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How can I get my girlfriend to take part in a threesome with a guy?
Q. I am an 18 year old girl who has been dating another girl for a little over 2 1/2 years. I love her with all my heart...she is my everything. But recently i found out she and an old friend of hers made moves on eachother. It had turned me on if ...
A. 2 January 2008: Pick me! Pick me! There's nothing hotter for a straight guy than to be the meat in the middle of a lesbo sandwich. LOL.
Seriously. If she's not interested, she's not interested. Let it drop . . . if she means that much to you. ... (read in full...)
Should I take a chance with him? He lights my fire!
Q. There is a man that I love for his sweetness, dedication, compassion and honesty. He is a nice man, who has a great job and can provide a great future for any wife. We have had a great relationship for the past 2 years. However, there is a man t...
A. 2 January 2008: I believe it was Confucius who said, "Woman who stand on burning deck, get hot feet" . . . or maybe that was someone else who said that. Are your feet on fire? You've betrayed the trust in a man who loves you. The same man you purportedly love. I ... (read in full...)
Wev rarely have sex and I have to resort to using a toy. Is he avoiding the possibility that he could get me pregnant?
Q. Hello. I am a 26 year old female. My husband and i got married almost 4 months ago. My husband rejects me when i try and seduce him. We probally have sex once a month if that. I have held this hurt inside for too long....i know that this is not and ...
A. 2 January 2008: You are right to be concerned. To be flying solo after only 4 months of marriage isn't normal. As the Bard of Stratford upon Avon once wrote, "Something in Denmark is stinking up the place." or something like that. LOL.
When he tells you that "we ... (read in full...)
Should I try to see if I'm attracted to men for my wife's sake, and what happens if I enjoy the experience?
Q. My wife considers herself bisexual. I have no offense to this but was wondering if any one out there has the same problem as me. My wife enjoys women and thinks if I gave it a chance I might enjoy men. My feelings are open to most things. I'm ...
A. 1 January 2008: If you can get past having another man's balls resting on your chin while your sucking his c*ck, then, by all means, have a run at it. LOL.
No woman could ever get me to try it, however.
Good luck with that. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't marry me, but I want marriage, should I walk away?
Q. I have been married and divorced and have a child from my previous marriage.I have a boyfriend of 3 1/2 years. We have been living together for the last 1 1/2 years in his house - I do have my own house. He has also previously been married. He says ...
A. 1 January 2008: Once bitten, twice shy.
Having been divorced myself, I'm reticent about tying the knot again. If YOU must be married, maybe you should move on. You can't force someone to do something they're not comfortable with. JMHO.
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How can we tell if my gf is starting to orgasm??
Q. Me and my girl had 1st time sex about 2 months ago[we're both 19]. Since then we've been having regular intercourse. Just recently ,during sex,my girl has started to "call out" and grasp the bedding. She says it's pleasure and just has to let go b...
A. 1 January 2008: I just want to know what she is "calling out"? Bingo numbers? Trivia questions? Or Latin phrases? LOL.
In any event, she sounds like she's well on her way to euphoria. LOL.
Pass the ketchup, please. ... (read in full...)
Any ideas as to why my gf seems to be ignoring me??
Q. Heya, I have been seeing a girl now for just 1 month I no its not a long amout of time but i already feel that I realy like her as I have had a massive crush on her long before we started dating. The thing is I am already having doubts about her...
A. 1 January 2008: She's a player and you're being played. Take it from someone who's been there.
Move on to greener pastures. Good luck. ... (read in full...)
How do I expel these awkward silences in my relationship, when we are talking on the phone, for example?
Q. What do I say to my boyfriend on the phone? We always have these awkward silences and I get really nervous about it. What do i say to him?...
A. 22 December 2007: Laugh about it. Awkward silence can be funny. Ask him if he hears the crickets in the background. Say anything. Not every moment of conversation has to be deep or intelligent.
A sense of humor can go a long way in a relationship. When all else fail... (read in full...)
Why is he like this towards me?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about two months now, but i already know that this is real love, none of my other relationships felt this way. But sometimes my boyfriend makes me feel a bit..odd i guess. He'll say hows much he loves me constantly ...
A. 29 November 2007: Run . . . run like the wind.
This guy is bad news, and it isn't going to get nny better.
Run . . . run like the wind!... (read in full...)
He complains that I'm "too wet" when we make love!
Q. I've just divorced my husband and met this man 18 years older than me. I am 45. This man is very good in bed. I've got turn on without minutes and gets very wet. He complains he couldnt feel anything when I am wet. He talks like its my fault ...
A. 27 November 2007: Tell him to grow a bigger penis. . . . LOL.
At 65, he should be thanking his lucky stars that someone your age finds him appealing.
If he doesn't like it, show him where the door is and tell him not to let it hit him in the ass on the way out.... (read in full...)
I only last 2 minutes at most, what is average for guys?
Q. When i have sex with my girlfriend i only seem to last under 2 minutes... i make up for this in other ways and she loves our sex life but im ashamed that i dont last longer. what is the adverage time in mutes it takes a guy to reach an orgasm?...
A. 27 November 2007: You need to slow down and think of Margaret Thatcher in a thong. That works for me. LOL.
If you choke your chicken a couple of hours before the big event, that should give you some more staying power too.
Good luck!
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We had a night of drunken sex, it was my first time, he's now avoiding me, did I do something wrong?
Q. I had sex for the first time in my life. i'm freshman in college, he's 25. i was totally drunk and i kept telling him that i'm not going to have sex with him no matter what, but i guess i just didn't make it clear- didn't really push him away an...
A. 27 November 2007: You don't say if you had any kind of relationship with this guy before the night of drunken sex. If he just picked you up at a bar and took you home and had sex with you against your wishes, he may be scared that you're going to have him charged ... (read in full...)
My wife's long ago BF still loves her.
Q. A married guy who is a former suitor of my wife still claims he loves my wife and have been telling her and their common friends about this. My wife does not love this guy but has a sympathetic attitude towards him and treats him as a special ...
A. 22 November 2007: I don't know if there is a "correct attitude" regarding your situation. Allowing your wife to keep an "emotional affair" with this guy could open a door that's better left closed. It's flattering to your wife that someone finds her appealing, but ... (read in full...)
I am irritated that he can pleasure himself to porn but my needs are not met! He rarely makes a first move in the sexual department...
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year now and everything, on the whole, is great. He is normally very caring and attentive and I felt blown away by my feelings for him. He has a friend who is an avid porn watcher and thinks there is ...
A. 16 November 2007: To steal a phrase from an old Motown song . . . "ain't nothin' like the real thing baby, uh un, ain't nothin' like the real thing."
If your boyfriend is satisfying himself and not you, something is wrong. He should either give up the porn or give... (read in full...)
How can I find out if I was the first man that had sex with her?
Q. well i had sex with my girl but at her that was first time...but she didnt bleed!!i know that hymen can be broken by sporting....etc but how can i find out that i was the first man that i had sex with her?!!! please help!...
A. 15 November 2007: My girlfriend had 4 children before I met her . . . so I know I'm not the first. LOL. Get over it. ... (read in full...)
Questions for guys, do you prefer younger girls over more experienced women in bed, is humour important?
Q. A survey for the men: How important is the quality of sex in the choices that you make for a relationship to stand long term. Perhaps a younger pretty girl, not so experienced or good in bed vs. an older woman who is very experienced and lusty. ...
A. 15 November 2007: "The most important thing though, a bubbly warm girl who can smile with her eyes and make them sparkle." I'll drink to that . . . .
Good conversation and a good sense of humor add up to make an enjoyable mate. If she's a good kisser and likes a ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a boy that I know has a girlfriend.
Q. im in love with a boy but its not simple. he has a gf. he has told me many times that he is in love with me and we are sort of together in secret. hes too much of a decent guy to be lying, ive known him too long. his gf is going thru alot of stress ...
A. 3 November 2007: When the cat's away the mice will play. It seems that you have him now, so what's the question?
If he loves you and you love him and she's in America, what's the dealio? Tell him to end it with her and that should take care of it. You say he can'... (read in full...)
Does he feel insecure or is he playing me?
Q. I have been seeing a man for 9 months. Five weeks ago, I broke up with him because he didn't seem interested in me anymore and he was not being supportive during a health concern. We didn't talk for two weeks. I emailed him about returning a piece ...
A. 3 November 2007: I think the latter. ... (read in full...)
3 weeks ago we were hoping to be pregnant, and talking about our family to be, and now we seem to be on the path to divorce. I don't know what to do.
Q. Sorry, this will probably be long. Just found this site, here's my story. Been with my wife for 6 years, married for one (just had anniversary). When we got married, we immediatly decided to have children, but for the past year we have not been able ...
A. 2 November 2007: If you've been battling depression all of your life and you're in the midst of a serious problem with your wife, a night of "boozing" isn't what I'd recommend . . . whether you feel you need it or not. You need to stay focused in reality. Burying ... (read in full...)
I had sex with my husband's best friend - it was his idea - will I find a need for more men?
Q. A family friend, who was widowed about ten months ago, visits us about once a month when he comes to the city on business. After dinner last month, he expressed to my husband how difficult it was to meet a woman and how frustrating it was to have ...
A. 1 November 2007: You're "funnin'" with us Agony Aunts aren't you?
You're either: A) making this crap up; B) you're from West Virginia; or C) you're pitching a story for the Jerry Springer show. Which one? ... (read in full...)
We've been married for 13 years, with 3 kids and one on the way, and he's been having an affair. The woman says she is pregnant. I don't know what to do.
Q. I have been with my husband now for 13 years we have 3 children and another one on the way. We got married in August and i have just recently found out that he has been having an affair with somone who he met on his stag night, now she is saying ...
A. 1 November 2007: You've been together 13 years since you were teenagers . . . you have 3 kids to him and one on the way. You get married 3 months ago. What was the rush? LOL.
At his bachelor party, he hooks up with someone and now she's pregnant. Is this the gist... (read in full...)
3 weeks ago we were hoping to be pregnant, and talking about our family to be, and now we seem to be on the path to divorce. I don't know what to do.
Q. Sorry, this will probably be long. Just found this site, here's my story. Been with my wife for 6 years, married for one (just had anniversary). When we got married, we immediatly decided to have children, but for the past year we have not been able ...
A. 1 November 2007: "I need my space". . . the four words that tell you that someone is either cheating or planning on cheating. I've heard these words too many times myself. The result was always the same. The relationship was over.
As one of the other writers ment... (read in full...)
My husband wants a threesome but says will respect my decision. Is he going to be satifsfied with just me?
Q. My husband of 9 months has suggested the idea of wanting to watch me have sex with another man, or having a mfm threesome. My husband and his x-wife had this kind of sexual relationship and he said it brought them closer together sexually. Fant...
A. 1 November 2007: Confused in WVa (that's a given isn't it? - just kidding).
I totally agree with Waterloo Sunset. I don't get it. I think if I were a woman and my husband wanted a threesome with another man, I'd be headin' out the door - fast. Didn't you have an i... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend of one and a half years bi or gay or...? Maybe it's because he was raised by a religious family?
Q. Is my boyfriend of one and a half years bi or gay or do I just have a lame boyfriend? Things I've noticed......... He isn't Metrosexual. He dresses in jeans and hoodies with a ball cap on all the time. He has very feminine mannerisms in many ways....
A. 1 November 2007: Regardless of whether he is gay, bi, or straight, is this the guy you want to be invested in? After a year and a half, you should know which way his gate swings. In any event, you seem like you're unhappy and ready to look elsewhere. If he's not ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a girl who lives with her boyfriend. Can you help me?
Q. Hi I met a girl though the internet 7 months ago. She lives with her boyfriend who she has been with for 9 years, 6 of them living together. I new this from the start but just thught it would be a sexual relationship. We struck up a real good ...
A. 26 October 2007: Why have I come to the conclusion that you are her boy-toy? She hasn't made any overtures to you that she's going to dump her boyfriend of 9 years has she? She'll keep you on the string, and keep her boyfriend in the dark. I doubt seriously if he ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a girl who lives with her boyfriend. Can you help me?
Q. Hi I met a girl though the internet 7 months ago. She lives with her boyfriend who she has been with for 9 years, 6 of them living together. I new this from the start but just thught it would be a sexual relationship. We struck up a real good ...
A. 24 October 2007: I think it's time you moved on. You seem to be hanging around for the sex and that's all. You obviously want more out of a relationship, so why stay? You'll always be her boy-toy, so either get used to it, or go elsewhere.
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Should I tell her I'm a virgin?
Q. I'm a little scared, i'm pretty young (17) and theres this older woman (31) and we have been together for 14 weeks were not even thinking about having sex yet its all making out and touching... the problem is i lied i said i wasn't a virgin and i am ...
A. 24 October 2007: Dextro69, I guess you could call the writer a lucky man, and maybe it is true that having an older woman is "every teenage boy's dream". I don't believe it's every teenage girl's dream, however. And the last time I checked, "Female - Age 16 -17" was ... (read in full...)
I feel the same way as I was pregnant.
Q. ok well i am 14 years old and i have a boyfriend that is 17 we have sex all the time but i was pregnant before but never told him cause we broke up and then i lost it and then i told him and he flip out and said he was mad because i never told him ...
A. 23 October 2007: You sound like you've never heard of birth control??? First of all, you need to take a pregnancy test to find out whether you are or not. If you are pregnant, you need to talk to your family as to the best option for you.
If you aren't preg... (read in full...)
I would like to find a healthy and loving relationship
Q. I would like to find a healthy and loving relationship (Mod note: this is normally rejected, but I'm leaving this in. Note to poster: we need more information about yourself and what you're looking for. Web sites to meet possible love interest...
A. 23 October 2007: Wouldn't we all. . . .... (read in full...)
Bald or bushy? Why's my man obssessed with it?
Q. Iam 21 years old. I have been with my boyfriend now for a year. We generally have a satisfying sex life, except one thing: He wants me to shave "down there". I personally do not like or want to do it. I also dont believe in it. I believe a woman ...
A. 23 October 2007: Here's the solution:
Tell him that if he shaves himself down there, you'll shave down there too.
I'll bet you $10 to a donut he won't do it. If he does shave himself, laugh and tell him you were only kidding.
Don't let anybody tell you how to l... (read in full...)
My wife is cheating and acting like a nymphomaniac with a neighbour. Should I tell his wife?
Q. About a month ago I found out my wife of 11 yrs (we dated 10 yrs before that so thats 21 yrs together) has been cheating on me for the last 3 yrs. I also found out she was text messaging a neighbor and his friend alot and wanting to have sex with ...
A. 22 October 2007: If your wife isn't willing to cooperate with what is prescribed by the therapist, maybe she'll listen to you when you tell her that you will tell her boyfriend that you know about the relationship and that you'll also tell his wife. That might stop ... (read in full...)
How can I be myself and not loose my lover?
Q. i had find my great love in net ,so everyone of us want to know every detail abt the other partner. i was feeling at ease with him coz we had getting along with each other but ,yeasterday, he had ask me to show him my bra , he mentionned that he ...
A. 22 October 2007: Don't do anything you're not comfortable with. If he insists on testing your bounderies, tell him to take a long walk on a short pier.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
Another man kissed me while I was drunk. My soon to be fiance doesn't know and I'm not sure what to do.
Q. A couple of weeks ago my boyfriend was away south working for a while. I went out with a few friends and got very drunk, ending back up at someone's house I didn't know very well. We were also smoking weed, so I was really gone after a while, all ...
A. 22 October 2007: I think you should get off the waiting lists and get to a doctor. Who prescribed the medication that you're taking now? You need to stay away from the alcohol and get your mind straight.
As for your boyfriend, I wouldn't offer up any info... (read in full...)
We've been trying to have a baby for over a year, any advice.
Q. My boyfriend and I are trying to have a baby. We have been trying for over a year now. I am looking for tips on how to conceive easier. Positions, times etc...without using any fertility clinics? Can anyone help? ...
A. 20 October 2007: Why don't you try to get married first? Just a thought. ... (read in full...)
I can't understand how he can be happy in this marriage knowing well I love another man who I'm unable to have any contact with. Or should I just be content with what I have?
Q. I'm married to a really nice man, my best friend really, since 1996. For him it's always been real love but I've foregone the passion as I never thought it was that important, but as the years went on I found it more and more difficult to meet my ...
A. 19 October 2007: You've put a lot of info out on the table and have answered some of your own questions within your letter.
You obviously aren't happy and don't want your husband in your life. You'd be doing yourself and him a favor by walking out. You can move... (read in full...)
My bf's constant calling is driving me crazy!
Q. My boyfriend likes to spend hours on the phone everyday he phones me about 20 times a day, this is driving me mad and I don't want to spend all the time on the phone he thinks it's because I don't want to be with him anymore which isn't the case ...
A. 19 October 2007: Stina hit the nail on the noggin. He sounds insecure and needs to get a life . . . outside of keeping tabs on you. ... (read in full...)
He's not entirely sure he 'got out' in time. I'm so worried! How reliable is the withdrawal method?
Q. hi, straight to the point here. I had unprotected sex recently, mid cycle. My partner and i were using the withdrawel method, we have done this before, however, afterwards he was feeling a bit panoid, leading me now to be paranoid, he's n...
A. 19 October 2007: You're in your mid to late 20's and you're using the "Withdrawal Method"? I can't believe what I read on this site. Anybody questioning the need for sex education in our schools should come on this site and read some of these letters. FYI, 1 drop of ... (read in full...)
He jacked off earlier and told me during sex why he was taking so long. It made me angry!
Q. Recently my bf and i were having sex and he was taking a really long time... so I started to feel self-concsious that I was doing something wrong. Then he said "Don't worry... it's not your fault... I "jacked off" today." I was so mad and hurt by...
A. 19 October 2007: DeeJuliet, I don't know who the guys you are hanging out with but I don't know any that "jack off" daily. . . I'll speak for myself anyway. LOL.
As for the writer, I too think you are overreacting. The fact that he spanked his monkey earlier in t... (read in full...)
My mother commited suicide, My fiance just ditched me - and he tells me to learn to love myself?
Q. Me and my fiancé just recently broke up. We were together for four years. He said that I need to be on my own and deal with things from my past. That he was exhausted because he felt as if he had been living for two people for the past four years. I ...
A. 19 October 2007: Have you had any counseling? Losing your mother like that at your young age has to be difficult to come to grips with. Counseling might help you sort things out.
I don't know what exactly the issues are with your boyfriend, but I have a feel... (read in full...)
Getting a new friendly, sexy girlfriend feels like it's a long time away. Am I overreating?
Q. Hey Aunts/Uncles. I'm a 19 year old guy. I think I'm fairly attractive (Not very, but fairly), and have a good personality. I've only ever had one girlfriend. We were together for just under 2 years and ended up parting ways because she thou...
A. 19 October 2007: The best advice I can give is to go where young and sexy girls hang out. If you're friendly, and self-confident, you're bound to meet someone that turns your head.
Good luck. ... (read in full...)
I lied about my sexual experiences - is there a way he could know?
Q. ok so i told my boyfriend that i'm a virgin which is true but i also lied to him and told him iv'e been fingered and eaten out when i really haven't my question is will he know that i haven't actually had that experience when he eats me out or ...
A. 19 October 2007: There's no way he'll know unless you tell him.
It's interesting that you made up the story about "being fingered and eaten out". Why you would do that is beyond me.
BTW, I haven't heard anyone use the term "being eaten out" in a long time. Be... (read in full...)
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