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I'm 15 and when I orgasm a lot of semen (too much) comes out.This never used to happen before. What's going on?
Q. hey, well me and my girlfriend have been together for 7 months (im 15 shes 14). We lost our virginities to each other a couple of weeks ago. The problem was that i came really quickly, i had this problem at the beginning of the relationship when she ...
A. 19 January 2007: I read about a guy whose wife used his penis as a pacifier and sucked on it all the time. She even went to bed at night with it in her mouth. It got to the point where the guy was oozing cum all of the time. The doctor told him to keep his wife away ... (read in full...)
Why did he have 15 pair of women's size 10 shoes in his closet?
Q. Hi there wondering if you can help with this situation that is really bothering me i was with my boyfriend for 2 years and so deeply in love with him he had his issues as do we all but as he lost his mother and didn't have much family he begun too ...
A. 19 January 2007: Did you look in his closet or dresser to see if he had any gowns, nighties, or other female apparel? He might just like to strut around his flat with the shoes on, or he might be a full blown cross-dresser. If he won't tell you, then there's a good ... (read in full...)
I find myself being very nervous about driving. Any tips to dealing with this?
Q. I get nervous abour driving on the highway I do it right and need it for working and find many lorries and special vehicles on the way ,I even have nightmares about driving from an different place and see the car from outside, any tips to get more ...
A. 19 January 2007: Do some meditation and relaxation before you get in the car. Once in the car, play music, sing along, think about doing something you enjoy doing, like exercising, sunbathing, golfing, whatever.
I hope this helps. Good luck!
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I broke up with my girlfriend for various reasons but now I'm wondering if we should give it another go. Should I?
Q. I need help please. I have been in the relationship for 2 years with this girl, I was planning my life with her, because I loved her. We had our problems as well, she was very short tempered, and wanted everything her way, I resented that and stayed ...
A. 18 January 2007: You have to sort this one out for yourself, I'm afraid. Is the drama and tension worth the aggravation? I've been in similar relationships and sometimes you don't feel alive unless there is conflict. When there is no conflict, it is boring. You may ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and when I orgasm a lot of semen (too much) comes out.This never used to happen before. What's going on?
Q. hey, well me and my girlfriend have been together for 7 months (im 15 shes 14). We lost our virginities to each other a couple of weeks ago. The problem was that i came really quickly, i had this problem at the beginning of the relationship when she ...
A. 18 January 2007: Au contraire, Appygal, that's the reason it IS ILLEGAL in the U.S. They are both UNDER the legal age of consent in every state in the U.S. It is 16 in some, 17 and 18 in others.
But they may live in Timbuktu, and they may not have age of consent ... (read in full...)
My GF is always moody and depressed. She says a baby will change that. Should I give her one?
Q. I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for a little over a year now, but over the past month she's been becoming more and more moody, getting very depressed saying she wants a baby. I'm only 17 and we're both going to uni next year, and I do...
A. 18 January 2007: I agree with Dr. Pete. ARE YOU CRAZY!!!!
Your girlfriend sounds like she may be suffering from depression. Babies and mothers with depression don't mix. She needs professional help. If you want to help her, see that she gets it. ... (read in full...)
My gf says she doesn't love me anymore! What am supposed to do? Help me plz
Q. my girlfriend say's she doesn't love me anymore, what am i meant to do? i have been with her for the last 9 months, she say that her feelings have gone and she doesnt feel the same way anymore, but only a week ago she told me she loves me, i really ...
A. 18 January 2007: I agree with CD206, except for one thing . . . I'd stay away from her. Let her stew in her own juices, so to speak. She'll either realize that she can't live without you and want you back, or she'll realize that she can live without you and that's ... (read in full...)
Can anyone tell me why men are such commitment phobes?
Q. Why do men fear relationships/commitment so much, even if they fall in love? Why can't they just "go with the flow"??...
A. 18 January 2007: Maybe the men you're longing for aren't "flowing" in the same direction as you. LOL.
Maybe they don't see the "big picture" as well as you. . . or maybe they don't like what they see. There are all sorts of reasons. A 50% divorce rate might have... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's fertility test came up with poor results... what can I say to him?
Q. Hello all please help me! Im 19yrs old. Me and my boyfriend recently took fertility tests. My result was fine but his was not. Hes finding it really difficult to cope with the fact that its a high possibility that he cannot have kids. And I dont ...
A. 18 January 2007: When you took the fertility tests and discovered his was low, did your doctor offer any advice? There are a lot of factors that can cause poor results, including certain diets, consumption of alcohol, etc. I'd follow up with your doctor and see what ... (read in full...)
More than anything, I want a baby! How can I persuade my bf to give me one?
Q. Right before i even say this i know your going to start going on about how young i am and how i should live my life but i dont want that i want advice, NOT a lecture thanks xxx I want a baby, I've thought about it alot and have decided that i w...
A. 18 January 2007: Here's an idea! Go to a home for unwed mothers and spend the day with them. If there isn't a home like that near you, volunteer at a nursery for about a month. See what it's really like to take care of a baby. Take into consideration who is going to ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and when I orgasm a lot of semen (too much) comes out.This never used to happen before. What's going on?
Q. hey, well me and my girlfriend have been together for 7 months (im 15 shes 14). We lost our virginities to each other a couple of weeks ago. The problem was that i came really quickly, i had this problem at the beginning of the relationship when she ...
A. 18 January 2007: You should be worried less about how much cum you're producing and more worried about what kind of birth control you are using, unless you plan on being a 15 year old father, with a 14 year old mother for a girlfriend.
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I'm 18 and my left breast is smaller that the right breast. Is this normal?
Q. I'm 18 and my left breast is slightly smaller than the other, is this normal? Is there anything I can do to physically even them out, not with padding but the actual breast? I do girly push ups and light weight lifting to perk them, but is there a ...
A. 17 January 2007: I think a perfect pair of matching breasts are the exception, rather than the rule. You are probably more aware of their difference than anyone else would be. If they are way out of wack, you can have plastic surgery, to balance them out.
If you ... (read in full...)
He got blown by a Mexican stripper, ever since he's been scared to get intimate with me!
Q. last summer my fiance went on vacation to mexico.while he was there he went to a strip club and received oral sex from a stripper.he even ejaculated in her mouth!!!!!!!!!!after that occured he obviously told me and immediately he went to the doctor ...
A. 17 January 2007: It seems as though there is more to this than meets the eye. I've never heard of anyone getting a disease from a blowjob, Mexican or otherwise, but I guess it's possible.
If he is really paranoid about this, then he needs to seek some prof... (read in full...)
My fiance arranged a meeting for he and I without consulting me first. It seems my opinion doesn't matter. Am I wrong to feel hurt and upset by this?
Q. im currently engaged to my fiance of 4yrs,lately hes been distant,i believed we had a good relationship until the other day when he decided to arrange a meeting and agreed,he consulted me after he`d done this,am i wrong to be hurt and upset that he ...
A. 17 January 2007: I don't get it. How do you arrange a meeting with someone and not tell them? Clue me in. ... (read in full...)
Would my man be embarrassed to receive roses at work?
Q. I want to send the man I love a bunch of roses, just cos im a bit of a soppy romantic and want to suprise him. However he is at work all day and so if I sent them to his home he wouldnt get them. Do you think it would be too embarrassing for him to ...
A. 17 January 2007: I'd be flattered and surprised. Go for it!
Real men do eat quiche, and they don't mind getting flowers either.
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Can guys sleep with girls and not get emotionally attached?
Q. I have been sleeping with a guy whos one of my friends, its been going on for a few months now, most weekends that we go out together he ends up at my house. At first i was ok about it, because i had just come out of a long relationship and it was ...
A. 17 January 2007: Sorry to be blunt, but you are a convenience. And yes, guys can sleep with women and not be emotionally attached.
If I were you, I'd tell him that you can remain friends but that's it. No fringe benefits. Find someone that appreciates you for you.... (read in full...)
I find my husband-to-be an irritating little nerd... give me a wake-up call
Q. I find my bloke an irritating little nerd! Honestly, we are getting married in 8 weeks time and he gets on my nerves. He picks at my son (aged 15). States all the jobs he is 'going to do' and nothing gets done. He works shifts and sometimes we don't ...
A. 17 January 2007: Sounds like a romance made in heaven. LOL.
Seriously, I think it's time to rethink the marriage deal. You're not getting any younger, but you don't want to spend any time in a marriage where you don't respect each other.
Move on, before it's too... (read in full...)
My bf is regularly talking to a female friend on the phone. Do you think he could be cheating?
Q. i have been with bf for 13 years. recently i found out i could screen his calls and found a number that hed been ringing 3/4 times a day i got a friend to ring the number and found it was a female.I have been having these dreams that he is cheating ...
A. 17 January 2007: First of all, 13 years seems like an awful long time to be bf/gf. What's the future hold for the two of you? Children?
My advice: Ask him what it is he wants from your relationship. If there's no reason to stay together other than comp... (read in full...)
My husband keeps meeting up with his ex, I try not to let it bother me but truth is it does.Why does he want to keep meeting with her?
Q. My husband texts his ex girlfriend and meets her every week. He doesn't think I should be jealous about this. I try not to let it bother me as he is genuinely in love with me. However, I can't get over the fact that he would even want to meet ...
A. 17 January 2007: It sounds strange to me too.
I think you've hit on a solution . . . start calling on an old boyfriend and see how your husband likes it. What's good for the goose is good for the gander, so they say.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
I met a guy who is perfect for me but he has two kids from a previous marrige. I feel that everyone is prejudiced against us. What should we do?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a problem. I met this man 1 yr and some months ago , he was nice and really a wonderful guy....in other words perfect for me...but he came with bagage.He was married and had 2 kids from his previous marriage.When we met , he had ...
A. 17 January 2007: I'd suggest you find some new friends. . . and stay away from his ex. Talk with an attorney. Since she won't sign the divorce papers, there needs to be some guidelines set as to visitation and so forth. She has no right to be in his face or yours. . ... (read in full...)
Can't stand to be without my ex... what can I do?
Q. My girlfriend finished with me 2 days ago, the reason she said was we grow apart witch I think is rubish. We been together for 4 cracking year! I know she still love and she keep texting me ervery hour. I cant stand it without her and i want to be ...
A. 17 January 2007: I agree with "I Don't Lie". Give her some breathing room. Here's a little script for you to memorize:
"I'm sorry, but I don't want to lose you, but if this relationship is over, I want to break it off clean. I don't want you texting me, and I don'... (read in full...)
I'm married but my male friend confessed he had feelings for me. I haven't heard from him for a while. Do you think its over with he and I?
Q. Hi there, I've been happily married for 10 years. I recently met a really nice guy who i thought would make a good friend. We have been chatting a bit; he calls to my place of work to see me (i work in a public building). He doesn't text or ...
A. 17 January 2007: If it isn't it, it should be. He made his intentions known and you told him that you were "unfortunately" happily married. I don't get the "unfortunately" part, but that's for you to figure out.
He wants to pursue more than a friendship. . . and ... (read in full...)
When I have sex, my vagina smells weird...why is is?
Q. im a little curious about this sex thing..uhm..why does everytime i had sex with my bf..my vagina startin to smell weird..is there anything i can prevent the smell?..i need some advice please!!...
A. 17 January 2007: I think what you're are smelling is the "essence of sex." Nothing to get uptight about. It washes away. . . .... (read in full...)
Everyone says I'm not over my ex...how can I tell if I am or not?
Q. Valentine's Day is nearly ere. my ex girlfriend and myself r getting so close on our friendship, she wants me to buy her a Valentine's Day card and gift. and she wants to spend Valentine's Day with me. 5 week's apart and today at the trafford ...
A. 17 January 2007: How can you tell she is your "ex?" It sounds like you are still in a relationship to me. I don't know what to make of all that's going on with you two, but she sure doesn't sound like an "ex" to me.
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Would this stop you from marrying her?
Q. Open question would you date a young lady who does oral sex once in her past,would you make her be your wife or girlfrend. Would you date her...
A. 16 January 2007: Come one. . . you're not 22-25 are you? Really? Nah, you're really l0 aren't you? LOL.
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My bf gave me a black eye! He says he'll change. I don't know what to do.
Q. Hello,im 21 and i have been in a relationship with an amazing guy for 4 months. We planned to get engaged this year and i really know i love this man. But just over a week ago we had a row, to which he hit me in the face and i still have (a week ...
A. 16 January 2007: I'll tell you what to do. . . RUN.
I've given this advice before, and I hope people are listening (or reading). The first time your "boyfriend" or "spouse" hits you, should be last time. You should have called the police and have him arrested for ... (read in full...)
We used to contact each other daily, now she only replies every 3 days. Is she forgetting about me?
Q. Hi, I have been with my current girlfriend since around November/December and we contacted each other daily, spending all our credit on each other. Recently though she seems to be ignoring my texts and only replying every 3 or 4 days when ...
A. 16 January 2007: I think you might wait until she contacts you. It sounds like she may be backing off a little. . . for who knows what reason. Women. . . you can't live with them, and you can't live with them. LOL.
If she's too busy to text you, then, she's too ... (read in full...)
How do I know if this guy is nice... and rebuild my trust in men?
Q. I am 18 years old. My bf of 1 year broke up with me 2 months ago. For most of this time and still now I thought no one could ever be as good as him and I didn't think I could trust anyone ever again. Yet now that I am interested in someone else i am ...
A. 16 January 2007: You can't judge everyone by one bad experience. That's just a part of life. . . not everyone will meet up to your expectations, but you can't stop meeting people. . . or living. Enjoy your life and all of your experiences . . . good and bad.
G... (read in full...)
How do I let her know I want her back... even though she's moved on?
Q. my girlfriend of seven years left me in november and is now seeing someone else i was just wondering how i let her know i still love her and that i want her back....
A. 16 January 2007: You don't. You need to move on.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
He cheated and now..he texts me all the time that he loves me! Does he really love me?
Q. My problem is extremely complex! Me and my fiance split a year and a half ago after I found out he had been cheating on me. I had some tell tale signs to warn me but simply chose to ignore them. Since our split we've had a very tempramental ...
A. 16 January 2007: Your ex-fiance is a tool. He doesn't love you. . . he only wants to play with your heart strings. I've seen clowns like this all of my life. They don't change. Change your phone number if you have to. . . but lose this loser.
Find someone that real... (read in full...)
He hates that I put my kids first and he wants me to move away with him! What are your thoughts on this?
Q. I am a mother of 2 children and have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years. He doesn't like to come to my house and feels I put my kids first although I do all I can to make him happy including staying at his house. He wants me to sell my house and ...
A. 16 January 2007: My ex-wife moved 1800 miles away from our 3 year-old child to be with her "soul mate." She moved to an area where he controlled everything. She had no friends and was isolated. According to her father, her "soul mate" beat her up and tried drowning ... (read in full...)
Thought she and I were doing well until she said "another guy" spent the weekend with her! Any advice?
Q. known some lass for about 4 months now get on like a house on fire always great laughs and jokes etc always something to say never ever does the convo dry up and fallin for each othere , well till the bombshell hit me tonight not seen her about f...
A. 16 January 2007: She might just be telling the truth. I have visited female friends and spent the night and didn't sleep with them.
She's 200 miles away. You've known her for 4 months. You don't own her. She sounds like a fun person, so it might just be your loss... (read in full...)
My ex wants to keep having sex with me but he wants to continue living with another woman! Help me out here?
Q. I was in a relationship for 7 yrs, but have since seperated. He left me for my friend and neighbour. Its been 5 months now that "tom" has been living with my old neighbour "carry". Tom came over on the weekend to pick up our 2 kids for his visite ...
A. 16 January 2007: Tom wants his cake and eat it too. Bully for him. You need to tell Tom to go back to "Carrie", and to stay out of your drawers. . . unless you enjoy being used.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
My best friend said he's in love with me and it's a dream come true! He hasn't made much contact recently - what should I do?
Q. my best friend (male) admitted to haven falling in love with me and it's a dream come true! The thing is before when we were just friends i would always be the one keeping us in touch but now things have changed and i want to play hard to get. It ...
A. 15 January 2007: "I want to play hard to get." What kind of crap is that? I hope he finds someone else. . . who doesn't play games. ... (read in full...)
He tells me to grow out my hair and compares me to others. Now he's picky about what I eat! Is this headed into an abusive relationship?
Q. My now fiance always tells me that I should grow my hair long (like how I used to have it). He'll even point out different girls and say things like "You should grow it that long." It made me mad so finally I said something, and he ignored me for ...
A. 15 January 2007: Only you know where your relationship is headed. But it does sound he has some control issues. I'd be damn sure he is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with before you say "I do." If you don't like it now, chances are it won't change ... (read in full...)
How can I make "down there" smell nicer?
Q. as my previous question "i want to do oral sex but im scared of what i luk like.."..i want to do it now, but i kind ov have a smell, nd i dnt think its attractive, iv used saop nd everything but it doesnt work..wat can i do to stop smellin..i feel ...
A. 15 January 2007: I'll let the ladies in the house answer this one. I might have put some scary ideas in your head with my "tuna processing plant" answer from before. LOL.
Relax and enjoy. . . .
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If your partner was cheating...would you want to know?
Q. if your partner was cheating would you want to know?...
A. 15 January 2007: I would. I don't cheat and I expect the same from my partner. Do unto others. . . .
But if the reason you are asking the question is because you are thinking of telling a friend that you know her boyfriend/husband or girlfriend/wife is chea... (read in full...)
Found texts and naked pics... is my boyfriend a gay?
Q. Hi all I have been going out with my boyfriend for over two years. Over a year ago I read some texts he had sent to another male, he said he missed him and had got him a present.He also asked him if he wanted to meet. When I questioned him about th...
A. 15 January 2007: You say he denies knowing who they are, so he obviously knows that you have been prying. It also seems you have issues of trust, or you wouldn't be prying in the first place.
I know one thing - if my girlfriend is sending naked pictures of hers... (read in full...)
My tarot card said I'd get caught if I kept seeing these two boys! Who should I choose?
Q. I'm seeing two guys. One is my boyfriend, one is getting close to becoming the same. I've met both of their parents, all their friends, and like them both very much. I know this can't last forever, and the more serious I become with them both, the ...
A. 15 January 2007: I don't know squat about tarot cards, but I do know that if you burn a candle at both ends, you'll get burned. If you can be honest with them and yourself, and tell them that you are dating other people, then I don't see any reason why you can't ... (read in full...)
He wants to give me oral... I'm worried about how I look "down below"!
Q. my boyfriend wants to have oral sex with me, but i am scared about how i look below even though we have sex often? shud i b confident about what i look like down below? xxxxxxxxx-xxxxxxxxx...
A. 15 January 2007: From a guys point of view: Forget the VEET and leave it au natural. . . or you can trim it up a little if it looks like the forest primeval. But if you start getting too fancy down there, he'll think you're a stripper or a porn star. LOL.
Trust me. ... (read in full...)
In her past she cheated on other bf's and now I'm struggling to trust her! Any advice?
Q. SORRY ITS LONG My girlfriend has been away from me for a month. I tell you those first few weeks were rough. She didn't call me, she hardly talked when we were on the phone. Minimum time on the phone was about 5 min. I confronted her a...
A. 13 January 2007: Actions do speak louder than words. Her actions are telling you that you aren't that important to her. If I were you, I would try to forget about it, and her. Two can play the "I'm too busy" game. You need to get busy finding someone else to get ... (read in full...)
In the last month..we barely talk now! I am deeply upset...what is going on with this guy?
Q. I writing here for help because i so badly need it. I feel like I'm lost in a never ending situation. I can't find ANYONE who can help me. I have even tried help lines and all that where you speak to actual counsellors but after talking to them for ...
A. 13 January 2007: It sounds like he has lost interest for one reason or another. Maybe he sees that you are too emotionally attached, and that might scare him. And even though you are miles apart, he may feel like you are smothering him. He might just be busy with ... (read in full...)
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