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writes:Alright I had a baby girl about 2 and a half months ago and the other day I told my boyfriend (not real father) That I was giving cusody to my parent's until I finsh school ect. But he didnt know he thought I was just giving up on my daughter which I am not so he texted me saying it's over - stupid way to end it. But I went to his house and we talked it through and he said we will see each other but not other people and I am sappost to say we are taking it really slow.He gave me my house key back for his apartment. (lives by himself) But ever since that day now he is not even talking to me. I want him back the way it used to be I love him to death and I don't know how to prove to him that I want us to be together.Also the fact that my parents have been pushing him away from being a father figure to my daughter? Should I start all over or just let him go? I don't know please someone have the anwser
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reader, Frank B Kermit +, writes (21 June 2007):
 Where is the real father of the baby in this picture. I think your parents are right not to have be so close to her, esp if you two are having problems, and he is not the real father. They are doing their job in protecting thier grand-daughter.
I think you should give "Relationships" a break. You have a child now, and doing what is necessary to raise that child (including getting your education completed and gettig into a position where you do not have to rely on your parents should be the priority. Period.
Why are you wasting time trying to figure out this relationship when your first priority should be your daughter.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (21 June 2007):
 Congratulations on the baby!
Chat it through with him and get out of him exactly how he is feeling. Explain you aren't giving up on your daughter just having help while you finish your studies.
He may be feeling a little pushed out from being the father figure to your child, and it sounds like your parents aren't helping with that. He may feel more left out from your daughter as he may be thinking that he wont get to see her while she is with your parents. If you want this guy to be the male figure in your daughter's life you may need to talk to your parents and explain to them that he needs to be apart of her life.
Good luck
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reader, bobmcbobbins +, writes (21 June 2007):
 well ok im a little young to be answering this but i know what it is like for you daughter. (ok im a lad but i understand what its like not having a dad around while being young).
I understand you want a father figure and the best for your child but is he the rght father figure. He seems to be looking for a way out of the relationship and perhaps he doesnt want the responsabilities of being a father. If so is this the sort of person you want to raise your daughter.
Have you tried contacting him and discussing it. If you have given him enough chances I would move on and maybe you will find the guy you want to raise your daughter.
well whatever you do the best of luck
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