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11 July 2010: Nothing! Several situations can be mistaken to mean something more, when they truly don't carry much significance. For example: The friend you've been crushing on for the last six months accepts your third attempt at a friend request, and...
What to do when the person you're attracted to is already taken.
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7 July 2010: Run the hell away. I've seen several questions of this nature on the site. It seems like a simple problem, although in reality it's not. It's complicated and messy, and almost always leaves one person's emotions in ruins while the other enjoys hav...
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He doesn't want to get married again. Is this a deal breaker?
Q. my boyfriend is going through a divorce and experienced a bad relationship. He feels as if the marriage ruined it. He told me he cannot see himself ever marrying again. Ever since I was a little girl i have always wanted to be happily married. ...
A. 28 December 2010: One thing to always remember; never try to change someone into what you think they should be. You're setting yourself up for disappointment that way, because for all you know, you could in fact be a rebound. The biggest clue this is a possibility... (read in full...)
Anything I do for him is not enough for him. Help!
Q. My boyfriend and I finally took the step to move in together. We've been together for almost 5 years. We've had our ups and downs....but for the past couple years, I have really felt like he won't ever commit to me. He says that he even...
A. 28 December 2010: First, why would you give him all of your money in the first place? He takes everything for granted and you keep giving. As the saying goes, you teach people how to treat you. By letting it go and continuing to give him all he wants, you're showing ... (read in full...)
Has anybody else been burned and decided to stay away forever from the opposite sex?
Q. Lesson learned!!! After being told tonight, i will not get back with you, so just leave me alone. If a woman can throw away 7 years and 2 sons, a nice home, her 3 step daughters just because of some email and text flirting then im at a loose end ...
A. 15 December 2010: No, I don't agree with that attitude. You seem to think you're the victim in this situation, but flirting with other women through text and email isn't exactly innocent. In fact, it's considered emotional cheating.
It's not some trivial thing, i... (read in full...)
She won't shave or trim!
Q. I have had multiple conversations with my wife regarding the shaving of her vag, but she will not so much as keep it trim. I've actually shaved her a few times, but I feel like it's just part of a woman's grooming process to keep it trim if that's ...
A. 15 December 2010: There's absolutely no reason for you to make this into such an issue, it's her body and she has the right to choose how she takes care of it.
Withholding sex is probably the most immature approach you could take. Seriously, grow up. Asking n... (read in full...)
Can I get him back by being with him as a friend (without benefits)???
Q. My bf broke up with me a month back. Now he is sugessting friends with benefits with me. I said 'NO' since i still have feelings for him and i dont want to get hurt. But i am wondering can I get him back by being with him as a friend (without ...
A. 15 December 2010: The real question is why do you still want to be with someone that only wants sex from you?
Move on. Seriously. If he's asking you to be his friend with benefits only a month after breaking up, he's not interested in getting back together... (read in full...)
Thoughts on having sex on the first date?
Q. is it ok to have sex on the first date/night you meet someone?? recently i haven't had a lot of sex, its been almost 6 months, and although i thoroughly enjoy it, i feel the need to get out there and have a few one night stands.. ive been chatt...
A. 14 December 2010: If you don't want to be thought of that way, don't do it. You can't expect to be thought of as a girl that doesn't have sex on the first date after sleeping with someone on the first date, especially if the guy was only looking for sex anyway and ... (read in full...)
My friend says he is only with me until he finds someone older. Am I being foolish for accepting this?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for 5 months now and he's absolutley perfect! except he is 8 years older than me. So we agreed that we won't become boyfriend and girlfriend because at the end of the day we want different things. He says he is so crazy ...
A. 9 December 2010: Yes, very foolish. He already put an expiration date on your 'relationship' by saying it won't last. If there's no future, why continue to see each other?
Your reasons for wanting to date him are obvious, you're emotionally attached at this poi... (read in full...)
I noticed spotting since I started taking the birth control pill. How long did it last for you?
Q. Hi everyone! This is more a question for the women. I'm 19 and just started taking Loestrin 24, the birth control pill. One of the side effects is spotting which my gynocologist told me could happen. For me this brown spotting has been occurin...
A. 9 December 2010: The way your body adjusts to the hormones really depends on which brand you're taking. The first one I took was absolutely terrible, I had so many side effects from it. The second one has been great, especially compared to the first. Minor moodiness ... (read in full...)
I'm a married woman and want a relationship with my lesbian friend.
Q. I'm bisexual and married. How do I ask my husband if he would have a problem with me dating a woman I've become quite close to. She doesn't know I'm back living with my husband so how do I approach her?...
A. 9 December 2010: You're married, being bisexual isn't an excuse to cheat. I'm bisexual as well, and would never pursue a relationship with someone while involved with another. It's still cheating regardless of sexual orientation.
If you do decide to talk to him a... (read in full...)
13 year old son sexting. What should his punishment be?
Q. Just caught my 13 year old sexting with a girl in his class. They sent each other pictures of each other and everything. Not sure what his punishment should be. His phone was taken indefinitely. Not sure what else I should do. What do u all think?...
A. 9 December 2010: Take away his phone and cut off texting when/if he gets it back. All the advice here is very good, but unfortunately, most teens won't take contracts and honest talks seriously. Many will say whatever it takes to appease their parents and then go ... (read in full...)
Why do men cheat with nasty females?
Q. I have been in two serious realationships both ended with them cheating on me. The problem is the female they choose to cheat with are nasty girls who don't care what they do or who they do it with. So my question is why men cheat with nasty girls...
A. 9 December 2010: Because that's the only type of woman available to them. A respectable woman with even the smallest shred of sense would know better.... (read in full...)
Ladies, what do you think of a 40 year old virgin? No, not the movie.
Q. OK, here is a simple and straight-forward question for the ladies. I am going to be honest, and I want the HONEST truth, as you see it. I am a male, 39, going to be 40 in 3 months. I am a virgin. Mostly I am a virgin because I believe sex sho...
A. 9 December 2010: Your situation may be somewhat unusual, but I don't see anything wrong with waiting until you find someone you truly love.
Some women might be put off, yes. However, there are definitely women out there that won't mind, especially if they see... (read in full...)
Is it ok to date a married but separated man?
Q. I have a male friend who I've been friends with for years. Lately we have been spending a lot of time together. There is a problem he's married but seperated. Him and his wife are seeing other people and the only reason they have not divorce is ...
A. 9 December 2010: No, it's not okay. Besides, why would you want to be with someone that only stays married for the medical benefits and nothing else? All that shows is he would rather use a situation to his advantage than do the right thing. How do you know it's not ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants me to have multiple orgasms
Q. My GF seems to have some concerns over my semen volume and my orgasms lately. She says I sometimes do not cum very much, while other times I cum a LOT. I think she is being a little naive, as many of the times she says I dont cum a lot it is the ...
A. 7 December 2010: I don't think she's comparing you to someone else, this likely has more to do with her confidence (or lack thereof). Maybe she feels she's not pleasing you if you don't climax the way she thinks you should?
By no means does this mean you're i... (read in full...)
How long should we wait to get married? And how do I stop her from moving in on me right away?
Q. hi my question is when should we get married how long before. and how do i keep her from just moving in on me right away. we both have our own places. is that a commitment problem....
A. 7 December 2010: Whenever you want, but definitely not before you've been together for at least a year. There's nothing wrong with living separately, but it's a good idea to live together at some point in the relationship. You'll have to live with your spouse for ... (read in full...)
Did I sound 'cheap' because I didn't play hard to get?
Q. Hi,i met this guy one day,he was a cousin to my guyfriend though i didnt know him and neither did he know me.but we got acquainted that day,after that day i kept thinking of him and really missing him.then i told him that i like him alot and he said ...
A. 7 December 2010: I wouldn't say 'cheap', and he obviously didn't seem to mind because he asked you out, but in the future try to hold back a bit. Let him chase you.... (read in full...)
Neighbor Confusion!
Q. i live across from this guy, extremely cute , he just went away to college i am a senior in highschool. we were talking flirting all summer, really into each other got the daily message from him..and now he is off to college, and when we talk it is ...
A. 7 December 2010: One thing to keep in mind: guys don't play hard to get, ever. Now that he's off at college he's much busier than he used to be, and is likely a bit distracted.
Give him some space for now, send a text every so often but let him initiate the conv... (read in full...)
How do I stop myself from losing all hope of ever finding my Prince Charming?
Q. I'm 20 years old and only a year from graduating college. I am the epitome of a hopeless romantic. My bookshelf consists of piles of historical and contemporary romances, love poems and fairy tales. I spend my Friday nights watching romantic ...
A. 7 December 2010: You have to let go of that dream if you ever want to carry on a successful long-term relationship, because no real man is like Prince Charming. Everyone has flaws, and by setting your expectations so high you're making it impossible for any decent ... (read in full...)
We have anal sex one time, and now he always wants it!
Q. i am kinda having an issue that i don't know how to address. me and my boyfriend tried anal a couple weeks ago. i was afraid at first but i was surprised that i actually liked it. but the problem is now that seems to be all my an boyfriend wants! i ...
A. 7 December 2010: The best thing to do is be honest. Tell him you enjoyed it, but would prefer it to be something you do occasionally, not all the time. There are plenty of other things you can do, and if he's really concerned about the pill failing, he can wear a ... (read in full...)
How much do you love me? How do you answer that?
Q. ok, so i have this boyfriend that lives in a different state so we dont get to see eachother much..but i really love him and a couple of times hes asked me how much i love him..i just get lost for words! How can i explain it?...
A. 6 December 2010: 'A lot', and leave it at that. You shouldn't have to prove your love to him by saying the right thing, just as loaded questions like this shouldn't be asked in the first place.... (read in full...)
Are mens egos that fragile
Q. I broke up with a man a little over two years ago. We dated for six months,but didn't consummate the relationship due to some health issues he had. We ended up friend despite him playing games like trying to make me jealous only six weeks after ...
A. 6 December 2010: You'll never be able to move on if your ex is still in your life on such a consistent basis. His actions are confusing because you have a history with him, and there's a certain attachment that comes with that. Neither of you have had a chance to ... (read in full...)
My cheating husband--is he a pedophile? a sex addict?
Q. I just found out a few months ago my husband of 19 years has been seeing a girl who is a crack addict/prostitute for 14 years (off and on - whatever that means) In addition to her there have been others, I don't know how many, he refuses to talk ...
A. 6 December 2010: The best thing to do is not ask for details, because you're guaranteed to hear something you don't want to know and it's not only going to haunt you, but prevent you from ever moving on. Couples' counseling can help you both work through these ... (read in full...)
Is it weird to be horny during your period?
Q. I guess women when there on their monthly period say Sex is off limits because being on their rag messes up their mood..but i am different 'i still want to have Sex when i am on my period, so is this Normal..and i hate guys that thinks it is gross ...
A. 6 December 2010: Don't worry, it's completely normal. The fluctuation in hormones affects everyone differently, for some women it kills their sex drive and for others it doesn't. It doesn't mean you're crazy.... (read in full...)
He called me a prostitute! I'm his mistress!
Q. I'm having an affair with a married man. Well today his wife caught us in a hotel and called me a prostitute? Then she started fighting my man and in the midst he told her I didn't mean nothhing to him but a prostitute! Wtf?! I'm a mistress! Will ...
A. 6 December 2010: Being a mistress is nothing to be proud of, and really isn't much better than being a prostitute. He keeps you on the side for the sole purpose of his sexual satisfaction, and thinks nothing of reducing you to the status of a prostitute for the sake ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a threesome with my co worker
Q. I am a bisexual man who has been married to a wonderful woman for 14 years. I am also having a sexual relationship with a man I work with. My wife knows about this relationship, but now she wants to join us for a threesome. I think this is wrong, ...
A. 6 December 2010: What exactly is it about this situation you think is wrong? Is it the fact that you'd have to share your wife with someone else, in the same way she has to share you? Being uncomfortable with the idea is one thing, but to think it's wrong when ... (read in full...)
She dyes her hair more than any woman I know!
Q. My girlfriend seems to be obsessed with finding the right color for her hair. First she wants it darker then lighter then highlighted etc. Not only does she talk about it way more often than anyone Ive ever known but has colored it may tim...
A. 6 December 2010: It could be compulsive, but I think it's more likely she's feeling very self-conscious at the moment. As TasteofIndia said, this just happens to be how it's showing.... (read in full...)
He's TOO protective of his Facebook!
Q. My bf and I have gone out over a year now and have been thru ups and downs. I love him dearly and I believe he does. He loves facebook and is very active to a point I can not accept. He is very cautious and protective about his facebook, whenever he ...
A. 6 December 2010: Does he let you see his page at all? Assuming he doesn't, here's my two cents:
If he had nothing to hide, there would be no reason for him to be so secretive. There's definitely something on there he doesn't want you to see, either because ... (read in full...)
My 57 yo boyfriend in involved with a 26 yo who is now pregnant!
Q. I've been involved with a older man for the pass, 9.5 years. I Thought the world of this man. I have never met anyone so devious and down nasty as him. I caught him cheating several times with different woman, they were always his friends. Now he is ...
A. 5 December 2010: What exactly is the point of sleeping with him to show her 'what she's dealing with'? It makes no sense whatsoever, and honestly, all it shows to both of them is the fact that you have no self-respect and will continue to sleep with a man that ... (read in full...)
He wants to be with me but still keep his distance
Q. I've been dating a guy for about 3 months. I see him almost every day and spend the night almost every night....he cooks meals for me, takes care of me when I'm sick, tells me I'm beautiful...basically acts like the perfect boyfriend. But, he ...
A. 5 December 2010: He doesn't consider it a serious relationship. Have you had a discussion about being exclusive yet? If not, his reluctance to acknowledge you as his girlfriend means he either doesn't see this as something serious and long-term, or he doesn't want ... (read in full...)
What Are Some Of The Reasons Why A Guy Would Stop Talking To A Woman Without Explanation?
Q. I was talking to this guy for about a week and some days. We hung out twice but we would text each other everyday and he would always say nice things to me. One day he wanted to hang with me. For the 1st time I was going to go to his house. I called ...
A. 5 December 2010: For some, it's easier to take the immature route and ignore a person rather than confront the issue. ... (read in full...)
How do I respond to a woman who flaked out on me?
Q. I am 42. She is 34. We've gone out on two dates and have gotten along perfectly. The first time I took her to a concert, then to dinner afterward where we talked. At one point, she said, "you're so cute." The second time we went to a club, t...
A. 4 December 2010: It may have been too much too soon, and she was having second thoughts. It doesn't mean she's not still interested in you, but she likely reconsidered going to your place since it would only be your third date, and felt awkward about bringing it ... (read in full...)
Does she act this way because she's shy? nervous? or crazy?
Q. hello everyone i am a bi girl, interested in this one girl in my karate class, she seems to like me, she makes intense eye contact and licks her lips a lot while doing so (but i think she's just a lip licker she does it a lot not just me), but th...
A. 4 December 2010: It sounds like she's very shy and a bit socially awkward, but the good thing is she managed to open up to you somewhat. With time she might open up more, as she gets to know you. The laughing bit is really odd, but I guess it could just be nervous ... (read in full...)
My GF cries way too much
Q. So I have been dating my girlfriend for over 6 months now. It's pretty serious. In many ways she's exactly what I want in a girl. The problem is that she cries way too often, over little things, and I don't know what I can do about it. For examp...
A. 4 December 2010: I agree with CindyCares, the first step is to stop enabling her! She throws tantrums because she has very poor impulse control, and by feeding into that with compassion and sympathy, you're reinforcing the behaviour. After all, the reason she even ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him we need to see each other more?
Q. So I've been seeing this guy since the middle of summer and offically dating him for three months. We get along great together but rarely see each other because of our busy schedules. It absolutely kills me. I want him to know that and want to tell ...
A. 4 December 2010: It won't seem needy or clingy if you mention it casually. 'I'd like to see you again' would be fine.
Clingy and crazy would be: 'Oh my god I'm so in love with you I need to see you RIGHT NOW.'
Complete difference, right?... (read in full...)
Sweet guy boyfriend won't drive to see me
Q. I don't know what to do anymore. I have been dating my current boyfriend for almost six months now, and he's amazing - sweet, thoughtful, sensitive, and very much like me. I have never dated anyone like him and I am very happy with the way his...
A. 4 December 2010: I completely agree with you, the time and effort you put into a relationship should never be lumped in with the time you spend at work. He's only saying that because the difference leans in his favour.
You need to stop making this relation... (read in full...)
Where can I meet women?
Q. I need some help on where to meet women, here's the situation. I recently got a full time job and I like this job. Because of my recent success I want to find a girlfriend, but I'm having a hard time socializing and meeting women. My network of ...
A. 4 December 2010: Join an activity or common interest group (books, hiking, museums, whatever you happen to enjoy). The women there are often more down to earth than the pub-crawling type.... (read in full...)
Would you consider this to be fate?
Q. I was asked by a guy I like (who I met on the last night of my visit in Veags) if I believe in fate. I said yes. And then he asked me if I think we met because of it, and I said yes and that I believe everything happens for a reason. Then I asked ...
A. 4 December 2010: Definitely a pick up line. ... (read in full...)
He always enjoys the sex but I don't!
Q. i have a problem, and i dont know what to do about it.... my boyfriend and i... ugh im not pleasured by our sex... BUT HE ALWAYS IS. i dont know how to tell him that im not because i dont want to make him do something he doesnt want too. but its ...
A. 4 December 2010: Your only two choices are either to speak up or deal with it. Sex isn't one-sided, it's not rude to let him know you'd like to enjoy it just as much as he does. ... (read in full...)
We agreed not to join any social-networking sites, then he joins one!
Q. When my husband and I met and became serious about each other,we both agreed that we would not participate in any of the dating/social networks. We've both seen so many couples run into problems using these sites. Plus we really don't have the time ...
A. 4 December 2010: Yes, you should be concerned. There's no way he could've accidentally joined that site, and the fact that he's now trying to hide it from you is a red flag. If this was just a case of innocent curiosity, I don't think he'd feel the need to lie about ... (read in full...)
Does he just want to get me in bed?
Q. I like this guy alot and we have been dateing for about a month and he tells me he loves me and that he wants to make love to me.He calls and checks up on me almost every day and he makes me feel like he reali cares about me. I am not sure what to ...
A. 3 December 2010: I doubt he's changed, honestly. Otherwise you wouldn't be wondering if he's still a player, and he wouldn't still have such a reputation.... (read in full...)
Does he just want to get me in bed?
Q. I like this guy alot and we have been dateing for about a month and he tells me he loves me and that he wants to make love to me.He calls and checks up on me almost every day and he makes me feel like he reali cares about me. I am not sure what to ...
A. 2 December 2010: He's known to be a player for a reason, and players are often really good at fooling people into thinking they're sincere. Chances are he's only after one thing, but the only way you'll be able to find out for certain is to make him wait. If after ... (read in full...)
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