He went to my doctors to tell them I was depressed, but hes the one with the problem! He said maybe councilling is the way to go is this a waste of time ?

for a few months now things haven't been going to good my husband has turned very secretive when he is at home his mind is else where. he works but soon as he comes in he turns his phone off, i checked it and its been same numbers comeing up all time. last week he went into see the doctor he said it was about one of the children as we had a letter to hand in from hospital. then next i got a visit from my health visitor whom i have known for many years she told me he had gone there and tried to tell them i have depression. and that I am near the edge, my doctor got very worried not about me health wise as i have known them since i was born, he only joined practise when kids were born the doctor refused to put it on my record what he had said but immedatley asked the health vistor to come out see me. they asked me to go straight in to the doctors urgentley, my oldest child is very concerned he doesnt want to loose his dad he has said honestly that if me and his dad split he won't see him again and the 2 wee ones never spend any time with him any way so they wouldnt take anything to do with him. since I found all this out i have turned tables on him i've been realy nice got him to get loan in his own name as their was lot of debt in mine, cleared it all off just incase my family think he has been thinking about doing something. but i put a stop to it in time and gave him a fright he doesnt know i know any of this as its all been done when hes out. hes friendly with a social worker whom i think has given him advice on what to do but this person has only met me twice in 17years, he asked to go to counciling. do you think its worth my time ? i dont know what came over him hes never been like this before he seemed to just flip in his head an decide grass was greener on other side, but tried to put it down that it was me, im no angel i am very outspoken where he isnt, i have 3 to kids to look after and i have had lots problems this year cant get out the house as the kids have viruses off and on and i dont drive had bits of money worries but now its all sorted he seems to have changed, but still gets phone calls though never answers them. i did trace them and 4 are local i am thinking of taking him to them and telling them both make youre minds up, can have them stay away from me i did say months ago something was wrong and it would be best if i left and he got hysterical pleaded me not to leave him a dont know what to do!?

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