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I lied about my sexual experiences - is there a way he could know?
Q. ok so i told my boyfriend that i'm a virgin which is true but i also lied to him and told him iv'e been fingered and eaten out when i really haven't my question is will he know that i haven't actually had that experience when he eats me out or ...
A. 19 October 2007: There's no way he'll know unless you tell him.
It's interesting that you made up the story about "being fingered and eaten out". Why you would do that is beyond me.
BTW, I haven't heard anyone use the term "being eaten out" in a long time. Be... (read in full...)
It's been 7 months since I last had Sex, and it's driving me mad! Any advice?
Q. Hi Aunts. It's been 7 months since I last had Sex. My girlfriend split with me about 6 months ago after dating for a year and 10 months, and I still love her and miss her and the relationship we once had. She has since gone off to college and is n...
A. 17 October 2007: That's why God gave us hands. . . .
Seriously . . . it's time to move on and hopefully find a new love in your life. To dwell in the past is a losing proposition.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
A week after the break up, she's already found somebody else. I feel I can't function well without a woman in my life. How do I get over her?
Q. Well hello Me and my girlfriend just broke up and we've dated for just over three years. it was a rough break up, we both said somethings that were uncalled for. its been about a week since i saw her when we broke up but she has already moved on...
A. 16 October 2007: If she found someone within a week, it sounds like she was looking for a way out of your relationship and had someone already "waiting in the wings".
You need to find yourself. Nobody needs someone else in their life to function. Focus on thin... (read in full...)
We used to be all over each other, now he won't even kiss me when he goes somewhere! What's wrong w/ him?
Q. hiya guys!!!!!!!! xxxxxxxxx I have been with my boyfriend for about 3-5 weeks and we used to be so close and everthing. We went to the cinemas together and hanley and everwhere together and we used to be all over each other all the time!!!!...
A. 16 October 2007: At age 10 - 12, you shouldn't be "all over" anybody. You should be "all over" getting your schooling and having fun with friends. You're too young . . . that's the bottom line.
Forget about him. ... (read in full...)
We used to be all over each other, now he won't even kiss me when he goes somewhere! What's wrong w/ him?
Q. hiya guys!!!!!!!! xxxxxxxxx I have been with my boyfriend for about 3-5 weeks and we used to be so close and everthing. We went to the cinemas together and hanley and everwhere together and we used to be all over each other all the time!!!!...
A. 16 October 2007: At age 10 - 12, you shouldn't be "all over" anybody. You should be "all over" getting your schooling and having fun with friends. You're too young . . . that's the bottom line.
Forget about him. ... (read in full...)
I kicked my bf out after I caught him looking at porn and am so down.
Q. hi there, I am feeling extremely down right now. I found out my bf has been looking at porn again even though he promised me he wouldn't so i kicked him out this time had enough of him making me feel like crap. Yeah i know what your gonna say porn...
A. 12 October 2007: If you don't like porn, don't watch it. If your significant other likes it, and you can't stand it, do what you did. Kick them out. End of story.
Maybe you should have potential boyfriends fill out a questionaire before you date them.
Do you like... (read in full...)
I'm in an awful situation - can anyone offer some sensible advice?
Q. hi, im 16 and been dating a 21year old and he slept with my friend before me and she is 13weeks pregnant. Then he got with me and I'm late. I dont no whether or not to stay with him as he has offerd me crack. I'm in a awful situation.. I told him ...
A. 12 October 2007: It sounds like this guy gets around and is a crack-head too. A real catch. As far as advice for you . . . you date a guy who just knocked up your friend? You should have come for advice before you started dating this guy. Since you didn't, let's ... (read in full...)
I thought I was in, she didn't!
Q. I've been going out with this girl for 6 months.We recently had our 1st sex.Da 1st tym i's 2 nervous and pulled out too quickly.2nd time i lost my erection while trying to penetrate.3rd i kept my erection but after asking how it was,was told to ...
A. 12 October 2007: Unless you're hung like a 2 year old and/or she's as big as a mayonaise jar, it sound's like you 2 need to be communicating a little more. Is it in yet? That's funny stuff. ... (read in full...)
Can we be friends 'with benefits'?
Q. My ex broke up with me a cpl of weeks ago and its been up and down more than ever before. We was together almost 7 months so the initial break up was really hard for me at first. As days go by the pain seems to weaken which is a BIG relief. One of ...
A. 12 October 2007: Who is going to benefit from this arrangement? Not you, I suspect. You need to find someone that is totally committed to you only . . . no matter how "well endowed" or "well in doubt" they are down there. LOL. ... (read in full...)
I'm 20 and sick of being single... is this what's making me so unhappy?
Q. Iam 20 years old and Iam so sick of being single. I have not been in a relationship in 2 years. Some people tell me to stop focusing so much on finding a boyfriend but I cant. I just cant meet any guy, let alone the right guy. I dont meet guys in ...
A. 12 October 2007: Maybe you're giving off some bad vibes. If you're anxious and desperate, it probably shows when you meet someone new. You've answered your own question when you said you should stop focusing on finding a boyfriend. Find your your self first. Once ... (read in full...)
Is three months long enough after a break up
Q. I never had problems like this,so here goes. I moved to florida like 6 months ago, and i keep seeing this girl. Every time i see her i get goose bumps.I will call her *M* I finally get the courage to strike up a conversation,she is just very uni...
A. 12 October 2007: When I read your letter, I thought of the movie "10", when Dudley Moore saw Bo Derrick running along the beach and he envisioned himself in a passionate embrace with her, along the waters edge. If you saw the movie, you know that the woman he ... (read in full...)
I feel so bad, I can't say goodbye, and can't stop crying.
Q. Every year, I have to go to America to visit aunties and uncles that live over there. I have a great time when I am with them as we are all very close, but when I have to come home, it breaks my heart knowing that I will be so far away from them ...
A. 10 October 2007: Maybe you could keep in touch on a daily basis via emails, photos, etc. Or maybe look into going to college near them . . . and then who knows, maybe you'll become a U.S. citizen.
- "Give me your tired, your poor,
your huddled masses yearning... (read in full...)
He's verbally abusive but I love him
Q. Dear Cupid, You really got it wrong this time. I just broke up with my boyfriend of one year and am going through some hard times. I really love him, but after struggling for this whole time we were together I finally see the part of him I could n...
A. 9 October 2007: Don't blame Cupid. Some times it's hard to know if someone is a jerk until you get to know them.
I'll give you the same advice that you've probably already read on here but I'll repeat it: Go out with friends; take a class in origami (or anyt... (read in full...)
I need more commitment from him. Does he want me or not?
Q. Can I please have your advice? I have been seeing my boyfriend for over 1 year. We see each other a lot less than I would like (once a week) as he works shifts and seems to be busy working a lot. Every time I ask for more of a commitment he tells ...
A. 9 October 2007: I can understand his situation completely. He is going through a tough time. Divorce is stressful. . . been there, done that. There's an old expression, once bitten, twice shy. Once you've been "bitten" by divorce, you're not apt to jump into ... (read in full...)
I want a threesome, she's reluctant. What do I do now?
Q. Ok here's the story, I hooked up with this chick I met a little while ago and we get along famously. We speak often, have a good time when we go out, great sex albeit a little infrequently due to distance constraints. It hasn't been going long ...
A. 9 October 2007: If a 3some is worth losing this woman over (you do seem a bit obsessed with the idea, btw), go hire yourself 2 hookers. You'll get the experience out of your system, and maybe, if you're lucky, your new girlfriend will still want you around. if she ... (read in full...)
She had a one night stand and I'm struggling to accept that. Should I stay or should I go?
Q. Hello, I am flattened by emotions right now and need a little advice. Today I learned that my girlfriend of 6 1/2 years had a one-night stand about 3 months ago. She tells she was wasted and doesn't even remember how it happened. I am very confus...
A. 9 October 2007: It always hurts to know that someone you felt you knew and trusted let you down. One of the other responders makes a good point. It is hard to keep high school sweethearts from never experiencing anyone else throughout their entire life. You're ... (read in full...)
My wife climaxes fast and I'd like your advise on how to extend it.
Q. hi, i am 35 years old healthy male. Married for 9 years. Me and my wife have sex for 5-6 days in a week. My wife climaxes almost every time and she throughly enjoys the occasion. My concern is she climaxes fast and i want your advise on how to ...
A. 6 October 2007: "My wife comes too fast"? I've heard women complain that their husbands come too fast but never the other way around. Most women I've known could come more than once, so just hang in there and wait for the next tide to roll in. Or tell her to ... (read in full...)
We're on/off, on/off - am I using the right tactics?
Q. Hello. Bit of advice needed. Have had an affair for 6 months now and its been very draining on me as i am in love with the girl. It started out she was flattered with the attention, she worked in a different office and i e-mailed called etc. She...
A. 6 October 2007: She's cheating on her boyfriend with you. You're the "side dish", so to speak. If she's willing to drop the boyfriend to be with you full time. Fine. But remember this . . . she cheated on her current boyfriend to be with you. Would you trust a ... (read in full...)
How can I re-kindle my girlfriend's affection?
Q. my girlfriend of almost 2 years moved away to NJ for college. We used to spend every hour of everyday with each other especially the summer before she left. We were very affectionate. Now the weekends she comes home she shows no interest, i talked...
A. 6 October 2007: I have to agree with Tommy. She's lost interest, for one reason or another. She's moved on emotionally, and your best bet is to follow suit.
Good luck.
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My boyfriend kissed another guy. I am mostly ok with it, but a little concerned it might go further.
Q. Been daing this new guy for about 2 months. The other night we got pretty drunk and he made out with his guy friend. Said it was his "first male kiss", and I believe him. (He wont let me play with his anus when we're fooling around - FYI) We g...
A. 1 October 2007: I've been about as drunk as you can be without passing out and I've never kissed another guy, nor had the desire to. It sounds like he could be "curious-bi" or just "bi". It's hard to predict where this will lead. You'll have to wait and see. 2 ... (read in full...)
She said she needs her space and her friends say she will come back to me
Q. My girlfriend of 4 months has jsut left me 5 days ago, she doesn't want a relationship becasue she's jumped out of a two year one and went with me. She says she still loves and cares about me but just doesn't want a relationship at all with...
A. 31 July 2007: As hard as it may be, you need to do as she wishes. If it's space she wants, it's space she gets. Don't go to the boardwalk. Don't call her. Don't text her. Just move on . . . and the sooner you find someone else, the better.
Take it from some... (read in full...)
Am I stuck in that cycle of only 'wanting females that I can't have'...help?
Q. This is a little complicated so I'll give a bit of background information before I get into the problem. Since the time when I was 18 I've had about about 4 relationships lasting anywhere from 1 month to 1 year. Three out of those 4 ended after I ...
A. 11 June 2007: Maybe you just need to be a friend first and a boyfriend second. . . if you know what I mean. It sounds like you drop everything in your own life, to make accommodations for your relationships. It also appears that you get too close too fast. . . ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant but don't know if I want this baby... I'm not ready to have kids yet.
Q. Hey, so im 6 month pregnant and getting a ban on my ex for abusing me, i feel real bad as if IM in the wrong for him abusing me? but as many people said he was putting my baby in danger, im thinking about letting him come to the next scan with me ...
A. 28 May 2007: If your boyfriend is abusing you, NO, don't let him back into your life. There are alternative ways of raising a child at your age. Have you spoken to your parents? I've known a few parents who have raised a child of their own child as if it was ... (read in full...)
Why won't she let me cum on her face?
Q. She let's me do it in her mouth everytime I ask, even swallows sometimes. She let's me do it on he rear all the time and once I did on her breasts but she will not let me ejaculate on her face. Isn't it unusual? Why do you think that is?...
A. 21 May 2007: Stina - I think they like to "stimulate" some responses when things get a little slow around here. LOL.
Questions like "How come my girlfried screams when I put a hot branding iron on her ass?" always get a lot of responses. LOL. ... (read in full...)
She slept with someone else just to get back at me. Am I correct to have doubts about getting back together with her?
Q. My girlfriend and I broke up (mutually agreed upon) for irreconcilable differences. No cheating on either part. However, after I moved out (having lived together for two and a half years), I tried to get through the split-up as best I could, after ...
A. 17 May 2007: I assume your girlfriend is about the same age as you 41 - 50. That's a little old for playing "revenge" games. She's obviously too immature and too vindictive for a serious relationship.
Life's too short. Move on.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
Why do people turn their noses up at me just because I take pride in my self.
Q. Why do people turn their noses up at me just because I take pride in my self. like everyone i wash twice daily and i wash my hands all the time. i get up at 6 on a morning have a shower, dry, dry my hair, straighten my hair, do my make up, get ...
A. 17 May 2007: Why are you so concerned with what other people think? Be satisfied within your own skin and let everyone else stick their noses in the air or anywhere else they'd like to stick them. You seem to be happy with the way you look, and that's all that ... (read in full...)
My current gf nags me all the time and I find myself falling for my ex
Q. I have a girlfrien who nags me all the time, her mom doesnt like me because im a lil bigger... and she makes the biggest deals about everything...... i find my self falling in love with my ex, weve been talking for about a month now... and im not ...
A. 11 May 2007: You're awfully young for trying to juggle serious relationships. You should be having fun and enjoying yourself.
I don't get the line "her mom doesn't like me because I'm a lil bigger". Bigger than who?
Go out and have some fun.
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Im pregnant, I slept with the father once, how do I tell him ?
Q. I am 22 years old and just found out I am pregnant. The father is a recent college graduate. He and I slept together once after unfortunetly letting alcohol impair our judgement. we have hung out a couple times since and we have kissed a couple ...
A. 11 May 2007: The next time you "hang out", drop the bomb on him. It takes two to tango and if he's a real man, he'll face up to his responsibilty. If he disappears from your life, you'll need to do whatever it takes to raise the child as a single parent. Talk to ... (read in full...)
Whats the best time to get my Fiancee pregnant ?
Q. what can i do to get my fiance pregnant. Like i been trying for the past couple of month to get her pregnant but everytime her period comes on. Am i missing her most fertile periods or something and when would her most fertile periods be...?...
A. 11 May 2007: I have a few questions of my own:
1). Why would you want to?
2). Have you told her about your plans?
3). Why not wait until you're married?
4). What's the rush?
... (read in full...)
I'm serving in Iraq and I found out that my wife at home, is cheating! What should I do?
Q. I am a US service member serving my 2nd tour Iraq, I was recently informed by e-mail from a young woman who knows my wife that she's been cheating with her brother, while I've been gone. I love my wife, but what should I do, leave or work this out?...
A. 11 May 2007: It's not like you don't have enough stress in your life without your "friend" filling your ear with something that's going on between her brother and your wife (if it is the truth). I don't know what kind of friend does that. It's really not her ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend can't keep his hands off me in public. Is this normal?
Q. ok this may sound silly, but my boyfriend is obsessed with my boobs! everywhere we are he has his hand up my top. he even does this in public now. The other day we were sitting watching TV with my parents and he had his arm round me and was there ...
A. 10 May 2007: I think there is a time and place for everything. Watching TV with your parents isn't the time and place for feeling you up. He seems to think your body is his personal sex toy. You need to tell him otherwise, or his crass behavior will continue. ... (read in full...)
I've been depressed for so long.. How do I get rid of it without going to the doctors!?
Q. What is the best way to get rid of depression? I have had it for years and daren't go to the doctors. i don't want it on my records. What if this comes back to haunt me in the future. But - honestly i just cannot go on. i am so down all the time. I ...
A. 1 May 2007: Exactly what records are you afraid of having? That you need medical help? Would you feel the same way if you thought you had cancer? See a professional. Playing with over-the-counter drugs, herbs, and other home remedies is asking for trouble.
G... (read in full...)
What is the appeal of younger women to older guys?
Q. Ive just started dating a man who is older. Now obviously he appealed to me because he is good looking and more mature than guys my age. What i want to know is, what is the appeal of younger women to older guys?...
A. 11 April 2007: Hmmm, let's see. Could it be that an older man likes a younger women because of her hot, kickin', body? Maybe. Could it be that an older man likes to feel younger by having a young, hot looking woman on his arm? Possibly. Could it be that an older ... (read in full...)
Started an affair with a married guy--any advice?
Q. I have just started an affair, I have known my husband for 12 years and been married for 10 years. We have 2 yound kids and I love them very much...however I feel that I am falling in love with this other man. I do not feel quilty at all. I don't ...
A. 11 April 2007: I've never been through what you describe because I don't have affairs with married women. You've crossed the line and so has he. . . and you SHOULD feel guilty, for betraying the trust your family has in you. When they find out, and there's a good ... (read in full...)
My husband told me 5 days ago, he fathered a child with another woman! What should I do?
Q. Hi, I have been with my husband for 13 yrs, married for 7. My husband told me 5 days ago that he went with another girl in the village and she has now informed him he is the father of her child. She is 9 yrs old!!He says she has only just told him ...
A. 11 April 2007: You have to do what is best for you and your children.
As far as him fathering a child 9 years ago . . . according to your figures, you weren't married at the time. Right? Secondly, how does anyone know that he is the father of the 9 year old? The ... (read in full...)
He wants time to himself now, and we only see each other on weekends! What's up with this guy?
Q. I have been dating a 44 yr old divorcee male. We are the same age and have alot in common. He has told me that he "IS" my boyfriend and will date no one else. He tells me that I have not pushed him into anything as far as a relationship goes. ...
A. 11 April 2007: I think he told you what he is trying to say. He wants some time for himself. After my divorce, I was in no hurry to get involved in a new relationship. I have dated some, but like my free time too. I don't see anything wrong with seeing someone on ... (read in full...)
I dont feel the same way about my fiance that I once did, would this be wrong to marry him ?
Q. I am currently engaged to a wonderful guy, but I am not sure that I love him like I should. Occasionally I would get butterflies but not all the time. Also mostly everything he does bugs the crap out of me. I have my days where I can't get enough of ...
A. 10 April 2007: Don't get married to someone just because "they won't hurt you or leave you." That's hardly grounds for a successful marriage. I don't think you believe "he's the one" or you wouldn't be writing. If you don't love him, tell him and move on. It's not ... (read in full...)
My bf doesnt just flirt with other women, he gets their numbers!! Ive told him I'm not happy but he doesnt see it!!
Q. My boyfriend doesn't just flirt with women, he takes it a step farther by getting their numbers too. I take some of the blame for his behavior, I introduced him to a pickup artist book I was reading. Since he has read that book he has ...
A. 10 April 2007: Why don't you get him a book about treating your girlfriend with respect. I'm sure there are at least one or two books on the subject somewhere. Getting phone numbers of other women is just wrong. He sounds like he's either not that into you, or ... (read in full...)
Is she cheating and lying to me? Your advice is appreciated.
Q. Hey everyone, I'm new to this site but I need get some help with this before it slowly drives me insane and this seems to be the only place where i can do it. About a year ago my GF and I decided to take a break, I was having some personal issues ...
A. 9 April 2007: I think these 4 lines tell the story:
[20:08] Guy: where is his house? thought you might be avail this weekend
[20:08] Her: somewhere in roselle
[20:09] Her: i wont be available since im here
[20:09] Guy: i figured that
It's... (read in full...)
Question for the men: Would you consider a fulfilling sex life to be more of a priority over other aspects in a realtionship ?
Q. Question for the lads..Would you consider a fulfilling sex life with your partner as a top priority in your relationship or would other issues be more important to you ie companionship,compatibility etc? Comments appreciated....
A. 9 April 2007: I view sex as being a big part of a loving relationship but no more than caring, compatibility, and friendship. It's like baking a cake. You need all of the right ingredients to be successful. Sex is like the icing on the cake. Your relationship ... (read in full...)
He loves his daughter immensely, but doesnt feel, or act like other fathers, anything I can say or do to make him feel better ?
Q. My boyfriend has a seven years old daughter with his ex-wife. They have been separated for 4 years. He gets to see his daughter every second weekend, who stays over at his parent’s home. Sometimes during the week, he will bring her to the park or ...
A. 4 April 2007: I'm a divorced father with a 7 year old son, so I think I can relate. In my world, my son is #1. I brought him into to this world and I make sure he knows that I love him and that I'll always be there for him.
Since I work out of my home, I can ... (read in full...)
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