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writes:ive met a great man who loves me and my seven year old child. He wants us to get our own place but im scared. What if he turns out like the many other men in my life a cheat? I have no reason why and trust him. What shall i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (19 January 2007):
 Good Luck!! I Hope the future is very very rosey for you!
Take care x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks guys i needed a kick up the backside with this one. My fingers will be crossed forever but im gona go for it x
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reader, cd206 +, writes (17 January 2007):
 It all depends on whether you want to be alone forever or not because that's where this attitude is taking you. If you're unwilling to take a risk on any guy then you're never going to find happiness . Yes he might turn out like all the othr guys or he might be the one. You can't know unless you take a chance. Every relationship has the potential to hurt us, but equally it has the potential to make us feel better than we ever have before.
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (17 January 2007):
You have to go for it!! You cannot let the past cloud today! You have to take the stance that every relationship is new and cannot be compared to anything that had gone before. If you dont start a clean slate you will not have lived! I've been hurt many many times in the past... It takes an age to get over it, it hurts like hell, and it scars you! But you have to allow that to make you stronger. I had been really badly let down before I met my guy, I was scared, I was worried, but I had to go for it, I didnt know if he was gonna be like the guy before, all I knew was we loved each other immensely and moving in was the next natural step... I was concerned that what if I throw myself in and he cheats, or leaves or all that crap, but I started to spend too much time worryig about the crap he might do to enjoy what we had, so you have to switch it off and start a fresh and be thankful for the happy time you have now... I had to blank out the past, live for the moment and Here I am now nearly 4 years later and still very much in love and very happy, hes the best thing to ever happen to me.. Of course he could have turned out to be like the others, but how would I have known that if id bailed out at the first hurdle... Im so glad I took the chance. You have to clear the past, you have to move on, you should always trust until proven wrong, dont make this happy life you have with this man be clouded by some jerk in the past... Take a chance and be happy!
Take care and Good luck x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2007): its understandable that if youve been hurt your going to be affraid it will happen again. when i foun out my ex had cheated me it took me ages to move on and in some ways in the back of my mind i still havent forgot and its always there when i think about a woman ''will she cheat?''.
the point is you say hes a great guy and that you trust him. as long as you have an honest relationship which you dont let stagnate and spend some quality alone time together. you have nothing to worry about.
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