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11 July 2010: Nothing! Several situations can be mistaken to mean something more, when they truly don't carry much significance. For example: The friend you've been crushing on for the last six months accepts your third attempt at a friend request, and...
What to do when the person you're attracted to is already taken.
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7 July 2010: Run the hell away. I've seen several questions of this nature on the site. It seems like a simple problem, although in reality it's not. It's complicated and messy, and almost always leaves one person's emotions in ruins while the other enjoys hav...
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My friend is making a big mistake! How can I make her see sense?
Q. My friend who's my age is having sex in a week w/ a guy who's not even her boyfriend (she doesn't have one). Basically, she's in love with this guy and he's a total player. He hooks up with anyone that has boobs and something to stick it in (yes, ...
A. 17 September 2010: No problem. Everyone is entitled to their own beliefs as long as it's not harming anyone, but clearly she's deluded in thinking having sex with him and is going to make him change and want to be with her. I can imagine how hard it must be to see all ... (read in full...)
Why do some people look at single women as weird?
Q. Why Do People Look At SINGLE Women as Weird? I am in my early 20's (23) but I feel like I'm still 19 years old. Time has gone by so fast but I dont feel like my age yet. Guys are always complimenting me and asking me out but I politely turn do...
A. 17 September 2010: I'm 23 as well, and have been in a similar situation. The problem with many people our age seems to be they have no clue what maturity really is, and think getting married, having casual sex and then having children from said casual sex is what ... (read in full...)
A weighty issue...
Q. How much should you weigh if your 5'4 and 15? I'm a little under 100 pounds and want to know if guys would think im where i should be because my bf says I'm real skinny....
A. 17 September 2010: I was around the same weight as you when I was 15, though I was 5'1 at the time. The normal weight for your age and height is around 110, which isn't far off, so don't worry about it. Some people are naturally thin and have a hard time putting on ... (read in full...)
My friend is making a big mistake! How can I make her see sense?
Q. My friend who's my age is having sex in a week w/ a guy who's not even her boyfriend (she doesn't have one). Basically, she's in love with this guy and he's a total player. He hooks up with anyone that has boobs and something to stick it in (yes, ...
A. 17 September 2010: She's in lust, not love. You can't do much more than let her make her own mistakes. She's willingly letting him treat her like a piece of meat, probably because she's afraid standing up for herself will drive him away. It sounds like she's made up ... (read in full...)
Should I stay in contact with him, even though he's married?
Q. I'm a 21 y.o who recently met this gorgeous 41 y.o guy in a band when they played live, after we briefly met, i got in touch with him through myspace and he replied saying that he really liked me though he was married. Anyway, a few weeks passed and ...
A. 16 September 2010: Why would you settle for being second best? This man is married, has told you he has a child on the way, yet you still insist on sticking around as his side dish without asking for more. By no means should you be okay with being involved with a ... (read in full...)
He doesn't love me enough to leave his children
Q. If your married lover says that he doesn't love you enough to walk out on his children,does that mean he never will?...
A. 16 September 2010: Wow. How much more clear does he need to be? He's not going to leave them. They rank higher than you, and that will never change. Get over it and go after someone single.... (read in full...)
He's bored and wants a break
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together about a year and a half, and he wants a break. He feels bored in the relationship, like we are just "going around in circles". He says all the things that we used to find exciting together are no longer fun and ...
A. 16 September 2010: I don't believe in breaks. You either break up or stay together, because in my opinion, taking a 'break' is really just a way of giving your boyfriend/girlfriend permission to cheat while keeping you in the background in case it doesn't work out ... (read in full...)
I'm 18, he's 40. Can it work?
Q. hi! my agony is that i just met a man online, i am still 18 and he is 40 years old. now the problem is i have been searching for many years of my love and i think i found him. we respect our age differences, we feel compatible with each other now. ...
A. 16 September 2010: Why bother? You're not in love with him, though you may think you are. You don't even know this man in person, and even worse, he's just making excuses and giving you a sob story to get you to give him your virginity. Men his age often go after ... (read in full...)
I'm a 23 year old virgin female who has never been in a relationship or even kissed. What is wrong with me?
Q. I'm a 23 year old girl who recently really started feeling depressed and I know it is linked to me still being a virgin. It was always something in the back of my mind that I would just think about when I saw a romance movie or something, but as of ...
A. 16 September 2010: There's nothing wrong with you. As you said, you have difficulty opening up to people. You don't trust others easily, but that doesn't mean there's something inherently wrong with you as a person.
In a way you're right; to some degree they're ... (read in full...)
Is this situation hopeless?
Q. Ive met a guy a man of my dreams and we are seeing each other for almost 5 months now. We see each other almost everyday, I know he has a GF ( 9 years relationship ) working overseas and I agreed to the set-up of no expectations. I am falling f...
A. 16 September 2010: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-to-do-when-the-person-youre-attracted.html... (read in full...)
Should we get married?
Q. Hi there! I am a Fifty two year old business women who has been living with a great guy for 9 months now but I still do not seem to be comfortable with the idea. He lived 2 hours away when we met and ended up starting a business up and because funds ...
A. 16 September 2010: Marriage doesn't fix anything, and shouldn't be used to fix anything. Many people seem to think it does, which is why the divorce rate is so high.
You've only been divorced for about a year, give it some time and enjoy what you have for now. Why... (read in full...)
I had sex on the first day of my period, could I be pregnant?
Q. Okay. I had sex on the first day of my period. Me and my fiance had sex like 3 or 4 times that day. And he didn't pull out or wear a condom at all. Is there a possibility that I am pregnant? Like for sure for sure? Cause I'm 17 about to be 18 and ...
A. 16 September 2010: It doesn't matter what time of the month it is, there's always a high chance you'll fall pregnant when not using contraception. Buy a test, find out if you're pregnant or not, and use protection next time. If you're not going to be smart about ... (read in full...)
The new guy... or the ex???
Q. The ex I loved for 5 years and the other whom i've been friends and a co worker with for 2 years??? We had good/great/amazing/terrible ect. times together. He cheated 3 times once with one of my closest friends whilst i was beside him asleep. I ...
A. 16 September 2010: This shouldn't be a difficult choice to make. If he cheated on you not once but three times, he definitely will again. He threw away those five years by violating your trust, not you. Why put yourself through that? 'But I love him' shouldn't be the ... (read in full...)
Things are going too far too quickly!!!
Q. I have been in a relationship for just over a month. I'm 17 and he's 21, we live three hours away from each other, and seen one another three times, but talk all the time. I really like him, I think? =/ The only problem is i feel that he is too ...
A. 16 September 2010: Run the hell away. People that display this behaviour have serious emotional issues, and in coming on that strongly and being so 'honest' with their feelings hope to gain your trust, only so they can use it to their advantage later.
Bruis... (read in full...)
If he's not going to cheat on his girlfriend, what's with the texts he's sending to me?
Q. A guy friend, maybe "friend" isn't the right word. )We used to have a casual thing last year which has now ended because he's with somebody now and a few other reasons) has recently been sending me text messages that, in my opinion, friends ...
A. 16 September 2010: He sounds like the type to consider actual intercourse cheating, but not anything that leads up to it. Bottom line, he wants a side dish and since you're 'friends', he probably thinks it'd be easiest to reel you in as his Plan B. Don't let him, he's ... (read in full...)
I'm happily married but still love my ex
Q. Before I married my amazing husband of 4 years I ran into my ex. All of the chemistry and passion that we had so long ago was still there. Needless to say it through me for a loop when all of these feelings came up and I was about to get married. ...
A. 16 September 2010: YOU are the one in control of YOUR life. You made the decision to speak to him, now it's time to cut him off and never look back. Even if you don't meet with your ex, continuing to speak to him will jeopardize your marriage with unnecessary ... (read in full...)
I asked my boyfriend a question should I be mad for the answer he gave me?
Q. [Mod note* poster your suggested title was already taken]I asked my man, an "If we were to break up" question. I asked would you still love me? his answer was "probably". But If I was asked this question I would say I def would, without a doubt ...
A. 16 September 2010: When you ask questions like this, don't be surprised if he doesn't magically know to say what you want to hear. He can't read your mind and won't instinctively know you're looking for an ego boost, he's going to give you an honest answer thinking ... (read in full...)
Did he just say he liked me to make me feel better?
Q. Hello I'm in the middle of a really annoying situation just now to do with a guy I really like (let's call him fred). I really like Fred and Fred really likes me but he won't go out with me because he used to like a girl (let's call her Sarah) but ...
A. 16 September 2010: He doesn't know what he wants, end of story. Don't even bother, look for someone that wants to date you rather than someone that needs convincing.... (read in full...)
Am I just wasting my time? or do I wait and see what happens?
Q. theres this guy i've met few weeks ago in a club i havent talked to him so when i saw that on facebook he has gave me a friend request and we talk everyday since. his cute really nice and it seems like he really likes me. he is 5years older then me ...
A. 16 September 2010: Anything that takes place on Facebook has no meaning in the real world. Him liking a picture or anything else on your page doesn't mean anything. It's the laziest form of non-communication I've ever seen, yet people seem to think it's a huge ... (read in full...)
Why is my girlfriend always so jealous of other girls?
Q. My girl is jealous of girls I talk to sometimes. The first day I get a web cam she's asking me if I'm gonna have live chats with other girls. She's jealous about anything stupid that involves another girl. I don't understand why. I've never been ...
A. 16 September 2010: She definitely has issues with confidence. When she talks about other guys, or breaks up with you and goes out with someone else, it's likely just to get a reaction out of you and stroke her ego. When you show you're hurt by it, she gets an ego ... (read in full...)
I am wanting to know if my son's father and I will ever get back together???
Q. I am wanting to know if my son's father and I will ever get back together. Last year we had a physical altercation and he is now being charged with agravated menancing. I am not looking to press charges against him, the state is pressing charges....
A. 16 September 2010: You should be more concerned about your child's safety, not a man that will most definitely act out towards you again. Think about it; the state won't let you drop the charges, in spite of you wanting to, and now he's not even speaking to you. Don't ... (read in full...)
Is it too soon to have my online bf move in with me?
Q. I met my bf online January of this year. We talked for a while and he finally asked if i was willing to have a long distance relationship with him at the end of June. I want him to move in with me and he wants to move in with me as well. The thing ...
A. 16 September 2010: Yes, it's too soon. You need to be around each other in person first, not go straight from 'dating' online to living together. It's the easiest way to find out things about someone you didn't want to know, and could result in a lot of tension ... (read in full...)
Daughter is having an affair/baby with a married man...
Q. Hello. My 24 year old daughter is having an affair with a 30 year old married man. It has been going on, correspondence/physical since the end of 2008. Before he was deployed to Iraq, she got pregnant and soon will be giving birth to his son. She ...
A. 16 September 2010: There's really nothing you can do. She needs to come to the realization herself that this situation isn't right and won't benefit her in any way. She needs to learn the hard way that this man is never going to give up his family and home life for ... (read in full...)
Hookup for two years, but he hasn't asked me to be his g/f
Q. This guy and I have been hooking up for about 2 years now. Im falling in love with him and he tells me that he loves me but he hasnt asked me to be his girlfriend. This leads me to believe that hes just using me for hook ups and that hes keeping his ...
A. 16 September 2010: Sorry to say it, but if he really loved you, he would want to be your boyfriend. He doesn't and never will, because it's already been two years. As things are now, he's stringing you along because it's convenient. He gets sex from you without any ... (read in full...)
Does she want to be more than friends?
Q. Okay, so my best friend for the past year and a half is a girl. I have always liked her. I see her everyday. We carpool after school and do all the same clubs. Sometimes she will grab my arm and drag me places. Sometimes she will do it when her ...
A. 16 September 2010: Compliment her on something specific, whether it be what she's wearing or something she said or did. Do this a few times, and make sure it's sincere. It shows you're paying attention, which most women would interpret as interest when coming from a ... (read in full...)
Is he into me? I really want to know..
Q. I've always been terrible at being able to tell if a guy is into me or is just being a good friend, especially when most of my friends are guys I have a coworker that I have become good friends with outside of work. He's five years older than me and ...
A. 15 September 2010: Yes, he likes you. Why not drop a few hints yourself?... (read in full...)
Why was this man staring at me?
Q. When out to eat the other day with my daughter. We were at aa table in a sandwich shop. This guy sits there and stares at me the whole time never takes his eyes off me. Then he leaves before I do. Then when he gets ready to leave he walks by my ...
A. 15 September 2010: He might have found you attractive, but obviously lacks the common sense to know staring and watching the every move of a complete stranger is incredibly rude.
This was probably his way of trying to get your attention. Some men (and even some wom... (read in full...)
I think he just wants sex! how can I change this?
Q. so i just moved to a new area and i met this boy at work and hes completly my type and hes always flirting with me and txtin me but i think he jus wants sex... is there somethin i can do to change that...??? ...
A. 15 September 2010: I agree with the others completely, having sex with him too soon will ruin your chances of being seen as a potential girlfriend, because you made it too easy. Men like to chase, so let him chase you. If he loses interest after a month or two, he was ... (read in full...)
Husband won't return sexual favors
Q. Hi, everyone. I'm a married woman of 6 years. I love my husband with every fiber of my being. And would do anything to make him happy.Among these things are oral sex. I love to make him happy and keep him satisfied. But I can't seem to want to ...
A. 15 September 2010: He just doesn't want to, period. It's not right of him to lead you to believe otherwise, but unfortunately, he did.
There's an easy solution to this: stop giving him oral sex. Why should you be obligated to do so while he's not willing to retur... (read in full...)
My friend won't approve of my relationship!
Q. Recently, I have developed mutual feelings/chemistry with someone. Our personal relationship has grown well over the last few months, and we are in all technicalities dating/seeing each other. However, I have had a hard time telling my friend a...
A. 15 September 2010: She's trying to claim him, and has no right to do so. She has no place to display such behaviour.
Don't let her opinion get in the way, your relationship is none of her business. She needs to realize that not only do you have a mind and opinion ... (read in full...)
End of marriage, what do I do with everything?
Q. Hi there. I am divorced, it was not what I wanted, he did. It has been a year. Our marriage was loveless for several years. The 4 kids are all adults and they struggle with it some. My question is this: What do I do with things like our wedding ...
A. 15 September 2010: If your children would like something, for whatever reason, give it to them and be done with it. If not, put anything personal like family pictures and anything with your name on it into a box to be put in storage, and sell the rest. There's no ... (read in full...)
21st birthday ideas?
Q. Hi.. I'm in need of help.. 21st birthday party?? I'm not sure how I should go about planning the only birthday party I have ever and will ever have.. Its a big day.. I did try and look for items on the net but there is not enough that gets my ...
A. 15 September 2010: It all depends on what you like to do. Do you like going to clubs, or a quiet night with friends?
... (read in full...)
Keeping a guy after the first date?
Q. ok i have no problem "realling" a guy in but i have a problem actualy with dating and getting to know them and the right way to let them get to kno me... i usualy go for the "player" types so it makes it even harder do you have any advice on how to ...
A. 15 September 2010: Players don't have an attention span that goes past the first date, they take what they want and move on to the next girl. If there's no sign of them getting what they want from you on the first date, they'll move on to someone easier. If they do ... (read in full...)
Gave him my number but he still hasn't called...
Q. This past Saturday I went to a good friend's birthday party at a restaurant. One of the waiters was nice. He would come up and touch my shoulder asking if I need something to drink, or if I know what I want. Smiley, and good eye contact. It got my ...
A. 15 September 2010: It's only been two days, it's still too early to know for sure. As the last poster had said, he may just be giving it a few days so he doesn't come across as desperate. If you don't hear from him within a week, he's not going to call.... (read in full...)
I'm suffering from really bad period pains! Any tips on how to obviate them?
Q. Hi, i'm suffering from really bad period pains! And when i'm in classes at school I don't know what to do because the pain becomes unbearable - and its not like I can just take a paracetemol because some teachers are quite strict about it! ...
A. 15 September 2010: A hot bath and the use of a heating pad has always worked for me, though when you're not at home and don't have any of these things available it can be difficult to make the pain subside. Applying pressure to your stomach will definitely help, but ... (read in full...)
Involved with a married man and not sure what he wants, what should I do?
Q. i have been working with a married guy since late last year but hes always made it clear and obvious that hes attracted to me. we are very close in work as most of us are but,in feb he opened up to me that his marriage has major problems. just...
A. 15 September 2010: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-to-do-when-the-person-youre-attracted.html
You have the ability to take control of your life and find someone that's willing to give you all of themselves, not just half or a third.... (read in full...)
He is married and wont break up with me, Now I think I'm in love!
Q. Hi,i just want to ask some help about my turkish boyfriend now,he is married to a filipina like me ,,,they have two kids now,,i dont know if he really loves me,,how many many times i told him to break up with me ...
A. 15 September 2010: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-to-do-when-the-person-youre-attracted.html
You're the one that controls your own life, not him. Don't give him that control.... (read in full...)
Does my teacher have feelings for me or is he joking?
Q. I've had strong feelings for one of my teachers for a long time...lets call him Mr.W and i didn't think he was even slightly interested in me but now i'm really not sure. Im 15 and he's 24, he teaches me Science. Since he started a couple of year...
A. 15 September 2010: No man in his right mind would act that way towards a 15 year old without having some serious issues, even if he's only joking. Not only is he nearly a decade older than you, but he's also your teacher and should know better, being the adult.
... (read in full...)
Did I over-react to the nurses comments?
Q. My boyfriend had knee surgery today. We r both in our thirties and the nurse looked about our age. Well she called him sweetie which didn't bother me but then she said babe r u ready to go in,well that mad me mad and I walked out. As I was walking ...
A. 15 September 2010: In any other context, she would've been crossing the line. In this case, she was just trying to put your boyfriend at ease.... (read in full...)
Does she want to be more than friends?
Q. Okay, so my best friend for the past year and a half is a girl. I have always liked her. I see her everyday. We carpool after school and do all the same clubs. Sometimes she will grab my arm and drag me places. Sometimes she will do it when her ...
A. 15 September 2010: There's no way of really knowing unless you ask her by bringing it up casually, so she doesn't feel put on the spot.
She obviously cares about you, but she might just be the friendly, loyal and affectionate type. Don't take it to mean more tha... (read in full...)
Is it possible to combine being gay with being a catholic?
Q. I've been raised in a catholic family and have always believed in god, but lately I have become more agnostic. I'm gay and feel like a bit of an outcast in the church. I'm not out, and don't think my family will accept it. As far I know, bein...
A. 15 September 2010: It's entirely possible; catholicism teaches us to accept everyone, though not all Catholics adhere to that. Those with closed minds use religion to justify their bias towards homosexuality, but ultimately, it comes down to you and your own beliefs.... (read in full...)
I had sex with my brother's 31 year old friend. My brother will kill us!
Q. okay this is gonna sound well bad but here goes i went to my brother's friend's wedding this sunday just gone, and my brothers other friend who i have just recently fancied was there, i got really drunk like really drunk and randomly he started ...
A. 15 September 2010: The fact that you feel it was wrong means you DO regret it, and honestly, I would too had I been in that position. No 31 year old should be going after a teenage girl, let alone one that's had too much to drink. He took advantage of you, and was ... (read in full...)
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