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writes: My fiancee has recently decided to take on two new jobs, on top of his daily 9-5 job he currently has. He has decided to open up a new business with a former coworker, as well as a new job as a promoter for monthly music events. Combined the jobs will take up the majority of his time. I am concerned as we are planning our upcoming wedding (in July) and I know how difficult the next 9 months are, as well as the first year of marriage. I told him that I am worried about how much time he will be spending away from home, and how it's important to me that we spend a good amount of time together our first year as a married couple. He is angry at me for this, and has accused me of being unsupportive and unconcerned for our financial future. I don't want to be married to a man who works 80 hours a week! How do I tell him my feelings, while still showing him I understand his goals and desires?
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (2 November 2006):
 I think you already told him how you feel. You don't want to be married to someone who works 80 hours a week! If he doesn't understand that, then he isn't into being married. I've said it before and I'll say it again - nobody on their death bed ever said that they wished they had spent more time working. Family comes first. If he can't devote time to a marriage, you might as well plan your divorce while your planning your marriage. It ain't gonna work.
Good luck!
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