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I ended it because the sex was boring but I still miss him!
Q. I finished with my lover because i was bored with the sex. It lasted 2 mins with him not doing any foreplay, even though i told him. His answer was that he found that part of sex not very interesting and prefered the intercourse instead. I did tell ...
A. 12 September 2006: I guess because 2 minutes is better than no minutes. LOL.
Surely you can find someone who can show a little more interest than that. If he wasn't interested in pleasing you, he wasn't interested in you. . . only in pleasing himself. Forget him.... (read in full...)
How long should I wait for his call?
Q. I met a guy through a friend friday night. He lives in my building, and last night I saw him and gave him my number. How long should I wait for his call before i talk to him again? I've always been the askee not the asker so this is a new situation ...
A. 11 September 2006: If I'm interested in someone, I'll usually call at around the 48 hour mark. I don't call the next day because I don't want to appear too desperate. LOL. Plus it gives them some time to wiggle, wondering if I'm going to call or not. Build the ... (read in full...)
I think he is cheating because he accusses me of it....
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over one year, and now i think that he is cheating on me,. I cant be sure of it but there are defiante signs that he might be, and i need some advise. He lives with me and he uses my car, when we first started ...
A. 11 September 2006: Hi. "A beautiful mind" is a terrible thing to waste.
You don't say how old you are but I'm guessing you're fairly young. . . probably too young to be living with your boyfriend. You also have too many issues: You've got his mother that doesn't want... (read in full...)
Is the grass greener on the other side - or am I kidding myself?
Q. In Love with two guys... Ive been seeing my boyfriend for 3years now, I love him so much, I know he'd do anything for me and he'd never hurt me... but to be honest Im bored, we like very different things but most of the time I just give in and...
A. 11 September 2006: As you say, you are bored with your current relationship. Relationships have to be built on a strong foundation - more than just sex. To have common interests is important. At some point in time, the sex will wain and the common interests will carry ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex with my boyfriend - but he is 21 and I'm only 14!
Q. ive bin with my boyfrien 4 seven months im 14 and hes 21 we have decided to have sex and got contraception and such like but im really nervous because i dnt no wat mt body should look like plz can you help me ? ...
A. 11 September 2006: Hi Jordon,
There are a few questions that pop up in my mind. What is a 21 year-old man doing dating a 14 year-old girl? There are legal standards as well as ethical standards that are in question. Before you worry about what your body should look... (read in full...)
What can I do - I don't want to lose her
Q. I need help my gf wants a break for two weeks I've gave her one but I think she is going to break up with me I dont want to lose her and I want to phone her as well what should I do ?...
A. 11 September 2006: If you love someone, set them free. If they come back, they are yours forever. If they don't, they were never yours to begin with. - I don't know who said it first, but I'll repeat it. ... (read in full...)
How can I get over my girlfriends past???
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about four months and we are definately in love with each other. We spend everyday together, but don't live with each other. We are already talking about marriage but there is one thing lingering and eating ...
A. 11 September 2006: You have to say to yourself "Can I put the past in the past and move on, or do I dwell in the past and stagnate?"
Basically, you're saying that you care what other people will say or think when they see you with her. If you're happy being in her ... (read in full...)
My bf had an affair with a co-worker and I am in so much pain. What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I were together for 5 years and I found out 6 months ago that he was having an affair with a married, older co-worker in his new job. I found out by accident, and it had gone on for a month at this point. He told me he was having ...
A. 11 September 2006: I'll respond the way I always respond to these types of questions - Once a cheat, always a cheat. He thought he was getting away with something and that you wouldn't find out. Now, that the sh*t has hit the fan, so to speak, he tries to blow it off ... (read in full...)
Should I believe that they are really separated, even though her clothes hang in the wardrobe ?
Q. i am currently in a relation with a married man. they are living in two different countries and have been separated for the past 3 to 4 years. he says they are no longer in love with each other. just recently the wife came to visit with their two ...
A. 11 September 2006: It sounds awfully odd that someone who is separated from his wife for so long would still keep her clothes on hand, unless of course, he is a cross dresser.
I'd say he was pulling the wool over your eyes, with no pun intended. Tell him that you ... (read in full...)
Ive been with my guy for a year now, but its really odd that I dont know what he does for work!!?
Q. Iv been dating my bf for nearly a year... i feel as though i know him quite well except for ONE thing... i dont know where he works or what his occupation is. Is this strange? im 21 and at university and hes 26. Each time i mention it, he evades i...
A. 11 September 2006: He may be a member of an organized crime family, and if he told what he did, he'd have to kill you. LOL.
It sounds kind of fishy though. Do you know where he lives? Follow him to work one day. If he turns out to be a greeter at Walmart, you'll know... (read in full...)
I think our marriage is over, but this petrifies me, what can I do when she wont talk to me ?
Q. Hi all, I'm miserable at the moment and wondered if some of you could help me. I'm wondering if my situation is beyond repair or not. Can't say I know which way I'd rather it comes out. It does feel like my relationship with my wife is ove...
A. 11 September 2006: You're petrified because you are afraid of the unknown. You've been wallowing in your mundane existence for so long it feels normal. You've got to force yourself to get out and meet new people, go to new places, and explore new horizons.
In othe... (read in full...)
he called me nasty names but claims he loves me!!?
Q. What does it mean when your boyfriend of a year gets angry and starts calling you names when you are arguing and he makes you cry, by calling you a "slut", "hoe", "dirty" and that hes had better than you, even though he is in love with you???...
A. 11 September 2006: It means he's an immature little child. . . and that he's too immature to know what love is let alone to be "in love with you". That's all it means. ... (read in full...)
My bf is just starting Uni Im scared that he will change and I will lose him!!
Q. My lovely boyfriend is just starting university, I'm really excited for him but can't help the feeling that I will lose him. We have been together for two years and are very much in love. I trust him with my life but all of my friends relationships ...
A. 11 September 2006: People change and grow apart, that's just the way things go sometimes. But you're envisioning this happening without any logic involved. The best thing you can do is support him and make his transition to college a good thing. If you put undue ... (read in full...)
Found my bf giving my dad head!!!
Q. Please help me. I have been with my bf for nearly 6 months now. On Saturday we was supposed to be going out for a meal and he was meeting me at my dads cos he works by his house. I live with my dad and came in from work to find my bf giving head t...
A. 11 September 2006: No he didn't. You're making this up aren't you? Come on, tell me this didn't happen. I just ate my breakfast and I'm feeling a little queasy. If this is the truth, as Ricky Ricardo used to say, "Lucy, you've got some splainin' to do". Your bf and... (read in full...)
Can I get him into kissing ? And whats the best way to iniate sex ?
Q. My boyfriend doesn't kiss. He claims he hasn't "made out" with anyone for about 10 years, and that his wife wasn't big on kissing or making out. He says he doesn't like the feeling of hot breath on his face. He expects me to be ready to go as s...
A. 8 September 2006: This guy sounds weird.
Kissing is the best foreplay going, according to me anyway. LOL.
Anyone that doesn't like to have your "hot breath on his face", isn't that into you. The way you describe him, he's just looking for an orifice for his memb... (read in full...)
I read her diary, and now all the stuff about her sex life bothers me!
Q. Hey I've been seeing this girl now for about 5 months and have recently moved in with her (quick i kno but if we didnt we would have to break up). I recently read her diary and found somethings that greatly disturbed me and one thing in perticular ...
A. 8 September 2006: I'm curious about the statement "I recently read her diary". Did she hand it to you to read, or were you prying about? A diary is a sacred journal of one's innermost feelings. . . and meant to be read by the writer, ONLY. Not for nosy boyfriends.
W... (read in full...)
Should I get involved in an online relationship?
Q. i have met a lovely man over the internet tonight but not sure whether to start a relationship with him or just stay friends. I have never had a relationship before i am thirty seven and i was looking after my sick nan up until three years ago. Not ...
A. 8 September 2006: Let your heart be your guide. . . although 37 seems kind of old for the first time to be in a relationship. Surely, taking care of your nan didn't consume your entire life until this point did it? I'd say go for it!
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Why does my ex keep pestering me for sex when we broke up 4 years ago!?
Q. My ex boyfriend broke up with me 4 years ago. In those 4 years he has kept in touch with me. He always wants to have sex with me. Why wont he move on? He broke up with me! What should I do?...
A. 7 September 2006: Tell him that God gave him a hand for a reason. . . and it wasn't just wiping his ass.
LOL. ... (read in full...)
We had sex but he is now treating me like dirt!
Q. Repeating the same mistakes over and over. I'm so tired and low tonight, I just don't know how much more I can take. I seem to be setting myself up for such a rubbish time of it, and I can try and blame others but really it's down to me. A...
A. 7 September 2006: Don't be so hard on yourself. Some guys are cads. . . members of the 4F Club - Find 'em, Feel 'em, F*ck 'em, and Forget 'em. To them, it's not that big of deal. . . it's just sex. If you want more than sex, you need to be more selective in who you ... (read in full...)
Should I move in with him or will I just be left at home lonely while he parties with his mates?
Q. Last weekend, I was at my boyfriend's and he asked me whether I will move in with him. We live 2hrs drive apart and we both wish we can see each other everyday. I love him dearly, but I don't know why I don't know how to answer that. Moving in with ...
A. 7 September 2006: My advice would be to tread lightly. If you give up your life as you know it, you may grow to resent it.
A friend of mine moved 1500 miles to be with her "soul mate". She soon felt isolated and alone. He became a different person than the one she ... (read in full...)
He says he doesnt trust me, and hes really insecure, hes making my life a misery but I dont want him to dump me! Please help!
Q. Sorry if this is long.....I have been dating my bf for almost a year, we are very serious, and seem to be madly in love, however he is very insecure and has jealous rages and we always argue. I go to university and im 20 and he works and hes 25...
A. 7 September 2006: Your boyfriend sounds scary. If he wants to break up with you, show him where the door is. . . and tell him not to let it hit him in ass on the way out. He's trying to control you and smother you. He doesn't love you, he wants to own you.
T... (read in full...)
My obsessive bf, dumped me, but he says he just wants me to take a step back!? What should I do ?
Q. My bf who used to obssess about me dumped me after 10 months, how do I get over him? He was the perfect bf, never cheated, always loyal. And he is so hot, he had to turn down a lot of girls. But when we went to college he suddenly changed, he aske...
A. 6 September 2006: It sounds like he's made it pretty clear as to what he wants. If you can live with that, then step back. If not, move on and do what you want. ... (read in full...)
I have a bit of a problem with my penis, Im worried it will cause probs in my relationship...
Q. This is quite embarrassing for me. But i'm getting increasingly worried and anxious about it. I'm 16, I have been going out with my girlfriend for 11months nearly. Our relationship is great, and things are great as they are, but we have yet to ...
A. 6 September 2006: I take it you aren't circumcised? You may want to have a doctor take a look. It's never too late for a circumcision. It will make you more stream-lined, so to speak.... (read in full...)
My man of 3 months told me to have sex with another guy.. I dont get it why doesnt he want sex with me!?
Q. Hi, I'm a 19-year-old girl and I've been with my boyfriend for 3 months. We haven't had it for a while now - and said to me "have sex with another guy, but not me...." I don't know why he doesn't want it, he refuses to discuss it with me des...
A. 6 September 2006: He's obviously not interested in you, sexually. Any guy who tells his girlfriend to "have sex with another guy but not me" is either gay or just a friend.
If you want a male friend, keep him around, but if you want a lover, you're barking up the ... (read in full...)
We want a FUN evening date!! - any ideas?
Q. Does anyone have any exciting date ideas? Something that will make us both laugh together and be lots of fun? We want to do something exciting Friday night, but i just cant think of anything to do in the evening that fits the bill. I can thi...
A. 6 September 2006: You don't mention dancing. A nice nightclub is always good to get your groove down. If you can find a place that has a good dance band that plays mambo, salsa, and/or swing, where you can hold your partner and get the heart rate pumped up at the ... (read in full...)
How do you compliment guys, looks-wise?
Q. This is going to sound like such a stupid question, oy. How are you supposed to compliment guys, as far as looks go? When a guy says you are beautiful or gorgeous, what do you say back besides "Oh, thanks." ? I always feel stupid saying "Thank...
A. 6 September 2006: I always like, "You rock!". LOL.
I've been told that I'm "wonderful", that makes me feel good.
When complimented, I don't think you have to respond in kind. Just say "Thank you, that's nice of you to say." I don't think anyone expects a complime... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my time on him?
Q. internet thing. last month i met a guy on the net,got along very well, he gave me his mobile number, so we could text. I didn't at first but then i did, we sent texts even got steamy and sexual, and he'd send me a text during the day, but if i wa...
A. 5 September 2006: I agree with Baby Girl. If he were interested, he'd make an effort. Forget him.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
Going for a holiday in the South of France with a girl I've only been on one date with... !?
Q. Dear Cupid A couple of years back I went out on a date with a girl I met via a speed-dating event. We speed-dated then went on one date subsequently. I took her ice skating outdoors, it was Xmas, we had fun then went for a bite to eat. Both of us ...
A. 5 September 2006: You're 27, right?
Tell them you are going to join the French Foreign Legion. . . not that it's any of their business. LOL. ... (read in full...)
Ive been told that Im too well endowed, I fear that I wont have a long term relationship because of it!!
Q. i have just come out of a short term realtionship, and although this may not seem like a big problem to some guys it truely is to me.. every girl i have ever been out with has said that i am too well endowed. i know this is true because i have seen ...
A. 5 September 2006: Too much cock, huh? You need to hook up with the girl with too much air in her vagina. LOL.
I knew a guy with 5 cocks. . . he wore a rubber that fit like a glove. Rim shot!!
Surely, there is a woman out there somewhere who can accommodate ... (read in full...)
Im being forced to choose.................. My girl or the bike!! Help I love both!
Q. My girlfriend says that i love my bike more than her, trouble is, i think shes right!? We've been together about 2 years now, we were fine to begin with, but when i got my new bike (HARLEY-DAVIDSON DYNA GLIDE FXDCI) last year i feel that i want...
A. 5 September 2006: You've got to weigh the pluses versus the minuses.
Bike Pluses:
Gets you from point A to point B.
Makes you look cool (so you think).
Doesn't talk back.
Bike Minuses:
Isn't as much fun to have between your legs as a girl (I hope not anywa... (read in full...)
Going for a holiday in the South of France with a girl I've only been on one date with... !?
Q. Dear Cupid A couple of years back I went out on a date with a girl I met via a speed-dating event. We speed-dated then went on one date subsequently. I took her ice skating outdoors, it was Xmas, we had fun then went for a bite to eat. Both of us ...
A. 5 September 2006: Why wouldn't she be there? She invited you didn't she? She's not a psycho is she? Go and have fun. Send us postcards. LOL. ... (read in full...)
He said he loved me and begged me never to leave, he later said there was no future!?
Q. I had a quick torrid affair with a guy who at first said he loved me and begged me never to leave him and we got a little physical. then suddenly he left me sayin we had no future and he doesnt wanna break my heart. i cant help it but i still love ...
A. 5 September 2006: He sounds like a hit and run specialist. . . get in, get out, and move on. The sooner you move on the better.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
Finding it hard being friends with my Ex, dont know if its worse to be friends or not to talk anymore ?
Q. This past weekend I spent more time with my ex boyfriend. At one point I became upset and told him that I thought that we shouldn't be friends anymore and he responded with you don't mean that. He became nervous at the fact that I was thinking ...
A. 5 September 2006: I have to agree with Lostandalone.
It's hard to be "just friends" when one party still has a stronger emotional connection. I think a clean break is best for you. You can meet up as friends some day down the road if circumstances allow. But for ... (read in full...)
He was so right but now is also so wrong... what do I do?
Q. I am a female divorced(4yrs ago)with 2 beautiful girls. My husband was violent and cheated so I left. Met a nice man 7yrs older than me, who is 38yrs old. (Never thought I would get involved again!) We dated for 3yrs before he moved in. Children ...
A. 5 September 2006: Ditto, Dr. Pete.
This relationship is the proverbial dead horse. Stop beating it and move on.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
We Kissed - Does my brother's friend like me - or not?
Q. There is a man 3yrs younger than me that has told me that I am a fetish to him and that he could never think of anyone better to be with. We've been through the same old thing him telling me he really likes me etc, etc. He's my brothers mate and ...
A. 4 September 2006: It sounds like he wants to get in your drawers. . . and not much more. If that's what you want, go for it. Otherwise, tell him to come back when he grows up.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
I've just lost our baby, now he dumps me by e-mail!
Q. I have been in my current relationship since January this year. I've known my boyfriend for almost 8 years as we were best friends at college. I just miscarried his baby. He sends me an email telling me he doesn't want to continue anymore...
A. 4 September 2006: Say good-bye and good riddance. This guy has no soul. You don't need someone like that in your life. If he calls you "when he's ready", tell him to take a long walk on a short pier. Move on, and quickly. . . .
Good luck!... (read in full...)
What is love? Do I love him?
Q. I apologize for the lenght in advacnce. Hi. I've been dating my boyfriend for about 6 months and about 3 weeks ago he told me he loved me. He told me that I shouldn't feel obligated to say it back and that he didn't want to pressure me into saying ...
A. 4 September 2006: Where is love, does it fall from skies above?
Love is a lot of things. I don't know if anyone can tell you if what you feel is love or not. Only you know how you feel. Love can take many shapes. It can be a knowing smile, a kiss, having someone you ... (read in full...)
Too much air in my vagina!
Q. when my husband and have sex he complains about me having too much air in my vagina, i can feel it as well. how do i fix this dilemma? ...
A. 4 September 2006: How did this turn from "hair" to "air"? This is a horse of a different color. LOL. Tell your husband if had a real penis, there wouldn't be room for any air in there. LOL. ... (read in full...)
Mty boyfriend is aggresive and im worried about breaking up...
Q. I find my boyfriend very aggresive and I'm worried about breaking it to him that we're over. He would never hurt me but he shouts a lot and punches walls and stuff. I'm not used to this (my parents are very passive in arguments) and I sometimes ...
A. 4 September 2006: The sooner you get away from this jerk, the better. He's trying to control you with his aggressive behavior. Phone him or email him and tell him it's over and that you don't want him coming near you. If he persists, call the police. Change your ... (read in full...)
Any tips on becoming a great muff diver?
Q. hey there, just a quick question: how do i give my girlfriend an orgasm when i am eating her out..i've looked all over the internet but the things on there dont really help me out..she tells me that it feels really good and she gets really arroused...
A. 4 September 2006: What are you doing with your hands while lapping up her juices? A well placed finger, like an index finger rubbing her gently under the clitoris, and a lubricated pinky slid gently inside her anus sometimes bring about an overwhelming reaction. I... (read in full...)
I want to make a big impression on him when we go back to school.. any ideas?
Q. Hi there :-) I'm going back to school in a few days, and I feel like I've changed how I feel about myself. I ended the last term realising how I felt about this boy in my class. I really like him! Only problem is he likes someone else, but she do...
A. 4 September 2006: I wouldn't go overboard trying to make a big impression. Simply smile and be friendly. A quick smile is the best attention getter I've ever seen. . . it works on me anyway. If you try too hard, you may alienate your friends and scare away anyone ... (read in full...)
Too much air in my vagina!
Q. when my husband and have sex he complains about me having too much air in my vagina, i can feel it as well. how do i fix this dilemma? ...
A. 4 September 2006: You might try trimming it. ... (read in full...)
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