Advice needed on overcoming fear of public speaking
Q. Im a student studying Media and Production, which involves a lot of presenting. We recently got told that we need to do a presentation in front of the class in 3 weeks time. I know that this gives me time to prepare myself and what I will say but ...
A. 11 September 2012: All good points so far. I was a college lecturer for 20 years, and the easiest advice I can give is actually the hardest to follow - BE YOURSELF! I'm not so sure about avoiding eye contact, female anon; I see your point, but then you will come acr... (read in full...)
I-am-in-love-with-my-straight best friend, How do I tell her? I'm hesitant to tell her
Q. Hi,I am both a lesbian and straight. My friend is a girl too. Once we did this weird/gay test. It's where we do gross stuff to each other (like humping and all that) She made it up. She did to me first. Every time she did something she would sa...
A. 8 September 2012: She was testing the water. Are you likely to try that "test" again? If so, go even further, I'm sure she will co-operate........ (read in full...)
15 year old pupil is hitting on me - her teacher. Should I report this?
Q. I am in a terribly difficult situation. I have been teaching for 20 years and this is the first I’ve ever had this particular problem. There is a girl in one of my classes; she is very young, 14/15 years old, a child. Now I have had students have ...
A. 5 September 2012: I was a College Lecturer for 20 years and did occasionally come across this type of situation, but the golden rule is NEVER to be alone with a student. I was also responsible for the pastoral care of all my students and there were obviously times if ... (read in full...)
My marriage lacks a sex life so I have a friend with boundaries. How do I be happy with my husband?
Q. I am a happily married woman (20+ years). Hubby is great, we get along, we have grown children, built a nice life, etc. We work great together, have some of the same hobbies, and almost always agree. He is sweet and nice and we are happy together. I ...
A. 1 September 2012: If it doesn't upset him (it might - macho pride and all that), try using a little bullet vibrator on your clit whilst he is "performing": that's where you need the stimulation, as you well know.
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How can I control my urges? They're driving me crazy!
Q. Hi, I am 22 year old virgin male , who has a high sex drive. Is it wrong, all I seem to do is maturbate but it doesn't work. Every time I' am out, can't stop looking at girls, But feel weird because I look at breasts and other areas like Thier bums ...
A. 31 August 2012: And in what way do you think you are different from any other normal, healthy male?... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my mom want me to sleep in the nude?
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, I'm a 14 year old girl. I like to sleep in the nude but my mom doesn't want me to. She never gives me a reason, she just objects. I started sleeping naked over the summer when it's super comfortable. What would she find wrong o...
A. 31 August 2012: I have been sleeping naked since I was about your age - way too many years ago to own up to! - and I wouldn't have it any other way. Summer or winter, it just feels great, especially just after a shower and with freshly laundered sheets.
So long... (read in full...)
What's with men and the way they talk about girls?
Q. My boyfriends best friend was coming home for the first time,I have never met this guy and I wanted to create a good impression cuz he is my boyfriends best friend..so I woke up made lunch,cleaned the place..and then his friend came over we had ...
A. 29 August 2012: NEVER listen in to conversations between males, especially young ones - it's mostly "playground talk"!... (read in full...)
How do I convince my brother to give up on being a lawyer?
Q. My brother wants to be a lawyer I doubt that he can become a lawyer because he did so poorly in highschool. No one in the family has ever become a lawyer or doctor so why does he even try He signed up for community college. He study's all da...
A. 27 August 2012: I've just read this post again because I couldn't believe it, and the more I read the more I become convinced that it's a troll post.
Surely nobody can be so pig-ignorant as to think like that and decry worthy ambition in a sibling?... (read in full...)
How do I convince my brother to give up on being a lawyer?
Q. My brother wants to be a lawyer I doubt that he can become a lawyer because he did so poorly in highschool. No one in the family has ever become a lawyer or doctor so why does he even try He signed up for community college. He study's all da...
A. 27 August 2012: How dare you! You, clearly a loser, have the temerity to try to undermine the determination and ambitions of a dedicated worker.
I was a College lecturer for 20 years and in my experience, it is those who work hard who succeed - obvious, isn't it? ... (read in full...)
Dad does not know if we are sexually active. But if Dad turns him in, will there be consequences if we were sexually active? My mom does not mind.
Q. I am currently 15 years old and I'm dating a 21 year old I've known for 3 and a half years, we've been together for 6 months and my mom approves but my father doesnt. if my dad tries to turn him in will it work since Mom approves and he doesnt know...
A. 27 August 2012: OP, why do you think it is just the boy/man who is at risk of a custodial sentence? Technically, you are both breaking the same law and face the same consequences.
True, it is rarer for the female to be imprisoned, but still possible.... (read in full...)
Husband's comments about my breasts have left me feeling self-conscious. Am I being too sensitive?
Q. My husband has on occasion said some things without thinking them through. Years ago, he told me the space between my breasts was too big and that a cosmetic surgery could fix it. Never thinking there was anything wrong, I became self conscious ...
A. 27 August 2012: The man is a fully signed-up, card-carrying MORON!
There is nothing for you to feel diffident about; what is wrong with large nipples (drool....)?
If he cannot see and appreciate what he has in you, tell him to stop thinking with his (way too smal... (read in full...)
Years ago he was my foster Dad. No blood relationship. No legal adoption. Can we now legally have a relationship? I am pregnant to him
Q. I grew up in foster care bouncing from home to home and shelter to shelter. When I was 16 I was placed with foster parents that were very close in age 23 and 25. I remained there until I aged out of the system at 18. While living there my fos...
A. 27 August 2012: Nothing wrong whatsoever, and no problem. As there are no shared genes or legal relationship, you are just two normal, unconnected adults, so why should there be anything to inhibit your future happiness?
I cannot see why anybody would even THIN... (read in full...)
My husband has been sneaky lately and I found a flavored condom in his pocket that he blamed on our son!
Q. Lately, my husband of 9 yrs. has been a little sneaky. he talks to all kinds of women, first of all he's a photographer OK. Now it's one particular friend that he tells her he loves her. Just recently, while I was doing laundry,a flavored condom ...
A. 24 August 2012: Absolutely NOT his son's!How many clues do you want? He is playing away......... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wont kiss me.
Q. Hi every one My GF and I were dating for 2 years I love her and She loves me.... Every thing seems be great but I've got one prob with her : whene I try to kiss her she refuse and she tells me she's not a bit** So I need ur help by telling me ho...
A. 24 August 2012: What's your oral hygiene like?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend takes too long!
Q. Hi! Im 18 years old and when me and my bf have sex it takes him a long time to come. We go at i for hours and i have multiple orgasms but he still trying to get to through the first. I worried its my fault that he's not coming faster or I get tired ...
A. 13 August 2012: Does he take as long when he masturbates? You could try doing kegel exercises to improve your grip on his penis to bring him off more rapidly....... (read in full...)
Never needed it before. What would be the reasons why, after all this time, I have now started to need lube to have sex?
Q. Dear cupid, I'm a 33 year old woman with a healthy sexual appetite and a boyfriend that I've been dating for a year. With my previous sexual partners I never had to use lube, I was always wet enough to have sex although I've never been so wet that...
A. 13 August 2012: Might I suggest that you use GRAPE seed oil - NOT rape seed.
Apply liberally to his penis and your vagina as part of foreplay and you may be surprised........ (read in full...)
Cell phone etiquette, She answers messages during intercourse!
Q. My girlfriend's idea of turning off the cell phone while having sex, is to just put it on vibrate. The noise totally takes me out of the moment and is getting extremely annoying. I ask her to please turn off the phone to allow us to have some ...
A. 7 August 2012: I wouldn't bother moving in with her, either. She totally disrespects you and doesn't think much of sex with you; her heart is obviously not in it if she worries more about her mother and/or her phone.
Can you imagine what life would be like with... (read in full...)
My wife likes acting flirty sexy with other men. Should we consider the threesome offer my friend has made?
Q. My wife has a sexy body and a real cute ass , she loves going 2 pubs and clubs with me and sitting fully clothed on other mens laps. She gets really turned on feeling their erection sticking into her private parts and we never make it home afterwar...
A. 29 July 2012: I've got to agree with "Cerberus" once again - keep it impersonal. All I can add is that you post an ad on a site like "Craigslist", looking for a bloke to oblige......... (read in full...)
Should I have my first homosexual encounter with this woman?
Q. Hey everyone I am 23 years old,and I would say for the past 4 years I'v been bicuruious and I would really want to know how it is to be with a girl..I don't know if I can go all the way and have sex but I think just first base to see what I feel ...
A. 29 July 2012: You will never know unless you try. I suggest that you have a few drinks and go for it; if later she regrets it, you can always blame it on the drink and you won't lose a friend.... (read in full...)
Men: Would you chose a nature program on tv or sex with your girlfriend?
Q. If you were 45 years old and had your 21 year old girlfriend ask you to bed for a blow job and sex would you choose a nature programme (that could be recorded) or your girlfriend. i would appreciate your comments ...
A. 28 July 2012: All over the world, men will be nodding wisely and thinking "Now you know how WE feel when we are rejected after trying to initiate sex with women".
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I can't afford to pay every time we go out. What's the best way to let her know?
Q. Hi. So I asked someone out and we had dinner and I payed, which I was happy to do. I've asked her out again for a coffee and she said yes. The thing is I just can't afford to pay for her every time we go out. I don't know if she'll be expecting me ...
A. 26 July 2012: This should not be a problem nowadays, in the bright new era of equality; she should step in and take charge, open her purse and pay for everything - just like men always used to in the bad old days.
Or do fish really need bicycles, after all?... (read in full...)
Should I continue masturbating? is it normal for a thirteen year old like me?
Q. Hi I am thirteen and I masturbate 5 or more times a week. I've been masturbating for nearly a year now but every time i do it makes me feel uncomfortable with myself. What do I do? Is what I am doing normal? Please I don't know what to do I ...
A. 22 July 2012: A w**k a day keeps stress at bay!... (read in full...)
Is he bragging or telling the truth about my Mother?
Q. ok, some advice please. i'm 19 yo male currently at home for summer from uni. At home is my mum who is single and divorced and my younger brother 15. Last night we had a party at the house for my mums 46th birthday. About 25 people came and it w...
A. 22 July 2012: OP, you reflect your age when you make sarcastic remarks to those of us who do our best, in the light of our greater experience, to help you and answer the questions you sought advice for.
Sniping at us is not in the spirit of this site.... (read in full...)
Is he bragging or telling the truth about my Mother?
Q. ok, some advice please. i'm 19 yo male currently at home for summer from uni. At home is my mum who is single and divorced and my younger brother 15. Last night we had a party at the house for my mums 46th birthday. About 25 people came and it w...
A. 21 July 2012: Doing nothing IS an option! It's actually none of your business what two consenting adults do, regardless.
It's her choice and who are you to spoil her enjoyment, however much you dislike the situation.
As you have already stated, she is single a... (read in full...)
Can you lose your virginity without sex?
Q. hi,my question is,m not married yet,,but i m in relationship,my boyfriend put his hand finger inside my virgin and rub inside me many time,i also smooch his penis many time,,,but sometimes i feel i lose my virginity,,,,without sex..is in it ...
A. 15 July 2012: The generally accepted definition of a virgin is someone who has had a penis inside her. YOU haven't, so you have just been playing around - carry on and enjoy it!... (read in full...)
Will my reprimand ruin my chances of being a carer?
Q. I know this isn't the best place to post this but I am hoping someone can give me an idea of my chances. Basically I got a reprimand when I was 15yrs of age for criminal damage I broke two bits of glass out of a cabinet when I threw something in the ...
A. 14 July 2012: As this was 8 years ago and you were still a minor, at 15, I am as sure as I can be that you can now ask for the reprimand to be expunged from your record. I do hope so, because it would be totally unjust for this trivial offence to haunt you and ... (read in full...)
I had a threesome with two of my girlfriends, and now I'm wondering whether or not to tell my boyfriend.
Q. I am a girl and currently in a relationship with a boy who I truly love.We have been together for a year.But I feel very guilty and I feel akward whenever im around my bf or my friends.Because just a week ago me and my 2 friends,who are girls had a ...
A. 13 July 2012: IF this can be kept amongst you three only, then I suggest that you say nothing. You are young and experimental, and as you had been thinking of doing this for some time, you were all mentally into doing it anyway; it was bound to happen!
The fact... (read in full...)
We only make love every four months or so ....
Q. Hello there, I am 19 and so is my girlfriend we have been together for 4 and a half years and everything is perfect,Apart from the fact we only make love ever 4 months about. :(I have tryed talking to her about it but she says that just wants ...
A. 8 July 2012: You have to decide whether you want to continue this way for the rest of your relationship, because, trust me, it won't get any better......... (read in full...)
I have a question about birth control.
Q. Oh, someone please help me! Nobody has answered my question, not even Google. This is about birth control, I'm not sure if this is the right place to ask this question, but it's the only place I feel comfortable turning to. Okay so, I got ...
A. 7 July 2012: You should discuss this with your doctor first and foremost, and as has already been said, try a different brand of pill; there WILL be one to suit you.
Regarding the placebo pills, their only purpose is to reassure the sexually active that they... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and I want to adopt, but friends and family are against gays' raising children. Advise please?
Q. Hi Im a gay woman who is in a very healthy relationship of 3 years and recently I have became really broody and would like to adopt in the near future with my girlfriend, we have discussed children before and she also would like to have them one...
A. 7 July 2012: "dmartin89", if you have to ask the question you couldn't possibly understand the answer, you have insufficient experience of life, people and their motivations to cope.
Sorry.... (read in full...)
I'm being bullied, what can I do?
Q. Since the year above us left school, everyone has moved back a bit, on the bus. I've been sitting on the back row now for a few weeks. There is a boy who gets on at my bus stop, who also sits at the back. But he has sat on the back row for a few ye...
A. 6 July 2012: OP, I'm with you all the way on this. Others have said it's a trivial matter and it shouldn't concern you, but this clown is acting in an unacceptable way and speaks volumes about his future behaviour as a citizen. He should have his card mark... (read in full...)
My wife is offended that I don't want cigarette smoking in our new home. What do I do?
Q. So, me and my wife have this disagreement, it feels like tit-for-tat in alot of ways, so, what do you think? A while ago, we decided to buy a home, and i was planning to give her a puppy, she loves them, who doesn't right? But today, she dropped...
A. 6 July 2012: As a non-smoker I do find it difficult to understand the "plight" of the smoker, but here in the UK we have had a smoking ban in pubs and restaurants for some years now, and patrons have no difficulty in 'going outside like dogs' to indulge their ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and I want to adopt, but friends and family are against gays' raising children. Advise please?
Q. Hi Im a gay woman who is in a very healthy relationship of 3 years and recently I have became really broody and would like to adopt in the near future with my girlfriend, we have discussed children before and she also would like to have them one...
A. 6 July 2012: Male anonymous, well done for spotting what others didn't in the OP's question and putting your point across with such clarity. A child is not a new toy or a status symbol. OP, if you truly want a child for the right reasons, why not find yourself... (read in full...)
Work Colleague. Is she just being friendly or are there possibilities? Such as does she like me?
Q. Hi I work in a hotel. There is a girl I like who works there too, she is really cool. we bump into each other loads, she always smiles at me and we always have a laugh and one a couple of times she has chased me down the corrider messing around. any...
A. 2 July 2012: Does a rock have to fall on your head? How many more indications do you need?... (read in full...)
B/f will never finish inside of me. How can I get him to do so?
Q. Ive been with this guy for 6 months now and its going great. The sex we have is amazing, we just seem to have so much chemistry and I cant get enough of it! But he never ejaculates inside of me. We have sex and then he will finish off on my breasts ...
A. 2 July 2012: I'm in agreement with the other answerers; he is watching too much porn. The standard way a porno finishes is with the "cumshot" (sorry, graphic I know), where the bloke pulls out and ejaculates over the lady, on her or in her mouth - it's called ... (read in full...)
My wife does not initiate sex!
Q. My wife and I have been married for 3yrs. we have 1loving daughter together but she has no sex drive and never initiate sex I always initiate and when we have sex she just lay there she gets into it but we only do it like 8 times a year if that and ...
A. 26 June 2012: It seems to slip by unnoticed that men go out to work and usually in very stressful jobs; I don't read many suggestions on here that the wives should make things easier for their men by taking on some of their work and easing their load! As for fee... (read in full...)
I cheated on my hubby and had a baby that he doesn't know may not be his!
Q. I have been married for less than a year, and have a baby. Got married when I was expecting. I cheated on my husband with this man, before we got married. It was at a time when I was very dipresesed cos of my husband’s abusive treatment. I ...
A. 26 June 2012: You STILL don't understand how bad you have been, do you? You connived, cheated and now are trying to choose the best option.
You have no right to have a choice; own up and let your husband choose what he wants to do as an informed decision, not ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my hubby and had a baby that he doesn't know may not be his!
Q. I have been married for less than a year, and have a baby. Got married when I was expecting. I cheated on my husband with this man, before we got married. It was at a time when I was very dipresesed cos of my husband’s abusive treatment. I ...
A. 25 June 2012: You WILL be found out, and quite rightly too - you have behaved appallingly, and fraudulently too. In most countries, deceiving someone into thinking he fathered your child and allowing him to support the child financially for a number of years is ... (read in full...)
I feel great while masturbating but as soon as I have an orgasm, the first thought in my head is, what would my family think?
Q. Is masturbating wrong? Some people may say morally yes or no, I am a 23 year old female who loves sex but loves to masturbate. I feel great while doing so but as soon as I have an orgasm, the first thought in my head is what would my family think?...
A. 23 June 2012: You should have listened to Benedict on the current Big Brother on the topic. I'm sorry, I've just realised you are from the US and will not have seen it! UK readers will confirm that this teacher/porn actor advocates masturbation as a daily routine ... (read in full...)
Fear of using public toilets, how do I overcome this?
Q. I know this question isn't really on topic to what this website is about, and it's a pretty stupid question anyway, but I can't find anything else this helpful and anonymous on the web. I absolutely hate using the toilet at other peoples houses a...
A. 21 June 2012: Tisha, I never knew such a condition existed, let alone was formally recognised. That was great advice.
OP, I understand that a lot of Japanese people feel this way and that their public toilets play music in the cubicles - quite loudly, to cove... (read in full...)
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