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How many guys will you have to sleep with to be considered a whore?
Q. How many guys will you have to sleep with to be considered a whore? is three that many when your only 16?...
A. 11 August 2010: 7.3, eh? So they did get a rulebook out? So how many times over am I a whore? Hmm...where's that calculator? ;)
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How many guys will you have to sleep with to be considered a whore?
Q. How many guys will you have to sleep with to be considered a whore? is three that many when your only 16?...
A. 11 August 2010: There's no rulebook on that sort of thing. Depends on who's calling you a whore, besides. Three before you're 16 is a little careless, though. Reputations shatter very easily when you're young.... (read in full...)
Can a cheat ever be trusted?
Q. I suspect I’m setting myself up for something of a beating here, but such is life.... To sum up the situation, some time over the next couple of months I will be leaving my wife. There are numerous good reasons for this, her lack of support,...
A. 11 August 2010: Any advice I give is only based on what you've told me, so it's possible that a lackof knowledge may bias my judgement, but it seems to me that you're being unduly defeatist.
I'm not going to comment on your cheating. Yes, cheating is wrong an... (read in full...)
I was taken advantage of so I dumped my boyfriend. Not sure if he's moved on or not!
Q. about four months ago i was at a party and got drunk and my boyfriends friend took advantage of me and had sex with me but never 'popped my cherry', i never told my boyfriend because my friends told me it was for the best that i dont, my mind was ...
A. 11 August 2010: Try to talk to your boyfriend about it. Dumping him without giving a reason is going to mean a lack of closure for him and for you. It would really be best if you tell him what happened.
Look, if the perpetrator of this crime was a friend of his a... (read in full...)
Why do I not enjoy foreplay? I mean, I don't care that we're not having sex!
Q. [OP original title] Hey all, I've got a little bit of a problem; it's about me and my girlfriend, we do everything apart from sex and I don't feel like I'm missing anything (we've both agreed on no sex for personal reasons). When we do stuff, I...
A. 11 August 2010: Maybe its her casual attitude to it. You need to initiate a conversation with your girlfriend on the issue, to the effect that maybe, just maybe, she's being a little selfish in this. It might upset her, though - many women are upset by such ... (read in full...)
User's title How do I ask for a third?
Q. [Mod Note = OP's own title] I need a little help. My Girlfriend and I recently decided to try and have a threesome. We both agreed that one of my high school friends (female) should be the third party. My question is, how do I go about asking m...
A. 11 August 2010: These things don't always end up as much fun as they sound if two of the three people in it are committed to each other. It may not be as easy for you as you think either.
Still, if you are sure you want to go for it, it would help if your gir... (read in full...)
In love with a married man. Know it's wrong but don't know what to do?
Q. Oh help me! I met a man online in January. We hit it off right away. We can talk easily, we laugh, etc... A couple of weeks into it I guessed he was married. He said he couldnt lie and that he was - unhappily. He tells me they only have sex on...
A. 11 August 2010: Unless he actually goes through with the divorce from his wife, you really should avoid this situation. Othrwise you're just the 'casual sex buddy' and that won't be good for you.... (read in full...)
Is Internet hook up with older guy safe?!
Q. [Mod Note: OP's own title] Hi, I'm 17 and from the uk. I've known a guy for a year and a half off the Internet. He is older than me (46) and I'm going to meet him soon, he's driving up to where I live and were meeting in a hotel. My friend knows an...
A. 11 August 2010: This is very likely to NOT be safe. Do not go alone. If you have a male friend/brother (of your own or similar age) you can trust keep him informed of your plans. It's possible he's a harmless, pleasant guy, and in that case you wouldn't have lost ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my sister I saw her husband with a hooker?
Q. I picked up a hooker and took her to a motel. When we were done I was taking here back to where I picked her up. A door opened just a couple doors down as I passed by with her and it was my brother in law with a hooker of his own. He just ...
A. 11 August 2010: I suppose you should. She's going to want to shoot the messenger though, so be careful how you break it to her. If she's close to your wife you might want to let your wife tell her without disclosing the source of information. But there's not going ... (read in full...)
What's the best way to ask a girl if she's interested in casual sex?
Q. Is there a proper way to ask a woman you meet if she is interested in casual sex? I know there are many ways, and simply asking over the phone "Hey, do want to just sleep together?" Would not be acceptable. So if you experienced and mature men a...
A. 11 August 2010: Being complimented on how I look (or looked the last time we met), followed by being told how amazing I am (or, if it's someone I haven't been with before, how amazing he thinks I must be) in bed usually leads to me being very likely to respond ... (read in full...)
Can this relationship with my married boss work?
Q. Right so apparently this is a "common" thing. Being in love with a married man. I %100 believe he loves me too. To further complicate the situation he is my boss. I've worked day and night with this man 6days a week for 4years. Also his wife. They ...
A. 11 August 2010: I wouldn't bet on it. Distance...and karma...can be quite cruel.... (read in full...)
Is my cum normal???
Q. I am a man 22~25yo. It seems like that i feel horny everyday. Is that ok if i just masturbate everyday? If i do so, does that effect to my sexual life later on? I mean my sperm will be weaker then i cant get girl pregnant? And also my cum doesnt ...
A. 10 August 2010: Masturbation is safe and will not affect your ability to have children in the future.
There is generally a wide variation in the color and texture of semen so you don't have to be 'white like milk' to be normal. If it's just a dull whitish ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to have my boyfriend over at my parents house or is my mum right to be upset?
Q. I don't actually have a problem, I just want to hear other opinions about a certain situation. My parents went away for the weekend and I invited my boyfriend over, so I wouldn't be alone. When my parents came back I spoke to my mom and I told her...
A. 9 August 2010: Your mom has her point of view and you have yours. I can see where she's coming from though, and if you've living in her house and she's made her feelings on the subject clear in the past, it is not surprising that she's upset. It's true, as you ... (read in full...)
AIDS from Orla Sex?
Q. can u get aids from blowjob...
A. 9 August 2010: It's possible. Not very likely if the giver of the blowjob does not have any cuts or lacerations in her mouth, but the possibility cannot be discounted completely.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend saw my better-endowed roommate naked, now I'm insecure. Should I be?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been together for 10 months. I was until recently the only guy she had seen naked. Recently my roommate came out of the bathroom nude when we were walking into the room. I'm nervous she has been thinking about him/wanting ...
A. 9 August 2010: You may be letting your imagination run riot here. Just because she saw your roomie does not meet she would be fatnasizing about him. For all you know, he isn't her type. If she's actually had any prior experience with men with large penises, she is ... (read in full...)
One mistake
Q. i am trapped by my own mistake.my best friend's boyfriend approached me to do sex.he is really handsome and i have heard my friend mourning through doors.i always fantasize them.when he approached i was thrilled to get that same exp. i first denied ...
A. 9 August 2010: Aren't there laws against this sort of thing where you live? If they are using blackmail to make you get into sexual situations with them, it's rape.... (read in full...)
Pregnant from blow jobs?
Q. I'm wondering if you can get pregnante through blow jobs exetra.Is that possible ???...
A. 9 August 2010: If it was possible, I'd have had enough kids to double the population of West Virginia by now. I haven't ever been pregnant; so I assume you can't.... (read in full...)
Uncircumcised...
Q. hey I am uncircumcised and when I masturbate I can only get the skin about halfway down and it won't go any further.. will this hurt during sex,?...
A. 9 August 2010: If it goes down over the 'head' of the penis you don't have a problem.... (read in full...)
Uncircumsized, is it really that gross?
Q. Are there any girls out there that prefer an uncircumcised man? I just had a girl in a club push me into a bathroom stall in the mens room. After some kissing she got on her knees, and unzipped my pants. When she saw my stuff, she visibly reco...
A. 9 August 2010: I love uncircumsized. She was being silly.... (read in full...)
He came too quickly and now seems embarassed, but I don't want this to ruin our chances at a relationship!
Q. Hello everyone I seriously need help. I met this guy through a friend and we've each had our eyes on one another for quite some time and I really like him, well last night we had sex it was great but he ejaculated quick and he kept saying he ...
A. 6 August 2010: Well, he obviously was turned on by you, wasn't he? :)
Tell him you like quick nutters (I honestly do, and am not hesitant about telling a guy that) even if it's a white lie. It should boost his confidence and next time, tell him you expect a... (read in full...)
Was I right to lie?
Q. I apologize for the length of this. Please bear with me if you can. I was close friends with this guy in high school and he developed feelings for me. At the time, I wasn't able to feel "that way" about him, but screwed up by basically telling ...
A. 5 August 2010: It's not about right and wrong, darling. You did what you probably thought was the right thing to do at the time. They're your feelings and the thing with feelings is that they aren't facts - lies and truth become so relative in that context.
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Do I say this friendship is over, or do I let something like this pass?
Q. So my best friend bailed from a kayaking trip the night before we were supposed to leave. I called the company and they said the 150$ had to be paid anyway and no refunds could be made. I told my friend this and she said "no it's your fault you ...
A. 5 August 2010: Sounds like good enough reason to ednd the friendship. Screwing you over financially like this is just not done!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cannot handle my dirty past, how do I save this relationship?
Q. Iam 21 yrs old and have a very nice and loving boyfriend for the last two years. We both are very serious about each other. Everything was very good between us,but then something happened.. he got to know something that i have been hiding from ...
A. 5 August 2010: I could go on at length about the definition of 'decent' and the ridiculousness of a guy who thinks that being a passive victim of molestation is equivalent to doing 'dirty' things, but I'll leave that to other aunts.
Just ask yourself this: Wo... (read in full...)
Can you have sex on the first date without looking like a slut?
Q. Hi, I am a 25 year old female who recently met a 38 yr old guy while drunk at a party....we ended up talking for about 20 minutes then making out and I wound up performing oral sex on him...Not something that would usually happen, but I was drunk ...
A. 5 August 2010: It's impossible to say exactly how this guy's mind works, so any response we can give will be speculative at best.
I'll have to say though that the odds favour him expecting sex. Why don't you try holding out till the third date? Unless of cours... (read in full...)
Can I get past the fact that I'm dating a man that has a feminine voice?
Q. [Mod Note - OP's own title] About a month ago I started to talk to a guy that I met online. When we talked on the phone, we really hit it off. When we finally met, our conversation flowed really well and we really have a lot in common. I have nev...
A. 5 August 2010: It really isn't that big an issue, but it depends on your tolerance levels. Just a reminder : guys worth keeping are hard to find.... (read in full...)
Never had sex, now have the opportunity with a hot girl who I don't love. Should I go for it or save myself?
Q. I'm very uncertain about this one particular circumstance coming up for me. Let me explain... I'm 17. I've lived abroad my entire life. I've never had sex, I've never kissed a girl. The supposed reason is this; where I live, the women have a par...
A. 5 August 2010: If there is any chance at all that she might be serious about you or fall for you, desist.
If you're both on the same page in thinking this is a casual thing, why not?
I'd err on the side of caution, though, and wouldn't go through.... (read in full...)
I fantasize about life with a married family man!
Q. So, i've never really wrote to one of these before.. i feel kind of stupid doing it, but i really don't know what to do about this anymore.. I'm only 16, still in school. I'm smart, and i know i'm capable of going far in life, have amazing fam...
A. 5 August 2010: If he's taking off his shirt and staring at you, there's something a little wrong with that picture. I suppose it's possible that he's not really looking at you, but I don't know.
Look, you know you're doing wrong. At worst, what you have is a sil... (read in full...)
Do you think it's wise to go home on a surprise visit or just leave it as we ended it?
Q. Need some advice... Here it goes... I have known this girl for about 5 years now... She and I hav always been cool with each other... And about 5 months ago she and I finally hooked up... At first she and I agreed that it was just going to be casual ...
A. 5 August 2010: 3 hours isn't much. If there is even the remotest chance that she could be someone important to you, give it a shot. ... (read in full...)
We kissed! Does he like me?
Q. I've really liked a guy for a couple of years, and we have always flirted and got on well. The other week we drunkenly kissed and he stayed over, although we didn't sleep together. Since then he's been quite weird with me and I get the impression ...
A. 5 August 2010: If you were both drunk then I suppose it's not possible to read mcuh into it. Possible he does like you but is embarassed that you only did it because you were drunk. Or maybe he doesn't. It's not enough to go on.
Play it cool. Looks for further ... (read in full...)
Do men ALWAYS KNOW if they have had sex?
Q. {Mod Note - OP's own title] Help! Can your man ALWAYS tell if HE'S had sex in the morning? My guy is telling me he didn't because he would KNOW, but when I came back in the room 30 minutes later, he had no boxers on and was cuddling, when I clearly ...
A. 5 August 2010: That was the information the question so desperately needed.
Anyway, to answer, there have been instances of men having sex in their sleep without realizing it, though I suppose it's very rare. It's happened once in my personal experien... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has double standards about oral sex!
Q. Dear all my girlfriends says that me tasting her cum is ok and should be a pleasure but her tasting my is disgusting and degrading to women Help please...
A. 5 August 2010: Well that is a double standard. The questions is, how important is it to you? ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend just the sluttiest girl on the planet???
Q. Do girls ever like "having a train pulled on them?". My girlfriend has had a very lurid sexual past, as have all her close friends. She unveiled all this to me soon after we had said, "I love you.". I have been dealing with some jealousy/maybe a ...
A. 4 August 2010: Well, no, not the 'sluttiest girls on the planet'. That's very extreme. More like a 'slutty moment', if we must give it a label.
I've been in this sort of thing, though I didn't know the terminology. (Always thought 'orgy' or 'gangbang' fit the ... (read in full...)
What did he mean when he said "it was just like talking to an old friend"?
Q. Hello all, I've been chatting to this guy online for a few weeks now. We've had very good chats etc. On Monday we spoke on the phone for the first time for about 2h. I then got the following email: Hello.. going to bed but thought I should say goo...
A. 4 August 2010: It generally means that he felt very comfortable talking with you. Wouldn't read too much more into it.... (read in full...)
My baby's father and love of my life - or the new man who loves and accepts me for who I am?
Q. Okay. So. Please don't judge. Imagine yourself in these exact shoes. I am 23 at this moment in time. To give you a full understanding of my problem, I really need to tell you all of it. So here: I was never right or normal when I was littl...
A. 4 August 2010: The other aunts have given some sound advice. I'd only want to add this - Be fair to Clark. He sounds like the good, sincere guy, the Captain Dobbin to Rafael's George Osborne.
Don't lead him down the garden path if you don't love him. Don't ma... (read in full...)
I am in a committed relationship but two other guys, including my boyfriend's friend are hitting on me! What should I do?
Q. i am in a comitted long distance relationship since one year and one month...i have two problems and don't know how to tackle it.its going to be long so anybody who is patient can go through this.thanks in advance:-) i really love my bf and even he ...
A. 4 August 2010: If you love your boyfriend, do you really think you have a choice other than firmly telling the other two gentlemen that you are not interested and cutting them off completely? I'm sure you're enjoying the attention, but this sort of thing is best ... (read in full...)
My brother wont let me come to his wedding unless I have a date to bring with me!
Q. all my brothers friends will have there wives and girlfriends at his wedding so he would like me to be the same. but he said if i can't get one for saturday i can't come to his wedding. well it looks like i won't be going became i get one. i've ...
A. 4 August 2010: What sort of brother puts out that sort of condition? He probably isn't being serious. Either that, or he doesn't want you at his wedding and is trying to use this as a crutch to make sure that happens. I hope it's not the latter - it would be a ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my cousin and best friend her father has a fatal disease?
Q. Ok this is not really a romance question but I really need advice... Ok I have a cousin that's my age my and her parents had us sacronised and so we r like really close. I tell her every thing that happens to me in my life. From boys to things my ...
A. 4 August 2010: NO, absolutely not. Completely agree wih person12345.... (read in full...)
I want to love her without being disgusted at her past and where she has been.
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for a few months now however we have known each other and been close for 3 years. She has had 4 claimed sexual partners including me, I have had 3. Were both 23. She had sexual relations with her much older ...
A. 3 August 2010: I'm normally the first person to say 'You should look to the future and not the past" and all that sort of thing, but this girl seems to have been guilty of more than just being sexually promiscuous. Being with a married man, being careless about ... (read in full...)
Is he getting too close for comfort... just for a viza???
Q. I'm 13 years old and i went on holiday to turkey and met a nice man over there.He liked my family and my family liked him. On the last day of the holiday he wanted to take me to the beach but parents wouldnt let me for obvious reasons such as we had ...
A. 3 August 2010: Steer clear. I don't want to tar all Turkish men with the same brush, but what your nan says is spot-on. This is not only common behaviour, but at a certain level, absolutely perverted.
Stop this right now. Talk to your nan about the best way to g... (read in full...)
We wants to bring another man into the bedroom! I don't know what to think of this!
Q. I have been Married for 12 years and with my husband for 14 years. we have 4 wonderful children together. Friday night in the midst of our sexcapade in the bedroom out of the blue he asked if i would be ok with him bringing his male friend into the ...
A. 3 August 2010: Bringing a third person onto a sexual situation where the first two are romantically involved does not proceed well. I've been the third person a few times. Apart from people who were already swingers, it generally messed up with their relationship.... (read in full...)
I'm clueless on the ethics of sex
Q. Assume that I am an alien from another planet that know nothing at all about sex. In fact I don't know anything about sex. I have not had sexual intercourse and I am 29 years old. For religious reasons I have abstained from seeing prostitutes and ...
A. 3 August 2010: Interesting question. As Jill puts it, pain is the counter-point to pleasure, and if the pain from an encounter outweighs the pleasure, most people would not go forward.
I've never taken money in return for sex (and never will), but I've had a lo... (read in full...)
My cousin proposed to me, I want to say yes, but what will my family say?
Q. When i was 17 my cousin came down to Texas from Georgia for a family reunion and when she got there she came up to me asked me to go for a walk down one of the trails that led to the river. Somehow she knew exactly where she was going and we stopped ...
A. 3 August 2010: I'd normally advise against it if you were contemplating it but since you've gone the whole hog already I suppose the best thing to do would be to take it it's logical conclusion.
Your family may not have admitted it to themselves yet but I'm sure... (read in full...)
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