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11 July 2010: Nothing! Several situations can be mistaken to mean something more, when they truly don't carry much significance. For example: The friend you've been crushing on for the last six months accepts your third attempt at a friend request, and...
What to do when the person you're attracted to is already taken.
This question has 7 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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7 July 2010: Run the hell away. I've seen several questions of this nature on the site. It seems like a simple problem, although in reality it's not. It's complicated and messy, and almost always leaves one person's emotions in ruins while the other enjoys hav...
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I had sex with my brother's 31 year old friend. My brother will kill us!
Q. okay this is gonna sound well bad but here goes i went to my brother's friend's wedding this sunday just gone, and my brothers other friend who i have just recently fancied was there, i got really drunk like really drunk and randomly he started ...
A. 15 September 2010: The fact that you feel it was wrong means you DO regret it, and honestly, I would too had I been in that position. No 31 year old should be going after a teenage girl, let alone one that's had too much to drink. He took advantage of you, and was ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend only want sex?
Q. My bf and I hangout out more now, bt the problem iss thatt he will only take me to his house, to have sex, and thats all. I know he is busy with school and stuff, bt come on,, only sex. Am i right or no???...
A. 15 September 2010: He's using you, and unfortunately, you're allowing it to happen. Stop having sex with him, see how he reacts and make your judgment from there. If he suddenly decides it's not working out, it's because he was only interested in sex and nothing more.... (read in full...)
Why the need for so many lovers?
Q. My daughter is 19. She has had at least 10 sexual partners that I know of. Am I out of touch for feeling that this is excessive? We have good communication, what is going on?...
A. 15 September 2010: I personally think that's too many for someone of her age, but as always, everything depends on the circumstances. I feel people are entitled to do whatever they like, as long as it isn't bringing harm to anyone, herself included.... (read in full...)
Why do I like having sex with him when I find girls attractive?
Q. I have a friend who visits me weekly and we kiss, suck each other and had sex. I find girls attractive, not guys, but i love having sex with him? Am i gay or bi?...
A. 14 September 2010: You're likely bisexual, though sexuality is so fluid that it can be hard to define. For example, what if your friend is the only male you're attracted to? Does it make you bi or 'mostly straight'? It all depends on which gender you're sexually ... (read in full...)
He's talking to me again but I'm confused... help!
Q. My exboyfriend and i are talking again and i just said do you want to see a movie later he replied not tonight cos he's dead busy so i said maybe some other time and he said yeah that sounds good. Does this mean he's interested again or just sa...
A. 14 September 2010: He's stringing you along. If he was really interested, he'd suggest a day when he's not busy.... (read in full...)
Women, why is fitting into your "thin clothes" more important than your health?
Q. Hey guys, I've recently found out a female friend of mine is starving herself with the sole aim of fitting into her old clothes. It's mind boggling to me for a number of reasons. Firstly, when I say starving herself I'm talking about her on...
A. 14 September 2010: There's an incredible amount of pressure on women to look 'perfect', because so much emphasis is put on appearance being tied to self-worth. We're faced with it every day, whether it be airbrushed pictures in a magazine or a diet ad exploiting ... (read in full...)
Why does the ex still want my friendship?
Q. Boyfriend and I broke up July 21st. We argued and said some really mean things about each other -back-and-forth (yes, it was very childish) He started dating his current gf 2 days after we broke-up (she's the reason we broke up) and deleted me as a ...
A. 14 September 2010: He wanted to keep you around as a backup plan, in case it didn't work out with his new girlfriend. Don't bother being friends with him.... (read in full...)
He dumped me, but is now contacting me every day. I'm a bit confused. Please help!!
Q. Hi all, Please help!! My boyfriend told me he just wants to be friends last week, and no relastionship. I accepted this gracefully, but ever since that day I told him I accept it, and good luck with his future etc, he has been texting me ever...
A. 14 September 2010: When he said friends, he meant friends with benefits. Ignore him completely, he's not worth your time.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend with gambling issues said he will really change this time - I'm confused.
Q. Hey, Here's my story. Been with my bf for 2 years now. I'm very much in love with him. He has a lot of issues that I've tried to over look and tried to help with. Trust,control, and gambling. He has no reason to not trust me, as I've been loyal. H...
A. 14 September 2010: Regardless of what he says, his life and well-being isn't your responsibilty, it's his. Until he realizes that, he's not going to change. He's going to say what he thinks you want to hear, remain dependent on you and continue doing what he likes. ... (read in full...)
What's the difference between being honest and being negative?
Q. What is the difference between being honest and being negative? People told me many times.including family,and friends, ''you are being too negative'' And I just cant see, where am I going wrong. I feel, Im just seeing the truth.. What is wrong wi...
A. 14 September 2010: As you said, people see what they want to see. It sounds like you're looking for the negative and downplaying or ignoring the positive. The fact that not one, but many people have pointed this out in you means you need to take on a more optimistic ... (read in full...)
Am I being used or does he like me?
Q. I really need advice! I've been "talking" to this guy for a little over a month now. He's the biggest sweetheart and I really like him but I don't know how he feels. He always makes sure he's the last person I talk to at night by waking me up EVERY ...
A. 14 September 2010: What you described sounds very much like someone I once dated, especially the statement about him saying he puts himself out there and gets nothing back (which he said to me constantly, regardless of anything I did), though he didn't show that sort ... (read in full...)
He can't take my virginity until he breaks up with his girlfriend!
Q. Me and this boy ive known for years likes eachother problem is that he has a girl,see im a virgin and i wana lose my virginty to him. i really like him. we have fun and everything. i told him he cant take it til he breaks up with her but its ...
A. 12 September 2010: He has a girlfriend, which means he's unavailable and off-limits. If he does break up with her, how do you know he won't do the same to you some day?
I agree with Yos, you should be less concerned about losing your virginity. You're setting ... (read in full...)
Just had unprotected sex, and got my period today. Could I still get pregnant?
Q. Ok, well this is a common teen sex question but im looking for an answer but i dont see any that fit my question so here it is. plus a little 2 it. My boyfriend and i had unprotected sex last night, and he used the pull out method. ( i hadn...
A. 12 September 2010: Getting your period means you're not pregnant, because your uterus is shedding the layer a fertilized egg would normally latch on to. This doesn't happen when you're pregnant because that layer becomes part of the placenta, which is necessary for an ... (read in full...)
What is going on with my relationship? Is my bf Inexperienced or just not in to me?
Q. Okay, i have been dating this guy for 2 months. Everything was great the first 2 weeks. He defiantly plays head games with me. To start we meet though friends. My best friend is one of his best friends. She told me right off the bat that he is ve...
A. 12 September 2010: He's told you he doesn't want you to be his girlfriend, but you're still sleeping with him, even though you want a relationship? He's never going to change his mind. If anything, the fact that you kept hooking up with him in spite of this confirmed ... (read in full...)
How do I get boyfriend to be more flirty and tender?
Q. I've known my bf for three years. He is a quiet guy but funny and outgoing around ther right people. We love eachother and stuff but I dnt rele feel the love. -in an ldr- like when we talk txt or I'm he never calls me a pet name or is really ...
A. 12 September 2010: Some people just aren't very affectionate, regardless of how much they might love someone. If it's not like him to use pet names or get mushy every now and then, that's just how he is. You can subtly let him know you like to be called a certain pet ... (read in full...)
Am I being used or does he like me?
Q. I really need advice! I've been "talking" to this guy for a little over a month now. He's the biggest sweetheart and I really like him but I don't know how he feels. He always makes sure he's the last person I talk to at night by waking me up EVERY ...
A. 12 September 2010: If he repeatedly pressures you to have sex, in spite of telling him you're not ready each time, he's only after one thing. Be careful. If something doesn't feel right, don't do it.... (read in full...)
Whirlwind courtship and now he's backing off. Why?
Q. I met a guy 6 weeks ago on an aeroplane (it feels longer for both of u). we were both going to different destinations and i was ending up where he was on his last night so we arranged to meet - i text him but wasn't expecting a reply but was ...
A. 12 September 2010: Unfortunately, he may have been caught up in the moment and simply lost interest. I can't say for certain because as you said, it's only been two days, but it sounds as though he's suddenly apathetic with no foreseen reason. This tends to happen ... (read in full...)
Birth control pills make me moody and sick to my stomach
Q. hey ive been on birth control for almost a week and this is my first time. i havent gotten my period for 2 months and not preg. (negative preg. test and ultrasound shows nothing) the BC pills make me sick to my stomach. Is this normal? i have ...
A. 12 September 2010: It depends, but yes, for the most part it's normal to have some side effects while your body is adjusting to the hormones. Nausea and moodiness are the most common. If it gets worse, contact your doctor.... (read in full...)
How do I get my husband to enjoy showing off his sexy wife?
Q. Hey all some advice please, so thanks to good genes and hard work I have a good body and I love showing it off. I like the looks I get and it gives me a lot of confidence. Some people might say I dress like a slut but that's their opinion and I do...
A. 12 September 2010: He's never going to be okay with it, because you're getting attention from other men and showing them a side of yourself he feels only he should be allowed to see.
It's a great thing to feel comfortable with yourself and have confidence, but from... (read in full...)
How can I 'Wow' my boyfriend while giving him oral?
Q. My boyfriend really enjoys me giving him head, but I'm not too good at it and don't really enjoy doing it. Please can you give me some tips on how i could improve my technique or is there any throat excercises i could do to improve it?? ...
A. 26 August 2010: Hum. He'll love it.... (read in full...)
Is this type of guy a creep?
Q. i need desperate help i fell in love with a american man who goes for elections i tought by him having this backround that he would be a good guy yet everyone is saying those sort of men are creeps is this true ??? ps im 19 he is 49 ...
A. 25 August 2010: Regardless of whether he's in politics or not, pursuing a 19 year old at his age is what makes him a creep. I doubt he's interested in much more than sex and bragging rights, stay away from him.... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I love him too and risk him getting clingy?
Q. I am in love with my boyfriend. Absolutely. I know it's love because he does things that with my ex's was completely uncomfortable and irritating but with him... everything he says makes me feel good. Here is the issue, he has already said it to me...
A. 25 August 2010: If it feels like the right time, tell him. Don't let how he feels pressure you into doing or saying anything before you're ready.... (read in full...)
Were we just hanging out or was this a date?
Q. So I reconnect with a friend from high school online…we went out for like month (purely innocent) during my first yr of high school. So I broke up with him, I don’t remember why, but we remained friends. We lost contact and recently exchange ...
A. 25 August 2010: It sounds like a date, he was likely too shy to say so. ... (read in full...)
Is he with me just to boost his ego?
Q. I'm 20 in November and my partner is 31 in January...Is this relationship weird at all. It doesn't bother me...but I'm thinking maybe it should? I don't know. I do genuinely like him a lot and it's early days yet so I haven't told many people about ...
A. 20 August 2010: He could be. You haven't said much about his personality, though. Is he the type that takes you out and tries to show you off? If he's down to earth and a genuinely nice guy, I wouldn't worry about it.... (read in full...)
How do I make my relationship become more serious?
Q. Hey i have a question, i have been friends with benifts with this guy for about 10 months, and he is 19 and im 16. he is a very very attractive and sweet guy, i have very strong feelings for him and he claims he likes me too. but there are 2 ...
A. 20 August 2010: He doesn't want things to get serious, but he's been having sex with you? That sounds like an excuse, not a valid reason.
You're making everything way too easy for him. He doesn't have to put in the effort a relationship requires, yet he still ge... (read in full...)
Is he afraid of a relationship?
Q. I been seeing this guy friend of mine for 3months and we have sex a lot but hes been a jerk lately towards me because i said i like him and he said hes not interested in a relationship right now I don't get it. Would you have sex with someone you ...
A. 20 August 2010: He's not afraid of a relationship, he just doesn't want one. As things are right now, he's getting all the benefits of a relationship from you without the responsibility of being in one. You made it easy for him by not asking for more, and now that ... (read in full...)
He refuses to go public with our relationship!
Q. So I'm 18 and this guy and I have been off and on for about a year now, and things just started to get really good about a month ago. We hung out more, we talked all the time, and we're good friends and we like each other a lot. However, he refuses ...
A. 20 August 2010: He's not taking the relationship seriously, if he even considers it a relationship at all. He wants to appear single to everyone else in case someone better comes along, sorry to say.
I don't usually support ultimatums, but it's necessary in this ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my ex I'm pregnant? Is it okay to write a letter?
Q. I split up from my ex in February. It has taken 4 months for our solicitors to try to resolve our seperation and as yet it is not complete. Since February I have met an amazing new guy, unexpectedly I have become pregnant. We were obvioulsy shocked ...
A. 20 August 2010: If it's not his baby, I don't see why it would be any of his business. If it is his, tell him in person.... (read in full...)
Does she just want attention?
Q. So, one of my best friends has changed a lot lately. She's a little over weight and she always complains and makes comments about it, even though she does nothing to change it. She also puts down the way she looks and tells me how depresse...
A. 20 August 2010: I don't think she's faking it. However, not everyone suffering from depression or low self-esteem will broadcast it in the way she does. She sounds like the type that thrives on getting sympathy, and although you're trying to be a good friend, ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend can't decide if he wants to be with me or be single
Q. Hello, I have never done this before but am in so much pain and just don't know what honestly to do. My boyfriend, Ty and I, have been together for a year and a half. He is 19 and I am 18, I know we are young. I have had past experience before h...
A. 20 August 2010: 'He kept saying it was like a gamble, loosing me and not finding anything better?'
That alone should tell you everything you need to know. He should be with you because he wants to be with YOU, not because he's afraid of not having you around a... (read in full...)
Is it okay to cheat when you're not getting any sex?
Q. [OP's original title] I'm a healthy 26 year old male with 2 great sons, ages 3 and 6 months. I've been in a relationship with their mother for almost 8 years (not married). Now we've fallen on somewhat rougher times with me losing my job (the cons...
A. 20 August 2010: Regardless of the situation, cheating is never okay. If working things out with your girlfriend is no longer an option, it would be best to break if off with her. Staying together for your childrens' sake will do more harm than good. They'll surely ... (read in full...)
Is having a crush on someone else, when you are already committed wrong?
Q. I have a boyfriend whom I really love. We are quite settled. But lately we have been living at different places so kinda like a long term relationship. Though we are constantly on the phone with each other, texting, mailing and stuff. But the thin...
A. 18 August 2010: Crushes happen, there isn't much you can do about it. As long as you don't pursue the person you have a crush on while involved with someone else, there's nothing wrong with it.... (read in full...)
She won't have sex. I'm tempted to cheat
Q. Hi, I really need some help here. Me and my girlfried have been going out for nearly 2 years (we are both 16) And she has yet to give me a blowjob or sex. I have tried to talk to her about it several times but she said she isn't ready for sex. S...
A. 18 August 2010: If anything, she should be the one to consider ending it. You've been completely ignorant of her boundaries because you're more interested in physical release than anything else.
She's mature enough to realize she's not ready to take that step yet... (read in full...)
I think I NEED a boyfriend
Q. I just got out of a realtionship that lasted about 3mths. tho that may not seem long it was a big deal for me I almost...loved him. ANyways he cheated on me with a girl "erin". And now I feel like I HAVE TO HAVE A BOYFRIEND! Idk why but i just do... ...
A. 18 August 2010: You want a boyfriend because you feel alone and crave male attention, that's all. Unfortunately, finding a new boyfriend isn't going to fix anything, especially if you're still hung up on your ex. Give yourself some time to heal and get over what ... (read in full...)
Amazing guy, second date. Do it or make him wait?
Q. Hi all, Well I need a little bt of advice so here goes. On Thursday, after a night out with the girls, I came home a little tipsy, wide awake, nothing on TV, and I decided to phone a chatline. (sad I know, but we've all been there?) Anywa...
A. 16 August 2010: I fully agree with quiet-echo, you barely know this man. Your hesitance means you already know, on some level, it's too soon to sleep with him. Right now, the most important thing is to get to know him better and be careful in doing so.
You h... (read in full...)
Is she interested in meeting?
Q. Hello everyone, So I recently graduated and I decided to facebook friend a girl I liked from my drawing class during my last semester at college. We spoke a few times in class. She is now currently a sophomore. So what follows is a facebook ...
A. 16 August 2010: It's hard to tell from a few messages, but she might not be interested in meeting and doesn't know how else to make it clear other than ignoring the question. You've also given her your number, has she called you or sent a text message since then?
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Why would he suddenly stop responding?
Q. a few weeks ago i was on facebook, talking to my guy friend (who i really like) and trying to get him to visit me before i left town for the rest of the year. i really wanted to see him because i hadnt seen him for like a month and he had been ...
A. 16 August 2010: The first thing you need to do is stop apologizing to him. You may have seemed pushy, but it's nothing to apologize repeatedly for. It comes across as being clingy, which is what might have turned him off.
I don't think he's mad at you, it seems... (read in full...)
He thinks I'm too young, should I give up?
Q. I play baseball on a co-head team and I'v started getting close with one of the guys on the team. Needless to say we've had sex a few times now. Wouldn't be so bad if I wouldn't start having feelings for him. Biggest problem here is that i'm 17 and ...
A. 16 August 2010: In this situation, age does matter. Don't try to convince him otherwise, he's already told you how he feels about it.
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I love him, but I'm not as sexually attracted to him as I used to be. Is this normal?
Q. is it normal to love someone but not really feel as sexually attracted to him after 4 years of dating? I feel like even with the sex aside that i'm not as excited to see him like i used to be but i know that i still love him very much...am i just ...
A. 16 August 2010: You're not crazy. Lust fades, but as long as you know you still love him and are still attracted to him in some way there's no need to worry. ... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend so I think he's seeing me just for sex
Q. okay, so me and my best friends brother had sex and i thought i liked him except the only thing thats in my way from letting myself actually liking him is his controling girlfriend. who no one in his family likes, and i know this because they say it ...
A. 29 July 2010: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-to-do-when-the-person-youre-attracted.html... (read in full...)
He hasn't replied in three days, should I message him again?
Q. Hi, What do you think i should do next? I saw a totally gorgeous tanned, blonde guy on my friend's facebook! I really lack confidence to make first moves and although people tell me i'm pretty and fun and i should go for it, i feel so fool...
A. 29 July 2010: He's not interested in getting to know you further, otherwise he would continue the conversation rather than brush you off. Also, regardless of there being a reason for him to reply or not, he would have if he really wanted to. It would be best to... (read in full...)
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