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writes:My Ex Girlfriends Liesyesterday (tue 23rd) my ex girlfriend walks through the door after work to say she got a phone call from a lad from manchester a friend of hers so i thought nothing of it at first until i noticed she was trying to hide her phone away from me.after she went to sleep i saw who phoned her this lad named carl. she met him on saturday night.y lie 2 me?now she's heard her brother is staying away tonight so she's told me she's got 2 go and stay with tracy her brother girlfriend because she's a young women in her late 20's. my ex told me she's gonna stay over 2night and tomoz just to make saw she's ok.in 1 of her txt's from her brother. he put " if your gonna stay out let tracey know so she don't worry " so i guess she's gonna go on a date with carl tonight. and she may stay out all night. in the car yeserday she kept saying some werld things to me like " y don't u sleep with kirsty " i asked her " y is it so important for me to sleep with her " my ex told me " because i can tell u like her " i told my ex " i will not be pushed into likeing anyone i like what i have " i think she was trying to say - sleep with kirsty because i'm gonna sleep with carl. yeserday she got some dirty txt from 1 of her mates called jenko. there just mates. but the night before he txt her saying " u still awake? " and in the morning txted her saying " i was just checking 2 see if your awake because my mate wanted me to know if u would do a 3some " y would a mate who she calms as never slept with her ask her for a 3some with a mate?i think she's sleeping with jenko and as told is mate and he's like " lets try 2 do a 3some " i wouldn't txt a friend of mine and ask for a 3some out the blue if i wasn't sleeping with her or if i didn't see her like that would u?i'm gonna drop my ex at her brothers at 5pm tonight and i'm gonna go back at 6.30pm just to see who is dateing my ex. how can i confront her without her knowing i've read her txt?i was thinking going to the house following them where ever they go. and then go back 2 the house and knock and ask if she's in. and then txt her asking her if she's ok and what she's doing. and if she say's " just chilling in house with tracey " i can say " u lier i've just been 2 the house " or watching the house till her date arrives and then driveing into the estate and comfronting her and telling her new date that she only fucked me last night. but that may just stop the sex with have with each over.i want her to feel guilty. so i guess the txt will work. she asked me yeserday if i was still picking her up for work thursday morning i said yes. she said " i don't mind if u don't " was she trying to say - i don't need a lift i will not be at my brother because i will be with carl? what do u think?do u think she's sleeping with jenko? i dunno how like because she's slept at my house a good week. i'm thinking on her dinner hour.any help would be great.
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reader, Green_Eyez +, writes (24 January 2007):
Well, it took some time to make sense of your message but here goes:
Mate, she is your EX!!! Which means she can see who she likes, when she likes and it is none of your business. If you can't handle this then just stay away from her.
Checking her phone and coming up with plans to 'catch her out' is obsessive behaviour. Seriously, back off because you're behaviour and the tone of your message is a bit scary.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2007): i am sorry moderators but i have to say this and please let it slip through:"i waited for the one" i dont know if u are for real or you are just a sucker for attention, you have been sending almost the same post for a while now and everyone who responded including me we told yu to leave your ex alone and move on with your life as she is trying to. why dont you get a life and stop nagging your ex she has lost all interest in you and remember on your previous posts you said you guys are sleeping together without any strings attached and you agreed that you dont mind if she sleeps with other men so why do you care if she has lied? let your ex live her life in peace and you can start by moving out and find your own place that will be a good start. stop stalking her the poor girl is trying to let you loose but you keep squeezing and i dont think she breath anymore.this might sound harsh but i think you really need reality check and stop your obsession before you go lunatic.
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (24 January 2007):
 Shes your EX... This is an obssesion and its not healthy. I dont know your circumstances and why the two of you are living together, but as she is your ex, you have no right questioning her about her sex life, who shes sees, who she doesnt.. All this is doing is hurting you. If you can get a clean break... then move out, stay with friends its not good you two still living together, The longer you obsess about what shes getting up to the harder this will be for you. I dont know how long you guys have been broken up for, but im guessing its not long, and your not over it. You need to give yourself time to move on and find someone new, there is no point stalking her, ok maybe not that, but snooping around after her, if shes lying let her.. she could be lying to protect you from the truth, whatever it is you need to move on and focus on your life not hers.
Im not saying its easy if you still love her, but acting in the way you are is just going to drive you nuts... let her be, let her carry on and get out there and gran your own life back!
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (24 January 2007):
 The reason why you're her EX-boyfriend (as in FORMER boyfriend) is that you and her are not a couple anymore (other than the sleeping together) and this means that you have no right to claim her for yourself. In short, if you wanted to have an exclusive relationship with her, you would have to be her boyfriend.
And yes, she's most likely sleeping with other people.
Now, the best thing you can do to protect yourself from emotional pain and venereal diseases is to wave bye-bye to your ex and find someone whom you can be exclusive with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2007): You sound like you have had your fill of this. Lose her and it all goes away. she is too far from decent in your standards and you should fly. otherwise your dragging yourself through a relationship that sounds like itll be based on partner sharing...ew. I like sex but I like stability in my life too. good luck mate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2007): First of all, why is your EX girlfriend living with you? Second, she is your EX girlfriend. Whatever she does, whether she lies to you, or if she has sex with this other bloke is pretty much none of your business.
At the very least, do you have no pride in yourself? Do you really have to know what some ex of your's is doing? Hell, I don't give a rat's ass and a donkey's cock what is going on with my ex's. If they choose to tell me something with conflicting scenerios, then that's just that. Whoopy doo, she lied. No one here on DearCupid could tell you what is happening with her, or if she's sleeping with anyone. Get your own life! Leave her be! Whatever her reasons are to lie to you, those are her own.
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