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| | *abrielle Stoker's profile:Qualified to help people? Don't really know. Am in my twenties, currently working in the hospitality industry. Very open-minded on sex, probably too active for my own good. Flatter myself into thinking I'm reasonably intelligent and believe that my upbringing, difficult as it was, has given me a decent perspective on life. |
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Girls carrying condoms.
Q. Hi, my boyfriend and I have discussed having sex and agreed that while we both would like to have sex with eachother there isn't a pressure on either of us to do it. This is fine , however a few days ago we were in a position where we were go...
A. 2 July 2010: Of course you should carry condoms. It's the sensible thing to do. I don't think it's slutty either, though some might have a different perspective. The thing to remember is; would you rathe be known as slutty or get pregnant/received an STD?... (read in full...)
I was a jerk and regret it, is there any hope?
Q. So, this girl at my high school was very obvious about liking me, she wanted to hold onto my arm going down stairs, was constantly watching me, turned in my direction, and other things. But when some other girls actually asked me out, i pulled my ...
A. 2 July 2010: Be nice to her, silly. That's all it takes. If you like her, show it!... (read in full...)
I'm 13, but seem to have a "Little Girl's Body"
Q. Mod Note: Poster's Original Title Ok, so I'm over 13 1/2 years old. And I'm really short. I'm just under 5ft. My dad is very short for a guy. And my mom is average height for a girl. My mom has very large breasts, she has to order them specaily. She ...
A. 2 July 2010: A lot of guys love petite girls. As for your body, you'll grow into it. At 13 you still have scope to....umm...expand.... (read in full...)
I love both my wife and her sister!
Q. hai my name is gopal am married with a girl, and she was my friend later we loved each other and got married. but later because of some issues some gap formed and this is mainly because sex. she is a sick often she will become sick so i wont a...
A. 2 July 2010: Well, the BEST thing you could do is to leave them both alone.
In any case, you don't deserve your wife. Your sister-in-law, on the other hand, comes across as an immoral and callous person, just like you. Maybe the two of you do deserve each oth... (read in full...)
He cheated because he was drunk and I cant get over it!
Q. Okay, so me and my boyfriend have been going out for 9 months...we started going out sept.7, 2009 and its now June.30, 2010... Back in Feburary he decided to throw a small party when his mother was away and get drunk...( one girl and 4 guys) well ...
A. 1 July 2010: I fully agree with 'TasteofIndia' below. Let me give a more pointed resposne (and I'm going to apologize for being frank here)
1. Do you think that he would of ever told me if there wasnt a possibility she could be pregnant
It's very unlikely. Me... (read in full...)
Should I tell my girlfriend I don't remember what happened?
Q. hey. One time i went to a pub/club without my girlfriend, and if anyone knows once you have a girlfriend girls suddenly want to talk to you, i told them all to leave me alone as i was not interested, throughout the night i kept drinking and went hom...
A. 1 July 2010: If you don't remember, you don't remember I guess, and your gf has probably done her independent verification (I know I would have) by asking your friends. If it's still an issue between the two of you, tell her that you don't recall anything and ... (read in full...)
I don't have feelings for him, but don't want to hurt him again!
Q. Dear Cupid, A few years back in high school, I really hurt one of my friends that /really/ liked me. He had asked me to Junior prom (I had a boyfriend at the time) and things happened, and he ended up being hurt and humiliated (not publicly...
A. 1 July 2010: The only thing I can think off is to let him down easy, and do it quickly. These things get messier the longer you take to do them.
Don't avoid him, but when you do meet, make it clear that your feelings for him are strictly platonic. It's har... (read in full...)
I know that men look at porn so why does he claim not to? I'm not the jealous type.
Q. Why do guys lie about watching porn? My boyfriend and I have been together for several years and at the beginning of our relationship would look at it together quite a lot, usually just for fun (i.e. trying to find the weirdest stuff we could) but ...
A. 29 June 2010: Are you sure this is about the porn that he apparently does not watch or are you looking for a reason to sabotage this? Some guys do get bored with porn, y'know. Those with jobs are sometimes just too busy for it!... (read in full...)
We are Both in Relationships, But he Wanta A Blow Job, Should I??
Q. Im 14 and this guy iv new for over10 years hes 15 and wants me to give him a blowjob and i said ill think about it..couse he gots a girl friend and i have a boy friend...i want to but dont know what i shoud do?...
A. 28 June 2010: My dear girl, you're only fourteen! Why are you even thinking about this? Just say NO.
At your age and in your situation (of already being in a relationship, you should definitely not contemplate this act at all!
Wait till you're 21 and si... (read in full...)
Why do I wish I was a girl?
Q. hi i am 17 years old and i am a male and i am not gay but i dream about having a vagina and being a girl and when i am alone i act like a girl and do girl things and a wear bras and thongs and paint my nails and put make up on and i feel like my ...
A. 28 June 2010: Well there's a lot of people like you. Look for more information on 'transexuals' and 'cross-dressing' on the WWW. Peronsally I find a few trannies quite fuckable. Not all, but a few, especially the ones who look particularly girly. I've always been ... (read in full...)
Is this platonic love? Why am I so attached to him?
Q. I have been with my husband for 12 years now, we have a son together, we have been very happy all these years. My husband is very affectionate with me, he adores everything I do at home or work. I have my own business and he helps me in every way he ...
A. 28 June 2010: There is such a thing as platonic love, so it may be that from your side. Sometimes we just like spending time with another person without sex coming into the picture and since society has trained us to believe that platonic love does not exist, we ... (read in full...)
I need help on how to act more mature!
Q. hi, im chelsea...i need help on how to act more mature...i mean i act myself all the time but im not mature.. i like to be funny and i love to act crazy but no one really likes the real me.. and boys dont either. i always scare boys away when i try ...
A. 28 June 2010: At your age it would be worrying if you were acting too mature. Whose approval exactly are you seeking anyway? 13-15 yr old boys are not knowing for wanting girls to be very 'mature'.... (read in full...)
Help! I'm afraid there's some physically wrong with me!
Q. hey. I wanted to ask is it natural for 16yo virgin boy, after getting an erection twice in 40min. period, not to get fully erected again when there's naked girl laying beside you and you're touching her? Because it has happened to me and I think ...
A. 28 June 2010: It's been known to happen, even to guys I've been with, so it's quite normal, I guess.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend called me mentally ill because I'm insecure about my body
Q. I hate my body, I don't know why, I just never feel adequate or beautiful, hot, sexy, whatever. I mean, a lot of it has to do with my face and hair, too. The two things that I can really do NOTHING about! But other than that I hate my small br...
A. 25 June 2010: There's two aspects to your question, you know. One is on your choice to remain single, the other is on your boy image. Regarding remaining single, there's nothing wrong with that. A lot of people are single, some of them are happy in that ch... (read in full...)
What if there IS a journal entry that I don't remember and I lose my son?
Q. I had something bad happen to me almost eight months ago. Me and my ex got back together almost 6 months ago. We have been married now for almost three months now. The person who did the bad thing to me is still insisting I'm lieing. My husband says ...
A. 25 June 2010: I'm sorry my dear but there just isn't enough information in this to give any sort of opinion/advice. I can't identify the root of the problem!... (read in full...)
Is hugging another woman after making a fidelity promise immoral?
Q. Is seeing and hugging a soul mate woman immoral when a husband made a fidelity promise to God?...
A. 24 June 2010: You'll have to elaborate on that question.
Briefly, hugging is not normally defined as infidelity if both parties have their clothes on.... (read in full...)
I'm having an affair with a man 3 times older than me. I am 23 and he is 53.
Q. *OP's Original Title* I am having an affair with a man that's 3 times my age. I am 23 years old and have been married for 2 years, and he is 53 and has been married for 13 years. He actually went to school with my parents. I had sex with him the ...
A. 24 June 2010: So...what are you looking for here? You know you're cheating, and worse, lying to your husband. You know this older guy (we'll call him Mr. 3 times, though he's not 3 times your age) will not marry you. You know you risk getting caught, in which ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend might be gay! What signs should I look for?
Q. i am a bit worried about my boyfriend, as i think he is gay, been together 2 years and he tells me everyday that he loves me, he always wants sex with me most the time and he mainly makes the first moves, he kisses me alot and holds me all night, ...
A. 24 June 2010: He shows ALL the signs of normal straight men and you think he's gay because he likes to keep a clean house?
I'm sorry, but this is ridiculous reasoning. NOTHING in your entire post leaves even a hint that this guy is gay. A lot of straight... (read in full...)
What's the point of giving him oral sex when he doesn't cum?
Q. Hey I asked a question before about being nervous of giving oral sex http://www.dearcupid.org/question/fear-of-fellatio.html Okay I got over my fear and gave him a blowjob last night. He had his eyes closed through out and was moaning. My fear...
A. 24 June 2010: Perish the insecurity. Most guys close their eyes in that situation. They also don't always cum without a little stimulation by hand. Just enjoy giving it - I assure you he is enjoying it too!... (read in full...)
How do I know my sister in law is interested in me?
Q. Wanted to have an affair with my sister in law but she don't respond at me. Some time I fill she is interested but some time not. So how should I know if she is really interested with me or not? and also how to convince her to have affair with... ?...
A. 23 June 2010: WHY do you want to have an affair with your sister-in-law? Frankly, you're coming off as a sleazeball and worse. If I was your sister-in-law I wouldn't want to touch you with a ten-foot barge pole (and I'm remarkably easy).... (read in full...)
He's with another woman, but still comes to me to talk about sex!
Q. Hello there, I am 29 years old and I am a sensual woman, I like everything that has to do with sex and I am quite open about that fact. I have slept with a lot of guys in my past and I have very little constraint. I like to try a lot of things an...
A. 23 June 2010: Sigh.
I've met this type, you know. They're nice guys, they even love their girlfriends/wife but they can't resist the temptation offered by the 'other woman'. He's used to you, he knows you, he knows you're there for him and that you won't sa... (read in full...)
He had his ex girlfriends picture as his profile on facebook ...
Q. im a 14 yr old girl and my boyfriend of like a month had his profile picture on facebook as his ex girlfriend who just happens to be one of my friends.when he saw that i was online he changed it to my picture.is he cheating?????...
A. 23 June 2010: At your age, people change their love interest like taking anti-biotics - twice a day, before meals.
Anyway, he should have his OWN picture on facebook. What's he doing putting up yours or anyone elses?... (read in full...)
How can I deal with this girl who keeps hitting on me?
Q. Where to begin. First I am posting anonymously because the girl that I have an issue with found my post on the user name last time. But my situation from before was that my neighbors are quite close with my family. This has been going on for nea...
A. 23 June 2010: Tough problem. Is she psychotic? Have you tried being blunt with her? Need more information. This reminds me of that old movie 'Crush' where Alicia Silverstone plays a psycho-stalker teen.... (read in full...)
My girl's sexual tally is less than mine but I am still bothered by it
Q. I recently discovered that at my girfriend at the age of 23 has had 22 sexual partners including me. Let's forgo the truth part as I believe her but what's bothering me is the number. I didn't think I'd be bothered but when she counted up and told ...
A. 23 June 2010: Sexual tally' indeed. As if you were playing a darts competition!
I suppose if you were a 'can-be-counted-on-the-fingers-of-one-hand' guy I could understand your being a little spooked out, but given that you're batting a high average (I mean, co... (read in full...)
Why does he ignore me for porn, when I'm perfectly willing?
Q. Hello, I seem to be having problems with my boyfriend and have no clue what to do. We have been dating for nearly a year now. Deep down, I know he's a good man, but for reasons I cannot understand, he prefers watching porn instead of doing anythin...
A. 23 June 2010: I'm normally not a porn-basher. But your case is really extreme. As a couple of people here have said, porn is sometimes used by men in addition to their normal sex life, usually simply becuase they have a higher sex drive.
In your case however ... (read in full...)
Should I ask my friend to take my virginity?
Q. Hi everyone. I've just turned 22 and I'm still very much a virgin. The most I've ever done with a girl is a snog and those don't come around very often. I'm not particularly embarrassed about my v-plates, I hardly keep it a secret, but the ...
A. 23 June 2010: Yours does not sound like the ideal situation for this sort of arrangement. You will almost surely sabotage your relationship with this first girl who appears to be a good friend.
Please try to establish a good, romantic relationship with the girl... (read in full...)
Is she just using me for childcare, or is she going to have me back?
Q. i have been with my partner for 12 years and have 3 kids she started seeing somone behind my back when i found out she kicked me out and moved him in. i want her back and she said she thinks she wants me back and asks me to come round every day when ...
A. 23 June 2010: If there is a more obvious case of a person using another, i've yet to see it.... (read in full...)
Do you think he's positioning himself to be 'waiting in the wings'?
Q. My guy friend recently bought me a present, nothing too expensive, but something really cool and meaningful to me. Also he knows I like wine and will often buy a bottle and, after he opens it, if it's especially good he'll insist I take the rest to ...
A. 23 June 2010: All the signs point to it.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend takes pictures of other girls! should I forgive him?
Q. I found out that my boyfriend of over a year has been taking pictures of other women. Most recently while we were at the beach he took about 20 pictures of young women from all angles in their bikinis. I'm very upset over this but he says it will ...
A. 23 June 2010: Sounds like a major voyeur. My primary advice is to steer clear of the chap, since these fellows are generally creeps, but if that's not a step you're willing to take, do make it clear he has only so many chances before you pull the plug on the ... (read in full...)
Am I a bad girlfriend for not wanting him to have long hair?
Q. I really, really don't want my boyfriend to grow his hair long. I don't think I can explain how awful it looks. lol Even his old facebook photos have comments by his friends that his hair looked terrible. I didn't say much when he told me he had p...
A. 23 June 2010: Girlfriends and wives have tried to edit their man's appearance since the first cave-man picked up a club and bonked the woman he liked over the head with it. You're merely following a grand, ancient tradition. It does not make you a bad girlfriend.... (read in full...)
Do women worry about their parts the way men worry about theirs?
Q. I love the female form. There are so many variations of the female genitalia. What is the reason some women's labia majoria is hidden and others are larger and seem to hang out. Secondly, do women get hung up on there vaginas like men do with ...
A. 23 June 2010: Most of us would really rather worry about our shoes, clothes and handbags - you know, stuff that we actually get to show off to the world at large, rather than an inch or two of flesh that is unlikely to be seen by anyone who is not himself showing ... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't want sex, but gave me a full on kiss ... why?
Q. Ok guys, this is a strange one really but need sum sort of advice, ive basically i hate 2 say it have got myself a fb, well i said used to have one, The other week once a week i pick him up from his local pub and we have a little chat and st...
A. 22 June 2010: Because sometimes, a kiss is just a kiss.... (read in full...)
If he won't agree to a threesome with a guy, then why should I agree to one with a girl?
Q. okay so ive been with my boyfriend for a year so far and were very sexually active. on a regular basis we have sex about 3-5 times a week. and were open enough to talk about our fantasies in life n stuff, but i believe theres a HUGE problem. ...
A. 22 June 2010: Short answer - you should not.
You've made all the arguments yourself, y'know. Just present it to him in the same way and make it clear that you don't intend to go through with a threesome unless you two have reached some common ground. ... (read in full...)
Is there a manual for dating a librarian?
Q. Hello, I am on summer research at a school far away from mine. I regularly use the library here, and have noticed one of the librarians who checks out books is very nice and also attractive. I would like to approach her and ask her out or just ...
A. 22 June 2010: You ask her out in the same way you would a girl you liked who worked in a coffee-shop, restaurant or retail outlet.
Librarians are not a different species. They aren't even always better-read than others.... (read in full...)
Am I being too fussy?
Q. I could never date a non vegan, it doesn't matter how nice they are I just never could! Am I being ridiculous? Also why do people resent vegitarians and vegans? I have a few ideas why but would just like to know what you guys think!...
A. 22 June 2010: You have a right to choose to date vegans, for the simple reason that who you date is a matter of your choice.
On the other hand, it would narrow your choice considerably, so that's somethin you may need to think about.
Regarding why... (read in full...)
Pregnant by the brother of my fiance...
Q. I'm 20 I've been dating this guy 'Jake' for 3 year now and about 2 months ago he proposed. I said yes. later that day though I had sex with his brother 'Cody'. Jake and I have NOT had sex. Point is that I'm pregnant and the only person I've had sex ...
A. 22 June 2010: 'Later that day', eh? Poor old Jake. So you've dated him for 3 years and never put out...and you slept with his brother day he proposed to you?
Do Jake a huge favor, would you? Break the engagement.
You should probably also tell him everyth... (read in full...)
I am 15, want to be a porn star, any suggestions?
Q. i am 15 and i want to be a pornstar so bad any tips?...
A. 22 June 2010: Don't.
At the very least, complete school and wait until you're 18. If you still think you want to be in porn, look for a photographer who can do (non-hardcore) nude photos of you while you continue to pursue other career options. See if you can ... (read in full...)
Should I believe my husband?
Q. hello, I need some help and I HOPE someone out there offers advice. back info*** my dad always cheated on my mom. he was abusive and left wen I was 13, since i started dating my hubby 7 years ago i have ALWAYS had issues with insecurity and c...
A. 22 June 2010: Craigslist (and other sites for that matter) are perfectly capable of picking up IP Addresses very accurately. Also, it's not difficult to put together other information about a person from the forms that he/she fills up in various places.
Havin... (read in full...)
I don't enjoy giving oral sex, is this normal?
Q. I don't enjoy giving my boyfriend a blow job. Is that normal? Last night i kept trying and then gagging within a few seconds. He knows i don't enjoy it and can't understand why. Last night he told me that i should enjoy it really which made me feel ...
A. 21 June 2010: A lot of girls don't like to give blowjobs, so it's perfectly normal on your part. It's similar to not everyone liking the same taste of ice-cream or something. Works for some, doesn't for others. In fact, from what I'm told, you're in the ... (read in full...)
Do men ever fall in love with their booty calls?
Q. Do guys ever actually like their "booty calls"? Or even fall in love with them?...
A. 21 June 2010: It's a low probability. I speak from personal experience. Something like 0.6%... (read in full...)
Should I date my teacher?
Q. hi. i have had a crush on my teacher for a while. she is right out of college i believe shes 23 im a 18 year old senior entering my last week of school. i guess she noticed i liked her and asked me to have sex after school. i did and it was amazing. ...
A. 21 June 2010: I'll keep the value judgements aside regarding her giving you a booty call. You're of age and once you're out of school the teacher-student relationship also ends. If you're compatible, what's stopping you?... (read in full...)
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