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11 July 2010: Nothing! Several situations can be mistaken to mean something more, when they truly don't carry much significance. For example: The friend you've been crushing on for the last six months accepts your third attempt at a friend request, and...
What to do when the person you're attracted to is already taken.
This question has 7 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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7 July 2010: Run the hell away. I've seen several questions of this nature on the site. It seems like a simple problem, although in reality it's not. It's complicated and messy, and almost always leaves one person's emotions in ruins while the other enjoys hav...
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Opinions appreciated. Am I still a virgin... or not?
Q. hi so, im not sure if i lost my virginity, like his penis was in me but he was pretty thick and i was pretty tight and it was my first time so it was really sore, he pulled out though when i said i couldn't take it so does it mean im not a virgin? ...
A. 16 July 2010: I disagree completely with some of these answers, virginity isn't something which has a lot of grey area. He was in you. You're not a virgin, case closed. ... (read in full...)
Should I choose my best friend or a potential boyfriend?
Q. a guy i really like is kind of a player and dated my now best friend and they were each others 1st time for sex. well she says she would be mad at me if i dated him but she doesn't know if she would be mad at me if i just fooled around with him. idk ...
A. 14 July 2010: How is it okay to fool around with someone's (ex?)-boyfriend, as long as you don't date him?
The attitude both of you have towards dating is worrying, and idiotic to be completely honest. I don't care who this guy is, you shouldn't be taking t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and his female friend used to be FWB!
Q. My boyfriend of a few months has a female best friend, Sally (pseudonym), that he used to hook up with intermittently but never formally dated. Sally moved to a different state for school and he ended up following her out here a year ago to find a ...
A. 14 July 2010: If he's really speaking to her that way, I think you should be concerned. He most likely does still have feelings for her, and it's up to you to decide if you can trust him to be alone with her knowing this.... (read in full...)
I've fallen for a guy I've known for 2 weeks, and he lives two hours away. Should I date him?
Q. I think I am falling in love. But I have only known the guy for 2 weeks. He lives about 2 hours away. My parents wont let me drive that far. So it will be him doing the driving. He is the sweetest guy I have ever met. And I know I can trust him. He ...
A. 14 July 2010: No, you don't know you can trust him. You've only known him for two weeks, give it some time. Everything always seems perfect in the beginning, but doesn't stay that way.... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my teacher and I think he loves me as well!
Q. I am 15 years old and i am in love with my English teacher and i am certain he is into me. When i first meet him i thought he was a weird guy but as i got to now him i flirted. 1:on my birthday he got jealous when another guy said his birthday...
A. 14 July 2010: You're reading into everything he does way too much. He's not in love with you.... (read in full...)
He asks me for sexy pictures, does that mean he likes me?
Q. Ok well this is a pretty weird question but i justed to see others opinions on this ( a little info 2 understand it better) (idk if this matters but im 15) I have a friend, who ive known for about 3 years, who i used to have a crush on.(he...
A. 14 July 2010: It means he's attracted to you, not that he definitely likes you. For some boys, it doesn't even matter whether they like a girl or not. If she's there and willing to lower her standards for them, they're interested.
Don't let him make you his ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend becomes angry and defensive when I try to talk to him!
Q. Im not able to communicate with my boyfriend. We have been together for 2 years now. Yes, hes always had this issue so its not like I didnt know about it however, now that we are in the middle of a serious relationship, it bothers me. Exampl...
A. 14 July 2010: He's extremely insecure, and there's really nothing you can do to change that. People like him will always try to avoid blame, and instead project their insecurities onto whoever tries to shed some light on something they've done wrong. No matter ... (read in full...)
Facebook: What does it really mean?
Q. Nothing! Several situations can be mistaken to mean something more, when they truly don't carry much significance. For example: The friend you've been crushing on for the last six months accepts your third attempt at a friend request, and...
A. 14 July 2010: I fully agree, JustMex. It enables such childish, passive-aggressive behaviour.... (read in full...)
Cheating with sexual texts, visting female friends etc
Q. The guy I'm seeing for the last year and half has texted someone sexual text message asking if she was still coming over and then if she would"---" on his face"..There has been some other questionable actions, Ie "visiting A friend from high school ...
A. 14 July 2010: He doesn't have any respect for you. Move on, find someone else.... (read in full...)
Is he just not into me?
Q. So I have met this guy, real cute seems very well mannered and just nice! lol I took his number as I am a bit of a control freak and said I would call him. I text him the morning after as he came down to where I live and had to drive home so i ask...
A. 13 July 2010: It's only been a day. Give it some time, he could just be busy. I doubt he would've called just to let you know he ran out of credit if he wasn't interested in you, so give him a little space and let him be the one to call you next.... (read in full...)
Wants baby but not marriage? We live together so why cant he marry me?
Q. Ok, here goes. I met a really great guy in November 2009 and he moved in with me a week later. It was like magic we got on very well and still do. In January he proposed and in March he told me he wants to postpone the wedding which was booked for ...
A. 13 July 2010: He might just be telling you what you want to hear, not what he really feels. He refuses to give you a definite answer, but instead says 'maybe next year' and 'when I'm ready'.
What I don't understand is why he wants a baby, but not marriage... (read in full...)
I'm ready for sex at 13 but I don't have anybody to share my first time with!
Q. I AM READY for sex, but i don't have anybody to share my first time with. What should i do? I truly am ready, but i want the first time to be with a guy but i really am ready... what do i do?...
A. 13 July 2010: You said you were ready three times. Are you trying to convince us, or yourself?
'Basically what i wanted to hear was, you need to find someone special. and wait til you find someone you're in love with! not all the stuff you said! and how abou... (read in full...)
When is he going to start telling people I'm his girlfriend?
Q. i've been dating a guy for 3 mos.and he still he introduces me to everyone as his friend, and he sometimes stays over,i introduce him to everyone as my boyfriend and i told him that i love him , he said thats a strong word to say but i was ready to ...
A. 13 July 2010: Three months is still really early, give it some time. Worry about it when you're together for something like nine months and he still won't call you his girlfriend.... (read in full...)
FWB sometimes he's sweet, sometimes he's not
Q. first of all I'm 16 NOT 13. Okay. So I've been friends with benifits with this guy for like 2 years..and yes I like him alot..I never told him though cuz I didn't wanna make anything weird..this guy is a major player but when he likes someone he's ...
A. 13 July 2010: If you weren't prepared for judgment, you shouldn't have posted such a question. It doesn't matter how many excuses you make for him, he. is. using. you.
This type is always sweet only when they want something, which in your case is sex, and only... (read in full...)
How can I sort this out? Or rather can I sort this out?
Q. Hey... hope it's okay to post this here. I am in a horrible situation with the guy I am dating and I just wanted to hear what you guys thought of it. It's making me so sad and I just want to sort it out, but I don't know how. I met J about a mo...
A. 13 July 2010: Why not just be friends, and see where that goes? He's probably really uncomfortable with the pressure of dating right now, because it sounds like he's hesitant to be in ANY kind of relationship beyond a platonic one.... (read in full...)
I don't want to carry on like this so do I tell him how I feel or just ignore any contact that he makes in future.
Q. I met a guy 5 months ago in a bar we got on really well and i ended up taking him back to my place and having sex with him. We then saw each other again 2 days later and had a great time together. But when he went back home he sent me a text saying ...
A. 13 July 2010: He's only interested in sex. That's all it's going to be, because of your decision to tell him that's all you wanted too. It amazes me how men like him will say no to a long distance relationship, but are willing to meet up if it means they'll get ... (read in full...)
Help! Am I plan "B"???
Q. Ok so I met this guy and we started texting he was really sweet and we had a lot in common. We talked on the phone for 2 hours one night, and tried to get to know each other more. When we first started talking he said he wanted a relationship and ...
A. 13 July 2010: Yes, I do think he tried to use you as a backup plan. He's already told you exactly how you'd be treated, what else do you need to hear to know he's not worth wasting your time? 'I don't want just want sex from you, I have other girls to call for ... (read in full...)
Opinions appreciated. Am I still a virgin... or not?
Q. hi so, im not sure if i lost my virginity, like his penis was in me but he was pretty thick and i was pretty tight and it was my first time so it was really sore, he pulled out though when i said i couldn't take it so does it mean im not a virgin? ...
A. 12 July 2010: He was in you, so no, you're not a virgin anymore. If you don't know something like this you shouldn't be having sex. ... (read in full...)
I have found a really great guy but I still have feelings for my engaged friend
Q. The Situation: I found my friend from about 5-7 years ago. We were talking but nothing serious just catching up but i somehow caught feelings for him.(When i found him i was in washington and he is in new mexico) I am now in new mexico and we hung ...
A. 12 July 2010: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-to-do-when-the-person-youre-attracted.html
He's engaged, and unavailable. Move on.... (read in full...)
What scents drive him wild?
Q. Are there really scents/ perfumes that snag a man's attention more than others?? this is something a friend and I are dying to know! I once heard in college that vanilla scents were proven to send blood straight to the privates...um is that true ...
A. 12 July 2010: The best of all scents to men is a woman's natural scent, without perfume. Most perfumes are too strong in my opinion, especially those with musk, and especially when it's so easy to put too much on. To this day I've only really liked two in ... (read in full...)
She's engaged, but I want to be with her!
Q. I'll try to make this as short as I can. I had a crush on this girl for several years. I told her how I felt a few times and got shot down each time. Eventually I told her that I give up. That was about 5 years ago. We ended up not talking to ...
A. 12 July 2010: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-to-do-when-the-person-youre-attracted.html... (read in full...)
Why would she say all this?
Q. Ok so me and my ex broke up a couple months ago cuz she said she just wanted to be single for a bit. These are some things she said during the time of the break up...."I'm 100% certain we will be together one day for the rest of our lives." "I've ...
A. 12 July 2010: She may feel that way, but if she really valued your relationship she wouldn't be putting it 'on hold'. Her wish to be single for a while doesn't make much sense, unless she wants to date other people and see what else is out there while keeping you ... (read in full...)
My ex unfriended me on facebook when I reached out to him, why?
Q. Yea...when me and my ex broke up....it ended badly....I told him that he was not a real bf cause he didn't stand up to me.. I tried reaching out to him last week through facebook. Today he unfriended me...why? I asked him and sent him a new frie...
A. 11 July 2010: There are plenty of other people to be friends with, so leave him alone. He doesn't want to be friends with you, and your many attempts to contact him aren't going to make him change his mind. It's over, move on.... (read in full...)
Can I get in trouble at work for what I post on FB?
Q. Need some advice and have been on internet but can't find any info. I basically need to know if your manager is on maternity leave can she get you in trouble? I have acess to my facebook and usually update my status on breaks etc.. Now I ...
A. 11 July 2010: I'll never understand why people do this sort of thing. Is it really necessary to broadcast to the world your every waking moment?
People get fired for this kind of behaviour all the time. Besides, who really cares if you're bored at work? Wh... (read in full...)
My ex unfriended me on facebook when I reached out to him, why?
Q. Yea...when me and my ex broke up....it ended badly....I told him that he was not a real bf cause he didn't stand up to me.. I tried reaching out to him last week through facebook. Today he unfriended me...why? I asked him and sent him a new frie...
A. 11 July 2010: Why wouldn't he? He's your ex, and you said yourself it ended badly. It's completely understandable that he doesn't want to be in touch right now, he's probably not over the break-up yet, and therefore doesn't want to be reminded of you while he's ... (read in full...)
I love an older, married woman with kids. Any advice?
Q. So I became friends with an older women and I'm 19 and she is 49 and after being friends for a little over a year she asked me if I would ever consider w having a more romantic relationship. I said ok. Well we began to fall for each other earlier ...
A. 11 July 2010: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-to-do-when-the-person-youre-attracted.html... (read in full...)
Why would he post this song as his away message?
Q. If a guy talks about how relaxing and sweet this song is on a Friday late at night (not to you, just his AIM away status), is he in love with someone new? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p-Z3YrHJ1sU and feature=related Lyrics...
A. 11 July 2010: He probably just likes the song, it doesn't have to mean anything. It's just AIM, for god's sake. If you're so concerned, ask him what's going on.... (read in full...)
I want to know how my best friend's husband feels about me. What should I do?
Q. I am currently married, and only have been for six months. My husband is loving and supportive, and we treat each other very well. Although we have a strong emotional relationship, I have never been interested in him sexually [we have sex, it's ...
A. 11 July 2010: You're better off not saying anything.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-to-do-when-the-person-youre-attracted.html
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I just want to know what to think....does he care?
Q. This Question is regarding an affair i am having with a married man,no judgements please.This affair has gone on for over 10yrs,we are both in our 60's now all children are grown up and married. What i am trying to work out is does this man have any...
A. 11 July 2010: It's been 10 years, and now you're wondering if he cares about you? You should know by now!
I imagine he does care about you in some way, but not enough to leave his wife. You're convenient and still present without even asking for more, why shou... (read in full...)
False Security In A Facebook Love Letter
Q. Ok so there is a guy that I've liked for a while who is about 5 years older than me. I've been crushing on him for over a year now and he has already graduated and is going to a grad school elsewhere. since he is no longer attending the same uni...
A. 11 July 2010: He could probably tell you had a crush on him while he was still around, which is how he might've known it was you. He asked because he was curious, that's all.
This is why Facebook should never be used for this sort of thing. How can you send som... (read in full...)
What to do when the person you're attracted to is already taken.
Q. Run the hell away. I've seen several questions of this nature on the site. It seems like a simple problem, although in reality it's not. It's complicated and messy, and almost always leaves one person's emotions in ruins while the other enjoys hav...
A. 11 July 2010: Ritasanyal, the point I'm trying to make here is that it's more trouble than it's worth. Besides, as I said, how does one know the married/attached person in question won't cheat on the one they're already cheating with? There's no way to know.
... (read in full...)
Men, how do I get a guy to ask me out on Facebook, with subtlety??
Q. question for the guys - how do I get a guy I've known since I was little to ask me out on facebook, without being so obvious?...
A. 11 July 2010: Casually ask for his number on Facebook, then. Tell him you'd like to get in touch with him beyond the internet, and then do it. Asking someone out on a date through something as impersonal as Facebook isn't going to come across as genuine. It'll ... (read in full...)
Men, how do I get a guy to ask me out on Facebook, with subtlety??
Q. question for the guys - how do I get a guy I've known since I was little to ask me out on facebook, without being so obvious?...
A. 11 July 2010: Old-fashioned or not, you'll be waiting forever at this rate.... (read in full...)
Men, how do I get a guy to ask me out on Facebook, with subtlety??
Q. question for the guys - how do I get a guy I've known since I was little to ask me out on facebook, without being so obvious?...
A. 11 July 2010: There's no sense in waiting around to be asked when you're just as capable of asking him out. He may not even know you're interested!
Also, do NOT do this on Facebook. Use the phone.... (read in full...)
Is there an approximate timeline for relationships?
Q. Hi, thank you for taking the time to read my question. I have been dating this guy for about 1.5 months and we started out really fast. I'm kind of scared because I feel like we're going too fast and even though he says he'll wait until I'm ready, ...
A. 11 July 2010: You're scared because you're not ready. You're perfectly capable of saying no, but won't because you lack the willpower to do so. Don't ever let your boyfriend pressure you into doing something you're not comfortable with, because once you do, he's ... (read in full...)
Separated, girlfriend got pregnant, had abortion, he wants her friendship but wants us to work it out, how??
Q. my husband and i have had our ups and downs and so on may 30th 2010 i left him and during the 3wks i was go he met someone else and they had ben having sex and i coame back so we could work things out and things were going fine and then i find out ...
A. 11 July 2010: Dump him.... (read in full...)
I'm 14, he's 18. He wants to have sex but doesn't want a relationship!
Q. i really like this boy and he's eighteen and we've been really close for ages. he say he wants to have sex with me and do other stuff but he doesnt want a relationship or know what he wants. it really upsets me coz he would be a great bf but i dont ...
A. 11 July 2010: 'i really want a relationship is there a way to change his mind and make him see this is what he wants??'
Nothing is going to change his mind, because he's already told you exactly what he wants. Why would you still want a relationship, in spite... (read in full...)
Big age difference, he has left wife with five kids, can this relationshio survive??
Q. What should one do when they have met a guy who is a lot older than themselves and married with five children but the marriage is not good. That guy then askes you out and this then causes major upset for their family. I mean real upset, parents ...
A. 10 July 2010: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-to-do-when-the-person-youre-attracted.html... (read in full...)
He's on again then off again, never know what's up, should I forget him??
Q. So i like this guy and we i told him i liked him in december 23, 2009 and he didnt say anything and on february 3 2010 we started talking on aim for 2 hours and he would comment on my facebook status and w.e so now i still like him i feel like he ...
A. 10 July 2010: AIM and Facebook don't mean anything. He's doing the bare minimum to get your attention, why even bother?... (read in full...)
22 year old and 16 year old. What's legal?
Q. "OP Own Title" So, I am sixteen (will be seventeenth December) and I am really good friends with a twenty-two year old guy. We have talked every single day, for hours, for the past six months and we've really started to like each other. The other ...
A. 10 July 2010: I agree completely with person12345. A mature 22 year old with any resemblance of common sense will know better than to pursue a 16 year old, regardless of gender. At 16 years old you're more vulnerable than a woman his own age, and I'm sure he's ... (read in full...)
Does he no longer love me?
Q. my boyfriend for the past year Travis is a very possessive jealouse unconfadent violent angry a bully aswell as does abuse me physicially or has in the past he doesnt work or helpto provide food or pay rent or anything like that. Reciently Travis ...
A. 10 July 2010: The real question is why the hell are you still with this guy? He's abusive, immature, and uses you because he's too lazy to get his own life on track.
Love isn't an excuse to stay in a relationship with someone like him, the only thing keeping ... (read in full...)
Should I go out with him or wait or not even at .all?
Q. *OP's Original Title* i know this guy who im starting to like but we are still just getting to know each other. he keeps telling me he likes me but i said we should wait to go out until hes older because the problem is right now hes twelve. he said ...
A. 10 July 2010: The things he says or does on Facebook can't be taken seriously, because there's no way to know he's really being genuine. Even in person it's not always easy to tell, but definitely easier.
After all, he could only be saying or doing certain thin... (read in full...)
What to do when the person you're attracted to is already taken.
Q. Run the hell away. I've seen several questions of this nature on the site. It seems like a simple problem, although in reality it's not. It's complicated and messy, and almost always leaves one person's emotions in ruins while the other enjoys hav...
A. 9 July 2010: This isn't a question, it's an article.... (read in full...)
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