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I have two men on the go at the moment. Any insight into this?
Q. I have found myself in a situation where I have two men in love with me, both of which are younger than myself. I am petite, successful, educated and attractive, look many years younger than my age (41). I do not feel comfortable with having two ...
A. 7 February 2008: I can't help myself . . . I just had to respond to your latest post.
2 weeks with one and a month with the other and they're both in love with you? You must be magical! A modern day Aphrodite! Do you realize how vain you sound? I bet not.
I thi... (read in full...)
I have two men on the go at the moment. Any insight into this?
Q. I have found myself in a situation where I have two men in love with me, both of which are younger than myself. I am petite, successful, educated and attractive, look many years younger than my age (41). I do not feel comfortable with having two ...
A. 5 February 2008: I guess I'm one of the "smug" people that anon refers to. Nobody here can tell you which one to choose. Only you know what you're looking for in a partner. If you want two partners, so be it. Just be sure they both know about each other. Nobody ... (read in full...)
He makes me feel unwanted and ugly and I am starting to feel like cheating is the only way.
Q. I've been in a relationship for 8 years now.Of course my significant other watches porn and at first I had no problem with it but now it seems to be a huge problem for me. We went to having sex all the time to where he couldn't keep his hands of...
A. 2 February 2008: He may not be cheating on you with another woman, but he is still cheating on you. If he's more interested in porn than you, you need to give him an ultimatum . . . either the porn goes or you go. And mean it. Who knows, you might get lucky and ... (read in full...)
Has he lost interest in me after having sex??
Q. I have been dating this guy for a while. We finally had sex with him a week ago. Now he dosn't call as much and dosn't seem too interested in me. Was he just using me? ...
A. 2 February 2008: It would appear that way. Most men (notice, I used the word men) realize how much having sex can mean to some women. Any man who dates a woman for a good period of time and blows her off after having sex with her is a cad, and not worth your time ... (read in full...)
I want to send this girl roses, but what do I write on the note?
Q. I decided to order some roses for this girl I like. (It's this package deal thing my school is doing to generate funds for some charity) It comes with a message but I don't know what to write exactly. Any suggestions would be helpful. ...
A. 1 February 2008: How about:
Roses are red,
grass is green,
I like your legs,
especially what's between.
Just funnin' with you.
Seriously, just be yourself and tell her how she makes you feel. Nothing too mushy or corny though. ... (read in full...)
Is she just too high maintenance?
Q. Nemo solus satis sapit...or two heads are better then one. That is one of favorite latin proverbs, and thats why today I am sending this letter/question out. First off, and I'll do my best to keep this short, altought certain insight is required...
A. 1 February 2008: QUANDO OMNI FLUNKUS MORITATUS
(when all else fails, play dead)
That's my advice to you. She wants to control you, own you, smother you. Play dead. Then run to the nearest strip bar and laugh at the other guy who shoots his load when he gets a la... (read in full...)
I have two men on the go at the moment. Any insight into this?
Q. I have found myself in a situation where I have two men in love with me, both of which are younger than myself. I am petite, successful, educated and attractive, look many years younger than my age (41). I do not feel comfortable with having two ...
A. 1 February 2008: I forgot the question.
BTW, I'm hot and appealing and I'm 53 . . . but I look A LOT younger. ROTFLMAO.
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My fiance doesn't want sex with me anymore...
Q. I am 23yr old and i have been with my fiance for 4yrs. Over the last year or so he has become less and less interested in sex with me all he wants is handjobs. I understand that this might be something he is into but it just seems its all about him, ...
A. 31 January 2008: Wow! I'd put the brakes on this marriage real quick. Is this guy's idea of "getting some strange" having you use your left hand instead of your right? LOL. This guy needs a check-up from the neck up. Either get him to counseling or you get out the ... (read in full...)
I have two men on the go at the moment. Any insight into this?
Q. I have found myself in a situation where I have two men in love with me, both of which are younger than myself. I am petite, successful, educated and attractive, look many years younger than my age (41). I do not feel comfortable with having two ...
A. 31 January 2008: Hi. You are definitely stuck on the horns of a dilemma. Torn between two lovers, if you will. I was in a similar situation once myself. I was dating two women that were both attractive, attentive, and fun to be with. As the relationships started ... (read in full...)
We broke up, he was abusive, but do you think he has gone back to his ex
Q. I know it doesn't matter now, because i don't want my ex back because he was abusive on so many levels, but is it true that after u break up they will see their previous ex and possibly hook up with them. He broke up with his ex before me to go out ...
A. 31 January 2008: Like you say, it doesn't matter. Be thankful that you're out and don't look back. ... (read in full...)
Should I grow my hair long?
Q. I am thinking of growing my hair long. i am a ginger 13 YR old boy and have been told by my classmates that i would not suit long hair. i still want to grow it though. they say that gingers cant have long hair. i am also wondering what style i ...
A. 31 January 2008: I don't get this "Ginger" stuff. There was another writer on here one time that said that "Ginger" kids were picked on and discriminated against. I guess there are some people that need to feel superior to someone. . . no matter what the reason.
I... (read in full...)
I really like this guy, he's a Jehovahs Witness I'm not, will there be any problems?
Q. There is this guy i like at collage, and i have a sneaking suspicion that he likes me too (have been shamelessly flirting with him lol). He is a Johavas Witness and im not. I was wondering about the 'rules' regarding JW's and non JW's dating. As i ...
A. 28 January 2008: Having dated a former JW once, I know a little bit about them and I would tread lightly.
I found a site that might help:
http://members.aol.com/beyondjw/inlove.htm
Good luck.... (read in full...)
For men: do you think of your partner during masturbation?
Q. For the guys: Do you think of your girlfriend/wives when you masturbate?...
A. 26 January 2008: Hillary Clinton? . . . now that's scary.
I don't masturbate when I'm in a relationship. When I'm not, I usually like to have some visual aids in front of me. Playboys are good. Nothing too graphic. I don't get turned on by obstetric photos l... (read in full...)
He says he loves her but spends most of his time with me...does he want me or her??
Q. Me and my on again off again bf of 8 years are having a baby together. I am currently 7 months pregnant. We got back together officially in the begining he moved in with me. Then when I was 5 months pregnant he broke up with me citing that he was ...
A. 15 January 2008: If he decided when you were 5 months pregnant that he was in love with someone else, you did the right thing and kicked him out. Unfortunately, you didn't keep him kicked out. You don't have to keep any kind of relationship with him if you don't ... (read in full...)
I'm 16, he's 31 and I met him online. Should I meet him?
Q. Hey im 16 i have been talking to this guy online for a few months. To start with i didnt knw his age n he didnt know mine. I recently found out he's 31 he thought i was about 19 but now knows im 16. We both like eachother but know it would be kinda...
A. 15 January 2008: That's too big of an age difference at your age. You say you tried to stop talking. I'd try again. Once he found out your real age, he should have known better and should have backed off. Since he didn't, I'd say for you to end communications. He ... (read in full...)
According to his rules, he's allowed to sleep with other girls, but I cannot sleep with other guys. If I went along with his idea what does this say about me?
Q. My ex and I have been seeing each other for awhile now. I REALLY like him, maybe even love him. He has said that he cares about me a lot, more than any other girl. We're not committed to each other although I do have deep feelings for him and I ...
A. 11 January 2008: WOW! I don't think you have to look at this objectively to see that this is a great deal . . . for HIM! What a con! If you fall for this line of b.s., you deserve what you get. Talk about having your cake and eating too! I'm almost speechless, but ... (read in full...)
He says we cannot share a relationship as he does not have a cell phone - to be able to maintain contact. Should I stay away?
Q. I lost my virginity to this guy a few months ago. Since then we talk. I want a relationship but he doesn't. He says he likes me, but it would be hard to be in a relationship because he doesn't have a cell phone and it wouldn't be fair to me ...
A. 11 January 2008: That's a pretty lame excuse - no cell phone. That's a good one. And that's just what it is, an excuse . . . for not committing to you. I'm not trying to be cold, but, he got what he wanted from you and that's probably all he wants from you.
Y... (read in full...)
What can I do to speed her up a bit?
Q. Hi there My girlfriend and i have been togethere for 5months now, and we are having sex, but i can't seem to make her come, and i come so kwickly sometimes, sometimes when she comes, but she takes verrrrrrrrry long, is there anything i can d...
A. 9 January 2008: What's the hurry? Maybe it's not about her coming quicker but you coming slower? Have you thought of that? If she never comes ever, she may have a medical problem, but if it just takes a while to get her engine firing on all cylinders, it's probably ... (read in full...)
How can I make him orgasm?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have recently started having sex, but how do you know if he orgasms? I know this sounds stupid, but is he orgasming when he comes? I feel like I don't know enough about it, and haven't had enough experience, to give him what he...
A. 9 January 2008: It's funny that when most people want to learn how to play a video game, they read the instructions first. But when some people decide to have sex (the process that can create another human being), they do it with information they garner from ... (read in full...)
We've broken up and she wants space, but will she come back?
Q. my girlfriend broke up w/ me on thanksgiving and i didnt think anything of it. i figured we would work things out and be together again. i moved into her plce after dating for 6 months and she has said that my attitude did a 180. all i ever wanted ...
A. 9 January 2008: It sounds as though she felt that you took her for granted and when she started to get some attention from someone else, she liked it, and distanced herself from you.
Some times we don't realize what we have until its gone.
If you're still li... (read in full...)
Do I contact him or should I wait for him to contact me??
Q. I met a really great guy online. He's a few years older than me, divorced - I was never married, just engaged, though both our partners cheated on us - both these relationships ended about 5 years ago. I have a kid which this guy has known about si...
A. 8 January 2008: From what I can tell from your tale, he doesn't seem to put much effort into going out with you. That would bother me. To answer your multiple choice question (O.K., only 2 choices), I'd be inclined to agree with your friends. If he's interested, ... (read in full...)
Should I be pregnant at this age?
Q. Me and my boyfriend has had sex without a condom loads off times in the past month to hav a baby because last year we found out i was pregnant but got an abortion because we was not ready but now i dont no if i am pregnant now because i hav just ...
A. 8 January 2008: WOW! Where to begin?
O.K. How's this? What the hell are you thinking?
Do you think you're playing house, with real live babies?
You need to grow up and get a clue! You and your boyfriend need to keep your drawers on unless you're ready to sup... (read in full...)
I believe he's telling me the truth - but is there any future in this?
Q. I have been in a 2 1/2yr affair with a married man. He is everything I have ever wanted. I didn't go looking for this, it just happened as if it were meant to be. He told me from the start, his marriage was broken due to infidelity,but he never ...
A. 6 January 2008: Talk is cheap. If he wanted you, he'd leave his wife to be with you. You say his marriage was broken because of infidelity. Whose, his or his wife's?
I've seen this scnerio too many times. It always plays out the same way: The mistress is alwa... (read in full...)
Losing her Dad and her job and the absence of children suddenly made her feel unfulfilled, in need of a change. Where does the love go??
Q. 25 years ago I married my high school sweetheart and I thought we'd share the rest of our life together. Then four years ago, her father passed away, and she lost her job within about a month of each other. She found another job but I could tell...
A. 5 January 2008: As I see it, if she wanted kids, and you didn't, that should have been dealt with before you said your marriage vows. That's a pretty significant difference.
There has to be a common ground that perpetuates the relationship through time. You two ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to just have a sexual soulmate?
Q. I am married. My husband and I are part of an open sexual lifestyle. We attend Adult lifestyle parties here and there. I have never made any connection to another man in years. I have just met a man and have been sexual with him 3 times now. I ...
A. 5 January 2008: I think you've opened Pandora's box. I don't understand your lifestyle and probably never will. Adult lifestyle parties. . . that's rich. An excuse to bang whoever floats your boat. Why be married? Soul mates, huh? That's another worn out cliche. ... (read in full...)
How far do you have to go to be committed?
Q. I've been with the same man for over two years and he says he wants to committ yet we both have trust issues actually we have a lot of issues but always say we love each other it'll be ok, My main one issue is : IS it ok to say you want to be ...
A. 5 January 2008: If he wants to be with his friends on every other weekend, he's not ready to commit to a relationship. He wants his cake and wants to eat it too.
Is it O.K. for you to go out with your friends too? Or are you expected to stay at home and wait at h... (read in full...)
My daughter just turned 15 and is having sex!
Q. dear cupid and everyone here, I have a daughter who has just reached 15 years old last month. She has just admitted to me that she and her boy friend have already had sex. I was terribly shocked and very very afraid and worried that maybe sh...
A. 5 January 2008: If she's pregnant, no amount of alcohol is going to change that. Don't even go down that road.
She needs to get a pregnancy test. If she's pregnant, you have to weigh the alternatives. If she's not, you need to talk to her about REAL birth cont... (read in full...)
Losing her Dad and her job and the absence of children suddenly made her feel unfulfilled, in need of a change. Where does the love go??
Q. 25 years ago I married my high school sweetheart and I thought we'd share the rest of our life together. Then four years ago, her father passed away, and she lost her job within about a month of each other. She found another job but I could tell...
A. 5 January 2008: I feel for you. I know when I lost my father, I had a life crisis too. I took stock of my life at that time and realized I wanted more than what I had. My own mortality came into plain view. It was a stressful time. I can understand what your wife ... (read in full...)
I'm accidentally pregnant and the baby's father doesn't want to know. What should I do?
Q. I am in a great delimma and need advice. About a month ago I found out that I was expecting. This came to a total surprise for I was on the pill (I recently found out that my taking the Z-Pak for my sinus infection neutralized the birth control). ...
A. 4 January 2008: He sounds like a real gem of a guy (sarcasm). 2 masters degrees equals one a-hole in this case.
I'd seek legal advice as far as financial support. A court should order child support. You should be eligible for state aid for medical benefits for ... (read in full...)
Is God the reason my answers aren't being posted?
Q. I don't understand. I've responded with reasonable answers to reasonable questions on this site and my answers are not being posted. Has anyone else had that problem? I've responded to some questions that are very meaningful to me becuase I've ...
A. 3 January 2008: I don't know what your answers or questions have been but not everyone believes in God . . . or your idea of who God is. I believe in God. My God may be different than your God. My girlfriend believes in God, but has different interpretations of the ... (read in full...)
I lost my virginity last week - could I be pregnant?
Q. I lost my virginity last week and at one point my boyfriend entered me without a condom but only for about 15 seconds, he also came near my vagina but I dont think any wennt on it... now my breasts are starting to feel sore and I 'feel' pregnant, I ...
A. 3 January 2008: I think I've asked this question on this site before. Don't they teach sex education in the U.K?
I don't understand how kids know enough about what goes where but never anything beyond that.
He could be inside you for a millisecond and get you ... (read in full...)
Why did he do that?
Q. My ex dumped me for another guy, but then she told me that she got pregnant with his baby; she came down here to have an abortion, all he did then was text her once, didn't go to see her at all, and that's how she ended it with him. Two question...
A. 3 January 2008: You want to know why he did that?
Because he's a cad.
You're ex did it because she was probably looking for the BBD (Bigger, Better, Deal). Only she ended up with the shaft (pun intended).
I wouldn't be in any hurry to try to win her heart ba... (read in full...)
She got her period a couple of hours after we had sex. Any chance she could be pregnant?
Q. Me and my girlfriend had unprotected sex a few nights ago, she got her period a couple of hours later and it ended roughly 96 hours later. Is there a chance she could get pregnant?...
A. 3 January 2008: I'm not a doctor, but I play one on TV. I'd say the chances are next to zero. ... (read in full...)
Why do I suffer with bad BO?
Q. I have a problem. a BO problem. I don't know why or how it has happened. I shower daily (under my armpits also) and i don't wear the same t-shirt for 2 days. what can it be then?...
A. 3 January 2008: Are people telling you that you stink or do you just notice the smell yourself? Ask a friend to take a sniff and to give you an honest answer regarding your odor. All people have some form of body odor. Some are just a little more hard to take than ... (read in full...)
I'm 13, he's 18. We have a 4 1/2 year age difference... Too much?
Q. Im 13 and my boyfriend is 18. We live at least 8 states apart. We knew each other when he lived here, but he had to move away because his dad was relocated. I know that it's illegal for us to be going out, but we're not having sex or anything. My ...
A. 3 January 2008: I'll bet my lunch money that by the time you're 18, you won't even remember this guy's name. Your mother knows best. He's an adult (by most standards) and you're not. Go have some fun!!!!... (read in full...)
She dumped me, but how do I get her to notice me again?
Q. hey, my ex-girlfriend and i are still friends (she dumped me) and i think i have finally gotten over her. the only problem is that it doesnt seem like shes even interested in being friends anymore...she never wants to meet up or never makes an e...
A. 3 January 2008: She's probably ready to move on to new relationships and sees you as an obstacle to that. You're probably better off giving her all the space she needs and move on to new relationships yourself.
Good luck. ... (read in full...)
I'm falling in love with my best friend who lives 500 miles away. Should I try to move on or not?
Q. I have been best friends with this guy for 4 years. He means the world to me and he has always been there for me. He knows me better than anyone, and he has sat on the phone with me all night listening to me cry when I'm upset about something on ...
A. 2 January 2008: Hey haters. Sorry you can't look into my last post and see that my tongue was pressed firmly into my cheek.
Hell yeah! If you want this schmuck, move closer to him. Someone has to be the romantic! LOL. ... (read in full...)
I'm falling in love with my best friend who lives 500 miles away. Should I try to move on or not?
Q. I have been best friends with this guy for 4 years. He means the world to me and he has always been there for me. He knows me better than anyone, and he has sat on the phone with me all night listening to me cry when I'm upset about something on ...
A. 2 January 2008: It's sad to think that in this day and age that something as simple as a job can keep two hearts from beating as one.
This guy sounds too practical for you. You need a true romantic. A true romantic would climb any mountain, ford any stream, foll... (read in full...)
She wants to go out and have sex with other guys, and she won't choose between me and tthem. What can I do to have her all to myself?
Q. Hello! My girlfriend and I are together for a year and a half now. We both never liked going out but she got some new friends and she started going out with them. She changed and when I confronted her about it she said that she doesn't feel about me ...
A. 2 January 2008: You answered this one yourself when you said "I can’t be with her knowing that she doesn’t love me."
You need to move onward and upward. If she thinks that her new friends and lifestyle is a move forward, she's gravely mistaken.
As for you, whe... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to stay friends?
Q. i am 31 married wth kids. The problem is the love has gone out of the relationship. Over the past 5-6mths i have ben seeing someone else and have fallin in love with him, (he also feels the same) we both feel the same about each other. (he also has ...
A. 2 January 2008: Oh, what a tangled web we weave . . . .
No, it's not a good idea to stay friends with him. Go to a marriage counselor and see if you can restore your broken marriage . . . for YOUR kids sake.
It's odd how people can put their own lust ahead of... (read in full...)
How can I get my girlfriend to take part in a threesome with a guy?
Q. I am an 18 year old girl who has been dating another girl for a little over 2 1/2 years. I love her with all my heart...she is my everything. But recently i found out she and an old friend of hers made moves on eachother. It had turned me on if ...
A. 2 January 2008: Pick me! Pick me! There's nothing hotter for a straight guy than to be the meat in the middle of a lesbo sandwich. LOL.
Seriously. If she's not interested, she's not interested. Let it drop . . . if she means that much to you. ... (read in full...)
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