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11 July 2010: Nothing! Several situations can be mistaken to mean something more, when they truly don't carry much significance. For example: The friend you've been crushing on for the last six months accepts your third attempt at a friend request, and...
What to do when the person you're attracted to is already taken.
This question has 7 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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7 July 2010: Run the hell away. I've seen several questions of this nature on the site. It seems like a simple problem, although in reality it's not. It's complicated and messy, and almost always leaves one person's emotions in ruins while the other enjoys hav...
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Can anyone decode his odd behaviour???
Q. Been dating a guy on and off for the last two months - he seems mad into me but I am not mad into him. I like the fact he has been spoiling me and buying me nice stuff.. But now I wonder is he trying to buy my love more?? I missed a few calls and ...
A. 15 November 2010: There's no how, you just don't. Why are you still speaking to him at all?... (read in full...)
"I haven't explored the sea enough" thoughts.
Q. I am making this post to pretty much get "free therapy". I know I am having some emotions, but I don't fully know how to interpret them. Here is the situation at its basic level. I recently lost my virginity to my girlfriend. She has been in ...
A. 11 November 2010: Well, it depends on what you really want. Quality or quantity? Would you rather experience sex with several women, or lots of sex with the woman you love?
It doesn't make you a bad person and it's normal to wonder what else is out there, but by p... (read in full...)
I like this co-worker who just got out of a bad marriage, but I don't want to be his rebound girl!
Q. Dear cupid I really like this guy I work with, but there's lots of reasons I shouldn't.First of all he's just come out of a really bad marriage, she turned all psycho and clingy on him and then cheated on him, and I don't want to be his rebound g...
A. 11 November 2010: In all honesty, you probably won't be able to deal with it. His life is still messy and complicated right now, not to mention he has children with another woman, which means she'll always be a part of his life. It's a lot to take on at your age, and ... (read in full...)
Would this be considered "cheating", should I tell her?
Q. Background: Earlier this year in May, a childhood female friend of mine got back in touch with me after 10 years of being apart. We both grew up in Virginia. I found out that she lives in South Carolina now, but was visiting VA in a couple of ...
A. 11 November 2010: It sounds like you're not quite sure where the relationship is, which leads me to believe it was still unofficial and not exclusive. If that's the case, it's not cheating. If it is, after you two have had 'the talk' and everything, it's cheating.... (read in full...)
Tough love or mean parent?
Q. Ok guys this is a question that is not about love or sex this is a very hard tough love question. My son and his wife split up and i let him move in with me. I am single and have new house and car and bills. He knows i make good money. He has no job ...
A. 11 November 2010: He's 24, not 12. You need to set boundaries and take a definite stance on this situation, because he clearly thinks nothing of taking advantage of you. Keep all cards and money in a safe place he can't access. You can offer to let him stay with you, ... (read in full...)
Husband failed to mention he was eating lunch with his female co-worker!
Q. I just found out that my husband has been lying to me for the past six months (the same time he had just started work at a new location - same company, but in a different area of the state). When he comes home from work, I'll ask how his day was, ...
A. 10 November 2010: That seems really odd. Normally when people don't have something to hide, they won't think twice about mentioning it in passing. Something very similar had happened to me as well; someone I once dated would talk about his friends all the time ... (read in full...)
Ladies, is therea way to shave down there that isn't equivalent to self-torture?
Q. I prefer the look and feel of having no hair down there. Multiple times in the past I’ve attempted to shave, but I’ve never been able to keep it up for more than three days. It’s just so uncomfortable. For the first day it feels fine, but within 24 ...
A. 10 November 2010: It depends on how you're going about doing it. Do you shave against the grain, or with it? I've found with shaving in general, going in a perpendicular direction to the hair works well and doesn't result in painful razor burn.... (read in full...)
Why do some women wish they were taller?
Q. The question is easy: why do some women wish they were taller? This is the reason most women wear high heels for example. I'm just wondering why, is it to scare off predators or do they just think taller women are more attractive? Is i...
A. 10 November 2010: I'm 5'2 and really wouldn't mind being a couple of inches taller, simply because I'm tired of being towered over by everyone else. It's harder to see over people's heads at a show or in a movie theatre, etc. More than that, I'm tired of being seen ... (read in full...)
Can you love two women? how do I choose?
Q. I have been in a long term relationship with my girlfriend (lets call her E) now for 7 years and things have been very good, I recenetly met a girl (called K) and one thing led to another and we started a relationship and have been together for over ...
A. 10 November 2010: Break it off with both of them. If you can't respect a serious long-term relationship, you shouldn't be in one at all.... (read in full...)
Am I shallow for my worries due to his hair colour?
Q. i have a problem, a man reaaly likes me and would do anything for me but because he is ginger im scared what people will say! what do i do?...
A. 10 November 2010: I don't understand why this is even a concern. If you really like him, what other people think shouldn't matter. To be this worried over someone's hair colour is very shallow, in my opinion.... (read in full...)
Should I try to contact him or is there a reason he hasn't gotten back to me?
Q. So me and this guy went out a bunch at the end of this summer, he bought me dinner once or twice, we did some real fun stuff together. Then september rolled around and we're both at different unis, but in seprember the calls and txts were still ...
A. 8 November 2010: He could just be busy, or he could've lost interest. Call or text once, and only once. If you don't get a response after a week, it's time to move on.... (read in full...)
Would anyone else see this as nosey?
Q. so i had to go with my parents to visit neighbors because they invited us..i am in my mid twenties and pretty much come to the conclusion i don't like them because most of them in the family are very stuck up and judgemental. We went to be nice more ...
A. 8 November 2010: I'm generally a very private person as well, and do often feel similar questions can be a bit intrusive. 'What do you do?' isn't by any means, but being asked by an acquaintance exactly where the building is seems to be. I'm sure he didn't mean ... (read in full...)
Is it strange that me and my fiance don't shower together?
Q. My Cousin stayed the weekend with me and my Fiance recently and we had got done making Dinner and he went to take a Shower and my Cousin says 'your not gonna take a shower with him' and i say No 'Why and she says have you ever showered together, i ...
A. 8 November 2010: Some do, some don't. Either way, it's really none of her business.... (read in full...)
He's married but separated, is he taking me for a ride?
Q. hi im a 28 year old woman in love with a 32 year old guy,we have been dating 6 months now and its really intense from the start,here is the problem: he is married but separated from his wife for the last 2 years they have lived apart in differen...
A. 7 November 2010: We've already told you what you need to do, it's now up to you to either take the advice you've been given or continue to be mistreated. He's not going to change. He's NOT a great guy, he's using you for his own selfish reasons. People don't do that ... (read in full...)
Can anyone decode his odd behaviour???
Q. Been dating a guy on and off for the last two months - he seems mad into me but I am not mad into him. I like the fact he has been spoiling me and buying me nice stuff.. But now I wonder is he trying to buy my love more?? I missed a few calls and ...
A. 7 November 2010: No. There's absolutely no reason to, it's only going to make him think you're still interested.... (read in full...)
He's married but separated, is he taking me for a ride?
Q. hi im a 28 year old woman in love with a 32 year old guy,we have been dating 6 months now and its really intense from the start,here is the problem: he is married but separated from his wife for the last 2 years they have lived apart in differen...
A. 6 November 2010: He hasn't even tried to get a divorce. Instead, he's probably staying with his wife out of convenience while he has his fun with you. He's not going to leave her for you, he'll only continue to lead you on so he can get what he wants. Don't settle ... (read in full...)
What should I do after a hook up with someone I like?
Q. Hey, so I have a question about hooking up vs. real interest. I slept with this girl on Halloween and she initiated the whole thing. We were both pretty drunk at the time but she seemed interested before we hooked up that night. Afterwads she didnt ...
A. 6 November 2010: You've tried to contact her twice and have gotten no response back, that's a pretty clear indication that she's just not interested in you.... (read in full...)
Can anyone decode his odd behaviour???
Q. Been dating a guy on and off for the last two months - he seems mad into me but I am not mad into him. I like the fact he has been spoiling me and buying me nice stuff.. But now I wonder is he trying to buy my love more?? I missed a few calls and ...
A. 6 November 2010: You can definitely still date, however you have to be a LOT more careful with who you choose. As for the creepy guy, especially considering the things he said about picking up women while babysitting etc., I would block his number and ignore him ... (read in full...)
Can anyone decode his odd behaviour???
Q. Been dating a guy on and off for the last two months - he seems mad into me but I am not mad into him. I like the fact he has been spoiling me and buying me nice stuff.. But now I wonder is he trying to buy my love more?? I missed a few calls and ...
A. 6 November 2010: Why should you give him another chance? He's had plenty of time to prove he's a decent guy, yet hasn't, because he's not. He's the type that wants what he wants when he wants it, and thinks giving you expensive things is the surefire way to get into ... (read in full...)
All he sends are one word texts!
Q. There's this guy of whom I know through family ties (he is related to friends of the family.) At our annual Halloween party, he and I seemed to be hitting it off rather well. He would tease me and I would flirt. After exchanging numbers and having ...
A. 6 November 2010: This may hurt to hear, but usually when someone's interested in the conversation and the person they're having it with, they'll contribute more to it than terse one-word answers.
Does he ever ask you questions, or do you do most of the asking a... (read in full...)
Time to put my big girl panties on!
Q. I've been with my husband since I was 19 and he was 35. Now I'm 24 and he is 40. He did not show his temper until after I got pregnant with our son. His anger problem is getting worst. Not just that, he is cold with me. I thought we were do...
A. 6 November 2010: That's a really big red flag, he's either already cheating or is about to. Why else would he be registered on those sites? It's completely different from something like watching porn, he's actively searching for and most likely contacting other ... (read in full...)
He seeks out young women online to sexually entertain him, compared to them I feel like I am not good enough
Q. My husband is 49 and I am 53. We have been married for 13 years. He watches and masturbates to young women around 21-23 years of age, stripping and masturbating on line. I take good care of myself and have a good figure but now feel like I am ...
A. 5 November 2010: He's interacting with these women, it's not as though he's just viewing porn and for that reason, you need to have a serious discussion with him about this. Make it clear if he doesn't stop, you're gone. It may be a bit drastic, but without a ... (read in full...)
He already has a girlfriend - what is your opinion of me if I stay in this relationship?
Q. He says I'm all these great things, but I feel like I'm not good enough. Its definitely not a self esteem issue, its because he has a girlfriend, but he's having his cake and eating it too. And I'm allowing it. I think I've fallen in love with thi...
A. 5 November 2010: 'He's perfect in every way, except that he's so deceiving.'
No, he's not perfect. No one is perfect, but he's especially far from it.
'He says he can't let me go. I feel like I'm in the position of power right now.'
You're really not, he... (read in full...)
He lied about his age, and now I have found he is registered on Adult Friend Finder! What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 months is perfect in every way, apart from when I read the history on his laptop. He has been going online with Adult Friend Finder. He did a search for women seeking men!! He registered!! This was last week when I was out with ...
A. 5 November 2010: I'm glad I could help. However, I feel you already have more than enough evidence to justify breaking things off. Why wait for another chance to snoop? I don't want to sound harsh, but monitoring his computer sounds more like something a conc... (read in full...)
I'm losing patience. Should I contact him again and ask him was he serious?
Q. I have been seeing this guy Matt for over 6 weeks. He goes to college far away Monday to Friday so he only comes home on the weekends. He used to text me during the week and meet up on the weekends. He has introduced me to all his friends and his ...
A. 5 November 2010: The more you chase him, the further he's going to run. Let him chase you, instead. Texting him several times and repeatedly questioning his interest is only going to turn him off. If he doesn't respond for more than a week, consider it over and move ... (read in full...)
He said to his ex he "needs to get out of this place" referring to living with me! What should I do?
Q. I was being nosy on my boyfriends phone and found one between an ex gf he had a very long time ago...she asked if he was still living with that chick (me) his response was "yes unfortunately I gotta get out of this place i ain't get much younger" i ...
A. 5 November 2010: He's telling you what you want to hear because you caught him in a moment of honesty that he didn't intend for you to see. He wouldn't have said that to his ex, of all people, if there wasn't some truth to it.
This isn't something that should j... (read in full...)
We have agreed to meet up soon, but what is bothering me is I do not know his name nor have his number!
Q. Hi, Hope someone can help me out with this one or advise me at least..... For two years I have been talking to this guy online we are both the same age mid twenties and have everything in common. We met through a chatroom and talked to the sam...
A. 5 November 2010: 'He says I know him more intimately than most in real life/offline and he is I know open with me and not anyone else from the same forum we sometimes go to.'
It's the internet. You're not speaking face to face. He could be telling you anything... (read in full...)
I feel bad for receiving oral and never giving it back!
Q. My girlfriend is always asking for oral... politely, and she respects it when I decline, but I feel bad for receiving and not giving back, its just I'm inexperienced.... can anyone help me out? ...
A. 5 November 2010: There's really no other way to get experience other than actually doing it. Try not to worry about it. Ask your girlfriend to guide you the first few times, you'll catch on soon enough.... (read in full...)
He never allows any foreplay and then falls asleep straight after sex!
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a couple of years and nothing has changed as far as our sex lives go. He has a very high sex drive and is very demanding when he wants it and any time of the day or night will do. That is not the ...
A. 5 November 2010: He's not even treating you like a human being, he's treating you like a sex toy that exists solely for his pleasure. What's the point in having sex with him at all if you have to finish yourself off in the end, anyway?
This selfish behaviou... (read in full...)
I'm in love with both of them, why cant we just have a 3-way relationship!
Q. I am new to this site so please don't laugh at what I am about to say. Almost 8yrs ago I met and got involved with a woman who is 10yrs older than me. Everything was going well until like the fool I am I cheated on her with a woman 8yrs older than ...
A. 5 November 2010: You can't, period. Neither one wanted to share you before, what makes you think they'd want to now? ... (read in full...)
He lied about his age, and now I have found he is registered on Adult Friend Finder! What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 months is perfect in every way, apart from when I read the history on his laptop. He has been going online with Adult Friend Finder. He did a search for women seeking men!! He registered!! This was last week when I was out with ...
A. 5 November 2010: He's not perfect at all, and you need to seriously think about why you want to stay with him in spite of everything you've found out. If he's going to lie to you about something as trivial as age, what else could he be lying about? He's registered ... (read in full...)
Why did a good girl allow sex so easily?
Q. I met this lovely 20 year old girl through her sister, a co-worker. I took her out to the movies just once, and then did not see her for a month. We kept in touch. When we met again we went to a secluded place where we talked about her dreams...
A. 4 November 2010: Wait, so you're thinking of asking her why she slept with you after a certain amount of time? What would the point in that be? She did it because she wanted to, it's as simple as that. Just as the other answers have said, men aren't the only ones ... (read in full...)
Online guy won't talk to me when he's at home. Why is that?
Q. I met this guy through a dating site and we have been chatting online for about 3 months now. We chat almost everyday. He always leaves me offline messages like, 'Hi, beautiful. How's ur day? I miss u.' We see each other on cam often. He says he ...
A. 4 November 2010: My firt guess would be that he's already involved and cheating. He's clearly trying to hide the fact that he's talking to you from whoever he's living with.... (read in full...)
Why do women sometimes not answer when you call or text them?
Q. Alright, this is beginning to annoy me. Alright, so I'm a good looking dude, funny, and I can sing really well too. I get girls phone numbers and then when you call them they don't answer? What is up with that? Why give someone your number then not ...
A. 4 November 2010: Hm. That may be one of the main reasons some aren't calling back, actually. They could either think you're trying to cover ulterior motives by acting like you just want to be friends, or they could be the type to lose interest because you're not ... (read in full...)
Should I let him go, or hope that I will fall in love with him eventually?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for sometime now, for about a year. He's in love an I'm not. He want to be a family with me an my kids honestly I could care less. Do I need to just let go or keep hoping to fall in love with him. ...
A. 3 November 2010: It's been a year, if you're not in love with him on some level by now you're likely never going to be. Why are you still with him if you've become so ambivalent towards the relationship? Convenience? It wouldn't be fair to keep stringing him along ... (read in full...)
Why don't intelligent people see this guy for what he really is?
Q. I,m writing this as i can of need to vent my feelings. I know a guy who at first i thought was pretty decent, seemed nice etc... turns out i couldn't have been more wrong, let me explain. We slept together a few times last year, i thought he he ...
A. 3 November 2010: Guys like that are usually really good at coming across as charming and genuine when they want something. Just because his friend made that comment doesn't mean she doesn't know, she could be turning a blind eye. Some people simply don't care what ... (read in full...)
Why have I not had an orgasm yet?
Q. i am 18yrs of age, i have a birthday coming up i'll be 19. i am very into sex i only had sex with 5 guys and im with someone, love him like hell but i never had an orgasm, why is that?...
A. 3 November 2010: Might a lack of knowledge be the reason? Most women can't orgasm through penetration alone, and if you know a bit more about your anatomy and how things work, it'll be easier to find something that works for you. There are plenty of resources online ... (read in full...)
For the girls: Would you dump your boyfriend if you found out he was a 25 year old virgin?
Q. This question mainly applies to women but I was wondering if you would dump your boyfriend if he told you one day that he was a virgin and that he was over the age of 25 (I'm 23 but considering the worst case scenario for me). I could have lost it ...
A. 3 November 2010: I wouldn't. It'd take something a lot worse for me to want to break off a relationship with someone, experience (or lack thereof) is a non-issue.... (read in full...)
He has my number but hasn't called
Q. the guy i like is my brothers friend, we have known each other for a couple of months. The way he acts around me and stares at me at times made me think he liked me. I am however very shy and dont really talk to him unless iam drunk lol but my ...
A. 3 November 2010: I can't say for sure, but one reason might be that he's just shy and doesn't know what to say. You know him well enough, if he's not the shy type he's just not interested.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend google searching other girls, I am dumbfounded
Q. Dear Cupids, I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 11 months. We see eachother around two or three nights a week due to our conflicting work schedules. He is a sweet, loving and loyal man for the most part. The only time we argue...
A. 3 November 2010: Searching porn sites is a passive activity and won't directly lead to him cheating on you. Even if you speak to him about how uncomfortable it makes you, he'll likely still do it behind your back. Men like to look, and although we women may not ... (read in full...)
Second Life and my ex, why won't he leave me alone?
Q. I posted a previous query "Second life is real life to my boyfriend" a while back and thought that the subject was over and done with. Turns out that it isn't. I play Second Life also for a couple of hours a night and I have good friends there th...
A. 3 November 2010: There's definitely something that isn't right with him. I'm guessing he either has serious issues with insecurity or just has no life and nothing better to do than bother you. Either way, it's best not to acknowledge him at all. Eventually he'll get ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend issues with attention from other guys
Q. I have a girlfriend of about 3 months, but have dated for 6 months prior. We have had our fair share of fights yet care about each other enough to keep it going. She has always had the tendency to seek attention, and it is bothering to me as it ...
A. 3 November 2010: When someone seeks attention, it's because they have a need to feel special and validated. In some people, it's almost compulsive. Getting attention of any kind feeds into that need, regardless of who it's coming from or why they're getting it.
... (read in full...)
Why do women sometimes not answer when you call or text them?
Q. Alright, this is beginning to annoy me. Alright, so I'm a good looking dude, funny, and I can sing really well too. I get girls phone numbers and then when you call them they don't answer? What is up with that? Why give someone your number then not ...
A. 3 November 2010: When you call, do you leave a message or do you hang up? Most women aren't going to return a call to a number they don't recognize. Without a message letting them know who you are, they're more likely to assume it was a wrong number.
If they do ... (read in full...)
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