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| | *abrielle Stoker's profile:Qualified to help people? Don't really know. Am in my twenties, currently working in the hospitality industry. Very open-minded on sex, probably too active for my own good. Flatter myself into thinking I'm reasonably intelligent and believe that my upbringing, difficult as it was, has given me a decent perspective on life. |
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I can't get an erection around women any more, am I gay?
Q. hi, im a 20 year old male and in the past two years have become concerned that i may be becoming bi sexual or even gay! it started when i used to smoke canabis alot and resulting in me giving up wich is a good thing i guess, but then the thoughts...
A. 29 July 2010: You don't really sound gay but it's more likely you have low testosterone or even erectile dysfunction (which may be a result of your former drug habit). Please consult an appropriate doctor and get yourself checked.... (read in full...)
How long should a guy last in bed?
Q. To the ladies what's the least a guy should last in bed?...
A. 29 July 2010: I assume you mean how long a guy should 'last' before he ejaculates.
As an inveterate sperm-lover, my answer would be no more than five minutes. However, most women are more patient than that and would expect half-an-hour of service at the very... (read in full...)
Sheer bathing suits. OK, or not OK?
Q. I like it when my girl wears semi sheer bathing suits to the beach. Or even in the hot tub with friends. We experimented with cutting out the lining on a few pairs, and it seems to work well -especially with darker suits as her bits are then only ...
A. 29 July 2010: Would be OK with me personally but it depends on the company and whether she is comfortable with it. Have a talk with her about it!
Probably not the best idea in public places though, unless you really want to tick people off. I mean, I've sor... (read in full...)
Are guys just automatically wired to like women smaller?
Q. Can someone please explain to me why before you lose weight you are told the infamous line of "you look good just the way you are" by your signifacant other..but as soon as you drop 20 lbs they are all over you and the sexy,hot compliments are never ...
A. 29 July 2010: Some are, some aren't. But the majority of men generally like fit women.
What they are actually wired to do is say 'You look just fine' to their partners.... (read in full...)
I get put on the back burner when he has his daughter
Q. I have been dating this guy for almost a year now. He has a 4-year-old daughter from a previous marriage and I a 3-year-old-son. Chemistry was great between us and the both kids. We decided to move into together fairly quick and have been living ...
A. 29 July 2010: I'm going to take an optimistic stance here.
He's trying to balance his relationship with the two most important women in his life. It's important to him that, first and foremost, his daughter like you. Perhaps he feels (and I tend to agree wi... (read in full...)
Why do guys want a virgin?
Q. Why do guys say that sex with a virgin girl is better/more pleasurable than with a non-virgin? and why do guys want and like to be the one to take a girls virginity?...
A. 29 July 2010: Some guys do, not all. Those guys are mostly hypocrites. They are also invariably idiots. ... (read in full...)
My best girlfriend and I made out a little, am I bisexual?
Q. I have a best friend. She was the first person I met when I moved to my new neighborhood and I met her at church. We have been close for years. One night at a sleepover we were talking about horny we were. We were laying on her bed and then we ...
A. 29 July 2010: It's too little to say one way or the other. You may or may not be. Don't be too alarmed about it, a lot of young people experiment at your age. ... (read in full...)
Why am I obsessed with hearing stories of my ex cheating on me with other men?
Q. I have broken up with my girlfriend as a result of her infidelity. Of late she has taken to telling me all about how she used to cheat on me and with whom and how-in some cases with exact dates. The stories are crude, chillin, heartbreaking and ...
A. 28 July 2010: You're enjoying the self-torture. There's a word for it, I'm sure but I don't recall. It's probably unhealthy in the long run and might affect your ability to have a 'normal' relationship in the future. Please consider counselling.... (read in full...)
Would I be sloppy seconds if I chose to go out with him?
Q. I've had a crush on this guy for about 4 months now, on and off, and he's sending some pretty mixed signals. Just so you know, he's really sweet and would never knowingly hurt anyone. We had a class together in school and I was positive he liked me ...
A. 28 July 2010: You're a reasonably intelligent girl who is reading the situation quite accurately. Based on what you've described, it doesn't look like he's very serious about you right now...but the great thing about life is, that if you lead him on a bit and let ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be grossed out by finger foreplay?
Q. Is it normal to not like to be fingered at 22 years old? I don't mind penetration from a penis but everything else just grosses me out, I feel like it's dirty and not supposed to be inside of me....
A. 28 July 2010: To each his or her own, I guess. If you don't like it, you don't. As long as you don't object to having a penis in you, what's to worry about?... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to demand she only speak with me?
Q. Hello All, I am 26 years , I will marrying soon withing couple of months . I have a porblem i love very much my financy , before marriage we are now speaking all things on phone , she told all things about her and she said that she is having a ...
A. 28 July 2010: You are not only jealous but probably also a hypocrite. I'm sure you haven't stopped talking to your friends since you got engaged, have you?
Now I know that being from India you probably have an unfair advantage in that your 'financy' is unlikely... (read in full...)
Is it right for me to tell everyone?
Q. Hey everyone, I'm extremely confused right now about where I stand! I joined Facebook two years ago, and I know almost 900 people; in other words I've seen them, talked to them or I'm their friend. But, this one girl recently joined. I know her from ...
A. 28 July 2010: If any of the people you are really close to are infatuated with this girl then yes, you should tell them privately. It might be a good idea to discreetly tell the girl also that you're on to her and that, while you don't intend to reveal her ... (read in full...)
Should you treat a single mother any differently?
Q. OP's own title: So I've had this girl who I've known has been into me for quite some time. We know each other from work and are good mates. But here's the weird thing, she suddenly turned into a single mother... almost literally overnight. She'...
A. 28 July 2010: It's definitely something you should think about, after all a kid is definitely 'baggage' in a relationship.
It's a good thing you're thinking this through. Shows you're a decent sort I guess. Have you thought about what she wants? Are you sure... (read in full...)
Should I start living my sexual fantasies?
Q. I'm 20 and as a student i work at the bar with mostly older male population. The thing is that my wildest sexual fantasy is to have sex with someone 50-60 years old. And in this bar i've met the right person, who is obviously very attracted to me. S...
A. 28 July 2010: If he's single, attractive (and attracted) to you and you are both mature enough to deal with the consequences, why not? The only thing you might want to watch out for is if he wants a relationship and you don't. That might get messy.... (read in full...)
Please help me, I'm 16 and think I'm pregnant.
Q. am i pregnant or just paranoid? i had unprotected sex on the 29th of april and got the morning-after pill the day after. i got my period as normal a week later. recently ive been getting headaches, feeling sick, light headed, eating more, tired, my ...
A. 28 July 2010: If you had normal periods after you last had intercourse the odds of your pregnant are nil. Still, to get rid of your paranoia, go get a test.... (read in full...)
Our 'dates' are all at his house but I want us to go out
Q. Ok... Ive been seeing this guy recently. Date 1: We was supposed to go out for drinks. He called after he finished work saying he was tired but i could come round his place. First off i said no and said we would do it another day when he was less ...
A. 28 July 2010: It's possible he's trying to save money. Or he's just lazy. Just say "Let's go out somewhere. We never seem to do anything together". If he's sensible, that will clue him in. If it doesn't, it's early enough to back out, isn't it?... (read in full...)
How often does a healthy couple have sex?
Q. My boyfriend says we need to have more sex, and I thought we had sex a lot (about 4- 6 times a week). I just wanted to know how often do other couples (do you) have sex? And how long have you guys been together? Did you have more when you started ...
A. 28 July 2010: Every couple is different. 4-6 times a week is pretty good but he just seems to have a higher libido than yours. Not unusual either way. If yours isn't at the same level, maybe you can gratify him in a less involved way? I favour handjobs myself.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't go down on my unless I'm shaved
Q. My boyfriend and I were talking about "what ifs". and it came up, "what if i was nine months pregnant and couldnt shave "down there"?" his response, "i wouldnt go down on you". my thought was arent you suppose to love someone even in there natural ...
A. 28 July 2010: Would you rather your boyfriend never shaved or used deo or any of those little things that ALL of us do to make ourselves a little more attractive? We're entitled to our little preferences and so are men.
The 'Natural state' thing went out the ... (read in full...)
Has any one here had breast implants?
Q. I was just wondering if any women here have had breast implants, and if so, do you have any regrets? I've been thinking of getting breast implants for a long time now, I've never been happy with mine. I am aged 24 and a small 32b cup, I would like ...
A. 27 July 2010: I know people who've had work done and the general feedback is positive from those who have had minor enhancements from a reputed surgeon. One thing to keep in mind is that if you're going for it, don't skimp on the budget. A cheap job could not ... (read in full...)
So many lies and cheating going on! Is it even worth it to stay with her?
Q. My wife keeps filling me in about things she has done in her past as we go along in our marriage. Each time she hits me with something it is shocking to me and I do not know how to react, and then she throws a fit saying she can't trust me with the ...
A. 27 July 2010: Why do you even want to forgive her? You've done enough of that in this relationship I think. Unless you have some really good reason to do so, it's about time you looked for brighter prospects.... (read in full...)
Should I revamp his ex-fiance's engagement ring?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been talking about getting engaged for the past few months and he has a simply gorgeous ring that his ex fiancee wore about 5 years ago. He says he wants to sell it and buy me a new ring but I really do love this ring. I'm ...
A. 27 July 2010: Let him sell it and buy a new one. However much you like it, that ring has got to have memories attached to it that you don't want to bring up too regularly.... (read in full...)
I don't want to hurt my boyfriend or put a strain on our relationship, but I just wish he would understand that my grandmother does need me too
Q. My grandfather recently died, and now my handicapped, 88 year old grandmother is home by herself. She is of sound mind, and can take care of herself, but she does have a number of health problems that are managed by medicine. Both my grandp...
A. 27 July 2010: It's unfair for both of them to require you to make that choice. I think your boyfriend needs to be the mature one here (88 year old's have the average maturity level of a kid of 6) and understand that she is important to you.
If push comes to... (read in full...)
Is this forgivable and would you forgive?
Q. I just got out of counselling over an issue that I am having a very hard time forgiving myself for. I want to see if what I did would be forgiven, generally, particularly with an explaination and proper apology. In breif, I made an akward move on ...
A. 23 July 2010: While it was a pretty retarded move to pull, I would not say it makes you a monster by a fair distance. If you were indulging in this sort of thing on a repititive basis or with undreaged girls it's another matter. As far as I can tell, you're not, ... (read in full...)
I'm freaked out! Girlfriend came home poured water on me at 3am! Why ???
Q. I don't know what to do. It's 3am, I was woken up by my girlfriend who dumped water on me to wake me up. What if I didn't wake up and drowned, there's a fan next to me and could have caught hypothermia and she's a nurse she would know about that....
A. 23 July 2010: Umm...she was drunk and thought it might be funny? You aren't likely to catch hypothermia since you'd wake up and wipe off the water?
Are you quite sure you are not over-reacting?... (read in full...)
Do you discriminate against obese people?
Q. I am 13yrs old and weigh 105lbs. I know that I am not a fat person but im a little chubby. I think its terrible when people make fun of huge people. Some people even say that they hate fat people. What I want to know is if people really feel this ...
A. 23 July 2010: A lot of people reach a conclusion based on appearances alone. Intelligent people change their opinions based on further interaction.
At your age 105 lbs sounds like baby-fat that you will grow out of as likely as not.
What people dislike a... (read in full...)
I don't like guys, but enjoyed this encounter, why??
Q. Me and my best friend sometimes watch porn together, but every time we do my friend always starts to get curious about what it feels like to have a blow job and things like that. I don't think his intentions were to actually get one from me, but he ...
A. 23 July 2010: You may be bi at the very least. Think about it.... (read in full...)
My wife deceived me into marrying her, should I stay??
Q. hello mates, am not sure how to go about this but il try.12 years of marriage and my wife hits me with a bomb.she had a hymen reconstruction so that i would marry her. We met in church, though am not so much of a goer i stick to my morals, was a ...
A. 23 July 2010: You've already called her your 'soon to be ex-wise', so are you sure the decision hasn't been taken already?
On the other hand, do ask yourself whether the love you haveshared for the last 12 years means anything. If she has been a good, loving w... (read in full...)
I feel like I will never be ready for sex.
Q. Lately I'm afraid that I will never be ready for sex. I am 17 going on 18. My guy has never pressured me and always lets me set the pace of whatever we're doing, but I know he wants to have sex. So do I - I'm very attracted to him and he turns me on ...
A. 23 July 2010: Don't worry about it. A lot of people do feel the way you do about sex - it has to do with your upbringing, I guess. Now all the expert views in the world can tell you that there is nothing wrong with consensual sex at your age, but unless your mind ... (read in full...)
Lied to a woman about my age. - 16 dating a 24 year old.
Q. I feel like an idiot. I'm 16 years old and I'm dating someone who's 24. Though, when we met.. I lied about my age and said I was 20. She believes it too because I look and sound 20. We haven't been going out very long, a month at the mos...
A. 23 July 2010: Tell her NOW. If you care for her, you don't want to see her in jail, I'm sure. Wait for a couple of years, if she's still interested, you can start seeing each other then. 6 years isn't such a huge age gap when you're a little older, but for now, ... (read in full...)
He cheated on his ex and now he's having dreams that I'm cheating on him!
Q. The last few weeks my boyfriend tells me he has been having nightmares about me leaving him for other guys, i can tell he is having nightmares because he tosses and turns and then when he wakes up he tells me about how i chose another guy in the ...
A. 23 July 2010: While I'm not an interpreter of dreams, I think he's afraid that his past actions will come back to bite him (i.e., you doing to him what he's done to others). Just soothe him with soft words - and keep your eyes open.... (read in full...)
How do I overcome not being attracted to my wife?
Q. First time i have gone through this site and find it so helpful. Hope i too will get some help Iam 29 year old, married two years back. it was an arranged marriage and from the day one i didnt liked the girl but the family pressure was so ...
A. 22 July 2010: Those who dig their own graves should not protest about having to lie in them.
Pithy sayings aside, the only way out seems to be a divorce or cheating on her. What else do you expect to hear from us?... (read in full...)
Will he not kiss me because of his friends?
Q. okay so, me and my boyfriend have been dating for a few weeks, and he is a really sweet person, but acts tough for his friends. me and him get along perfectlyy but we havent kissed yet. im not sure weather he wants to kiss me because of his friends ...
A. 22 July 2010: Pretty normal in 'young love' cases. Don't fret it and both of you take your own time, eh?... (read in full...)
Is it because I don't look at him?
Q. I give my fiance head sometimes but he doesnt cum... i dont understand why he wont....also when i am giving him head i feel uncomfortable looking at him while i am doing it...could that be the problem should i be looking at him? what should i do?...
A. 20 July 2010: Many guys don't cum without some sort of touch from my hand (and I'm generally considered very good at giving head). Try using your hands along with your mouth and tongue.
For some, even that doesn't work. Nothing abnormal. It's more likely t... (read in full...)
I can cum, but not with her...we want a baby but its just not happening...
Q. i have a mental block every time I try to have sex with my partner, I cannot achieve an orgasm and we would love a baby so when the time of the month is right i just cant cum, the doctor gave me Viagra but no good,please advise as we are desperate, ...
A. 20 July 2010: Fairly common problem for people who are too used to masturbating. You'll just have to keep trying with your current partner.... (read in full...)
How can my husband really love me when he wants to watch me with another man?
Q. My husband told me that one of his fantasies is to watch me with another guy! Im not a prude by any means, but this is something that makes me wonder 1) Is he bi-curious, why else would he want another guy in the picture? 2) Does he really love me? ...
A. 20 July 2010: It's a fairly common fantasy but not recommended unless both partners are on board and agreeable to it.
Further, as dirtball said below, your husband might find the 'act' is very different from his 'fantasy'.
Speaking as someone who's be... (read in full...)
Should I break up because her daughter drives me nuts?
Q. Every time I go out with my girlfriend and her now 6 year old daughter the girl misbehaves. she's always climbing on things and I mean EVERYTHING, and touching things that don't belong to her. Then when you tell her to stop she does it anyway in ...
A. 20 July 2010: If you can't handle being with someone who will obviously be a part of this girl's life for a long time to come, it's probably not a relationship with a future. While the ultimate choice is yours, if I was in your situation, I would be looking to ... (read in full...)
Should we go to his brother's wedding?
Q. I need help... My boyfriend and his brother have not spoken in a year and a half and now his brother is getting married in a month. He has not asked him to be the best man or anything. should we still go to the wedding??...
A. 20 July 2010: If you've been invited, you should make an appearance for formality's sake. Don't need to stay too long if it's uncomfortable. ... (read in full...)
When is enough punishment enough punishment?
Q. So I have come to a fork in the road and I need some objective advice. I admit a lot of what brought me here is of my own doing. But nonetheless here goes. My wife and I have been married for 12 years and we have two girls. It was one of those war...
A. 20 July 2010: You probably can still save this provided you both try hard enough. On the other hand it would be perfectly fair of you to want out if two years of trying have yielded no results. You seem pretty aware of your situation and the factors involved so ... (read in full...)
Everytime he accuses me of cheating he suggests an open relationship!
Q. My fiance sometimes accuses me of cheating for no reason everytime he accuses me of this he suggests an open relationship. An example of why he accuses me of cheating is a cable cord he claimed he never noticed before was in a room we didn't have a ...
A. 19 July 2010: I must, reluctantly, agree with person12345 here. Your boyfriend is either cheating or wants to. If he isn't, it's even worse because then he's paranoid-delusional.
You may want to re-evaluate whether you wish to continue in this relation... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and attracted to older men. Help!
Q. [OP original title] Well i am 18 years old. I'm not attracted to guys my own age. I'm finding that i'm attracted to guys in their late 20's to mid 40's. the one guy who impacted me tremendously is 41 years old. he made me feel like no one has ever...
A. 19 July 2010: While there is nothing unusual about liking older men (especially since they often seem more mature and 'interesting' than men you own age), acting upon that attraction with a married man is wrong in every way. Please desist from continuing on the ... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant from this? Please help!!
Q. Mod Note: Posters Original Title Can you get pregnant from dry humping? I'm so worried. My boyfriend was over a few days ago and we were dry humping. I was completely naked but he was completely dressed. Is there any way I could be pregnant from...
A. 19 July 2010: No, there isn't if he had his clothes on.... (read in full...)
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