would possibly be better if I wait but I want one now. I have always been around kids and now that I'm moved out of the house and ...
A. 17 September 2010: You may think you're ready, but you're not, because it doesn't sound like you want children for the right reasons. Loneliness isn't a valid reason, and your fiance isn't ready for a baby yet anyway.
Having a child changes everything. You won't ha... (read in full...)
Why do some people look at single women as weird?
Q. Why Do People Look At SINGLE Women as Weird? I am in my early 20's (23) but I feel like I'm still 19 years old. Time has gone by so fast but I dont feel like my age yet. Guys are always complimenting me and asking me out but I politely turn do...
A. 17 September 2010: I'm 23 as well, and have been in a similar situation. The problem with many people our age seems to be they have no clue what maturity really is, and think getting married, having casual sex and then having children from said casual sex is what ... (read in full...)
My friend is making a big mistake! How can I make her see sense?
Q. My friend who's my age is having sex in a week w/ a guy who's not even her boyfriend (she doesn't have one). Basically, she's in love with this guy and he's a total player. He hooks up with anyone that has boobs and something to stick it in (yes, ...
A. 17 September 2010: She's in lust, not love. You can't do much more than let her make her own mistakes. She's willingly letting him treat her like a piece of meat, probably because she's afraid standing up for herself will drive him away. It sounds like she's made up ... (read in full...)
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