Do I follow the girl of my dreams in hopes that it won't become a nightmare?

i need some help trying to figure out what exactly is going on in my relationship with this girl. we've been friends for a good while now, but have always had a weird connection with each other, but never got together because we both had ties to other people. anyway, we're graduating here in a couple of months in december, and we had originally planned to move out of state together come may and live together. but now she's potentially moving elsewhere in december due to grad school, and i can't go then. and so i told her straight out that i feel like if she leaves, she'd be my big 'what if' and that i'd never know what could have come of us. and she agreed. and she told me that as unfair as it would be to me, she'd still ask me to move there for her come may. and that maybe we'd be even better off not living together. rather, just near by. and she said to say no if it's not really what i want to do, or if my heart's set on going some place else. but i don't know what on earth to do. i'm in love with this girl and can't imagine life without her. we talk about this openly and both feel the same way. we just aren't together. what should i do?

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