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Too much air in my vagina!
Q. when my husband and have sex he complains about me having too much air in my vagina, i can feel it as well. how do i fix this dilemma? ...
A. 4 September 2006: How did this turn from "hair" to "air"? This is a horse of a different color. LOL. Tell your husband if had a real penis, there wouldn't be room for any air in there. LOL. ... (read in full...)
I want to make a big impression on him when we go back to school.. any ideas?
Q. Hi there :-) I'm going back to school in a few days, and I feel like I've changed how I feel about myself. I ended the last term realising how I felt about this boy in my class. I really like him! Only problem is he likes someone else, but she do...
A. 4 September 2006: I wouldn't go overboard trying to make a big impression. Simply smile and be friendly. A quick smile is the best attention getter I've ever seen. . . it works on me anyway. If you try too hard, you may alienate your friends and scare away anyone ... (read in full...)
How can I go about becoming a "Goth" ?
Q. Hi can ayone help me? My problem is that I want to becaome a Goth.. however I am also considering a career in acting/as an actress or working with horses (going to an agricultural college) Can I do both?? I have NEVER seen a goth working with ...
A. 4 September 2006: If you want to limit your employment opportunities, becoming a "Goth" is a sure-fire way of doing it. About the only Goths I ever see (in the U.S.) are hanging around with other Goths at the local mall (shopping center). They don't seem to be too ... (read in full...)
I feel so sorry for myself (long-winded post)
Q. Hi, More than a year ago something happened to me. It's a long story so here goes.. Me and my boyfriend have a great realationship but one night things went wrong. I did something for him but it didn't go to well and then it got worse when he got...
A. 4 September 2006: You need to take a deep breath and figure out what it is you want. You don't say how old you are, but I'm guessing that you're a teenager. Life is a long and winding road with many turns. You want to enjoy life and not get so wrapped up in a ... (read in full...)
He asked me for months to date him, I finally gave in, then found out he wasnt single!! I've fallen, what do I do ?
Q. It started last year.A certain person was asking me out for several months until I finally agreed.Then three months later i recieve a text off his g/f of 12yrs. He lied about being single to me and yet 7 months down the line he is still turning up ...
A. 4 September 2006: He wants to have his cake and eat it too. If you don't want to be a party to his scheme, tell him you don't want to see him again. . . and mean it. You'll soon find out how serious he is about his other relationship. If he dumps her, then you can ... (read in full...)
Is he just leaving his options open ?
Q. Q: I am dating a guy for over 2 months. We have already spoken of marriage which will happen in 1-1 1/2 years time. He is very jealous of me because I am a very friendly person and I do make alot of male friends. So he tends to leave trademarks on ...
A. 4 September 2006: What kind of trademarks . . . hickeys? He sounds too immature to be in a relationship. Dump him. ... (read in full...)
Its all about my wife, no matter what I do, she never gives a thought, just wants it her way, what should I do ?
Q. Hi, I need some help and please advice me what I should do, because I am lost. Well it is a long story and I don’t want to take too much of your time, but our story with my current wife began about 2 years ago, she was new in this country and I he...
A. 4 September 2006: Obviously, you are unappreciated. She is obviously a taker. . . not a giver. Since you are so unhappy, you either have to put your foot down and tell her the situation has got to change, or move on with your life without her. From the way you ... (read in full...)
Was cheated on in the past, Now I'm scared this will ruin my great relationship, due to my insecurities
Q. I was cheated on relentlessly by my boyfriend who I went out with between the age of 17 and 21. He lied constantly and i caught him with other girls on a few occasions - stupidly i kept taking him back because it was a bad time of my life and i ...
A. 4 September 2006: I think the best way to overcome insecurities is to feel confident in your own skin. If you demonstrate a confidence that no matter if your mate is faithful to you or not, you will not be effected one way or the other. If you exude confidence, your ... (read in full...)
How do I give a handjob?
Q. hello there wondering if anyone can help. im 18 and wondering how you give someone a hand job? like how hard do u do it and stuff like that? ...
A. 4 September 2006: There are some great questions tonight! LOL.
Just grab on and pretend that your shaking up a can of soda. If you're grabbing too tight, the recipient will let you know. If you end up with a mess, you'll know you were doing something right. Good... (read in full...)
How do I find out if I'm straight, gay or bi?
Q. Dear aunts. im 21 male never been with a woman or a man, dont no who or what i want, or if gay or bi should i go out and get together with someone have some fun and try out which one? where can i go to be safe, and now who i want....
A. 4 September 2006: I think this question is probably a goof, but I'll answer it anyway.
I think everyone figures out who they are attracted to by the time they are five years old. I know I used to get a woody at the sight of my 15 year old female cousin when I was ... (read in full...)
I met a gay at college...
Q. i meet a gay at college and we was just mates for a year and last 2 mouth go i told him how i feel about him and he told me he felt the same way so i sleep with him and i coupie of week later he told me that he got a new girl friend. and i dont k...
A. 4 September 2006: There's a big difference between meeting a "gay" and a "guy".
It sounds like he is just looking to have a good time and you might have read more into it.
Good luck. ... (read in full...)
Too much air in my vagina!
Q. when my husband and have sex he complains about me having too much air in my vagina, i can feel it as well. how do i fix this dilemma? ...
A. 4 September 2006: You might try trimming it. ... (read in full...)
Why does my GF resist being touched all of a sudden?
Q. hi I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 2 years and all of a sudden she won't let me touch her. I can't even kiss her without her sighing. Someone please tell me what I can do. I can't talk to her because I would'nt know how to put it. Please ...
A. 3 September 2006: It sounds like she is bored with you. . . and it would be my guess she has someone waiting in the wings. She just doesn't know how to break it off cleanly with you, so she's acting cool towards you hoping you break it off with her. That's my take on ... (read in full...)
He was full on, I wasnt sure, now hes going away he indicates that Im putting on the pressure! What going on ?
Q. I'm hoping someone can give me some advice - I seem to have got myself into a no-win situation. I'm sorry this is long, many thanks for reading... A couple of months ago, I met up with an ex. I hadn't seen him for 14 years - we originally went ...
A. 3 September 2006: He love me, he loves me not. He loves me, he loves me not. Do you have a daisy you can pull the petals from as you read this? LOL.
It sounds like he's confused . . . and you sound confused too. It sounds like you really don't care if he's in your... (read in full...)
We had a great time but I want to find out how he really feels. How do I do this?
Q. Hi there, I am looking for some relationship or possible relationship advice. Here is the situation. About 4 years ago I took a vacation with my brother and his friends. We decided to take a freestyle cruise leaving from New York, to Florid...
A. 3 September 2006: What do you think?
That's what is important. You just relived the last two years of your life for us. You obviously like this guy and he must like you. Did you ever try telling him how you feel about him? That always helps. You seem to be afra... (read in full...)
I want more out of my f*ckbuddy relationship but he may not
Q. Iv been seeing a man for 2 years,he lives on his own but has a busy work life while im divorced with 3 kids.The problem is,im not sure if he is just using me for sex? We see each other at weekends and every time we do we end up having sex.I asked ...
A. 3 September 2006: It sounds like he's happy with the setup, so he has no reason to change it. He gets his jollies, with no strings attached. Pretty simple game plan. If you want something more, you have to make the effort, or move on. ... (read in full...)
I'm having a great time with a girl who is 19 years younger
Q. I am 43. I have met a woman that is 24 and we never have a dull moment together. We are becoming closer by the second. It's kind of scary because of the age difference for the both of us, but we just have the greatest time together. It's like ...
A. 3 September 2006: If it feels good enough for long enough, it WILL be considered a long term relationship. As long as both of you are happy, that's all that matters. Carpe diem! ... (read in full...)
Do all girls in the end cheat, and can I really trust them ?
Q. before i start propperly My friend has just got out of a 3 year relationship and before that he was in a two year relationship with another girl - and he is 21. Anyway last nite i was talking to him and he said to me that all girls want sex as much ...
A. 2 September 2006: If you're waiting for the right girl to come along, you're smart. Don't be swayed into having sex just for kicks. There are too many negative consequences. Just relax, enjoy your teenage years, and some day the right girl will come along and knock ... (read in full...)
Not sure if Im pregnant.... but know what Im going to do If I am..
Q. I maybe pregnant but I am not really sure yet. The only evidence that I have that I have missed my period fot this month, but could it happened because I hade mines two times in the last month (in the beginning of the month and close to the end). ...
A. 2 September 2006: Being a guy, I obviously never experienced an abortion, but I paid for one when I was 18 and my gf was 15. Looking back, I wish we could have found a way to have the baby. If we couldn't have afforded to keep the baby, he/she could have been placed ... (read in full...)
Caught masturbating by my brother!!!
Q. my brother caught me masturbating to porn...what should i do if he tells my parents and what should i do about him?...
A. 2 September 2006: Bonym, LOL. It is misleading! The title writer gave the story a whole new twist!!!
"Spanking your monkey" is a natural part of being a boy (or man). If your brother tells your parents, they shouldn't make a big deal about it. Next time, lock the ... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant by giving a blow job???
Q. Is it possible to get pregnant by giving a guy a blow job?...
A. 1 September 2006: Nikki, if you don't know the answer to that one, you shouldn't be sexually active. A little sex education may be helpful.
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How do I break-up with my boyfriend and should I try the new guy???
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year now. When we first started going out, there was a bit of chemistry but now there is none. I don't think he feels the same - I think he still loves me and I feel guilty because I tell him I love him ...
A. 1 September 2006: If you don't love your current boyfriend, don't leave him hanging. A one-sided relationship is a no-sided relationship. He deserves to know the truth and allowed to move on. And you need to tell him face to face. If you want to cast your fate in new ... (read in full...)
He fingered me after he masturbated...Can I get pregnant???
Q. some one fingered me after they had just masturbated, could i get pregnant? the next day i came on my period but i heard about some one who had still got pregnant this way so i just wanted to check. ...
A. 1 September 2006: Not hardly. Seems like a strange relationship. "Excuse me honey while I masterbate . . . hmmm. That was good. Now, let me finger you." Is that about how the converstation went? LOL. ... (read in full...)
We ended our physical relationship, we live together, still love each other, how can we date others when there is this connection ?
Q. Living together after a 9 year relationship breakup - HELP!! This is a followup question to a previous discussion because my partner and I did decide to officially break up after a 9 year relationship. We still love each other dearly, but as best ...
A. 1 September 2006: Hey Yos, speak for yourself with your "classic male advantage taking". The guy you're responding to is a male for crying out loud.
I've seen plenty of women do the same thing. Is that "classic female advantage taking?"
One of these two guys nee... (read in full...)
How will breaking up affect my son??
Q. Have been with my wife of 10 years for 11 years and have a 9 year old son. Have come to realise recently that I no longer love my wife i've just got the feeling that i am going along with the pretense because it's easier. I have met a girl at work ...
A. 1 September 2006: A pretty skirt comes along and you're contemplating dumping your wife, along with your son? It seems like the opportune time, huh? I'd say your wife and son would probably better off without you. She might meet someone that actually cares for her, ... (read in full...)
Why is my husband doing this to us??
Q. Dear cupid, My husband left me and the children last week for another woman who is 20 years younger than me his excuse was he did not love me anymore. I had no warning this was to happen he took all his things this week he came to see the children...
A. 1 September 2006: I agree with Snowbird. Seek legal advice. It sounds like he's going through a middle-age crisis. . . a younger woman to make him feel younger. He may think twice if he realizes it's going to cost him half of everything he owns to walk out. He may ... (read in full...)
What nicknames do guys like to be called?
Q. What nicknames do guys like to be called? Girls get called names like babe and sexy etc. But what do guys like to be called? Thanks...
A. 1 September 2006: Here are a few: "Hunka Hunka Burnin' Love"; "King Kong", "Godzilla"; "Rumpleforeskin" (you can't be circumsized for that one); and "Earth Mover"; just to name a few. And then there's my personal favorite "What's your name again?". LOL. ... (read in full...)
I cant move on from her as shes come back to live with me with our son... please help I dont know what to do...
Q. Hi everyone, i split with my gf of over three years a couple weeks ago, her decision, feelings changed . gone, lost faith cos of arguments ages ago when we were rocky, but we sorted that out and seemed to be getting on with the issues not returning ...
A. 31 August 2006: Wow, that was a marathon, and I'm not certain there is an easy answer. Can you kick her and your child out? Her yes, him no. Can you ignore her and go about your business while she's sleeping in your bed? Probably not. Can you divide the apartment ... (read in full...)
Things are not the same since I cheated, I really regret it, I love her!
Q. I cheated on my girlfriend a good while ago and I am very sorry. I was going to tell her but I couldnt get up the courage. Eventually one of her friends told her. She didnt talk to me for a while but after a while she gave me one more chance things ...
A. 31 August 2006: Grovel, kiss her feet, apologize, tell her it will never happen again. . . those kinds of things. People make mistakes. If she is willing to forgive and forget, than you should be able to forget about it and go on with your relationship. Just make ... (read in full...)
Is he a rebound relationship ?
Q. 3 months ago my girlfriend split with me the next day she went of with another man however she kept coming back to me for sex and telling me she misses me, in the 3 months they see each other everyday and have been away 3 times together, is he the ...
A. 31 August 2006: I wouldn't call him the rebound. . . I'd call him the slam dunk - he's seeing her every day. You, on the other hand, I'd call the pivot man (since we're using basketball analogies - LOL), 'cause she is using you for a little action on the side. ... (read in full...)
Can I be with my cousin?
Q. Ok I have a problem and I like my cousin and he likes me to but i dont know if we can be together. Wat can I do ?...
A. 30 August 2006: How close of a cousin is your cousin? If it's a distant relative, it may not be that big of a deal. When I was in high school, I was dating a girl that was a year behind me in school. I introduced her to my parents. My mother (my family genealogy ... (read in full...)
The girl I love cheats all the while and is destroying me, my wife is great but I dont love her...
Q. My life has been turned upside down. I was in an unhappy marriage and eventually seperated and went to stay at my mums. My wife was supportive and was always willing to take me back and make it work between us. She loved me unconditionally. My ...
A. 30 August 2006: I don't know what kind of help you're looking for. You obviously have created a tangled web. My advice is to crawl on your hands and knees back to your wife and beg her for forgiveness. If you don't love her, let her go and move on with her life. As ... (read in full...)
Whats wrong with ginger?!!
Q. Hi, I dont understand, my boy mate has ginger hair and he finds it really dificult to get girlfriends. but I dont understand it, I have been out with ginger boys, I love ginger hair :D so why wont other girls go out with ginger haired boys???...
A. 30 August 2006: Wow. I never knew there were people that disliked red-heads, because of their red hair! I have a nephew who is a big strapping lad, 6' and 190 lbs and he's only 14 (and he's not Irish). He has the ladies (girls) chasing him. But that's in the U.S. I ... (read in full...)
Whats wrong with ginger?!!
Q. Hi, I dont understand, my boy mate has ginger hair and he finds it really dificult to get girlfriends. but I dont understand it, I have been out with ginger boys, I love ginger hair :D so why wont other girls go out with ginger haired boys???...
A. 30 August 2006: I like Ginger, from Gilligan's Island. LOL. I assume ginger hair is a Queen's English term. Being from the states, I'm not certain, because I've never heard of ginger hair before. I assume it is reddish-brown hair. I don't know anyone that discrimi... (read in full...)
He cheated, I will forgive, I ask if he still wants me, he doesnt know!!!!!
Q. Hi. I've been married for 2 years and recently discovered my husband has been cheating. It started 1yr ago almost to the date of our anniversary. He has been lying to me for the past year about this and I learned last month he has been "miserable"...
A. 30 August 2006: Ditto, Dr. Pete. He said what I meant, only a lot more eloquently. My heart goes out to you. ... (read in full...)
He cheated, I will forgive, I ask if he still wants me, he doesnt know!!!!!
Q. Hi. I've been married for 2 years and recently discovered my husband has been cheating. It started 1yr ago almost to the date of our anniversary. He has been lying to me for the past year about this and I learned last month he has been "miserable"...
A. 30 August 2006: You are on the horns of a dilemma. Personally, I'd move out and get a lawyer. This guy doesn't deserve your forgiveness, nor does he apparently want it. He obviously doesn't take your marriage very seriously, and I wouldn't spend another day with ... (read in full...)
We had sex with no condom..but he didn't ejaculate. I am so scared of being pregnant! Advice needed.
Q. my boyfriend and i had sex for the fist time yesterday. we didnt use a condom, but he didnt cum. im still scared of being pregnant. can someone help me? what do I do....
A. 29 August 2006: There's a pill called 'the morning after pill'. That might work if it's available to you. Otherwise, I guess you'll have to wait and see what develops, if anything. If you miss your period, then you should start thinking about what to do. In the ... (read in full...)
I'm miserable and don't know how to be happy! Can anyone help?
Q. I always feel miserable. Everyone around me is having a great time and always happy, and I'm always miserable. I can't smile because I always look like an idiot when I do, but I don't know what has caused it but I don't know how to be happy. C...
A. 29 August 2006: Hi. I would suggest professional help. It sounds like you are suffering from depression. It can be helped with medication and behavior therapy. Things may seem bleak and miserable, but believe me when I say there is light at the end of the tunnel. ... (read in full...)
After 4 years she suddenly said she doesnt know what she wants!! As far as I can tell theres nothing wrong!!
Q. ive been with my girlfiend for nearly 4 years, i do anything she wants and we have been really happy,, i made her dinner the other day with flowers and everything just normal,, we wnet up stairs everything was fine.. then she just bursts into tears ...
A. 28 August 2006: I've been on the same side as this before too. I suspected someone else was making inroads into her emotional heart, and lo and behold, I ran into her one night when she was shopping, having a conversation with a guy that seemed like more than just ... (read in full...)
I have cheated
Q. i have bein going out with my boyfreind for a year and a half he his my soul mate, i have recently cheated on him with someone reaaly special and means alot to me, i dont know how i feel abot him cause a ge reallt jealous of him being with other ...
A. 28 August 2006: From what I gather, you cheated on your soul mate, with someone who is really special. I thought a soul mate was someone really special. Apparently, in your case, not so much. I think you should go back to school and forget about dating for a while. ... (read in full...)
My husband insults me...what shall I do!
Q. My husband and I have been together since we were 15 we are now 26 and I accepted his moods and the fact that he made it clear that I should not expect romance as its not in his nature. We never fought. I thought we had the perfect marriage. He ...
A. 28 August 2006: Hi. I'm not sure what the perfect marriage is, but what you describe sure doesn't sound like it. If he insults you, says he doesn't love you, and apparently doesn't show you affection, why did he marry you in the first place (and why did you ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm ruining his life because of my moods...
Q. I started seeing my boyfriend when we were both with previous partners. We work together, but in separate offices, I'm nearly 21 and he's 31. We have been together properly for about 5 months. He has a daughter from his previous relationship and ...
A. 25 August 2006: I've dated women who "got into moods" over my seeing my ex-wife and my son. I have never touched my ex-wife (nor any desire to) since we divorced more than 5 years ago, so he is probably telling you the truth when he says it is over between them. He ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm ruining his life because of my moods...
Q. I started seeing my boyfriend when we were both with previous partners. We work together, but in separate offices, I'm nearly 21 and he's 31. We have been together properly for about 5 months. He has a daughter from his previous relationship and ...
A. 25 August 2006: I've dated women who "got into moods" over my seeing my ex-wife and my son. I have never touched my ex-wife (nor any desire to) since we divorced more than 5 years ago, so he is probably telling you the truth when he says it is over between them. He ... (read in full...)
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