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| | *abrielle Stoker's profile:Qualified to help people? Don't really know. Am in my twenties, currently working in the hospitality industry. Very open-minded on sex, probably too active for my own good. Flatter myself into thinking I'm reasonably intelligent and believe that my upbringing, difficult as it was, has given me a decent perspective on life. |
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Does performance matter with women?
Q. I got out of a real nasty relationship one year ago and have not had sex since then. He was my first, and i am 25 i was with him for five years. My question is this:: Im not super experienced in bed, and do guys find that as a turn off? I mean...
A. 17 May 2011: @Cerberus That was not a serious statement (re: just lying there). That why it was followed by "seriously, though...". My apologies if that wasn't clear. ... (read in full...)
Does performance matter with women?
Q. I got out of a real nasty relationship one year ago and have not had sex since then. He was my first, and i am 25 i was with him for five years. My question is this:: Im not super experienced in bed, and do guys find that as a turn off? I mean...
A. 16 May 2011: Actually a lot of men would just be happy to have you lie there, I think. Seriously though - you seem to be open-minded, so I'm sure you're not exactly a cold fish in bed.
Don't watch too much porn and compare yourself to the women there. T... (read in full...)
Why would a 48 year old man be interested in an 18 year old?
Q. Why would a 48 year old posh guy be sexually interested an 18 year old working class girl??? ...
A. 14 May 2011: Are you nuts? Older posh guys love younger, less affluent girls. Easy to exploit, have their fun and kick to the curb later.
Been there, you know. It wasn't fun.... (read in full...)
Unhappy with my boobs. Is surgery the answer?
Q. Recently I've been thinking of having a boob job. My Mum can and will pay for it if it's what I really want but now that I have the opportunity, I'm beginning to have some doubts. I don't like the way they look at all, they're very small at 28-30A ...
A. 14 May 2011: If it's what you want and you're not doing it under pressure from anyone, I guess you can try. Make sure you go to a good surgeon though - the sort that first asks you whether you're really sure you want to go through with it.... (read in full...)
Questions about size and hair.
Q. Hey, I was wondering if a larger penis was more visually appealing. Does it turn girls on more than a normal sized penis? How about pubic hair, do most girls prefer completely shaved or trimmed? Thanks....
A. 14 May 2011: Size is less important than shape. Though when you say 'visually appealing', I guess I do like them to look larger. A hard cock always looks good though, you know.
As for hair, I like it to be trimmed or shaved. This might be because I'm very ora... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 12 May 2011: On the limited subject of drugs in porn - while the use is widespread, it is not absolute. I never touched a narcotic substance while I was doing porn (or before or since) and I'm certainly not the only one. Generalization and unconsidered value ... (read in full...)
Girl I am dating asked me if I want to see sex tape of her and a guy from college, and says her ex-bf liked to watch it! What do I make of this???
Q. Aunts, can you please give me some perspective of this please. I have been dating this girl for like 3 months. she is gorgeous, 26, very sweet. I know she has a number of bfs in the past and she's experienced with guys. But i dont let that intimid...
A. 12 May 2011: @OP I can see what you mean. As I said, the incident would raise doubts on her ability to make good decisions, and I'll agree that sending the video to her ex smacks of stupidity.
Having no regrets about what she did - well, that's got to do with ... (read in full...)
Is it bad to give your guy a bj but not finish??
Q. During foreplay, is it bad to give your guy a bj but not finish (make him cum) bc you are so turned on that you just want him inside you. So you stop, and you start having sex. Is that a bad thing? is there some kind of rule when it comes to oral ...
A. 12 May 2011: There's no 'rule', really. It depends on what works for the two of you. I like to let guys finish from oral, but then there are guys who don't want to finish that way as well. It's up to the individuals involved, really. If, like me, you love the ... (read in full...)
Girl I am dating asked me if I want to see sex tape of her and a guy from college, and says her ex-bf liked to watch it! What do I make of this???
Q. Aunts, can you please give me some perspective of this please. I have been dating this girl for like 3 months. she is gorgeous, 26, very sweet. I know she has a number of bfs in the past and she's experienced with guys. But i dont let that intimid...
A. 12 May 2011: I think value judgements on the girl are uncalled for in this situation.
You need to evaluate this from your perspective. You're not comfortable with seeing her on video with another man. This is absolutely reasonable. The incident may have als... (read in full...)
Have I been masterbated to the point where my output is now being affected?
Q. Have I been trying to masterbate too many times every day? Now I am wondering how much masturbation is too much masturbation? Usually I masturbate four times a day. But now I have reached the point where i can barely ejaculate anything anymore and ...
A. 12 May 2011: It sounds like you may be masturbating as a habit rather than due to excitement. Try cutting back. Not that it's harmful, just that it's better to only do it when really aroused.
There's nothing to really worry about - 4 times a day and any guy ... (read in full...)
Should I send my ex some money?
Q. Ok so...my ex ("Michael") and I met when I was 14 and he was 21 and wow, it was something unexplainable. Beautiful four years and no, he never touched me or asked for anything that would hurt me. We broke up because of distance. I am now nineteen ...
A. 6 May 2011: a) Discuss it with your current boyfriend
b) Discuss it with Michael. If he isn't into accepting charity, it would hurt his self-respect and his relationship with you. You could try to point out that this is in the nature of a loan, if that woul... (read in full...)
Why do I suddenly feel so sad and betrayed when I see pictures of the Royal wedding?
Q. Last week as we all know, was the Royal wedding in England. Well when the news broke out of the engagement and i accidentally read an article about it, i suddenly felt REALLY sad and i guess a bit jealous. A lot of people may have felt that way, but ...
A. 4 May 2011: You'll have to clarify what is bothering you about this. People get married every day, you know...maybe we can advise if we have a better idea of what it is that makes you react the way you do. Was it the grandeur of the wedding that makes you ... (read in full...)
What are natural ways to grow a larger penis?
Q. Ok, this is my question. I am 15 years old and I have a 7 inch penis. Is that normal? Is that small or anything, cause I'm kinda worried it'll stop growing. What are some natural ways to grow a bigger penis? Anything useful will help!!! :) Thanx...
A. 4 May 2011: 7 inches is rather big. You don't want a bigger one.... (read in full...)
Is my BF a racist?
Q. Hi all, I have a issue with my man, he is half Hispanic and half white He is great and funny and sweet but there's this problem A few days ago.. He told me this racist joke Like what 3 things scares a black man away and then he said a educat...
A. 21 April 2011: I generally presume there's a line between making jokes in poor taste and being all-out racist. You could stick with "benefit of the doubt" for now, while informing him that you thought the joke was not appropriate.... (read in full...)
Do you think it's possible to fall in love with someone you have been in a relationship with for 5 months?
Q. I am interested in hearing other people's opinions on this- do you think it's possible to love someone you have been in a relationship with for 5 months? I have been with my boyfriend for this long but really feel like we have a strong connection. ...
A. 20 April 2011: Sure, why not? My parents fell in love a week after getting to know each other (or so they always claim) and they're still so dishy about each other it's ridiculous!
Having said that, you're very young, so you should leave some space for the poss... (read in full...)
Why is he behaving like this? Does he have low self esteem? Is he gay? Does he care about me?
Q. We have been in love for past 2 years and had not met each other.It was this month that we met .He seems smitten during the first meeting and in the second meeting insisted on sex.(we did have phone sex before several times and we were online ...
A. 20 April 2011: I'm not an expert and the details given are sketchy at best, but he may be suffering from bi-polar disorder or something similar. In any case, if he's lying to you it's a HUGE red flag. Do think about the choices you are making. You may want to ... (read in full...)
My parents think I am fat, should I just lose weight to shut them up?
Q. Hello everyone. I hope anyone out there can help me. Ok so i am 20 years old and am at University therefore i no longer live with my parents. I go to the gym almost every single day and work out, and swim, though in the last week i have slacked o...
A. 19 April 2011: Umm...are they trying to make you a fashion model or something? Because apart from that line of work, I can't think of ANY circumstance where 5'4" and 125lbs is considered anything other than perfect.
If you feel you need to lose weight, by all m... (read in full...)
I don't know who the father is
Q. I am pregnant (8weeks), and there is a possible of 3 people who could be the father. I went to a party and had sex with a mate. The next morning I, again had sex with another bloke (random this time). The next day me and my bf had unprotected sex ...
A. 18 April 2011: As a general rule, if you don't know, it's not likely anyone else will until a DNA test is conducted.
Of course, you getting and possibly spreading an STD is very much possible. Do visit a doctor and get tested.
I don't know your stand on ab... (read in full...)
After 2 failed attempts at sex, he doesn't want to try again
Q. My boyfriend and I tried to have sex together for the first time over two months ago. Everything was going good until his roommate came home then he started acting nervous, but we continued to try. When he put the condom on he went limp. I gave ...
A. 15 April 2011: Yup, sounds like a massive anxiety attack. Don't apply any pressure, don't 'Plan' the next time you have sex. Just pounce on him sometime when he doesn't expect it.... (read in full...)
What is your opinion of someone who has quite a few piercings on their body?
Q. I currently have my first and seconds (lobe piercings), and my helix done (upper ear cartilage piercing) and in my left ear first piercing (lobe), i have a 3mm fleshy (stretcher) And i want: -My thirds -My tongue -My nose -My belly ...
A. 15 April 2011: I've got quite a few myself, so I'm not one to have a negative opinion. Wait till you're around 18 though, more appropriate age to get these things done.... (read in full...)
Are my reasons for getting a purity ring OK?
Q. MY question is this.. i AM not religious that much , well i beleive in god ,heaven and stuff but like i dont go to church or pray or anything like that now i want to wear a purity ring beacause im 13 nearly 14 and i am shocked that there are some ...
A. 15 April 2011: Your desire and intention to abstain from sex until you find the right person is laudable. Religious or otherwise, a purity ring is, at the end of the day, just a trinket. If you beleive you have the strength to hold firm with your convictions, ... (read in full...)
Found Dad's history of porn on computer. Should I confront him or tell my mum?
Q. my mum and dad have been married for about 18 years and recently things have been a bit awkward. they have been arguing quite a bit and my mum even told me a few weeks ago that she was getting fed up of my dad because i was upset and said that i was ...
A. 14 April 2011: It would be best if you left well enough alone, I think. The arguing/tension between your parents is for them to work through/sort out. There does not appear to be any particular need to be a tattletale.... (read in full...)
Can I get pregnant from giving a hand job?
Q. If cum gets on my pelvis area or above my clit while giving a handjob, how likely is it that I could get pregnant? Like can it drip down to my vagina and go up, or does it have to be inserted?...
A. 14 April 2011: No, but next time, keep your panties on.... (read in full...)
Want a baby but not through her having intercourse, thoughts??
Q. My wife of 8 yrs. and I (in a lesbian relationship) have been inseminating and our donor is my own 23 yr old nephew. He produces a sperm sample in a sterile cup and gives it to me to inseminate my wife with it. So far she hasn't gotten pregnant ...
A. 14 April 2011: 1. Have you carried out fertility tests on both the parties involved?
2. Have you considered adoption? ... (read in full...)
Swedish and Nigerian, good mix??
Q. Hey I am a 16 year old guy. I am mixed, my mother is Swedish and my father is Nigerian. I myself was born in Sweden, I wanted to ask you guys if this is a cool mix? Because for some reason I only favor one of the two, which is Swedish, since I grew ...
A. 14 April 2011: What does it matter if it's a 'good mix' or not? It's who you are, right? There's no reason, in itself, to be ashamed of being partly Nigerian (or any other nationality) that I can think of...
I'm surprised at your question "what kind of features... (read in full...)
Masturbation every night. Should I get help?
Q. Hello, I'm 16 and I masturbate every night. I was wondering if this is common or should I get some help? Please help...
A. 13 April 2011: Fairly common but don't do it unless you're actually sexually aroused.... (read in full...)
Why did my husband fondle me then go masturbate in the bathroom when we were at a friend's house?
Q. I do not have any idea how to title this question. I am 31 and my husband is 32. We were at some friends' house recently. He came to me and asked to come with him. We went into a bedroom and he closed and locked the door. He said to me to get ...
A. 13 April 2011: I'm guessing he was turned on but didn't have the time or privacy to actually have sex with you. Can't think of anything else, really - I've helped out guys that way often, generally it would have made more sense for him to ask you to join him and ... (read in full...)
Why is it that it's still a man's world, every porn mag is for men, every nude scene in a movie is of a woman? When are woman ever truly going to be treated as equals?
Q. I'm sick of the world that we live in, the expectations and pressures on women today, the young girls who suffer and have low self esteem due to the images we see everywhere, in films, magazines, billboards etc.. Why is it that it's still a mans ...
A. 12 April 2011: Umm...those magazines do exist, you know. And a lot of porn does involve attractive men doing interesting things. A lot of Hollywood movies, for that matter, focus on the male anatomy in an intrusive way. Now your mileage may vary regarding what you ... (read in full...)
A Greek mythological name for my daughter?
Q. I am 7 months pregnant with a little girl and im having a really hard time finding a name for her since i dont like traditional names much im looking for unique names does anyone have any suggestions. I love greek mythology and dark beautiful names ...
A. 8 April 2011: Clytemnestra. You can't beat that.
But if that's going to be too hard to pronounce, go with Circe or Persephone.
Helen or Diana would be overly optimistic.... (read in full...)
We want a baby, but it's not working. I'm scared a doctor won't approve.
Q. I am 16 going on 17 and me and my boyfriend have been trying for a baby for months. I have been wanting this for a long time now but nothing is happening. I am willing to do anything for this baby. I am scared if i go to my doctors, he will go ...
A. 7 April 2011: That's a brilliant answer from TasteofIndia. My only amendment would be to recommend a kitten instead of a puppy :)... (read in full...)
I hate the penis, but dreamt I liked it on a woman...What does this mean?
Q. Ok, I edited it, please post. I saw a question about a woman who dreamt she was a hermaphrodite, and it reminded me i had a similar dream last night. IN REALITY I'm an 18 year old gay girl and My 17 year old step sister recently tried to set me ...
A. 1 April 2011: It doesn't need to MEAN anything - dreams rarely do. And if it did, you wouldn't be the first woman attracted to transexuals, I suppose :) I know I am. ... (read in full...)
What is precum?
Q. I have heard the word many times. I am from Argentina, so English is not my first language but you probably won't be able to notice because I'm good at it. Still, there are some words I don't know. What the heck is precum? What does it look lik...
A. 21 March 2011: @chigirl You have it fairly spot-on.
Some guys have a LOT of pre-cum, others hardly any. It's not a huge deal either way. (Unless you're the girl at the receiving end and have a strong view, either way, about the relative merits of cum and pre-... (read in full...)
Oral sex was too intense for him?
Q. So... I'm not new to any of this so I found it a bit strange. I was giving a guy a blowjob and everything was going great. You could tell he was enjoying it but it was going on forever so I kind of stopped. I was then told that "It was fantasti...
A. 21 March 2011: A lot of guys don't cum from blowjobs, but can cum very quickly if the BJ precedes sex or even a handjob. Don't worry about it, it's fairly normal and yes, the intensity would be part of the reason.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a complete bore with sex!
Q. My partner is a complete bore in sex and ejaculates in about five minutes and then when He is satisfied He won't carry on and please me! someone tell me what to do x...
A. 21 March 2011: 5 minutes is about average, actually :P I've known thirty-second men.
Jokes apart, you need to explain that your needs aren't being met. If he isn't able to learn to last longer then get him to use his fingers and tongue. Tongue works, almost a... (read in full...)
What do women get out of sex?
Q. While the end result that's hoped for by both partners while engaging in sex is an orgasm, I can't help but notice how many women on here write about things like "I can't have an orgasm, my bf/husband can't give me orgasms, I rarely get them, I've ...
A. 21 March 2011: Well I get my orgasms very easily, but the fact is even when I'm not having intercourse (like a BJ or a handjob), the act is still very pleasurable - the touch, the contact, the feeling of having given such pleasure to my partner...and of course, ... (read in full...)
Should I let him film us having sex?
Q. Ok,It would be extra helpful if some guys could answer this question,if you had a video of you and a girl having sex,would you show it to anybody-I've been seeing this guy and he's been knagging me to make a video with him for about a month now,he ...
A. 21 March 2011: If you don't mind being part of amateur porn websites you can go ahead. I don't, but it isn't for everyone, trust me.... (read in full...)
Am I now considered a hooker?
Q. I am 19 year old female. I live in an area where there is a lot of prostitution. I have always fantasized myself being a working girl so I like to dress the part and walk around the streets to see how many men proposition me. When they do I just ...
A. 21 March 2011: Well, technically it's not a 'vocation' unless it's a regular activity, so - no, a single incident would not make you, be definition a hooker.
That said, you seem to be treading down that path, you know...you may want to think about the choices ... (read in full...)
Creepy or attractive?
Q. Do you think a person with black-brown hair, very pale skin and blue-green eyes would be attractive--or creepy? Be honest! ...
A. 18 March 2011: Depends on who's looking at the said person, doesn't it? :) I mean I'm sure there's people out there who find me ugly too. It happens.
Nothing about what you describe is 'creepy' in itself. Relax.... (read in full...)
I feel cheated because she loved someone more than me in the past!
Q. Please help me,I am suffering with this big problem,I don't know if I share this issue, you may think stupid but 'I am' what to do, here goes my story I believe in one women/one men in life for marriage/love, I have loved my g/f too much for 8-yrs ...
A. 18 March 2011: I'd suggest growing up.
People have pasts. Some not as pretty as others. To expect or hope that you would fall in love only once in your life, and that for ever is a little unrealistic, even in your culture, I'm sure.
She loves you now and you ... (read in full...)
I was still erect AFTER intercourse... is this normal?
Q. I need help, i had intercourse for the first time, we both enjoyed it the other day and i was wondering is it normal to ejaculate when ur popping her cherry i did! if so how come i kept an erection after until we stopped and was still erect for ...
A. 18 March 2011: Its not unusual at all, don't worry. Good luck!... (read in full...)
Should I stop talking to him since he confessed he's with someone else and is happy?
Q. Hello everyone please help me.....I am 15 years old and my friend is 18 years old we know each other from 1 year...we met online....I broke-up with my boyfriend...My boyfriend was older than me (26)...He never loved me....He said that he don't like ...
A. 18 March 2011: You may want to take a little break to deal with your feelings, but there's no reason to stop talking to the guy altogether.... (read in full...)
Is it all just porn?
Q. Just wondering, are there "Real" women who like and enjoy getting cummed on her face or in her mouth? or is this all just porn?...
A. 17 March 2011: Well I know I do! Not because I like being degraded or any such thing, but just...well, because, I guess. There doesn't need to be a reason for everything, does there?
That said, most women do not and you should respect their wishes.... (read in full...)
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