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Qualified to help people? Don't really know. Am in my twenties, currently working in the hospitality industry. Very open-minded on sex, probably too active for my own good. Flatter myself into thinking I'm reasonably intelligent and believe that my upbringing, difficult as it was, has given me a decent perspective on life.

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My girlfriend has had several threesomes and hook ups in her past: liberal open-minded girl or just a slut?

Q.   Well, I know this topic comes up a lot but here I go anyways: I'm dating this girl for the last 5 months. She has been always open about her attitude about sex, and admitted to me that she has had a lot of threesomes, hook ups and ongoing on and o...

A.   17 February 2012: "Slut" is a label, and like most labels is quite odious. The two possibilities here are, as you rightly said, that she is a confident woman in charge of her sexuality OR someone who lacks the ability to make the right choices. If she is ope... (read in full...)

Do men find it more attractive when their partner swallows ??

Q.   me and my boyfriend have been together for ten month and a half :) we are really happy together...we have been sexuallt active together for almost five months now and i went down on him last satyrdsy for the first time. He said he really enjoyed it ...

A.   14 February 2012: Agree with DoubleM. It must be mutual. I love cum in general, but even I've known guys whose cum I did not want to swallow. Also, whenever I've discussed it with a guy, while they've agreed that it was a very wonderful thing for them when I ... (read in full...)

What does it mean to "use" someone?

Q.   I recently recalled an argument I had with a woman some time ago. She slept with men for money. She tried to keep it secret, but once I found out, I was very troubled by it. One reason was that she did not really need the money--it was not like she ...

A.   14 February 2012: If one looks hard enough, every relationship has an element of 'being used' in it. As long as the bias is not too significant in one direction, it's difficult to say anything wrong is happening. In this particular case, if both the parties ... (read in full...)

Do men find it more attractive when their partner swallows ??

Q.   me and my boyfriend have been together for ten month and a half :) we are really happy together...we have been sexuallt active together for almost five months now and i went down on him last satyrdsy for the first time. He said he really enjoyed it ...

A.   14 February 2012: 'Attractive' isn't the right word, if what I hear from my lovers over the years is anything to go by. It's a very sexy and very accepting act which I think leads to a very satisfying sexual experience for a guy.... (read in full...)

How can I give my boyfriend pleasure without actually having sex?

Q.   can someone tell me how I can make more pleasure my boy without sex?we don't have sex I am virgin. in my country it is not normal before merriag have sex.but my bf want this and i can not please help me and tell me can I make more pleasure without ...

A.   14 February 2012: Even God (Or Zeus or Odin, or whoever it is you worship) can't help you if you are determined to go down a path of self-destruction. We can only appeal to you to not make a series of mistakes that will only harm you in the long run.... (read in full...)

How can I give my boyfriend pleasure without actually having sex?

Q.   can someone tell me how I can make more pleasure my boy without sex?we don't have sex I am virgin. in my country it is not normal before merriag have sex.but my bf want this and i can not please help me and tell me can I make more pleasure without ...

A.   9 February 2012: Unless pleasing him is something you really want to do, don't. What's the point of giving a blowjob or a handjob (which are obviously the things you can do, short of actualy sex, to give a man pleasure) unless you are into it and enjoy it in your ... (read in full...)

Au naturale...

Q.   I read in a newspaper recently that a lot of women are beginning to stay 'natural' i.e no shaving their arm pits, etc, I am wondering what readers of 'dearcupid.org think about that suggestion....

A.   9 February 2012: There are limits to how far one should take the whole au naturale thing I think. Personally I keep a trimmed bush but everything else is kept shaven. (Am fortunate that way, don't have much body hair) Of course none of us might do these things w... (read in full...)

A guy online sends me raunchy messages. Should I stop talking to him?

Q.   Ok so i met this guy in a Chatroom and he seems really nice but he's 21 and I'm 16 he texts me kind of raunchy stuff like where he wants to have sex with me but I told him I'm a virgin and he lives in NY and Im in Ohio he says he wants to hook up ...

A.   8 February 2012: For God's sake, yes. He sounds like a sleazebag who's exploiting you - and that's the best case scenario. You don't want to know what the worst-case scenario is. You don't even owe him an explanation. ... (read in full...)

My 27 year old schoolmate is dating a 79 year old billionaire. Isn't this a sign of complete materialism? Or am I an idealistic idiot?

Q.   I saw a question posted here the other day that got me thinking about a schoolmate of mine who is a lovely looking lass of 27, an aspiring actress, dating a 79-year-old billionaire. ok im not a complete moron i know that money makes the world ...

A.   8 February 2012: Reminds me of a quote by Lorelei Lee (so charmingly played by Marilyn Monroe) in 'Gentlemen prefer Blondes': "Don't you know that a man being rich is like a girl being pretty? You wouldn't marry a girl just because she's pretty, but my goodness... (read in full...)

This girl really likes me but I am not attracted to her physically even though she's nice

Q.   I feel a girl from work is falling for me. She's been in constant contact with me for past whole month and gets really anxious and uneasy when I accidentally miss or fail to reply her calls or texts; I know this because I have more than five texts ...

A.   7 February 2012: If you don't love her why would you want to marry her?... (read in full...)

I really want to give him head. Is this normal?

Q.   Dear cupid, I'm 19, I've been seeing this guy for 5 months, he's 23. I've known him for a year now, but only started taking it further in Sept 2011. We've been through our ups and downs, and we do communicate a lot, he's very straight up with ...

A.   6 February 2012: Of course it's normal. A lot of woman love to give head (if there was an association, I'd be the President).... (read in full...)

A married millionaire spending time and money on a young beautiful model: Is it possible this relationship is NOT cheating?

Q.   Hello, I am writing on behalf of a friend with who came to me with her concerns the other day. I tried to respond best as I could, but I wanted to tap into the wisdom pool here to see what I could tell her further or better. Basically, my fri...

A.   6 February 2012: It's hard to say. The odds of it being purely mentor-protegee are small. It's entirely possible they do not have a sexual relationship, of course, he may just be an old man (fool?) in love with a beautiful younger (and exotic, presumably) woman. As ... (read in full...)

Circumcized or uncircumsized? Which do females prefer?

Q.   Hi, I want to know if girls like penis uncircumcised or cirmcumcised? I'm french and in my country we are all uncut. It's about religion and culture, what is it in your country (well about muslim and jew I know) but for others country pls let ...

A.   30 January 2012: As long as it's clean, I really don't care anyway. It's fun having one of each at the same time, though.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend? Why did he let this other guy get to him?

Q.   Okay so me and my boyfriend were in public and me and him think its funny to say stuff out loud. So i yelled oh babe lets have sex! and he laughed and said lets do it right now! We were both laughing and i said i want millions of kids baby and he ...

A.   19 January 2012: One of the unintended consequences of behaving less than politely in public, perhaps? Honestly, OP, if you are going to put your sex life out there in way that you think is funny, random strangers WILL occassionally think it is all right to make fun ... (read in full...)

This is long but very important. I need your help!

Q.   In order to get my point across I have to tell the whole story, sorry if this is long:/ So I come from a history of girls ruining me. Well, just one actually.. She was my first and i had strong feeling for her. In short, everything she t...

A.   19 January 2012: You seem to have mis-stated your age... Anyway, you have clearly entered into a co-dependent relationship which is not healthy for you. She seems to - and I'll give her the benefit of the doubt that it may not be conscious - be using you rather t... (read in full...)

She's a keeper but what she did hurt me, should I stay?

Q.   Me and my girlfriend have been together for 9 months. I'm pretty sure that's not a lot for some people. But for me this is my first long relationship. We have been best friends through it all. I really love her so much. So about a month back there ...

A.   19 January 2012: Feeling as you do is absolutely normal. I'm surprised you haven't made this more of an issue with her (or maybe you have we don't know). Even if you do forgive her I can't think of how you could be less angry with her short of accepting that "my ... (read in full...)

Guys, is it a deal breaker for you if your girlfriend hates blow jobs?

Q.   I tried giving blow jobs, it hurts, my jaws got irritated , i felt used (i knew i`m not gonna like them) and i felt bad about myself, i love sex though. so is it a deal breaker if a woman refuses to give it to her boyfriend? i never asked any men ...

A.   19 January 2012: Depends on the guy. For some it might be, but if you don't like givings BJ's then you don't - so those guys are just not going to be in your eligibility list. Still, while you are entitled to havings your opinons on giving oral, it shouldn'... (read in full...)

Should I accept my boyfriend's idea as a one-off or should I tell him it's not a good idea?

Q.   So my boyfriend and I have been going out now for 4 years and everything is going great. He went to uni last September and I took a while to get used to it but after being apart then spending one month solid together and being apart we have ...

A.   17 January 2012: I'm one of those girls who rather loves a threesome. My boyfriend and I often do indulge and are going stronger than ever after a year together (more or less). Having said that, ours is not a typical relationship - he knew when getting into it that ... (read in full...)

Well endowed boyfriend makes sex uncomfortable

Q.   My man is larger than average. He likes to go deep but it hurts me way too bad. It feels like hes poking me in my stomach and I feel I have the worst cramps of my life. Do you think that its just because of his size or is there something wrong wi...

A.   17 January 2012: If what he's doing makes you uncomfortable please tell him so. I've been with more than my fair share of guys with large tools (9 inches and above) and sometimes you just have to tell the guy that he's not doing it right. Another reason why I prefer ... (read in full...)

I'm distraught. She's pregnant with the baby we have longed for. But she's not sure who the father is. Do I stay to father a child who may not be mine?

Q.   Any advice would be great because my head is fried, I'm not sure I even want to be with her now. Hi not sure where to start so will start from beginning, me and my fiancée have been together for 4 years. 19 months ago we had a little girl who was ...

A.   17 January 2012: Most of the aunts have it spot on, I think. The decision to carry the baby to term or not should be that of the mother. A DNA test will establish the parentage and if it is yours, you should certainly take care of him/her. On the other hand, yo... (read in full...)

How many dates should you go on before having sex?

Q.   After how many dates is it ok to have sex with someone?...

A.   10 January 2012: I'm a first date kind of girl, but then I'm not into relationships, so I can't really answer from personal experience. Generally speaking I think the intelligent woman should wait until date number 7 if she's thinking long term and number 5 if she's ... (read in full...)

My husband, the stripper and the bouncer

Q.   A few days ago, my husband came to me and told me that he had been taken advantage of by a stripper. He had gone to a strip club for lunch and a show. A stripper convinced him to go in the back room for a private dance for $20. Once there, she ...

A.   10 January 2012: Any explanation from him on what made him opt for the private dance? I mean, those things are generally rather unsubtle euphemisms. ... (read in full...)

Is my penis really that small? My wife seems to think I am lacking in that department.....

Q.   I need some advice on the classic "size" question. My wife has indicated that she thinks I am lacking a bit, or not average. This bothers me. I am about 5.8 x 5.1. However, when not erect, its about 2-3. From others perspective, is th...

A.   10 January 2012: I'm guessing the issues in your marraige go beyond the penis size issue. Its unlikely this sort of thing would be raised after getting married, to be quite honest. Regarding your size itself, it is absolutely fine. I've been with more men than mos... (read in full...)

I love him. Want to be with him. But how do I stop him from getting so mad at so much I do?

Q.   Dear cupid, My and my boyfriend have been togther for one year... And hes my life and i love him very much. But there has beeb such a big problem for a long time, he gets mad at almost everything i do, wearing the wrong cloths, even having lint...

A.   6 January 2012: Doesn't exactly sound like Prince Charming, does he? If this behavior has been going on for a while, then the fact is, that it's unlikely to change. I'll say this, though - at your age it's possible you think you're in love, but most of us, when... (read in full...)

Are we ready for a threesome?

Q.   Hi! Want to know if you think we are ready for a threesome. We have been married for 6 years and have children. We both come from a conservative Middle Eastern background, we are not fully liberal but both are relatively open minded. W...

A.   5 January 2012: I'd say you aren't ready. It's a wonderful fantasy and it sounds like it's a fantasy that is giving you guys a lot of fun - which is how it should probably stay. From my experience, only women who are already heavily into the idea are likely t... (read in full...)

If I am a girl 17 and he is 4 years my junior then who makes the first move? Is this OK?

Q.   I need some help. I am in love with a close friend but I don't know what to do about it. I am a girl 17 years old, but I am 4 years older than him, so who should make the first move? Who should make the first move me a girl or him a guy 4 year...

A.   2 January 2012: Neither. He's 13. You (both) need to grow up before anyone starts making any moves. ... (read in full...)

I have been having a relationship (no sex) with a married man, because I was in need of money. I want to end this now, but how do I do it?

Q.   What I am about to tell you is something that I have not admitted to ANYONE. I am so afraid of being judged.. I am about to pour my heart out, so please be honest but try not to be unkind. I met an older man. Let's call him Theo. I was att...

A.   2 January 2012: You say you were attracted to him - if money wasn't involved, would you have slept with this man of your own accord? You appear to be in a difficult position, though. If you want to end it, it's best to confront it and get it out of your system. ... (read in full...)

Should I go out with a girl who isn't a Christian?

Q.   Dear Cupids, I am a very strong Believer and follower of Jesus Christ (in other words, I'm a Christian) and I think I'm in love with a girl that isn't Christian. Is this alright? Should I go for this girl and ask her out? Sincerely, ...

A.   2 January 2012: Not if you're expecting her to become a believer like yourself. That's not the sort of thing you should or can impose on another person. ... (read in full...)

WHY does he want anal???

Q.   dear readers, recently by BF has taken to asking me to have anal sex, but i really dont know what to do here? i dont really want to, but at the same time i am a bit curious. i want to know does it really hurt? does it feel better for him? is ...

A.   29 December 2011: I've no clue why men are into anal. I've done it a few times only with considerable lube and in the process of having sex with multiple partners, but it's really not been fun even so. Just the lure of doing something different I guess. And if a guy ... (read in full...)

I don't understand how the gym manager knows my name and address

Q.   I joined a local gym a few months ago and generally work out there a couple times a week. Today one of the managers came up while I was changing my shoes and made some comment about how I was really getting it this week. (I had been there the ...

A.   29 December 2011: If he's the gym manager, he, like the branch manager at a bank, would have gone through your membership form at some point of time. Even gyms try to following a decent Know Your Customer process nowadays. Unless he gets creepier, I wouldn't be ... (read in full...)

He ends his messages with "love (his name)"

Q.   When a man you dont know that well writes "love" and then his name at the end of a message, does that mean he is interested ?.We met last week and he bought me drinks and danced with me and he also said in the message that he would like to go out ...

A.   29 December 2011: Maybe he wasn't paying attention when he was taught the arcane art of letter-writing?... (read in full...)

Deep throating without gagging?

Q.   Looking to hear from fellow females on the subject of deep throating. I have been trying to do it for my man but end up gagging within seconds. Is there a good way to do it without gagging? I heard if you lay on a bed with your head hanging over the ...

A.   29 December 2011: Why do you even want to deepthroat really? If it's something you aren't able to do comfortably, why do it? It's hardly neccessary to giving pleasure orally.... (read in full...)

Do guys find black hair attractive in girls?

Q.   i know this is a random question but i just want to see what everyones opinion was, mostly from a guys perspective. Of course a lot of guys like or "love" blondes then theres the burnettes and red heads. what about the girls with black hair? in my ...

A.   29 December 2011: Generally as long as it's healthy and well-maintained, I don't think the colour itself matters. Mine is naturally curly and reddish-brown. I had it straightened and dyed blonde for a while. I'd be hard pressed to say which was really more ... (read in full...)

I'm the bread winner in the relationship, couldn't my b/f at least be good at sex?

Q.   Back in high school, my boyfriend was the quintessential nerdy fat kid whereas I was the shy punk chick. Now a days, he is still a bigger fellow compared to my still smaller physique. He's 6'1" and 250 lbs whereas I'm 5'3" and 115 lbs. But he is the ...

A.   27 December 2011: You do have a right to expect good sex, regardless of who's the breadwinner in the house. If you accept that this is linked to the weight difference though, have you guys tried to find a way to improve your young man's ticker? One of my lovers is ... (read in full...)

I thought I would be a sex goddess by now but I haven't even been kissed!

Q.   Hello! I have 16 years old and im about to have 17 next month, January! When i was 13 i made a promise to myself and to my closest friend that at 16 i would loose my virginity. However i have 16 years old now and there is only one month left for...

A.   23 December 2011: There's no such things as a "sex goddess" outside of the mythologies, (and both Ashtarte and Aphrodite got the rough end of the stick from their biographers). I can understand the disappointment, but look at it this way - at 16, you ought to be st... (read in full...)

I thought I would be a sex goddess by now but I haven't even been kissed!

Q.   Hello! I have 16 years old and im about to have 17 next month, January! When i was 13 i made a promise to myself and to my closest friend that at 16 i would loose my virginity. However i have 16 years old now and there is only one month left for...

A.   23 December 2011: There's no such things as a "sex goddess" outside of the mythologies, (and both Ashtarte and Aphrodite got the rough end of the stick from their biographers). I can understand the disappointment, but look at it this way - at 16, you ought to be st... (read in full...)

Pretty girl....

Q.   HEY.... a problem.. this girl from India is THE most beautiful person you'll find in the world. Brown eyes, Silky straight brown hair, fair skin, perfect height, pinky cheeks and rosy red lips. HA the problem is 36 guys out of 41 in our class have ...

A.   17 December 2011: Try talking to her. Might be more productive than taking polls on who likes her and who doesn't. ... (read in full...)

Caught her having sex with 2 of my friends at our housewarming.....I'm so hurt she cheated but turned on at the same time!

Q.   Hi. my girlfriend and i met a year and a half ago and weve just recently moved in together. Its both our first place on our own. A month after we moved in we had a house warming party. after a night of drinking i woke up to find my girlfrie...

A.   15 December 2011: Get new friends. And a new girlfriend too, I mean...to do that sort of thing behind your back is not on the level. Look, being turned on is one of the things that will happen if you are to some extent emotionally detached from your girlfrie... (read in full...)

Premature ejaculation with a handjob!

Q.   My boy friend is 18 years old. When I give him a hand job, he ejaculates within 2 minutes, sometimes in a minute. How can I stop his quick ejaculation? Should I squeeze his balls? I did it once, he said it hurt. Do you think it will work if I put my ...

A.   14 December 2011: I've known men who lasted less than a minute in my hands. I regard it as a compliment, personally. If you continue to jerk after he has cum, yes, a lot of men do find that unbearable. And holding the tip would be just...cruel, I think. You may... (read in full...)

Would you be willing to be friends with a transgender?

Q.   I suppose this is more a question than seeking advise but as a person that is transgender I am curious to know how people really view someone like me. I'm female born in a male body. I've never known anyone els like me and friends from my youth put ...

A.   7 December 2011: Oh I'd love it (if you didn't mind me occassionally lusting over you if you were a pre-op) - I rather like transgenders. Most grown-up people would not have any problems with it, but I wouldn't speak for small-town America. ... (read in full...)

Why do men focus so much on female orgasm?

Q.   Why do men focus so much on female orgasm? My bf is insecure because he's only been able to make me orgasm twice orally in the 4 months we've been together and if I don't orgasm, he sees it as failure and it prevents him from being hard again to ...

A.   6 December 2011: I've known some guys who fell asleep while at the receiving end of a BJ. It wasn't amusing. A guy probably feels the same way about a girl who doesn't get off during the act. Now I know it may not be terribly important to you whether you have the ... (read in full...)

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