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Do I tell the kid's the 'real truth' about why their Dad and I split up?
Q. Hi, my husband and I have recently split over his porn use.I dont want to have a debate here as I have seen a lot on this site of really good discussion...I am dead against porn and wont be changing my mind but my question is..should I tell my ...
A. 26 December 2006: Tell them that you and your husband grew apart . . . and let it go at that. No need to jaundice their view of him.
People who live in fantasy land will soon find out that fantasies are just that. Until they discover that for themselves, I guess ... (read in full...)
I orgasm just fine but he can't. I find this frustrating and I blame myself. Any advice?
Q. I am in a relationship with a man. When we have sex everything is fine, he has an erection and have no problem but he never comes. I have orgasms with him but then he justs asks that we stop because he can't come. It is really frustrating for me' ...
A. 13 December 2006: You say that you are between 40 and 50. Some times older men have trouble firing off their cannon, so I've heard. LOL. Maybe it's not as tight as it once was and he's not getting the friction he needs. Or it's also possible he is spanking his monkey ... (read in full...)
He was bi-polar...did I marry him just to get him help? Is it my fault now, that he can't move on.
Q. I was with a bi-polar guy for four and a half years the last one year married to him. he was really sick and verbally and mentally abusive. I finally got out of the relationship and am trying to move on with my life. He wanted a meeting with me a ...
A. 13 December 2006: Your first mistake, or maybe your second, was to meet with him. You need to write him off. Period. He needs help that apparently he isn't getting. . . or maybe he is getting it now. In any event, if you don't want anything to do with him, tell him ... (read in full...)
My bf went to a ball w/ her, shared a bed w/ her, and said they have 'chemistry.' I'm so hurt!
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 18months now. after 2 months i was introduced to a girl at a party (a friend of his) during the night i got the impression she fancied my boyfriend, but let it go. at christmas he went to a ball with her as she had ...
A. 8 December 2006: From your description it's hard to tell who the real girlfriend is here. It sure seems, from an outsiders viewpoint (and your description), that he does fancy her.
Does he tell you how he feels about you? That's the first question I'd be aski... (read in full...)
How can I get over her cheating on me? I can't stop crying.
Q. How can I stop the tears from falling? How can I get her out of my head? How could she cheat on me when all I did was love her? She was my world and now she has gone....
A. 8 December 2006: Cry me a river. . . .
Now, here's my prescription for your ailment:
Day 1: Get off your duff and go outside and enjoy the fresh air . . . take in the world around you. It's the holiday season. Go volunteer to raise money for people less fortuna... (read in full...)
My friend posted a hurtful question about me on this site..how do I talk to her about it?
Q. Dear Agony aunts this is a question for you. I have come across a question posted by someone I know. I have recently told this person that I am an agony aunt on this site. And I recommended this site to that person. Now however, they have done the ...
A. 8 December 2006: I think you should track this person down and beat them senseless. . . .
Not really. I think you need to ignore the post and forget you ever read it. The only way they will know you read it is by reading your post about it. They've succeede... (read in full...)
She likes him in a romantic way..but I found out, he doesn't feel the same way. How do I tell her?
Q. I'm really worried about a friend of mine. I met her online about 8 months ago and we have become quite close. She has been interested in a guy who I also known for some time, and in February she went to meet him (she lives in America and me and the ...
A. 8 December 2006: You say you don't know what you should do about "the whole mess". It sounds like the "whole mess" doesn't really involve you at all. It appears that she views you as a friend, and that she is more interested in your friend for romantic purposes. I ... (read in full...)
Bf and I split a month ago...is it too soon to date again?
Q. I need some help my ex boyfriend finished with me about a month ago! And i was out last night and someone who i have liked for about 5 years kissed me and he give me his number and i give him mine! We are arrangeing to met again i really do like ...
A. 8 December 2006: 1 month too soon? I don't think so. If your other relationship is over, there's no time like the present to start dating again. Go for it!
Good luck!... (read in full...)
I'm 25 and fit... She's 23 and has piled on the pounds... how do I fix this?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 4 years now, earlier this year we unepectedly had a kid. I love my daughter and girlfriend very much but my girlfriend and i are suppose to marry next year and my girlfriend has piled on the pounds like no business ...
A. 30 November 2006: Faux paus - my last statement should read "eating properly" and not "eaten properly". A Freudian slip.... (read in full...)
I'm 25 and fit... She's 23 and has piled on the pounds... how do I fix this?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 4 years now, earlier this year we unepectedly had a kid. I love my daughter and girlfriend very much but my girlfriend and i are suppose to marry next year and my girlfriend has piled on the pounds like no business ...
A. 30 November 2006: Why not get her to join you in your fitness workouts? Impress upon her the health benefits of being fit and eaten properly. If she wants to be around to see her daughter grow up, may be incentive enough to get her away from the table and into the ... (read in full...)
Enagaged to her but she won't let me make love to her, for the past 2 years! What can I do?
Q. SO I have been dating my financee for almost 5 years. In the first year it was pretty hot and heavy. But after the first year its been all down hill from there for her. I still want to have sex she wont even make out with me anymore. I dont want to ...
A. 22 November 2006: I assume she has a weight problem. If her weight doesn't bother you, why does it bother her? I think that before you go to the alter, you need to go to joint counseling. If her hang-up is with her body now, what's it going to be after the rings are ... (read in full...)
Weight loss advice anyone?
Q. whats your advice for someone trying to lose weight? coz ive tried everything!...
A. 8 November 2006: I have to agree with the anonymous female writer who has the personal trainer. . . and not the aspirin diet soda regimen of "Eyeswideopen" (that sounds dangerous).
You have to eat properly and exercise. It's that simple.
Follow anonymous female's... (read in full...)
My guy friend took advantage when I was drunk..we had sex! Do I tell my fiancee?
Q. Ok, this is really awkward. I'm getting married in August and I love my other half. Our sex life is not brilliant, when it happens it's great it just doesn't happen very often. I suppose I have to say that as an intro but maybe I'm excusing mys...
A. 7 November 2006: I think I would avoid your so-called male friend. He's no friend, he's an opportunist. I wouldn't mention a word of it to your fiance. Some things are better left unsaid.
In the future, don't get drunk . . . and you won't have to remember what you ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 - how do I actually be a girlfriend to someone?
Q. I just realised that i dont really know how to be a a girlfriend! How do u be a gf? What do you do to make you be a gf? What kinds of things do you do to show your bf that? I'd anything! everything! i really want to be a good gf! (i...
A. 2 November 2006: Just be a friend. Everything else will come naturally. . . in time. Relax, and enjoy your teen years. There's no rush to become anyone's girlfriend.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
How do I tell him I will want to spend more time together as newlyweds without him getting angry at me??
Q. My fiancee has recently decided to take on two new jobs, on top of his daily 9-5 job he currently has. He has decided to open up a new business with a former coworker, as well as a new job as a promoter for monthly music events. Combined the jobs ...
A. 2 November 2006: I think you already told him how you feel. You don't want to be married to someone who works 80 hours a week! If he doesn't understand that, then he isn't into being married. I've said it before and I'll say it again - nobody on their death bed ever ... (read in full...)
My abusive ex may have changed and told my daughter he's getting married! Was I wrong to move on and to think he didn't change??
Q. ok here goes....I posted a few months ago on how my abusive ex had a new gf and they were soooo in love. Now he has asked our daughter if it's ok if they get married. I am just a mess!!! I am feeling like I missed out cus maybe he did change ...
A. 2 November 2006: If he was abusive to you, there's a good chance he'll be abusive to his new love too. She just doesn't know it yet. She'll find out in due time. You should be thankful you got out when you did. Keep going to counseling if it helps. Just be grateful ... (read in full...)
I slept with him and after our second date said he couldn' comment about his feelings towards me!! Male pov's please?
Q. Ive been flirting with a guy from my local post office we will call him Jon say. I have flirted with him 4 2 years now so i finally plucked up the courage and asked him out on a date. He accepted, we went on a date and we came home together.Things ...
A. 2 November 2006: I'd say he either has someone else in his life or he just isn't that into you. He may have viewed your advances as an opportunity for a one night stand, and it came to be. If he wanted more, he should ask you out. You shouldn't have to be the ... (read in full...)
Hand-job timings?
Q. How long should a girl keep going for before stopping when giving her boyfriend a hand job?...
A. 27 October 2006: Confucius say: "Man who go to bed with sex problem on mind, wake up with solution in hand."
Just a little food for thought.... (read in full...)
He treats me like crap! What should I do/
Q. My boyf is changing..its been 3yrs...and jus bcuz ive been there wid him thru thick n thin, he thinks its ok to treat me like crap. he yells at me.. dusnt matter where we are...he makes me feel low..and wat drivez me crazy is that at one point i was ...
A. 27 October 2006: It won't get any better. He's a schmuck. Lose him.
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I'm a 25 yr old who loves having sex with men! Is this right or wrong?
Q. I am 25 years old and i want to know if i have a problem, as i have slept with about 80 - 90 men, and i feel a bit bad but i love it. I'm single and i quite like it that way, because when i'm in a relationship i just want to sleep with someone else. ...
A. 24 October 2006: What are you doing tonight? LOL... (read in full...)
She is ill but I feel she is being unfair and selfish on me!!!
Q. My best friend suffers from cancer ans she's under treatment, She is from a village and has a flat in my town. She is very nice but she is very messy about time or dates arrrives late,changes appointments or asks me for her to buy take away food ...
A. 24 October 2006: I would explain to your friend that you do care for her and that you are trying to be helpful and considerate in her time of need. But that you deserve some consideration in return.
The fact that she's ill doesn't give her the right to take you,... (read in full...)
He just makes me so angry with the way he is behaving!!!
Q. Last night I was fighting with my boyfriend because i'm trying to tell him that i'm so annoyed at him because everytime he's in college he does not answer his phone. He knows I don't trust him because he's lied to me about things in the past and I ...
A. 24 October 2006: This is directed to the anonymous responder. Where do you learn to write like that? Or don't you know how to spell? LOL. ... (read in full...)
I get talked into things easily! How do I stop being a push over?
Q. How do i stop being a push over? I have been seeing a guy for 4 months and things are going steadily down hill. He comes to see me and we always end up having a good time, then he stays over, i don't want him too but he gets all moody and starts ...
A. 23 October 2006: You need to learn the word "NO". If he stomps his feet and pouts, show him the door. He sounds like a doofus anyway.
If you don't stand up for yourself, nobody is going to do it for you.
Good luck. ... (read in full...)
Her new bf and her seem so mismatched! I would love to get back together with her..think she and I will have a chance?
Q. I'm still in love with my ex girlfriend and we hang out on occasion even though she has a boyfriend and has for like 8 months or so (I still think he's a rebound). We get along great when we hang out and laugh and joke and give eachother long hugs ...
A. 23 October 2006: It sounds like she's not too interested in being tied down to anyone. . . not even to her current "boyfriend". I don't think "passing out at another guy's house" is the type of thing most guys would like their girlfriends doing.
I think she need... (read in full...)
He just makes me so angry with the way he is behaving!!!
Q. Last night I was fighting with my boyfriend because i'm trying to tell him that i'm so annoyed at him because everytime he's in college he does not answer his phone. He knows I don't trust him because he's lied to me about things in the past and I ...
A. 23 October 2006: I think you need to forget about being in a relationship, if that's what you call this thing, and enjoy your life. This "relationship" is making you crazy. Go out with your friends and have fun. You're obviously very young . . . too young to so ... (read in full...)
Do I follow the girl of my dreams in hopes that it won't become a nightmare?
Q. i need some help trying to figure out what exactly is going on in my relationship with this girl. we've been friends for a good while now, but have always had a weird connection with each other, but never got together because we both had ties to ...
A. 23 October 2006: Follow your heart.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
I am in love with my brother and having sex with him
Q. I am a freshman at the university this year. This is the second year at the university for my brother Steve. Our parents decided to get us a two bedroom apartment for us to share. We have always gotten along really well and its been great. T...
A. 23 October 2006: You need to find your own apartment.
You've crossed over a line that should have never been crossed. You and your brother both need counseling . . . and soon.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
Should I dump this guy because he is a virgin?
Q. i'm 18 and i'm seing a guy who JUST turned 18 today. He's still a virgin but i've already had 3 partners and done other things with other guys. He doesn't know much about sex and I feel so awekard because my last boyfriend has been with 7 other ...
A. 23 October 2006: By all means, dump him. You'd be doing him a favor. You don't want him to fall in love with you, because you're too shallow anyway. ... (read in full...)
She tells everyone I am gorgeous...do ya think she likes me?
Q. There is this girl who pulled me up to dance (repeatedly!) at a party recently. She kept looking at me. She is now trying to phone me and she seems quite desperate and tells everyone that I'm gorgeous. Does she fancy me or not? Thanks...
A. 16 October 2006: What grade are you in?
If you're in Kindergarten, I'd say yes, she fancies you.
If you're in Junior High, I'd say yes, she fancies you.
If you're older than that, and you can't figure it out for yourself, you're a lost cause.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
How is sex defined?
Q. just a general question....how is sex defined? Do you have to cum for it to be classed as sex? or would it still be classed as sex if there was only penetration? thanks...
A. 14 October 2006: I think you need to ask an expert, like Bill Clinton. . . depending on your definition of "is". LOL.
Seriously, I'd have to say penetration is all that's needed, cause I can go for an hour and not cum. If that isn't sex, I don't know what is. ... (read in full...)
Why do I still love my boyfriend of 1 year, even though he hurts me so badly?
Q. Why do I still love my boyfriend of 1 year, even though he hurts me so badly.Choose to respect your partner and make some different choices. You have more power in your love, respect, personality and magnetism than you do in control. You can't make ...
A. 14 October 2006: I don't know what he does that hurts you "so badly", but it seems you need to concentrate on yourself. What makes your self esteem so low that you allow someone to hurt you and get away with it? You do have more power in your love, respect, ... (read in full...)
I think this guy I like is gay...how can I tell?
Q. I absolutely like a boy who works in the gym but I suspect he could be gay despite he loves flirting and eye contact with me any tips to know? love ...
A. 14 October 2006: I got a tip for you:
Ask him if he likes Barry Manilow, Bette Midler, Break Back Mountain, and Bath Houses. If he says "yes" to all of the above, he's certifiable. LOL.
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I can pleasure her 15-20 times but I feel nothing during sex!!
Q. How can i find a way to finish faster? Well ive had sex with this girl and she was my first. She had sex way before me so she's arleady experienced and she knows wats up. Ive done it with her and i honestly thought that she would be a little lo...
A. 14 October 2006: I like the line "I knocked her out after about 30 minutes of doing it". That, my friend, is a gift. The knockout f*ck. LOL.
I don't know what to tell you regarding your not "feeling it". If you're not circumsized, that could be an issue. You migh... (read in full...)
How do I know if a guy isn't going to use me?
Q. How do I know if a guy isn't going to use me? I'm a virgin (18) and I'll save you the whole male/daddy issues I've got, but practially I've been in several relationships where the guy has had to break up or I've broken up becuase I just can't trust ...
A. 12 October 2006: Maybe you need to be a friend before you can be a lover. As a friend, you can build trust and you'll be able to communicate better. If the relationship grows to something more, than you can cross the sexual bridge when you get there. . . . but ... (read in full...)
We were together 17 years but she found someone else and doesn't seem to be sad about us not being together!
Q. Its been about 4 months since I split up with my ex-girlfriend. We have been together for 17 years, I recently proposed to her, after a couple of days she changed her mind and three weeks later she said that she had found someone else. She has not ...
A. 6 October 2006: You've been girlfriend and boyfriend for 17 years? That's amazing. I get the feeling that the reason you proposed was because you felt that you were losing her. You obviously were in no hurry to propose before, since you were together for 17 years. ... (read in full...)
He doesnt seem to get a full "hard on" has he got a problem ??
Q. Hello there, I have been seeing a guy about a month and we recently starting sleeping together. We are both in our late 20's. The first time we had a bit to drink, (well quite a lot actually),he was not able to get a hard on more like a half h...
A. 4 October 2006: It sounds like he might have erectile disfunction. . . you've probably seen the TV commercials.
I've never had that problem, but I think Alcohol can contribute. If he's not drinking and he still can't "get it up", he might want to look into gett... (read in full...)
Holding hands?
Q. Holding hands? Is holding hands juvenile? When should you hold hands? Do some people just not hold hands? Is it too "couple-y"? What do you do?...
A. 4 October 2006: I guess it depends on who it is holding your hand. When you say "too couple-y", I assume you mean someone is trying to hold your hand that isn't your boyfriend. . . or you don't want people to know is your boyfriend. I'm not sure. But in any event, ... (read in full...)
Im 25 and just want to be alone, I dont want any interaction from Males at all, is this strange ??
Q. Hi there, I am not even sure that I can narrow this down to one question; I'm looking for wisdom, in whatever form it comes. I lead a busy, mostly unfulfilling life. I am a mother, a student, an employee, and I'm deaf. I'm not interested...
A. 4 October 2006: If you have the 7 year itch at 25, that means you got married at 18. . . which is too young to be tied down. IMHO. But you are, so that's water under the bridge. But this example may help other 18 year-olds that are considering marriage to think ... (read in full...)
I'm engaged to the guy I met online, recently I found someone else and I like him too!!
Q. im engaged to this guy i met online ive been with for months now and i know i love him i swear to god i love this man. im 16 and my parents adore him..but lately ive been seeing this other guy and ive sort of started to like him you may think im ...
A. 4 October 2006: I can't believe your parents are condoning you accepting a $2000 engagement ring. . . or any engagement ring for that matter. YOU ARE 16, for crying out loud. 16 is too young to be engaged. You have a lot of life to live before you should even ... (read in full...)
He asked why I was with him, I said because he makes me smile & happy, but that answer wasn't good enough!
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about 6 months now. We often joke with each other. However just the other day he asked me why was I with him? I replied because you make me smile and i'm happy around you. To him the answer I gave wasn't a good enough ...
A. 4 October 2006: Maybe. A circus clown can make you smile and make you happy to be around him. Unless your boyfriend is a circus clown, he was probably expecting a little more than your response. What's so wrong in expressing your real emotions? ... (read in full...)
I am a teen virgin-my bf wants to have sex. Should I shave down there?
Q. hi i am a teenager and i am a virgin. my b-f wants to start having sex...I need to know is it better to shave down below or not?? ...
A. 4 October 2006: Just because your boyfriend is ready to have sex, doesn't mean you are ready. Your boyfriend will always be ready. I think you should worry about what you're going to do for birth control, or better yet, why not wait until you're a little older ... (read in full...)
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